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What the Youth Survey Does-What the Youth Survey Does-

Profiles normal behavior Profiles normal behavior Defines learning preferencesDefines learning preferences Defining “wants & fears”Defining “wants & fears” Conflict resolutionConflict resolution 3 R’s of communication3 R’s of communication Learning stylesLearning styles Five Love LanguagesFive Love Languages

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DISC Behavior Survey – Page 2(Natural Behavior)

Instructions: Focus on your instinctive behavior and not what you perceive is the best response. Be aware, there are no right or wrong answers.

How to respond: Rank each horizontal row of words on a scale of 4,3,2,1 with 4 being the word that best describes you and 1 being the least like you. Use all rankings in each line only once. Below is an example:

Dominant Influencing Steadiness Compliant2 1 4 3

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My plotting point color(s) above the midline are:

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...below the midline are: Red &Yellow.

Colors that are not a part of my style are:

Blue & Green

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Defining Your DISC StylesDefining Your DISC Styles

Dominant Styles:Dominant Styles: Work toward achieving goals achieving goals and resultsresults; they function best in an active, challengingactive, challenging

environment.

Influencing Styles:Influencing Styles:Work toward relating to people through verbal relating to people through verbal

persuasionpersuasion; they function best in friendly, favorablefriendly, favorable, , environment.

Steadiness Styles: Steadiness Styles: Work toward supporting supporting and cooperating cooperating with others; they function best in supportive, harmonious supportive, harmonious environment.

Compliance Styles:Compliance Styles:Work toward doing things right doing things right and focus on detailsfocus on details; they function best in a structured, orderlystructured, orderly environment.

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Personalizing your definitionsPersonalizing your definitions

supporting and cooperating with others andsupporting and cooperating with others and

doing things right with a focus on detailsdoing things right with a focus on details

supportive and harmonioussupportive and harmonious

with some structure and order.with some structure and order.

Based on the information on page 3, write a personal definition..

I tend to work toward…

and function best in an environment that is…

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Defining the behavior of a LionLion

•Among the most Among the most powerful of the cat powerful of the cat family. Capable of family. Capable of moving quickly when in moving quickly when in search of prey.search of prey.

•Tends to roar when Tends to roar when angry or announcing angry or announcing possession of its territory.possession of its territory.

•Is very comfortable in Is very comfortable in an aggressive an aggressive environment.environment.

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Defining the behavior of an OtterOtter

•Among the most playful and Among the most playful and sociable animals on earth.sociable animals on earth.

•Tends to be quite active and Tends to be quite active and noisy, particularly in groups.noisy, particularly in groups.

•When captured young, an When captured young, an otter makes an engaging pet.otter makes an engaging pet.

•Is most often observed Is most often observed creating a playful environment creating a playful environment with other otters.with other otters.

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Defining the behavior of a Golden Retriever

•Among the most loyal, stable of domestic animals

•Tends to be friendly, reliable and trustworthy.

•Is very protective of family members.

•It loves being hugged and responds to warm affection.

•Is most comfortable in a safe, stable environment.

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Defining the behavior of a Beaver Beaver

•Among the most intelligent of all the mammals in efficiency and technical skills in organizing its domain.

•Instinctively, a beaver is gifted at solving the most difficult technical problems in building and constructing things.

•Is very comfortable working alone or in small groups.

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Defining whatDefining what ccoollorss communicatecommunicate

Red -Red - Tends to create an environment filled with energy and action. Red causes the blood pressure and pulse rate to increase. With red as a background, objects tend to appear bigger and bolder.

Green - Green - Tends to create an environment that causes a favorable body response Tends to create an environment that causes a favorable body response and is easiest on the human eye. Green colored backgrounds tend to make people feel and is easiest on the human eye. Green colored backgrounds tend to make people feel cared for and secure. cared for and secure.

Blue - Tends to create an environment that communicates harmony and peace. Tends to create an environment that communicates harmony and peace. Research evidence has shown that light blue colors are the most effective colors in Research evidence has shown that light blue colors are the most effective colors in calming the human mind.calming the human mind.

Yellow - Yellow - Tends to create an environment that communicates caution and warns Tends to create an environment that communicates caution and warns of danger when associated with black letters or symbols. Yellow is the first color the of danger when associated with black letters or symbols. Yellow is the first color the adult human eye sees. Over extended periods, yellow can create feelings of anxiety. adult human eye sees. Over extended periods, yellow can create feelings of anxiety.

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Understanding Your Learning PreferencesUnderstanding Your Learning Preferences

High Style High D High I High S High C

Assignments Challenging People related Scheduled DetailedResponses Decisive Interactive Cooperative AnalyticalStrength Problem solver Encourager Supporter OrganizerLimitation Too direct Too disorganized Too indecisive Too detailed--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Assignments Routine Technical Diverse UnorthodoxResponses Participate Structured Reactive InstinctiveStrength Team player Logical Thinker Energy source Risk takerLimitation Too indirect Too impersonal Too intense Too nontraditional

Low Style Low D Low I Low S Low C

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Understanding Your Learning Preferences Understanding Your Learning Preferences


Assignments Challenging People related Scheduled DetailedResponses Decisive Interactive Cooperative TraditionalStrength Problem solver Encourager Supporter OrganizerLimitation Too direct Too disorganized Too indecisive Too detailed--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Assignments Routine Technical Diverse UnorthodoxResponses Participate Structured Reactive InstinctiveStrength Team player Logical Thinker Energy source Risk takerLimitation Too indirect Too impersonal Too intense Too nontraditional


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Understanding Your Work/Role StyleUnderstanding Your Work/Role Style High Style High D High I High S High C

Assessments Challenging People related Scheduled DetailedResponses Decisive Interactive Cooperative TraditionalStrength Problem solver Encourager Supporter OrganizerLimitation Too direct Too disorganized Too indecisive Too detailed--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Assignments Routine Technical Diverse UnorthodoxResponses Participate Structured Reactive InstinctiveStrength Team player Logical Thinker Energy source Risk takerLimitation Too indirect Too impersonal Too intense Too nontraditional


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I prefer assignments that are__________________________. My learning responses tends to be_____________________.

My strengths are being a___________________________.

Regarding my limitations, I tend to be too_______________________________________________; therefore,

I need a High ______ Low _____ on my team.

Defining Your Learning Preferences

challenging and detailed

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Understanding Your Work/Role StyleUnderstanding Your Work/Role Style High Style High D High I High S High C

Preferred task Challenging People related Scheduled DetailedWork style Decisive Interactive Cooperative TraditionalStrength Problem solver Encourager Supporter OrganizerLimitation Too direct Too disorganized Too indecisive Too detailed--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Preferred task Routine Technical Diverse UnorthodoxWork style Participate Structured Reactive InstinctiveStrength Team player Logical Thinker Energy source Risk takerLimitation Too indirect Too impersonal Too intense Too nontraditional


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I prefer assessments that are______________________. My learning responses tends to be___________________.



I need a High ____ Low ____ on my team.


decisive & reactive

challenging & detailed

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Assignments Challenging People related Scheduled DetailedResponses Decisive Interactive Cooperative TraditionalStrength Problem solver Encourager Supporter OrganizerLimitation Too direct Too disorganized Too indecisive Too detailed--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Assignments Routine Technical Diverse UnorthodoxResponses Participative Structured Reactive InstinctiveStrength Team player Logical Thinker Energy source Risk takerLimitation Too indirect Too impersonal Too intense Too nontraditional


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Understanding and Your Communication StyleUnderstanding and Your Communication Style Understanding and Your Communication StyleUnderstanding and Your Communication Style


Act Assertive Persuasive Patient ContemplativeWant Control Approval Routine StandardsFear Losing Rejection Change Being wrong Response Anger Blame Nonparticipation Criticism--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Act Cooperative Unemotional Responsive Free-spiritedWant Harmony Logical Variety Non structuredFear Confrontation Illogical actions Status Quo ConformingResponse Indifference Suspicious Physical action Emotion

Act Assertive Persuasive Patient ContemplativeWant Control Approval Routine StandardsFear Losing Rejection Change Being wrong Response Anger Blame Nonparticipation Criticism--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Act Cooperative Unemotional Responsive Free-spiritedWant Harmony Logical Variety Non structuredFear Confrontation Illogical actions Status Quo ConformingResponse Indifference Suspicious Physical action Emotion


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As a high D/C and low I/S blend, I naturally act_____________

because I want _______________________________________

If I perceive that I may face _____________________________

I may respond with ___________________________________

Defining Your Communication Style

assertive

control, variety, compliance to my standards

losing or being wrong

anger, suspicion and criticism

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DISC responses to conflictDISC responses to conflictDISC responses to conflictDISC responses to conflictHigh Style High D High I High S High C

Comfortable Decisive Enthusiastic Supportive StructureFear Losing Rejection Change Being wrongTension Demanding Attacks Complies Avoids conflictProlonged Avoids contact Complies Attacks Demands details--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Comfortable Team player Working alone Spontaneous Non structureFear Confrontation Illogical actions Status Quo ConformingTension Becomes quiet Remains quiet Challenges ArbitraryProlonged Stuffs feelings Covert actions Assesses blame Sarcastic

Comfortable Decisive Enthusiastic Supportive StructureFear Losing Rejection Change Being wrongTension Demanding Attacks Complies Avoids conflictProlonged Avoids contact Complies Attacks Demands details--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Comfortable Team player Working alone Spontaneous Non structureFear Confrontation Illogical actions Status Quo ConformingTension Becomes quiet Remains quiet Challenges ArbitraryProlonged Stuffs feelings Covert actions Assesses blame Sarcastic


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I am most comfortable being __________________________

When I feel fears of ______________ it causes tension for me.

Under tension, I may _________________________________

If this intensifies the conflict, I may _____________________

Defining Your Negotiating Style in Resolving Conflict

decisive & structured

losing

demand action & challenge others

assess blame

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Define the 3 R’s of Your Relational StyleDefine the 3 R’s of Your Relational Style Define the 3 R’s of Your Relational StyleDefine the 3 R’s of Your Relational Style


Respond Be direct Be friendly Be nonthreatening Be specificRelate Briefness Express of feelings Friendly tones Patient answersReinforce The Bottom line Social recognition Time to process Time to validateHelp Get out of the way Talk to me Assurances Leave me alone--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Respond Time to process Be Logical Focus on action Focus on activitiesRelate Nonverbal Assurances Accurate Data Variety Non structureReinforce Time to react Support Control EncouragementHelp Give me a hug Respect privacy Are spontaneous Are flexible

Respond Be direct Be friendly Be nonthreatening Be specificRelate Briefness Express of feelings Friendly tones Patient answersReinforce The Bottom line Social recognition Time to process Time to validateHelp Get out of the way Talk to me Assurances Leave me alone--------------------------------------- Midline -----------------------------------------------Respond Time to process Be Logical Focus on action Focus on activitiesRelate Nonverbal Assurances Accurate Data Variety Non structureReinforce Time to react Support Control EncouragementHelp Give me a hug Respect privacy Are spontaneous Are flexible


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As a high D/C and low I/S blend, my suggestion to others in responding to me is _____________________________________

in relating to me with ___________________________________

in reinforcing me give me_________________________________

When I’m under stress, you can be helpful to me if you________

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Defining the 3 R’s of Building a Relationship with You

be direct and specific

briefness and accurate data

the bottom line

get out of the way and leave me alone

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Conflict Resolution Strategies for High D StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High D StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High D StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High D Styles

How to Respond to a High D How to Respond to a High D •In conflict expect: Disagreement and debate•Focus: On actions and goals•Tone: Must be firm and direct• Give: “What” responses• Disengage: When the conversation becomes too heated

How to Relate to a High DHow to Relate to a High D • Be brief and to the point

• Use logic with an action plan• Allow time to consider your ideas

How to Reinforce the High DHow to Reinforce the High D • Repeat the plan of action focusing on goals, objectives, & results

• Give bottomline instructions• Get out of the way

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Conflict Resolution Strategies for High I StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High I Styles Conflict Resolution Strategies for High I StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High I Styles

How to Respond to a High I•In conflict expect: Denial or shift blame responses• Focus: On relationships and fun activities • Tone: Informal, friendly and positive• Give: “Who” responses• Disengage: When responses become too emotional

How to Relate to a High I • Use friendly voice tones

• Allow time for them to verbalize their feelings• You transfer talk to an action plan

How to Reinforce the High I • Offer positive encouragement and incentives for taking on tasks

• You organize the action plan• Communicate positive recognition

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Conflict Resolution Strategies for High S StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High S StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High S StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High S Styles

How to Respond to a High SHow to Respond to a High S• In conflict expect: Need for process time when considering change• Focus: On harmony and stability• Tone: Be nonthreatening and patient• Give: “How” responses; make allowance for family needs and issues• Disengage: When they become quiet and you loose eye contact

How to Relate to a High S • Use friendly tones when instructing

• Give personal, nonverbal acceptance and assurances • Allow time to process information

How to Reinforce the High SHow to Reinforce the High S • Repeat any instructions

• Provide hands-on reinforcement • Be patient in allowing time to take ownership

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Conflict Resolution Strategies for High C StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High C StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High C StylesConflict Resolution Strategies for High C Styles

How to Respond to a High C• In conflict expect: Cautious or negative responses• Focus: On answering their questions• Tone: Patient and persistent• Give: “Why” responses• Disengage: When they respond with a “poor me” statement

How to Relate to a High C • Answer questions in a patient and persistent manner

• Mix accurate data with assurances• Allow time to validate information

How to Reinforce the High C • Provide a step by step approach to a goal

• Provide reassurances of support • Give permission to validate information with third parties

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Learning Style Survey

PERCEPTUAL STRENGTHS: These are the avenues through which we take in information via our senses and begin to process it. Everyone functions with all four modalities, but we have preferences as to which helps us learn new information more readily.

HOW TO RESPOND: For each horizontal row, there are 4 choices. Rank each row of words in the following way:

4. I prefer this way of learning the MOST

3. I prefer this way of learning OFTEN

2. I prefer this way of learning SELDOM

1. I prefer this way of learning RARELY

Likes to move Likes to talk Likes to touch things

Likes to see what is being learned

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* Note: If your totals do not add up to 80, you did not complete the survey correctly or you made a mistake in adding up the totals. Recheck your work.

Prefers quiet

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Tallying your scores Tallying your scores

_24_ Column A: K - Kinesthetic learner

_12_ Column B: A - Auditory learner

_16_ Column C: T - Tactual learner

_28_ Column D: V - Visual learner

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Learning Style DefinitionsLearning Style Definitions

Kinesthetic learner - need full body movement in order to learn best.As children, they often get labeled “hyperactive” or ADHD. As adult, they say things like, “I get mybest ideas when I am jogging.”

Auditory learner - learn best when they can Hear it and Talk about it.They say, “I get my best ideas when I am talking with someone.”

Tactile learner - like to Touch it. Their memory is often locked into their fingers and may say, “I can remember it as soon as I touch it.

Visual learner - learn best when materials presented in a Visualway. They say, “If I can see it, I can remember it.”

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Defining your learning styleDefining your learning style

I think my learning style (s) are visual and kinesthetic because

I like learn best by first visualizing things and then taking

action on what I see in my mind.

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The Five Love Languages Tests for TeensThe Five Love Languages Tests for Teens

Instructions: There are 30 pairs of things that parents do or say to show love to their kids. There may be things your parents do or say or that you wish your parents would do or say. Pick only the ONE item in each box that you like the best, and circle the letter that goes with that item. For example, if you like “Ask me what I think” better than “Puts his/her arm around my shoulder,” draw a circle around the “letter” in the first statement.

Ask me what I think. A

Put his/her arm around my shoulder E

When you have finished looking at all 30 pairs, count how many times youcircled each letter and transfer that letter to the appropriate blank at the end of the test.

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Your Score Your Score A - __________ Words of AffirmationA - __________ Words of Affirmation B - __________ Quality Time B - __________ Quality Time C - __________ Receiving GiftsC - __________ Receiving Gifts D - __________ Acts of Service D - __________ Acts of Service E - __________ Physical TouchE - __________ Physical Touch

The letter or love language that receives the most points is your The letter or love language that receives the most points is your primary love language. If you score the same score for two love primary love language. If you score the same score for two love languages, then you are bilingual. If you score high on one love languages, then you are bilingual. If you score high on one love language and have a close second score, that second highest score language and have a close second score, that second highest score is your secondary love language.is your secondary love language.

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Understanding How I learn

Circle the environment you fell most comfortable with:(1) challenging and different (2) fun and friendly

(3) structured and orderly (4) peaceful and harmonious

Circle the way you tend to think: (1) details then to the whole(2) whole then to the details.

Circle the way you learn best: (1) hearing (2) seeing (3) touching (4) moving.

Circle the pace your prefer: (1) fast with variety (2) slower with time to process.

When I am in need of correction, the best way you can help me is to:

When I am discouraged, the best thing you can do for me is:

My idea of something I enjoy is:

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Communicating my Love Language to OthersCommunicating my Love Language to Others

My primary Love Language is _______________. Three statements from the profile assessment that best define my primary love languages are:

1.2.3.

My secondary Love Language is _______________. Three statements from the profile assessment that best define my primary love languages are:

1.2.3.

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DISC Blends & Biblical Characters – DISC Blends & Biblical Characters – UHOMY wkb. - Page 29UHOMY wkb. - Page 29

DISC BLENDS BIBLICAL CHARACTERSD - [Developer] SOLOMON, RAHAB, ZIPPORAHD/I - [Result-Oriented] JOSHUA, SARAHD=I - [Inspirational] APOLLOS, STEPHEN, LYDIAD/C - [Creative] PAUL, RACHELI - [Promoter] AARON, KING SAUL I/D - [Persuader] PETER, REBEKAHI/S - [Counselor] BARNABAS, ABIGAILI/C - [Appraiser] DAVID, MARY MAGDALENE S or S/C - [Specialist] ISSAC, DORCASS/D - [Achiever] NEHEMIAH, MARTHAS/I - [Agent] ABRAHAM, HANNAHS/C/D - [Investigator] JACOB, JAMES [ACTS 15], ANNAC or C/S - [Objective -thinker] LUKE, ESTHERC/S/D - [Perfectionist] MOSES, THOMAS, NAOMI C/S/I - [Practitioner] ELIJAH, DEBORAH, RUTH C = S - [Perfectionist] JOHN, MARY

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Tools to Measure Needs Tools to Measure Needs of Couplesof Couples

Strengths, limitations Strengths, limitations and fearsand fears

How and why conflict How and why conflict occursoccurs

Resolution strategies Resolution strategies based on Biblical modelsbased on Biblical models

Five Love Languages Five Love Languages assessmentassessment

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Additional Tools to Measure NeedsAdditional Tools to Measure Needs

Assesses Assesses DISC stylesDISC styles and and parallels DISC profilesparallels DISC profiles

to Biblical charactersto Biblical characters Measures one’s Measures one’s

Love LanguageLove Language Assesses Assesses Spiritual GiftsSpiritual Gifts

Learning StyleLearning Style profile profile Addresses Jesus’ styleAddresses Jesus’ style

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What the Youth Survey Does-What the Youth Survey Does-

Profiles normal behavior Profiles normal behavior Defines learning preferencesDefines learning preferences Defining “wants & fears”Defining “wants & fears” Conflict resolutionConflict resolution 3 R’s of communication3 R’s of communication Learning stylesLearning styles Five Love LanguagesFive Love Languages

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Children’s Behavior Survey Children’s Behavior Survey

3 R’s of 3 R’s of communication which communication which parallels the Biblical parallels the Biblical strategiesstrategies

Learning stylesLearning styles Parallels with a Parallels with a

famous leader or famous leader or Biblical characterBiblical character

How I learn exerciseHow I learn exercise

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For more information:For more information:

Understanding How Others Misunderstand You book -

Over 300 pages of information with a focus on integrating the DISC model

with Biblical characters.

Understanding How Others Misunderstand You workbook -

Over 144 pages paralleling the Understanding book. The workbook includes

six assessments (4 DISC profiles, a Role Analysis and Spiritual Gifts inventory.)

Contact: In His Grace, Inc., 3006 Quincannon Lane, Houston, Texas 77043.

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