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HYPNOSIS : 40 JANUARY 2014 TRANCE : 7

HYPNOTIQUE 40Years

FOR PRIVATE CIRCULATION ONLY

HEARTY WELCOME TO 2014!

Hypnotique Circle wishes all its members and guests a year oflearning, accomplishment, wisdom, achievement and triumph!

Another fresh new year is here . . .

Another year to live!

To banish worry, doubt, and fear,

To love and laugh and give!

This bright new year is given me

To live each day with zest . . .

To daily grow and try to be

My highest and my best!

I have the opportunity

Once more to right some wrongs,

To pray for peace, to plant a tree,

And sing more joyful songs!

- William Arthur Ward

On behalf of the Executive Committee

The New Year is not about changing the Dates but Direction

Its not about changing the Calendar but Conviction Wishing

you all a brilliant, dazzling, sparkling and radiant 2014!

Muthiah Ramanathan

President

Major V V Narayanan

Secretary


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THE HYPNOTIQUE CIRCLEMADRAS 40Years

Block S-27 C, Rainbow Flats, Ponnambalam Salai, K K Nagar, Chennai 78

President Vice President Vice President

MUTHIAH RAMANATHAN Dr T M PERUMAL Dr C N RAMGOPAL

93810-34310 93810-65016 94442-90841

Secretary Joint Secretary Joint Secretary Treasurer

MAJOR V V NARAYANAN R.GOPALAKRISHNAN G.GANESAN U M BAFNA

91500-00615 98844-81760 98401-29523 98415-34999

TOP TEN TIPS FOR A HAPPY LIFE

1. Develop a circle of close associations who cherish working on

values and goals instead of sharing problems and difculties.

Help others on a daily basis by becoming a role model

for an ethical hard working individual. Work on becoming

more optimistic by eliminating cynicism from your life and

conversations.

2. Record your strengths and weaknesses in a diary and each day

write down some positive things you will achieve for that day.

3. Progress is the key to happiness so gain more knowledge and

strive to learn new skills on a weekly basis. Create a compelling

future for yourself4. Your vocabulary matters. When you speak positive, uplifting

thoughts, when you compliment others, when you stop cursing

and start praising, it uplifts you into a more positive human being.

Write down negative phrases you say each day and reframe

them into a more positive outlook on life.

5. Practice the ability to accept change, and risk what you are

passionate about achieving. Start with small goals you knowyou can achieve. This will build your self- condence and give

you the courage to risk bigger and more joy inducing, long term

thrills.


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6. Trust your own intuition. Believe in yourself. Associate with

positive, uplifting people, think and exude positive thoughts

and attitudes. Act enthusiastic and youll train your brain to be

enthusiastic.

7. Be condent and build good relationships with people. Be

fortunate for who you are and where your dreams can take

you.

8. Embrace the law of attraction as it responds the way your

mind works; your subconscious cannot interpret negativity.

Therefore when you hear yourself making comments that

include dont, wont, cant, or no, you are actually giving

your mind the attention to dwell on these negative emotions.

You attract to your life whatever you give your attention, energy

and focus to, wanted or unwanted.


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9. Get in the habit of writing, calling or e-mailing at least 4 notes per

day, simply saying thank you, getting back in touch or offering

help to someone in need. Apply your faith in what is good in theworld and pass it on to someone else.

10. Educate yourself on the pitfalls we face as a society as to why

young people turn to drugs to alcohol to escape painful feelings

and memories. Understand that spirituality and faith, family

and high self-esteem are the cornerstones for living a happy,

successful life.

5 MINDSET SHIFTS YOU NEED TO MAKE

TO DO THE IMPOSSIBLE

By Joel Runyon

Everything starts with your mindset. If your heads not in the right

spot, you wont be able to execute effectively.

Physical challenges are 90% mental.. They force you to physically

face mental blocks head-on. They give you physical encounters with

usually intangible obstacles.

If you want to do something hard, difcult, or seemingly impossible,

you have to start with mindset. Here are ve mindset shifts you need

to make to do the impossible:

1. Realize that Everyone Is Normal

Everyone is normal. Celebrities arent special. Billionaires arent

special. Athletes arent special. Stop freaking out when you see them.

Everyone is a normal person. Youre normal. Richard Branson is

a normal guy and so is Bill Gates. There are no special people. The

people you think are special just work their tails off, repeatedly nd

and capitalize on opportunities, and get lucky. Luck is just a case of

hustle + timing. No one just gets lucky. Dont make yourself feel


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better by trying to convincing yourself Richard Branson is just special.

Hes not special. He only works hard and smart. Thats all.

2. Think Bigger Way Bigger

Stop thinking small. Get outside the box way outside the box.

Get outside your head. Stretch your mind. Ask what you would do you

if you had to make fteen million in seven years or your mother or

someone close would die. What would you do? The goal is to change

your entire basis for reality the way you think about things. Instead of

focusing on how to make 1 or 2K/ month, start thinking about how youcould make 10, 20 or 50K/ month. It takes a different mindset to get

you to that level. You have to operate on a different level to generate

Rs 5000 pm than you do to generate 5 lac pm. More importantly, you

have to change the way you think. Thing bigger way bigger

3. Stop Doing Stupid Work

I have this as a sticky note on my desktop: Dont ever solve thesame problem three times in a row. If you have the same question or

problem three times in a row, systematize it. Macro-fy it. Outsource

it. Stop doing stupid work. Dont waste your time, energy, or focus on

stuff that doesnt need to be done by you. No more stupid work, Right ?

4. Do The Dirty Work

The dirty work is where the money is. Stop focusing on what youre

passionate about. Nobody cares about what youre passionate about.

Get passionate about solving peoples problems.

There are a ton of people who have made money doing the dirty

work. Find out more about millionaire Dirty Jobs and youll nd a crazy

number of people whove made their money doing the dirty work.

There are tons of jobs that nobody wants to do, and theyre willing

to pay for someone else to do them. Theres your opportunity. Do thestuff that nobody else wants to do. Solve problems that people want

to have solved.


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5. Realize that You Can Do Anything You Want To Do

You can quit your job tomorrow. You can pack your bags, and geta plane ticket to anywhere in the world. You can do that now. You

dont need anyones permission. You can literally do anything you

want.You can do whatever you want. Wrap your mind around that.

Just let that sink in.

Now, go take cold shower, change your mindset, and get after it.

All the BEST !

A SHORT STORY

A mother and a baby camel were lazing around and suddenly the

baby camel asks

Baby : Mother, mother, can I ask you some questions?

Mother : Sure! Why son, is there something bothering you?

Baby : Why do camels have hump?

Mother : Well son, we are desert animals, we need the hump to

store water and we are known to survive without water.

Baby : Okay, then why are our legs long and rounded?

Mother : Son, obviously they are meant for walking in thedesert. You know with these legs we can move around

comfortably in the desert than anyone! Said the mother

proudly.

Baby : Okay, then why are our eye lashes long? Sometimes it is

bothering my sight.

Mother : My son, those long thick eye lashes are your protectivecover. They help to protect your eye from desert sand

and wind. Said the mother camel with eyes brimming with

pride.


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Baby : I see .So hump is to store water when we are in desert,

the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye

lashes protect my eyes from the desert.

Then what the hell are we doing here in this zoo?

Moral of the story:Skills, Knowledge, Attitude are there only to

be used for productive purposes and not just for general exhibition

to public!

9 UNCONVENTIONAL HABITS OF

EXTRAORDINARY SUCCESS

As long as youre going to be thinking anyway, think BIG. -

Donald Trump

Ive picked-up these habits gradually over the years while

working with some impressively successful people seven gure

internet entrepreneurs, best selling authors, talented CEOs, etc.

Even though these arent the typical success habits youd read

about in a self-improvement book, theyve been extremely effective

in my life by helping me align my daily efforts with a winning

mindset. Im condent they can do the same for you. Heres what

I would do if I were you :

1. Help at least one person a day

The best part of life is not just surviving, but thriving with passion,

compassion, humor, generosity, and kindness, and using these

tools to make the world a better place.

Smile, and help others smile too. If you dont have the power or

strength to write someones happiness, then try to help them remove

their sadness instead. And dont let the numbers overwhelm you.You cant help everyone at once. Focus on assisting one person

at a time, and always start with the person closest to you.


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If you can lie down at night knowing in your heart that you made

someones day just a little brighter, you had a successful day. Read

365 Thank Yous.

2. When you feel like giving up, ask yourself, Can I give

more?

The honest answer is almost always, Yes. And once your

mind realizes it can, it usually does.

One of the unique things about the human mind is that it cando only what it thinks it can do. The minute you say, I dont have

the energy or Im not capable of that, you are actually training

your brain to live up to your diminished expectations.

Low expectations mean low results. So watch how you speak

to yourself. And when you reach that point of struggle in your mind

where most people would give in and give up, do the opposite and

give it another shot.

3. Respect everyone

When you respect people it gives you a special kind of access

to them. No, you dont automatically get the key to their hearts.

What you do get is an increased understanding and rapport, and

that can be priceless.

If youre a business owner, respecting your prospective

customers will bring you more of their business. If youre a teacher,

respecting your students will add increased effectiveness to your

teaching. If youre an athlete, respecting the other team will help

you build an effective strategy to win the game.

In all walks of life, respect opens the doors of opportunity.

4. Accept exactly where you are, wherever you are

One of the great secrets to being happy and successful is

accepting where you are in life and making the most of it. You


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wont always know where you are going, but as long as you keep

moving forward the journey will be rewarding.

One step at a time, one foot in front of the other, time has a way

of gradually showing you the way to what truly matters. Sometimes

you nd yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes in the

middle of nowhere you nd yourself.

5. Seek lots of new life experiences

The people with the greatest wisdom are the ones who havebeen through the most. So start strong, stay strong, and nish

strong by always remembering why youre doing it in the rst place.

Its all about learning and growing along the way.

The most valuable lessons in life cannot be taught, they must

be experienced. When you reect on your life, you will likely see

some pain, mistakes, and heartache. But when you look in the

mirror, you will see the strength, growth, and wisdom that madeit all worthwhile.

6. Maintain a diehard belief in yourself

A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than

any wonder drug. Your individual thoughts and beliefs are similar

to chapters in a book. When you put them together, you have the

belief system that becomes your life story.

If you are going to be successful in creating the life you dream

of, you have to believe that you are capable of doing so. You have

to believe that you have the resources, talents and skills necessary

to create your desired results.

7. Walk your own path

A good life is not living the life everyone else intended for you.Be true to yourself. Stand rmly by your core values. Your life is

your spiritual path. Its whats right in front of you.


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You cant live anyone elses life. The task is to live yours

and stop trying to copy the ones you think are more acceptable.

Because if you water yourself down to please everyone else, tot in, or to not step on anyones toes, you will lose the passion,

freedom and joy of being who you really are.

8. Find an opportunity in every outcome, positive or negative

Sometimes things happen exactly as you had expected, and

then there are other times when nothing goes as planned. In either

situation, there is a way to respond triumphantly.

Your victories bring happiness and feelings of self-achievement.

Your defeats bring wisdom, strength, and determination. Both

outcomes bring new opportunities. In this way, life moves

continually forward.

In each moment, you can build upon whatever has come before.

Right now, you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Because

right now, you are in the only time and place where you can actually

make a difference.

9. Need less

Instead of focusing so intently on what you want to get, consider

the things you can let go of. Eliminate some excess baggage,

lighten your load, and feel a weight lifted. So many of the things

you think you need, you do not need at all, you simply want them.And as your wants diminish, your freedom and abundance grow.

Because long-term fulllment in life is not about getting all that

you need; fulllment is knowing the freedom to be all that you are

without the excess. Its about wanting what you have at any given

moment, and making the best of it.

Bottom line: Ambition, intention, and disciplined effort will bringyou great things in this world, but there is more to success than

acquiring the commonly celebrated milestones of success that

society confers. In the long run, less is often more.


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Once there was a father who wanted to train his four sons. He

wanted his sons to learn, not to judge things too quickly. So he

sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree

that was a great distance away.

The rst son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the

third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.

When they had all gone and come back, he called them together

to describe what they had seen. The rst son said that the tree

was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said it was covered

with green buds and full of promise.

The third son disagreed. He said it was laden with blossoms

that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful that it was the most

graceful thing he had ever seen.

The last son disagreed with all of them. He said it was ripe and

drooping with fruit, full of life and fulllment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all

right, because they had each seen but only one season in the

trees life.

He told them that one cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only

one season. And that the essence of who they are and the pleasure,

joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at theend, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when its winter, you will miss the promise of your

spring, the beauty of your summer, the fulllment of your fall.

Never let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.

Moral: Never Judge Life by one difcult season.


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SAVOUR ALL SEASONS

(by Robert Paul Gilles, Jr)

To let go does not mean to stop caring,

It means I cant do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,

Its the realization I cant control another.

To let go is not to enable,

But to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means

The outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,

Its to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for,But to care about.

To let go is not to x,

But to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,

But to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,

But to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective,

Its to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,

But instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,

But to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.


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To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,

But to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,

But to grow and live for the future.

To let go is not to deny but to accept.

To let go is to fear less and love more...

Remember: The time to love is short...

RISING VIOLENCE, FALLING COMPASSION

By Dr. T.T. SRINATH

Courtesy : The Hindu Business Line

Increasing harshness and negativity in our behaviour is cause

for concern.

In todays liberal world we regard ourselves as autonomous

individuals. It is hard to envisage a time when so many people

enjoyed comparable freedom. Yet the very exercise of freedom in

the service of greed, aggression and fear has led to the breakdown

of community, perpetuation of tyranny, injustice and inequalities,

and of course, sexual misconduct.

What is the origin of such contemptible behaviour? Without

doubt it is the escalation of violence in the way we live our life,

complete absence of compassion and the harsh use of language

when we speak to each other.

Typically, when we see a friend or an acquaintance after a

gap of time and we notice that he/she has lost weight, we tell the

individual You are probably not eating well? instead of sayingYou have lost weight and are looking well! Thus the very manner

in which we address the individual embodies harshness and

discount.


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Marshall Rosenberg, an exponent of Non-Violent

Communication, says that much of our life is circumscribed by

employing judging language and tone, operating as we do from

assumptions, thus seeking to manipulate one another, and nally

demanding expected behaviour. What we do not do is state

concern or intent, reect the value we feel for the other and thus

communicate our compassion.

When we operate from judgment we become reactive and

life-reducing. But when we operate from positive intent, wedemonstrate responsiveness and enrich life.

We resort to life-reducing, harsh and reactive ways for some of

the following reasons:

Lack of appreciation of self: Much of our growing years are

consumed by comparisons, hurt that we absorb through relating

and anguish that we experience through rejection. Thus we slowly

but surely begin to lose an appreciation of ourselves. Ironically,

as children we were imbued with positivity and a can do attitude.

Take the example of a child of three or four who attempts to learn

to ride a bicycle, falls off now and again, but doesnt give up,

because the child thinks I can. This is lost in youth as one trudges

through life painfully, marginalised and discounted. We then

spend large sums of money going to seminars that infuse our

lost positivism. The absence of appreciation of self results in

lack of respect for self, which is played out in the way we relate

to others.

Lack of unconditional acceptance of self:When an infant,

either your own or a relatives, seeks to hug you with joy, you

respond instinctively to the affection, even if the child is unclean.Yet when this infant, now grown, approaches to hug you, even

though with affection but with unclean clothes, youre likely to


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chastise him. The difference between hugging the infant and not

the adult comes from our conditional acceptance of the latter. In

effect, since we do not accept ourselves unconditionally, we do not

accept the other and thus pass judgement easily.

Celebration of poverty:Much of our life is lived in denial and

through repression. We are told to learn to live with little and thus

rejoice in spite of lack. We therefore do not cherish our abundance

and thus expect others to also live in poverty. Children are often

told by their parents who have been brought up in limited wealth

that they must be judicious and careful. What they are saying is

actually, I have suffered, so should you.

Lack of feeling secure in self: Many of us tend to second

guess ourselves, doubt our competence and thus undermine who

we are. Possessing such attitude, we invariably project it on others,

maintaining contact through demand and coercion.

Lack of tolerance to ambiguity: The tendency to focus on

what may go wrong and not on what may go right results in our

transferring this anxiety onto people we deal with and, therefore, we

demand predictable behaviour. As we cannot cope with uncertainty

we subjugate others to our intolerance and restlessness.

The resultant behaviour, owing to some or all of the above

inadequacies in us, forces us to engage with harshness, violence

and victimisation.

Finally, understanding that our reactive, violent and non-

compassionate ways of relating come from lack of self-acceptance,

perpetuation of self-hatred and denial of our abundance will help

us transcend our self-imposed limitations.


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2.29 pm : Welcome Address

2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests

2.45 pm : Goal Setting- Mr K Aravamootham,Life Coach, NLP Trainer & Past President of our Circle

4.15 pm : Tea

4.40 pm : Happily Achieving Goals - Mr K Adhivarahan, Psychologist and Facilitator for facing challenges

5.15 pm : Grand Vision - Mr V Karthik

Transactional Analyst & President, NLP and TA Circle

5.45 pm : Mass Relaxation

PS: As the sessions will be experiential,please carry your writing material

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