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Intimate Partner Violence in 13-23 Year-Olds
A Mental Health Perspective
KARINA TAMAYO, LMFTDIRECTOR OF CLINICAL SERVICES
TALK-A-WHILE, CHILD & FAMILY THERAPY CENTER, PC
I have often wondered
As an adolescent I could not understand: What gets young people into an IPV
relationship? What keeps young people in an IPV
relationship? What gets young people out of an IPV
relationship?
After practicing psychotherapy with adolescents/young adults, I could not understand: What gets young people into an IPV
relationship? What keeps young people in an IPV
relationship? What gets young people out of an IPV
relationship?
LIFE STAGE THEORIES, HUMAN DEVELOPMENT, AND INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE (IPV)
Life stage theories help provide a framework to understand the underlying psychosocial dynamics of
IPV
Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages of Development
13-23 year-olds can fall on a wide spectrum of cognitive, moral, and emotional development and
maturity
Multiple variables influence an adolescent’s growth and development
Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages of Development
13-19 Year OldsIdentity vs Role Confusion
• Puberty• Identity exploration and questioning• Experimentation with new hobbies,
sports, and interests• Social relationships, pressures, and
sense of belonging• Boundary setting in relationships
20-23 Year OldsIntimacy vs Isolation
• Desires to establish deep/profound friendships and bonds
• Fear of rejection• Finding an intimate partner/love• Distancing self from individuals
whom might encroach, destroy perceived happiness, or cause undue pain
Why Young People Get Into IPV Relationships
13-19 Year OldsIdentity vs Role Confusion
• Affirmation and Acceptance of Developing Body
• Individuation and Creation of “Older Self”
• Peer Acceptance & Status
20-23 Year OldsIntimacy vs Isolation
• Feeling of independence• Feeling “not alone”• Subconscious need to replicate
dysfunctional relationships• Need to feel like you are
adulting• Need for spontaneity
Why Young People Stay in IPV Relationships
13-19 Year OldsIdentity vs Role Confusion
•Lack internal self-acceptance•Does not recognize or minimizes unhealthy
behavior•Peer group/social media normalizes•Fear of retaliation by abuser•Unable to set boundaries•Inexperience ending relationships
20-23 Year OldsIntimacy vs Isolation
•Lack of true independence dependence on the abuser (e.g. emotional, financial, social)
•Lack of meaningful and deep friendships•Lack of introspection about past unhealthy
relationships•Lack of life coping skills•Does not recognize or minimizes unhealthy
behaviors•Peer group/social media normalizes IPV aspects•Poor judgment, spontaneous Impulsive
What Young People Need to Get Out of IPV Relationships
13-19 Year OldsIdentity vs Role Confusion
•Build self-esteem and self-worth•Understand healthy and unhealthy relationships•Understand “sexual” interactions, emotional and
physical intimacy •Develop safe support system
20-23 Year OldsIntimacy vs Isolation
•Develop true independence (e.g. emotional, financial, social)
•Establish emotional, intimate, and supportive relationships
•Understand and end the cycle of dysfunction •Understand healthy and unhealthy relationships•Develop healthy coping skills for life stressors•Incorporate long-term consequences of actions
into decisions
WHAT CAN YOU DO AS A PROFESSIONAL?
13-19 Year Olds
Identity vs Role Confusion
• Affirmation and Acceptance of Developing Body• Individuation and Creation of “Older Self”• Peer Acceptance & Status
Get Into—needs being met by relationship
• Lack internal self-acceptance• Does not recognize or minimizes unhealthy behavior• Peer group/social media normalizes• Fear of retaliation by abuser• Unable to set boundaries• Inexperience ending relationships
Stay In—barriers, lack of skill to leave relationship
• Build self-esteem and self-worth• Understand healthy and unhealthy relationships• Understand “sexual” interactions, emotional and physical intimacy • Develop safe support system
To get out—how to meet needs and overcome barriers
WHAT CAN YOU DO AS A PROFESSIONAL?
20-23 Year Olds
Intimacy vs Isolation
•Feeling of independence•Feeling “not alone”•Subconscious need to replicate dysfunctional relationships•Need to feel like you are adulting•Need for spontaneity
Get Into—needs being met by relationship
•Lack of true independence dependence on the abuser (e.g. emotional, financial, social)
•Lack of meaningful and deep friendships•Lack of introspection about past unhealthy relationships•Lack of life coping skills•Does not recognize or minimizes unhealthy behaviors•Peer group/social media normalizes IPV aspects•Poor judgment, spontaneous Impulsive
Stay In—barriers, lack of skill to leave relationship
•Develop true independence (e.g. emotional, financial, social)•Establish emotional, intimate, and supportive relationships•Understand and end the cycle of dysfunction •Understand healthy and unhealthy relationships•Develop healthy coping skills for life stressors•Incorporate long-term consequences of actions into decisions
To get out—how to meet needs and overcome barriers
Mental Health Perspective Summary
Understand the needs and the barriers to help break the cycle of IPV
What Young People Need to get out is similar for 13-23 year-olds Build self-esteem and self-worth
Understand healthy and unhealthy relationships
Develop safe support system
Establish emotional, intimate, and supportive relationships
Understand and end the cycle of dysfunction
Develop healthy coping skills for life stressors
Incorporate long-term consequences of actions into decisions
Questions and Comments
Karina Tamayo, LMFTDirector of Clinical Services
2577 Samaritan Drive, Suite 715San Jose, CA 95124