‘it’s our game, not yours’ promoting positive parental/spectator behaviour
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‘It’s our game, not yours’ Promoting Positive Parental/Spectator Behaviour. Aims: to identify the benefits of parents’ involvement in sport to identify the nature and extent of the problem of poor parental behaviour to consider the impact of poor behaviour, especially on young people - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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‘It’s our game, not yours’
Promoting Positive Parental/Spectator Behaviour
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Aims:
• to identify the benefits of parents’ involvement in sport
• to identify the nature and extent of the problem of poor parental behaviour
• to consider the impact of poor behaviour, especially on young people
• to identify how to avoid, reduce or deal with incidents.
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“We just want to have fun, learn new skills and make new friends...”
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Parents play a vital role in encouraging, enabling, and supporting children’s
participation in their chosen sport - at every level and in every sport
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(Optional) Exercise:
Identify ways parents can: •support, encourage and motivate children and young people who participate in sport•make positive contributions to sports clubs
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1 Positive Parents may:• share their enthusiasm for participation in
sport• encourage their child/ren to take up, enjoy
and achieve in their sport• provide transport, equipment, or finances• support in a positive and fair way• promote respect for the sport’s rules,
officials, their child’s team-mates and opponents
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2 Positive Parents may:
• model and reinforce positive attitudes• help out with club activities• become coaches or volunteers• act as welfare officers or committee
members• contribute to fundraising initiatives• support their child/the team at matches• provide refreshments or transport
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However many sports are also struggling to address the challenges presented by a
minority of parents whose behaviour has a negative impact on their own and other
children, and other people involved in the club.
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(Optional) Exercise
Identify•Different examples of negative parental/spectator behaviour at all levels in sport
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1 Negative Parental/Spectator Behaviour
Abusive parents•verbal aggression towards own child, officials, other children/supporters/coaches•teasing/mocking of young people•threats and fights with other adults and/or young people•intimidation of officials – including young officials•some behaviours constitute criminal offences and/or child abuse
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“My friend decided he didn't want to play any more, not after his dad was
asked to leave the match. It must have been so embarrassing for
him”.
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2 Negative Parental/Spectator Behaviour
Challenging parents•contradict coaches’ advice/instructions•constant criticism of own/other children•‘Win at all costs’ mentality•encourage rule-breaking•challenge club re selection, training, sanctions or ethos
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“Winning at all costs – is that our
dream or yours?”
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3 Negative Parental/Spectator Behaviour
Pushy Parents•unreasonable/unrealistic expectations of their child•only acknowledge winning, not child’s effort, progress or enjoyment•live through their child’s activities•Impose their aspirations on their child•do not accept club sanctions for poor behaviour •accept poor coaching practice for results
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“My mum was always supportive of me in my training but when it came to
competitions she always compared me to everyone else, even when I'd
done better than ever before. Unless I won it wasn't good enough.”
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What do children tell us…..?
Video: The Magic Sports Kit
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(Optional) Exercise
Identify the ways that poor parental/spectator behaviour impact
on children and young people
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The impact of poor parental/spectator behaviour on children and young people• Fear• Demotivation• Anxiety• Confusion about tactics/team role• Loss of fun and enjoyment• Lack of confidence• Worry about how parent will behave
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The impact of poor parental/spectator behaviour on children and young people
• Distraction from playing sport• Embarrassment• Undermined authority (young officials)• Sanctions imposed by club• Being asked to leave the team or club• Leaving the sport altogether
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(Optional) Exercise
Consider the potential impact of poor parental/spectator behaviour on the following:
• The sport• Clubs
• Coaches• Officials (including young officials)
• Other parents/supporters
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Wider impact of poor parental/spectator behaviour
• Negative image of the sport• Poor reputation for club – puts off potential players• Additional stress for coaches/officials• Fear of, or actual, assaults• Officials (particularly young officials) may leave the
sport• Parents and players may move to other clubs• Club faces investigations and sanctions
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Sideline Bad Behaviour: Research• Children 1st (Scotland) survey in 2012
• Studied impact on children and young people u12 to 16+
• Involved 154 children and 340 parents
• 34 sports covered
• Outcomes supported earlier studies
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Key findings: Children & young people
• Almost half (43%) had experienced this behaviour • Half (47%) had witnessed behaviour towards another
child• Swearing/name-calling most common• All felt threatened• Physical abuse included pushing, kicking, hitting &
spitting (included under 12s)• 20% experience negatively affected their
performance or made them want to quit• For half it continued after sports activity ended
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Key findings: Parents & carers
• Half said their child had mentioned spectator behaviour
• 43% parents had witnessed bad behaviour• Commonly swearing at children, name-calling and
making fun of them• 68% reported that someone challenged the
behaviour• A quarter would not know what to do
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ScenariosConsider the example scenarios (appropriate to the sport, club or audience)
1. How/by whom should this situation be managed and responded to?What policies and processes will apply?
2. What steps could have been taken (at club, county, region or sport governing body levels) to reduce the likelihood of this situation arising
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(Optional) Exercise
Identify practical steps that clubs and sports organisations can (or do) take to prevent, reduce and manage poor
parental behaviour.
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Practical steps to address the problem
o Adopt a whole club/sport/organisation approach, supported by management
o Arrangements need to be in place to clarify, publicise and promote expectations of side-line behaviour:
• eg Code of Conduct• introductory packs and/or parent/participants meetings• registration forms• posters or leaflets• use of websites of club notice boards
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Practical steps to address the problem
o Widely publicised procedures to encourage reporting and responding to alleged poor behaviour in a fair and transparent way
o Recording systems to capture, monitor and map developing concerns
o Support to individuals (adults or young people) raising concerns
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Practical steps to address the problem
o Reporting to/support from sports governing body to club
o A range of clear sanctions for poor behaviouro Increased monitoring, support and ‘policing’ of
individuals or groups identified as representing a problem
o Wherever possible, actions taken should not impact on the ability of a young person to continue to participate
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Reporting concerns
Concerns about the behaviour of parents or spectators should be reported to:
XXX Club detailsXXX NGB details
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(Optional) Exercises
Next steps: Identify the core elements of a parent/spectator code of conduct? orDescribe how young people could be involved in the process of developing a code of conduct
What do you/your club/sport need to donext?
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Young people tell us they want…..• their voices to be heard• a focus on enjoyment rather than winning• parents and coaches to have clear roles and
behaviour guidelines• there to be mutually agreed expectations and
aspirations• celebration of their successes - wider than
simply winning (eg learning a new skill, playing well, trying hard)
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Remember:
‘It’s our game not yours’