if any of these are happening, you can help… · believe the person who is being hurt in their...
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u Issomeoneyouknowbeingcontrolledintheirrelationship?
u Doestheirpartnerputthemdown,tellthemwhattodoandhumiliatetheminfrontofothers?
u Areyouseeinglessandlessofyourfriend?Istheirpartnernotlettingthemseeyou?
u Doesyourfriendmakeexcusesfortheirpartner’sbehavior?
u Aretheybeingphysicallyhurt?
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You Can Help aLoved One WhoIs Being Hurt
If any of these are happening, you can help…
King County CoalitionAgainst Domestic Violence
(206) 568-5454www.kccadv.org
Believe the person who is being hurt in their relationship.• Letthemknowthattheyarenottoblame
forwhatishappening.
• Offersuggestionsandideas,notopinions.Don’ttrytomakedecisionsforyourfriend.
• Youmaynotalwaysagreewiththedecisionstheyhavemade,butit’simportantnottojudge.
• Validatetheirfeelings.
• Listenandbesupportive.Betherewhenyouareneeded.
• Rememberthatchangetakestime,andyourfriendisfacinghardchoices.Iftheydecidetoleave,itmaybealongprocess.
What can you do or say to help?Here is what you can do…
• Ifsomeoneisinimmediatedanger,call911.
• Helpyourfriendmakeaplantostaysafeandkeeptheirkidssafe.
• Givethemahotlinenumberandencouragethemtocalltogetmoreinformation.
• Talktoyourfriendaboutyourconcernsinprivate.
• Offertohelpwithtransportation,groceriesorchildcare.
• Ifyourfriendisabusive,thehotlinecanhelpthemtoo.
Here is what you can say…
• “Icareaboutyouandyourfamily.Idon’twanttoseeyouhurtphysicallyoremotionally.”
• “Inarelationshipwherethereisviolence,itrarelystopswithouthelp.”
• “Youarenotalone,thishappenstoalotofpeople.”
• “It’snotyourfault.Nothingyouhavedoneisanexcuseforviolence.”
Remember to take care of yourself.
Youmaynotalwaysbeabletobethereforyourfriendoryourfamilymemberwhentheyareincrisis.It’sOKtosetyourownboundariesforwhatyoucanorcannothandle.
Hotlinescanhelpyoutoo.Calltogetinfor-mationandsupport.
Beawarethatconfrontingtheabusiveorcon-trollingpersonmayberisky.Callthehotlinetotalkaboutsafetyissues.
Remindyourselfthatyouaredoingtherightthingbyreachingout,evenifitishard.
What else can you do to take action against domestic violence?• Learnmoreaboutdomesticviolence.
ReadbooksandlookontheInternetforinformation.
• Volunteerforordonatemoneytoadomesticviolenceagency.
• JointheKingCountyCoalitionAgainstDomesticViolence.
D o m e s t i c v i o l e n c e i s e v e R y o n e ’ s B u s i n e s s . R e a c h o u t a n D g e t i n v o l v e D .
For immediate assistance, call the Washington state Domestic violence hotline at 1-800-562-6025.
For more information, contact the King county coalition against Domestic violence at (206) 568-5454 or visit www.kccadv.org