how to use your business to grow and heal yourself
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www.XtraordinaryWomen.co.za Xtraordinary Women is a platform that LEADS, INSPIRES, SUPPORTS & RECOGNISES Women Entrepreneurs in South Africa. We are passionate about supporting South African Women, with an honest desire to inspire Women to DREAM BIG and to live their lives with purpose, no matter where they are in their journey. We do this through hosting effective Business Networking Meetings, Workshops, Success in High Heels Cocktail Evenings and much more. XTRAORDINARY WOMEN: SOUTHERN SUBURBS NETWORKING BREAKFAST - 22 August 2013 TOPIC: How to Use Your Business to Grow and Heal Yourself Have you ever found Have you ever found yourself wishing you hadn’t had that reaction to your boss, your child, your colleague, your dog… The way you engage with the things in your life - things like money, relationships, your children, work, difficult clients, ego-driven bosses - shows you where you are stuck in old patterns and wounds from your past. That’s because your reaction to things in your life reflects what’s going on inside you. We so often think it’s the things ‘out there’ that are making us feel a certain way, but the secret to changing a situation usually lies within ourselves. And difficulties at work, with finances or anywhere else can be the best tools to help you grow and heal yourself. Yes, really. If you are interested in self-development, then this empowering way to look at and deal with life’s challenges is worth checking out. What if the things that are currently driving you nuts are actually invitations to grow bigger and brighter and more whole as a person? About our Guest Speaker: Eilat Aviram is a Clinical Psychologist, Hypnotherapist, Reiki teacher, writer and mother of two. She lives and works in private practice in the Southern Suburbs of Cape Town. She has written a book called “So You Think Parenting Is About The Children?” which is in the process of finding a publisher and she has a Blog and Facebook page with the same title.TRANSCRIPT
How To Use Your BusinessHow To Use Your Business
To Grow and Heal Yourself To Grow and Heal Yourself
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What do What do youyou do when Life do when Life throws you in the air?throws you in the air?
At the center of At the center of every experience every experience
is YOUis YOU
Has your work ever Has your work ever challenged you? challenged you?
Freud Freud suggested that suggested that you are shaped you are shaped by your first by your first seven years seven years and then you and then you just have to just have to learn to live learn to live with itwith it
Winnicott Winnicott thought that a thought that a human is human is designed to designed to keep growing keep growing and developing and developing given the right given the right circumstances circumstances and and opportunityopportunity
Life is full of right circumstances Life is full of right circumstances
and opportunities for and opportunities for spontaneous spontaneous
healing and healing and growth growth
Those brave little flowers that push Those brave little flowers that push their way out from under a rock have their way out from under a rock have
nothing on us humansnothing on us humans
We can grow just about We can grow just about anywhere.anywhere.
We heal by doing We heal by doing something over and over something over and over
until we ‘get it’until we ‘get it’
We are drawn to our We are drawn to our partners, our homes, our partners, our homes, our
work and our work and our circumstances by the circumstances by the
things we need to heal things we need to heal and resolve.and resolve.
Why do Why do youyou do the work do the work
you do?you do?
Any group Any group setting brings setting brings up old group up old group stuff for us stuff for us because that’s because that’s where we where we learned how to learned how to behave in a behave in a group – family, group – family, school, summer school, summer camp, etc.camp, etc.
Not everyone has the Not everyone has the same reactions to things. same reactions to things.
You bring your history You bring your history into everything you do. into everything you do.
Along comes someone who Along comes someone who does something – even does something – even something small - that something small - that
touches on a packed-away touches on a packed-away wound and …wound and …
The times we have our The times we have our mostmost painful reactions and our painful reactions and our biggestbiggest difficulties are the difficulties are the
moments we are being moments we are being handed keys to the doors of handed keys to the doors of
our past woundingour past wounding
How we deal with our How we deal with our challenges can show us challenges can show us
where we tend to react from where we tend to react from the wounding of our past the wounding of our past
instead of a place of instead of a place of compassion in the present.compassion in the present.
A strong A strong emotional emotional reaction to reaction to something something usually means usually means it’s tapping on it’s tapping on some old hurt some old hurt of ours – one of ours – one we might not we might not even really be even really be aware of or aware of or remember.remember.
When we know where When we know where we’re stuck we can go we’re stuck we can go and un-stick ourselves.and un-stick ourselves.
It’s no fun to be driven by It’s no fun to be driven by your old hurts. Life is your old hurts. Life is
messy, painful, damaging, messy, painful, damaging, chaotic chaotic
and limited that way.and limited that way.
So your challenges can help So your challenges can help you uncover and defuse the you uncover and defuse the root causes of the reactions root causes of the reactions
and behaviours you wish and behaviours you wish you could change.you could change.
More success at work and More success at work and balanced living is just an balanced living is just an inevitable side-effect of inevitable side-effect of healing yourself as a person.healing yourself as a person.
Think of a recent work incident in Think of a recent work incident in which which
you felt irritated, scared, anxious, you felt irritated, scared, anxious, overwhelmed, angry…overwhelmed, angry…
What do I feel when the person/project What do I feel when the person/project does that? does that?
What about what s/he/it does is the part What about what s/he/it does is the part that that reallyreally bugs me? bugs me?
If I could give my feelings words and let If I could give my feelings words and let them speak uncensored - without judging them speak uncensored - without judging what comes out - what would be the what comes out - what would be the truth of how I feel when s/he/it does it? truth of how I feel when s/he/it does it?
Connect with the feelingsConnect with the feelings Are these feelings familiar? Have Are these feelings familiar? Have
I ever felt this way before?I ever felt this way before? Do I feel more like an adult or Do I feel more like an adult or
more like a child? more like a child? How old do I feel?How old do I feel? What memory comes up What memory comes up
with that age? What was with that age? What was
happening when I was happening when I was
that age?that age?
Now you know what you’reNow you know what you’re
dealing with.dealing with.
Be KIND to yourselfBe KIND to yourself
I wish you joy in your I wish you joy in your challenges and growth challenges and growth
from your work. from your work.
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