Integrating Steps 3,4,5

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives

over the care of our higher power

as we understood our higher power

Step 3

Capacity for Step 3

Vary depending on particular histories

Trauma from childhood - ego strength / Reality

Damage to ego apparatus

Be flexible

Part of 12-step group / individual spiritual journey

Be teachable “beginner’s mind”

THinking higher than our low self esteem

Breaking Down Step 3

Willingness to surrender our Addict’s will

- Our power of choice

- our roles / identities

FROM AN OUTER GOD IN AN INNER AWARENESS

Not yet Ready

Integrating Step 3: A buddhist Perspective

You are a buddha

not yet fully awake

Take refuge in the teaching

Accept Now

Aspects of Self: The Mind Seeks Refuge

-May I speak to the controller? How are you Doing? May i speak to the mInd that Seeks Refuge?

Who are you?

What are you Seeking?

How long have you been a seeker?

What would happen to the self if it weren’t for you?

Will you ever find what you’re looking for?

What happens if you do?

Sit for awhile as the minds seeks refuge

Step 4

We made a searching and fearless moral inventory

of ourselves

Get The PrincipalS

Writing down resentments / Guilt

Acts as a Confessional

Shadow work (getting in touch with our feelings)

taking responsibility (Getting Honest)

owning our shit

I want what they got

The fourth step isn’t just done once

Its a Continual Fidelity to awareness & Growth

No more con’s

“If our behavior continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink”

Buddhist integration

A Zen Story-Two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, traveling on pilgrimage, came to a muddy river crossing. There they saw a lovely young woman dressed in her kimono and finery, obviously not knowing how to cross the river without ruining her clothes. Without further ado, Tanzan graciously picked her up, held her close to him, and carried her across the muddy river, placing her onto the dry ground. Then he and Ekido continued on their way. Hours later they found themselves at a lodging temple. And here Ekido could no longer restrain himself and gushed forth his complaints: “Surely, it is against the rules, what you did back there…. Touching a woman is simply not allowed…. How could you have done that? … And to have such close contact with her! … This is a violation of all monastic protocol…” Thus he went on with his verbiage. Tanzan listened patiently to the accusations. Finally, during a pause, he said, “Look, I set that girl down back at the crossing. Are you still carrying her?”

The Pain Body

The Thief inside

Lama Yeshe said, “You must recognize that your real enemy, the thief who steals your happiness, is the inner thief, the one inside your mind - the one you have cherished since the beginningless time.

meditate on THis...

“Your Greatest Enemy is your Greatest benefactor”

To develop “the mind that recognizes wisdom” we practice awareness with our partner, boss, commuters”

We change our thinking to “this person is my supreme teacher”

We admitted to our HigherPower, ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of ourwrongs

We admitted to our HigherPower, ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of ourwrongs

Ultimately our Selfishness and Self centeredness

According to littlejohn we need to do this step with another addict

The listener should be one who knows what it feels like to be an addict and has done his or her recovery work

They should also have an understanding of recovery beyond your own

Thus guiding you to higher level or keeping you deadly honest

Making the 5th stick

According to littlejohn we need to do this step with another addict

The listener should be one who knows what it feels like to be an addict and has done his or her recovery work

They should also have an understanding of recovery beyond your own

Thus guiding you to higher level or keeping you deadly honest

Making the 5th stick

Self-Esteem

Don’t get lost in the..

“Its all about the self esteem Trap”

Instead,It’s revealing to ourselves the disease of the self

Principal of Step 5

-Get honest with your self -

Meditate on this... NonSelf

The true enemy is inside. The make of trouble, the source of all our suffering, the destroyer of our joy, and the destroyer of our virtue is inside. It is EGO. I call it, “I”, the most precious one.”

“I, the most precious one” does not serve any purpose. It only makes tremendous, unreasonable, impossible demands. Ego wants to the best and has no consideration for anyone else. Things work as long as “i, the most precious one’s” wishes are being fulfilled. But when they’re not, and Ego turns on the self, it becomes self-hatred. That self-hatred will eventually burn the house down.

Gehlek Rinpoche