Enhance Goal Setting through Enhance Goal Setting through Beliefs, Visualization, Positive Beliefs, Visualization, Positive Affirmations and Story TellingAffirmations and Story Telling

Welcome to LifeWelcome to Life

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In 2004 the PGA listedIn 2004 the PGA listed Tiger Woods at an avg of 68.6 strokesTiger Woods at an avg of 68.6 strokes William Wood at an avg of 70.4 strokesWilliam Wood at an avg of 70.4 strokes Tiger Woods = $9.5 million prize moneyTiger Woods = $9.5 million prize money William Wood=$165,000 prize moneyWilliam Wood=$165,000 prize money

Look for a suggestion to pick up a Look for a suggestion to pick up a stroke on your gamestroke on your game

OutlineOutlineI.I. BeliefsBeliefs

I.I. ImportanceImportanceII.II. Self ImageSelf ImageIII.III. Interpretation of PerformanceInterpretation of PerformanceIV.IV. Learn to FailLearn to Fail

II.II. Visualization and ImagesVisualization and ImagesIII.III. Words as ToolsWords as Tools

I.I. GoalsGoalsII.II. Positive AffirmationsPositive Affirmations

IV.IV. Life Story and Self Perception TheoryLife Story and Self Perception Theory

Central Theme: Central Theme:

Beliefs and ValuesBeliefs and Values are important in are important in motivating ourselves to write out motivating ourselves to write out GoalsGoals. Goals give us a navigation . Goals give us a navigation system on the journey to success. system on the journey to success. Self ImageSelf Image is an important mental is an important mental framing tool for feedback on framing tool for feedback on performance.performance.

“If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable.” - Seneca (Roman philosopher, mid-1st century AD)

Why am I presenting this?Why am I presenting this? Early in my career I did not sign up for Early in my career I did not sign up for

human resource or self improvement classeshuman resource or self improvement classes A couple things changed in my careerA couple things changed in my career

Given larger responsibility (i.e. put in charge of Given larger responsibility (i.e. put in charge of 100 people where I lost direct control)100 people where I lost direct control)

Involved with the operations of over 20 mergers Involved with the operations of over 20 mergers and acquisitions (fear factor and change)and acquisitions (fear factor and change)

Hired over 1000 employees (how do you pick Hired over 1000 employees (how do you pick success)success)

Became a parent and youth coachBecame a parent and youth coach Bottom line - I wish I had been given this Bottom line - I wish I had been given this

material earlier in my careermaterial earlier in my career

This talk is This talk is NOTNOT Suggesting you are doing anything wrong todaySuggesting you are doing anything wrong today All encompassing “life system”All encompassing “life system” Something I thought up myselfSomething I thought up myself Recommending that you become Pollyanna Recommending that you become Pollyanna

(foolishly or blindly optimistic)(foolishly or blindly optimistic) A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it will A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it will

annoy enough people to make it worth the effort” – Herm Albrightannoy enough people to make it worth the effort” – Herm Albright Replacing Replacing Hard WorkHard Work and and PerseverancePerseverance

as the 2 critical factors in successas the 2 critical factors in success

The following is a synthesis of The following is a synthesis of the following materialthe following material

Harvard’s Harvard’s Positive Psychology E-1504-Positive Psychology E-1504- Tal Ben- Tal Ben-ShaharShahar

Corporate Program Corporate Program “Increasing Human “Increasing Human Effectiveness”- Edge Learning InstituteEffectiveness”- Edge Learning Institute

Psyching for Sport: Mental Training for AthletesPsyching for Sport: Mental Training for Athletes Terry- OrlickTerry- Orlick

The Power of StoryThe Power of Story - Jim Loehr - Jim Loehr The Redemptive Self – Dan McAdamsThe Redemptive Self – Dan McAdams Blink: The Power of Thinking without ThinkingBlink: The Power of Thinking without Thinking – –

Malcolm GladwellMalcolm Gladwell

History of Studying SuccessHistory of Studying Success What do successful people do RIGHT?What do successful people do RIGHT?

Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence Positive PsychologyPositive Psychology Sports PsychologySports Psychology Pain management Pain management Success in BusinessSuccess in Business

Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Successful People”Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Successful People” Negotiate to WinNegotiate to Win Sales Quota AchievementSales Quota Achievement

Section I: BeliefsSection I: Beliefs

Section I: Section I: BeliefsBeliefs"Champions aren't made "Champions aren't made

in gyms. Champions are in gyms. Champions are made from something they made from something they have deep inside them - a have deep inside them - a desire, a dream, a vision. desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have last-They have to have last-minute stamina, they have minute stamina, they have to be a little faster, they to be a little faster, they have to have the skill and have to have the skill and the will. But the will must the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill."be stronger than the skill."- - Muhammad AliMuhammad Ali

““You will perform You will perform consistently in alignment consistently in alignment with your dominant belief with your dominant belief about yourself and others about yourself and others and how the world works” and how the world works” – – Bob Mowad from Edge Learning InstituteBob Mowad from Edge Learning Institute

Why are your beliefs so Why are your beliefs so important?important?

Beliefs develop a self imageBeliefs develop a self image Critical factor in how you frame your Critical factor in how you frame your

worldworld You see the world as it is filtered by You see the world as it is filtered by

your mental frameworkyour mental framework Critical in how you interpret failureCritical in how you interpret failure Critical in how you deal with the Critical in how you deal with the

constant hassles of lifeconstant hassles of life

Self-ImageSelf-Image Stored in your subconsciousStored in your subconscious An accumulation of you attitudes, An accumulation of you attitudes,

beliefs and thought patterns-real as beliefs and thought patterns-real as well as imagined.well as imagined.

You have a self-image in every area You have a self-image in every area of your life.of your life.

Increasing Human Effectiveness Edge Workbook 6-3

Roger BannisterRoger Bannister

1950’s the general belief was that the 1950’s the general belief was that the 4 minute mile was not medically 4 minute mile was not medically

possiblepossible May 6, 1954 at Iffley May 6, 1954 at Iffley

Road Track in Oxford Road Track in Oxford 3 min 59.4 s3 min 59.4 s

46 days later John 46 days later John Landy of Australia, Landy of Australia, time of time of 3 min 57.9 s3 min 57.9 s

1955 1955 3737 runners runners broke the recordbroke the record

1956 1956 300300 runners runners broke the recordbroke the record

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

How you filter the worldHow you filter the world ““Concerning all acts of initiative (and Concerning all acts of initiative (and

creation), there is one elementary truth creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. providence moves too. A whole stream A whole stream of events issues from the decision, of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come could have dreamt would have come his way”his way” - - W.H. Murray (Scottish Mountaineer)W.H. Murray (Scottish Mountaineer)

Beliefs as Self-fulfilling Prophecies Beliefs as Self-fulfilling Prophecies

BeliefsSelf Image

Performance

ConsistencyInterpretation

Objective

Subjective

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

Beliefs as Self-fulfilling Prophecies Beliefs as Self-fulfilling Prophecies

BeliefsSelf-Image

Performance

ConsistencyInterpretation

Objective

Subjective

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

Belief System impactsInterpretation

of Performance

Lock out the CriticsControl your self talk

Motivation

Visualization

Realism

"I've missed more than "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the been trusted to take the game winning shot and game winning shot and missed. I've failed over missed. I've failed over and over and over again and over and over again in my life. And that is in my life. And that is why I succeed." - why I succeed." - Michael Jordan Michael Jordan

Learn to Fail or Learn to Fail or Fail to LearnFail to Learn

The bravest sight in the world is to see a great man struggling against adversity. - Seneca (Roman philosopher, mid-1st century AD) ”

The Path of Failure• Age 22: Lost job• Age 23: Defeated for state legislature• Age 24: Failed in business• Age 27: Nervous breakdown• Age 34: Ran for congress and defeated• Age 39: Defeated again• Age 46: Ran for senate and defeated• Age 47: Defeated for nomination for vice president• Age 50: Defeated again for senate• Age 51: 16th US President

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

“I failed my way to success” Thomas Edison

I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. Thomas A. Edison

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

Time-outTime-out

“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end – which You can never afford to lose – with the discipline to confront the most Brutal facts of your current reality whatever it may be”. – Jim Stockdale

What about unrealistic beliefs?What about unrealistic beliefs?

Stockdale was asked who didn’t make it out of prison camp and Stockdale replied: "Oh, that’s easy, the optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said, 'We're going to be out by Christmas.' And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they'd say, 'We're going to be out by Easter.' And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.”

“False optimism sooner or later means disillusionment, anger and hopelessness.”

Abraham Maslow

What about unrealistic What about unrealistic beliefs?beliefs?

"I never lost faith in the end of the story, I never doubted not only that I would get out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade." - Admiral Stockdale

Avoiding the 3 M’s…Avoiding the 3 M’s…1.1. Magnifying (exaggerating)Magnifying (exaggerating)

a.a. Permanent and Pervasive (over-generalizing)Permanent and Pervasive (over-generalizing)b.b. All-or-nothing thinkingAll-or-nothing thinking

2.2. Minimizing (underplaying)Minimizing (underplaying)a.a. Tunnel visionTunnel visionb.b. Dismissal of positive or negativeDismissal of positive or negative

3.3. Making up (fabricating)Making up (fabricating)a.a. Personalization or blamePersonalization or blameb.b. Emotional reasoningEmotional reasoning

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

Get Real!Get Real! Is my conclusion tied to reality?Is my conclusion tied to reality? Is my conclusion rational?Is my conclusion rational? Am I ignoring something important?Am I ignoring something important? What important evidence do I still need to take into consideration?What important evidence do I still need to take into consideration? What am I magnifying?What am I magnifying? What am I minimizing?What am I minimizing? Am I ignoring anything that is going well?Am I ignoring anything that is going well? Am I ignoring anything that is not going well?Am I ignoring anything that is not going well? What is the big picture?What is the big picture?

Harvard Positive Psychology E1504 slideTal Ben-Shahar

Self-Defeating BeliefsSelf-Defeating Beliefs You must always have love and approval You must always have love and approval

from all people in your lifefrom all people in your life You must always prove to be thoroughly You must always prove to be thoroughly

competent, adequate, and achievingcompetent, adequate, and achieving Emotional misery comes from outside Emotional misery comes from outside

circumstances and you have little controlcircumstances and you have little control If something is fearsome you must If something is fearsome you must

preoccupy yourself with itpreoccupy yourself with it Your past remains all-importantYour past remains all-important

In Pursuit of Excellence Terry Orlick p34

We have established that We have established that beliefs are important!!!beliefs are important!!!

How do I establish, change or reinforce How do I establish, change or reinforce my beliefs?my beliefs? Images and VisualizationImages and Visualization Goals and Positive affirmationsGoals and Positive affirmations Stories and journaling exercisesStories and journaling exercises Choosing a social network/organizationChoosing a social network/organization Religion and meditation (not covered Religion and meditation (not covered

today)today)

Section II: Evolution of Visualization Section II: Evolution of Visualization TechniquesTechniques

History with Martial ArtsHistory with Martial Arts Eastern block began using mental techniques in sports Eastern block began using mental techniques in sports

training the 1960’s; soon followed by the West. training the 1960’s; soon followed by the West. Business borrowed techniques in the 90’s Business borrowed techniques in the 90’s (sales training (sales training

at IBM)at IBM) Pain management through meditation 90’s Pain management through meditation 90’s (Jon Kabat-(Jon Kabat-

Zin Phd in Molecular Biology from MIT) Zin Phd in Molecular Biology from MIT) Economics of fMRI, PET technology made research Economics of fMRI, PET technology made research

possible from late 90’s onwardpossible from late 90’s onward

Images and VisualizationImages and VisualizationStephen M. Kosslyn Stephen M. Kosslyn

Head of Psychology Head of Psychology Department at HarvardDepartment at Harvard

Use of fMRI, CAT, PET Use of fMRI, CAT, PET in mechanics of in mechanics of forming mental forming mental imagesimages

Coined the “Reality Coined the “Reality Simulation Principle”Simulation Principle”

Reality Simulation PrincipleReality Simulation Principle Use mental images as stand-ins Use mental images as stand-ins

for actual objectsfor actual objects GITI: Generate, Inspect, GITI: Generate, Inspect,

Transform, InspectTransform, Inspect Memory is enhanced by Memory is enhanced by

visualizing 3 dimensional visualizing 3 dimensional objectsobjects Remember objects better than Remember objects better than

pictures better than words.pictures better than words. Imaging a physical task Imaging a physical task

“recruits most of the brain “recruits most of the brain mechanisms that would guide mechanisms that would guide the corresponding movements”the corresponding movements”

Terry Orlick – Olympic Terry Orlick – Olympic TrainerTrainer

In Pursuit of Excellence – Terry In Pursuit of Excellence – Terry OrlickOrlick

Psychological SeparatorsPsychological Separators Orlick and Reed studied identifiers or Orlick and Reed studied identifiers or

common characteristics for excellence in common characteristics for excellence in sportssports Wide variety of athletic skillsWide variety of athletic skills Belief and CommitmentBelief and Commitment Self ControlSelf Control

Accept constructive criticismAccept constructive criticism Leaned how to FailLeaned how to Fail Maintain Composure and FocusMaintain Composure and Focus

In Pursuit of Excellence Orlick p11-12

Athletes fail to perform in the Athletes fail to perform in the OlympicsOlympics

Not well enough practiced to overcome Not well enough practiced to overcome distractionsdistractions

Cannot stay focused on task through Cannot stay focused on task through entire performance or evententire performance or event

Not skilled with Not skilled with competition simulationcompetition simulation (imagery) required to excel in competition(imagery) required to excel in competition

Not well rested for competition or inability Not well rested for competition or inability to establish the habit of recoveryto establish the habit of recovery

In Pursuit of Excellence Orlick p14

ImageryImagery Vivid imagery allows slight firing Vivid imagery allows slight firing

of neural pathways that are of neural pathways that are involved in the performance of involved in the performance of the skillsthe skills

The worlds best athletes use The worlds best athletes use imagery skillsimagery skills

See yourself from the See yourself from the insideinside performing taskperforming task

Persistent daily Persistent daily practicepractice How vivid or clear are your How vivid or clear are your

images? 1-10 scaleimages? 1-10 scale World Cup winners 9.0World Cup winners 9.0 Remaining National team 7.4Remaining National team 7.4

Orlick Psyching for Sport Mental Training for Athletes page 117

Bill Russell at age 18Bill Russell at age 18 ““Every time one of them would make a move, Every time one of them would make a move,

I’d close my eyes just afterward and try to see I’d close my eyes just afterward and try to see the play in my mind….since I had an accurate the play in my mind….since I had an accurate vision of his technique in my head I started vision of his technique in my head I started playing with the image right there on the bench playing with the image right there on the bench running back the picture several times and each running back the picture several times and each time inserting a part of me for McKelvery. When time inserting a part of me for McKelvery. When I went in the game I grabbed an offensive I went in the game I grabbed an offensive rebound and put it in the basket… It seemed rebound and put it in the basket… It seemed natural almost as if natural almost as if I were just stepping into a I were just stepping into a film and following the signsfilm and following the signs… I transferred … I transferred something from my head to my body.” – Bill something from my head to my body.” – Bill Russell Russell (11 NBA championships)(11 NBA championships)

Orlick In Pursuit of Excellence P70

Orlick’s practical imaging Orlick’s practical imaging tipstips

Every day during training visualize the course and then Every day during training visualize the course and then feel yourself skiing the course or sections of itfeel yourself skiing the course or sections of it

On the way up the lift in training imagine yourself skiing a On the way up the lift in training imagine yourself skiing a section of the course as you would like to in competitionsection of the course as you would like to in competition

Three evenings a week before going to sleep try to feel Three evenings a week before going to sleep try to feel yourself skiing the course as you like to. If a problem yourself skiing the course as you like to. If a problem arises (negative image) stop the image and go back up arises (negative image) stop the image and go back up the hill above the problem and continue correcting the the hill above the problem and continue correcting the problem. problem. Do not focus on mistakes in mental image or Do not focus on mistakes in mental image or videos.videos.

Off-season when relaxing look at various images and Off-season when relaxing look at various images and close your eyes and see them clearly. See and feel close your eyes and see them clearly. See and feel yourself doing other activities like jogging or bikingyourself doing other activities like jogging or biking

Recall the good feelings that you have had before and Recall the good feelings that you have had before and after good performances.after good performances.

Psyching for Sport Mental Training for Athletes page 117

Visualize Correct FormVisualize Correct Form Crookenton(1982) had a group hit Crookenton(1982) had a group hit

tennis balls. If person in front hit the tennis balls. If person in front hit the ball into the net then…ball into the net then…

Watch video for mistakes but always Watch video for mistakes but always mentally re-run correctionsmentally re-run corrections

Watch correct video formWatch correct video form ““Practice does not make Perfect – Practice does not make Perfect –

Perfect Practice makes Perfect”Perfect Practice makes Perfect” ““Going through it mentally is almost Going through it mentally is almost

like having an extra practice” – like having an extra practice” – Brian Orser gold medalistBrian Orser gold medalist

Sales Calls and Sales Calls and PresentationsPresentations

Image nervous and stumbling Image nervous and stumbling performance in black and white that you performance in black and white that you can’t see and is fading with bad receptioncan’t see and is fading with bad reception

Image a confident clear speaking person. Image a confident clear speaking person. Good posture with brilliant smile and Good posture with brilliant smile and personality – image with vivid strong personality – image with vivid strong colors (HDTV) with a feeling of excitementcolors (HDTV) with a feeling of excitement

Section III: Goals and Section III: Goals and Positive AffirmationsPositive Affirmations

Advertising CampaignAdvertising Campaign How do you use How do you use

words as tools?words as tools?Can we use words Can we use words and images to and images to create our own create our own advertising advertising campaigncampaign

Research John Bargh from Research John Bargh from “Blink”“Blink”

Him was worried she alwaysHim was worried she always From our Florida oranges temperatureFrom our Florida oranges temperature Ball the throw toss silentlyBall the throw toss silently Shoes give replace old theShoes give replace old the He observes occasionally people watchesHe observes occasionally people watches Be will seat lonely theyBe will seat lonely they Sky he seamless gray isSky he seamless gray is Should now withdraw forgetful weShould now withdraw forgetful we Us bingo sing play letUs bingo sing play let Sunlight makes temperature wrinkle raisinsSunlight makes temperature wrinkle raisins

Research John Bargh from Research John Bargh from “Blink”“Blink”

Him was Him was worriedworried she always she always From our From our FloridaFlorida oranges temperature oranges temperature Ball the throw toss silentlyBall the throw toss silently Shoes give replace Shoes give replace oldold the the He observes occasionally people watchesHe observes occasionally people watches Be will seat Be will seat lonelylonely they they Sky he seamless Sky he seamless graygray is is Should now withdraw forgetful weShould now withdraw forgetful we Us Us bingobingo sing play let sing play let Sunlight makes temperature Sunlight makes temperature wrinklwrinkle raisinse raisins

Goals bring FocusGoals bring Focus Written downWritten down Long term and short termLong term and short term

Not only the end result but the processNot only the end result but the process First Person and Present TenseFirst Person and Present Tense Goals are stated positivelyGoals are stated positively Use metaphors to tie to positive emotion, images, Use metaphors to tie to positive emotion, images,

touch or smell touch or smell ((http://grammar.about.com/od/words/a/similemetaphor1.htmhttp://grammar.about.com/od/words/a/similemetaphor1.htm))

Self-ConcordantSelf-Concordant Develop Daily “To Do List” tied to GoalsDevelop Daily “To Do List” tied to Goals Learning based goals versus performance basedLearning based goals versus performance based Review, update and evolveReview, update and evolve

Remember this is a common characteristic of Successful People

Learning based vs. Performance Learning based vs. Performance based Goals based Goals (Grant and Dweck 2003)(Grant and Dweck 2003)

Learning goals emphasize growth Learning goals emphasize growth and process and process (i.e.. Improve shooting (i.e.. Improve shooting technique)technique) = persistent in the face of obstacles= persistent in the face of obstacles

Performance goals whose purpose is Performance goals whose purpose is to validate ability to validate ability (i.e.. Score 30 points)(i.e.. Score 30 points)

= subject to debilitation after a = subject to debilitation after a setback or negative feedbacksetback or negative feedback

“Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control. They come to see themselves as in control of their success. Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child’s control, and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure.”

• Intelligence versus EffortHarmful Praise? (Dweck, 2005)Harmful Praise? (Dweck, 2005)

“When you praise kids' intelligence and then they fail, they think they're not smart anymore, and they lose interest in their work. In contrast, kids praised for effort show no impairment and often are energized in the face of difficulty.”

• Fixed versus Malleable

Definition ofAffirmative Reminder

Statement of fact or belief designedto prepare me for reaching a predetermined outcome or goal. A statement of my goal describing myself as though my desired goal has already been achieved. Increasing Human Effectiveness

Edge Learning Institute Unit 7

Guidelines For Designing Affirmative RemindersPersonal

PositivePresent TensePositive EmotionRealisticSpecific

“I” compare only with my own best self.

Describe what you want.

Express it as though it’s already happened

Use words like enjoy, terrific, happy.

Use words like consistently and regularly.

Use measurable terms and words.Increasing Human Effectiveness Edge Learning Institute Unit 7

Affirmative RemindersI will become dedicated to my training and development. I don’t . I always learn from failure and it will be exciting when I overcome an obstacle.

I am dedicated to my personal and professional growth and take all setbacks as temporary. I feel tremendous excitement (like a bolt of lighting) when I am overcoming obstacles and learning how to succeed.

Increasing Human Effectiveness Edge Learning Institute Unit 7

I will become dedicated to my training and development. I don’t see what is wrong. I always learn from failure and it will be exciting when I overcome an obstacle.

Section IV: What is the Story of Section IV: What is the Story of your Lifeyour Life

Successful (generative) people Successful (generative) people create a mental story of their life that create a mental story of their life that gives them an ultimate mission that gives them an ultimate mission that allows them to become resilient to allows them to become resilient to obstacles that get in their way.obstacles that get in their way.

What is your story?What is your story? Successful people have common Successful people have common

themes in the stories they tell about themes in the stories they tell about themselvesthemselves

Four main buckets of themes Four main buckets of themes from the Redemptive Selffrom the Redemptive Self

Gratitude for early lifeGratitude for early life Overcame adversity and turned it Overcame adversity and turned it

into something positiveinto something positive Had a desire to build connections Had a desire to build connections

with peoplewith people Attitude that the Future will be Attitude that the Future will be

positivepositive

Common themeCommon theme ““The protagonist will encounter friends The protagonist will encounter friends

and enemies, heroes and villains. There and enemies, heroes and villains. There will be scenes of joy, excitement, will be scenes of joy, excitement, sadness, fear, shame and almost any sadness, fear, shame and almost any other emotion that may be imagined. other emotion that may be imagined. But a recurrent pattern will hold: But a recurrent pattern will hold: Negative emotional scenes will often Negative emotional scenes will often lead directly to positive outcomes. lead directly to positive outcomes. Suffering will consistently be redeemed.”Suffering will consistently be redeemed.” – Dan McAdams The Redemptive Self page 9– Dan McAdams The Redemptive Self page 9

““the most important story that the most important story that you tell about yourself is the you tell about yourself is the

story that you tell to yourself” -story that you tell to yourself” -Jim LoehrJim Loehr

The Power of Story Jim Loehr p14

Your ultimate missionYour ultimate mission How you would like to be remembered How you would like to be remembered

is the most fundamental point of your is the most fundamental point of your life’s navigation systemlife’s navigation system

Imagine you are Tom Sawyer and Huck Imagine you are Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn listening to their own eulogy at the Finn listening to their own eulogy at the back of the churchback of the church What would you like to hear at your eulogy?What would you like to hear at your eulogy? What does it say on your tombstone?What does it say on your tombstone? What would you die for?What would you die for?

Write it down and say it out loud Write it down and say it out loud Challenge and Interrogate Yourself Challenge and Interrogate Yourself

I want to be number one in my sportI want to be number one in my sport I want to be an inspiration to anyone who I want to be an inspiration to anyone who

has seen me playhas seen me play

The 3 critical components of The 3 critical components of your life storyyour life story

1.1. PurposePurpose2.2. TruthTruth3.3. ActionAction

1.1. Journal your storyJournal your story2.2. Re-read your storyRe-read your story3.3. Reflect on your storyReflect on your story4.4. Visualize your storyVisualize your story5.5. Talk about your storyTalk about your story6.6. Act out your new behaviorsAct out your new behaviors

An Embedded StoryAn Embedded Story RitualizedRitualized Requires less conscious energyRequires less conscious energy Requires less will powerRequires less will power Direct energy elsewhereDirect energy elsewhere

SummarySummary Spend the time to reflect on your beliefs Spend the time to reflect on your beliefs

and values and values Write downWrite down goals and positive goals and positive

affirmations to develop positive habitsaffirmations to develop positive habits PracticePractice visualizing successful outcomes visualizing successful outcomes Re-frame failures as great opportunities Re-frame failures as great opportunities

to learnto learn Develop your own personal storyDevelop your own personal story ReviewReview, change and evolve as you grow , change and evolve as you grow

and developand develop

ReferencesReferences

Jim Loehr Jim Loehr The Power of StoryThe Power of Story Free Press 2007 Free Press 2007 Increasing Human Effectiveness Workbook Increasing Human Effectiveness Workbook Edge Edge

Learning Institute, Inc, 2007Learning Institute, Inc, 2007 Dan P. McAdams Dan P. McAdams The Redemptive SelfThe Redemptive Self Oxford University Oxford University

Press 2006Press 2006 Terry Orlick Terry Orlick In Pursuit of ExcellenceIn Pursuit of Excellence Leisure Press 1990 Leisure Press 1990 Malcolm Gladwell Malcolm Gladwell Blink Blink Little, Brown and Company Little, Brown and Company

20052005 Heide Grant and Carol Dweck “Clarifying Achievement Heide Grant and Carol Dweck “Clarifying Achievement

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on Negative Emotions and Goal Setting When Initial on Negative Emotions and Goal Setting When Initial Performance Falls Short of One’s Performance Performance Falls Short of One’s Performance Goal.” Goal.” Human Performance,Human Performance, 18(1), 55-80 18(1), 55-80

ExercisesExercises Gratitude LetterGratitude Letter 5 Values and Beliefs5 Values and Beliefs Identify metaphors in MLK’s I have a Dream SpeechIdentify metaphors in MLK’s I have a Dream Speech Strength test Strength test http://http://

www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspxwww.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx Positive AffirmationsPositive Affirmations Word CompletionWord Completion Fault finding and Benefit Finding StoryFault finding and Benefit Finding Story Craft your own mission statement and draft an Craft your own mission statement and draft an

outline of your storyoutline of your story