interpersonal communication also called dyadic communication between two people the relationship...
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Interpersonal Communication•also called Dyadic •communication between two people•the relationship stage of communication
•What is interpersonal communication?
CHARACTERISTICS
Metacommunication Messages
Quality Channel
Acquaintances
Romantic Relationships
Work Relationships
Family Relationships
Friendships
Types of Interpersonal Relationship
WHY DO WE BUILD RELATIONSHIPS WITH ONE PERSON OVER ANOTHER?
•Proximity
•Similarity
•Complementary = opposites attract
•Social Exchange (rewards-costs=outcome)
•Appearance
•Competence
•Prefer talented but flawed
•Exception: Hi or low self-esteem person wants perfect person
•Reciprocal attraction
•Other person likes you
How Do Relationships Develop?
Theories of Relational Development
_Knapps’s Developmental Model
Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying
Integrating
Bonding Differentiating
Circumscribing
Stagnating
Avoiding
Terminating
Maintenance
Coming Together Coming Apart
Quickly or Slowly May Stabilize
Forward or Backward
Dialectical Model
– Competing goals (dialectical tensions)
• Connection vs Autonomy
• Openness vs Privacy
• Predictability vs Novelty
How do we build better and deeper relationships?
Intimacy
Self-Disclosure
Intimacy
GENDER AND INTIMACY
Gender Impacts Intimacy Styles
FemalesSelf-discloseReveal feelingsShare (-) and (+)
Sex is a way to express intimacy
MalesDo things togetherDo things for you to show caring
Sex is a way to create (build) intimacy
Culture Impacts Intimacy Styles
Rebekah Nathan
My Freshmen Year
Collectivistic Cultures
•Japan•More in-group vs outsiders
Individualistic Cultures
•USA•Cocktail Party Conversationalists
Self-Disclosure:
deliberately revealing personal and
significant information about oneself that would otherwise be unknown
Social Penetration Modeland Self-Disclosure
– Breadth: # of topics discussed
– Depth: shift from non-revealing messages to personal messages
– The greater the depth and breadth the more intimate the relationship.
Johari’s WindowModel of Self-disclosure
• Comprised of four quadrants: Open, Blind, Hidden and Unknown.
• Quadrants become smaller or larger based on the amount of communication and self-disclosure in a relationship.
• Generally the larger the open area, the more intimate the relationship.
What is appropriate self-disclosure?
– Is the other person important to you?– Is the amount and type of disclosure
appropriate?– Is the disclosure relevant?– Is the disclosure reciprocated?– Will it be constructive?
Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?
Trust
What is trust?
What causes you to lose trust in someone?
-To believe that someone is honest and means no harmThe Free Dictionary
What can you do if you don’t want to self-disclose?
•Equivocate
•Hint (face-saving)
•Lie
Lying
• Dating couples lie in about 1/3 of relationships
• College students tell their mothers lies in 50% of conversations.
• Average = 3 lies for every 10 minutes of conversation
• Many lies are altruistic lies or “white lies”