How To Get A GirlfriendBy Jad T Joneswww.How2GetAGirlfriend.orgSample Version 1.00July, 2011Limits of Liability & Disclaimer of WarrantyAll the advice in this book is for entertainment purposes only.The author and publisher of this ebook and the associatedmaterials have used their best efforts in preparing this material. The author and publisher make no representations orwarranties with respect to the accuracy, applicability, fitness, or completeness of the contents of this material. Theydisclaim any warranties expressed or implied, merchantability, or fitness for any particular purpose. The author andpublisher shall in no event be held liable for any loss or other damages, including but not limited to special, incidental,consequential, or other damages. If you have any doubts about anything, the advice of a competent professional shouldbe sought.No portion of this book may be reproduced, distributed or sold without the direct written consent of Jad T Jones.This material contains elements protected under International and Federal Copyright laws and treaties. Any unauthorizedreprint or use of this material is prohibited.About the AuthorJad T Jones has been deep in the study of womenand seduction for the past 10 years. Growing up asa shy introvert, he always suffered silently as hewatched countless beautiful women pass him by.One day, at the age of 20, he decided to get this ispart of his life handled once and for all. He thenproceeded to dedicate all his time to the deepunderstanding of women and seduction.He personally met many of the worlds top seducersand went out and talked to hundreds of women until finally he became a masterat women and dating.One of Jads natural talents is teaching, so after he discovered the art ofseduction, he was very eager to teach everything he had learned to others.The road to mastery was difficult and long for him, but he has found many shortcuts,methods and simplified ways of seducing women; he takes much pleasurein sharing his knowledge with men all over the world just like you.All his teachings come out of a love for women and a desire to help men avoidthe struggles and hardships that he went though.So we sincerely hope that this book gives you the guidance and advice that youare seeking.You can reach Jad at: jadtjones@gmail.comCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 2 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgTable of ContentsIntroduction ............................................................................................................4Step 1 - The Secret Mindset Of Successful Seducers ..........................................5Step 2 - The 1 Key To Doubling Your Confidence .................................................9Step 3 - Womens Biggest Need Exposed ..........................................................11Step 4 - ABCs Of Style & Body Language That Turns Women On Instantly ......14Step 5 - How To Naturally Start Conversations With Any Woman .......................17Step 6 - How To Stay Out Of The Friend Zone ....................................................19Step 7 - How to Keep The Conversation Flowing ...............................................23Step 8 - The Secrets Of Flirting Revealed ...........................................................27Step 9 - How To Ask Her Out Without Ever Getting Rejected .............................30Step 10 - How To Use Facebook & Texting To Get Her On A Date With You ......33Step 11 - How To Go On Your First Date & What To Do ......................................36Step 12 How To Know When Shes Ready To Be Kissed .................................39Conclusion ...........................................................................................................42Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 3 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgIntroductionHi, my name is Jade T. Jones. Now, I know you're thinking, who isthis guy, why should I care, and is this a good book to read? I'd like tostart off by telling you that I understand completely where you'recoming from, because I have been in your shoes. I grew up as a veryshy person. I was also only raised by my mother. My father wasalways away on business and trips, and when he was at home hedidn't really talk to us about anything.So, what happened?For years and years growing up, I was extremely frustrated with mysituation with women. On one side, I had a huge desire and love forgirls. I wanted to have a girlfriend so badly ever since I was a youngteenager.But at the same time, I was extremely shy and insecure. I had no oneto help me out with this problem. I was too ashamed to ask for helpfrom other people. After all, men should be macho. Men should justnaturally know how to get a girlfriend. Well, I didn't.It took me years and years before I figured out how to consistently geta girlfriend in my life. I would have a girlfriend here and there, butmost of the time I would spend years, months, or even years alonejust waiting, hoping for something to happen. Until one day, I made adecision that I needed to get this part of my life handled.So, for the past 11 years, I have almost exclusively focused on themastery and understanding of women and dating. And now, I knowhow to get a girlfriend whenever I want. And I'm writing this book toevery man out there who hasn't had a role model, who didn't haveanyone to teach him and guide him on the way of getting a girlfriend.After you read this book, connecting with women and getting agirlfriend is going to be so easy and so simple to you that you willnever have to be alone again.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 4 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 1 - The Secret Mindset Of SuccessfulSeducersThe first step to getting a girlfriend starts from within yourself. In orderto be successful in getting a girlfriend, you have to have the propermindset. I want you to write this down somewhere or memorize it.Mindset trumps mechanics every time. What does this mean? Thismeans that your mindset is more important than the specific actionsyou take.Another way to say this is that your beliefs determine your outcomesin life. If you believe that you can get a girlfriend then you will verylikely end up with a girlfriend. If however you don't believe you canhave a girlfriend, but then you go out every weekend and try to get agirlfriend, it'll be very hard for you to get one. And it simply comesdown to your belief systems.So the starting point of all success with women and dating is tobelieve that you can get a girlfriend.So how can I believe it, you ask? Here is how. Our mind works inpictures. You cannot have anything in the external world unless youcan first see it in your internal world, in your mind.Therefore right now we are going to do an exercise. I want to you toimagine yourself with your ideal woman, your ideal girlfriend. I wantyou to take out a piece of paper and write down in detail exactly whatyou are looking for in your next girlfriend. Details are very importantbecause the mind works in details.The more clearly an image you have in your mind, the better yourmind can help you in getting what you want. The mind does notrecognize vagueness very well. When we have vague pictures ofwhat we want in our minds, our brains have very hard time giving uswhat we desire.So I would like you to devote some actual time to sitting down andlisting out exactly how your ideal girlfriend would be, would look like.Draw a mental image. I want you to mention what kind of personalityyou'd like her to have, what kind of body type, what kind ofCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 5 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgintelligence, education, age range. You can mention hair color, race,whatever it is that is important to you.I need you to write down an exact description of your ideal woman.This is not for you. This is for your mind. Your mind works withspecifics. The more clear the image is in your head, the higher thepossibility and the quicker you will get your next girlfriend. Again, youneed to see it in your mind in order to believe it.The next mindset you need to have around women is you need tounderstand that not all women are going to be ready to be yourgirlfriend. After 11 years of being intensely in the world of women,dating and seduction, I have discovered that there is a basic ratio youshould expect when hitting on women.If you ask 10 women out, you will have an average of seven that arenot interested and three that are. Now a lot of men take rejection verypersonally. But rejection is not personal at all. You never know why awoman rejects you or says no to you. It could be for many reasons.Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend. Maybe she has aboyfriend she's deeply in love with. Maybe she's in a bad mood.Maybe she has her period. Maybe someone in her family just died.Maybe she's in a rush. Maybe she was hurt by a man 10 years agoand can't trust men. Maybe you remind her of someone that shedoesn't like.And the list can go on and on and the possibilities are infinite. So it isvery important when going forward and looking for a girlfriend to knowthat not every woman is going to be interested in you, and it's notpersonal. People have things going on.Just imagine a woman who is very beautiful but not your type cameup to you and you graciously and kindly declined her, her advances.Should she take this personally? Of course not. It's not personal.So I want you to have the same outlook with women. A big mistake alot of men make is that they only go for one girl. They put all theireggs in one basket and they have their happiness and selfesteemdependent on one woman, and if that woman says no or isn'tinterested, the man is crushed. This is a recipe for failure.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 6 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgIn the world of dating and seduction, you can never narrow yourchoices down to only one girl. There may be one girl that you areprimarily interested in, and by all means go for her and try to makeher your girlfriend. But understand that there is no guarantee that thatone girl will be your girlfriend.All the most successful seducers in the world keep their options open.They always go after many women, because they understand that tosome degree it is a numbers game. Some woman may not beinterested in you today. But she will be interested and ready for arelationship with you two months down the line.In order to be successful in getting a girlfriend, you have to pursue atleast three or more women. If you neglect this, you will find thatunless you get lucky and you get a hole in one, you will find that youwill still be alone. So please do not neglect this. My recommendationis go after 10 women and then you are guaranteed to at least getthree that you can choose from.Another very important mindset to have is the following. You need toknow that women are waiting and longing to be romanced and sweptoff their feet. The whole time they're growing up, they're watchingthose romantic Disney movies where Prince Charming comes in,sweeps them off their feet, and they live happily ever after.Well, women are still waiting for this to happen to them. You have tounderstand that these days women are in very pressured lifestylesand the fairytale has died. But secretly they are longing for a man tocome and sweep them off their feet. That woman that you have acrush on, that you want to make your girlfriend, she might seem likeshe is just satisfied, disinterested.But deep down inside, she's waiting. She's hoping that some man willhave the balls to go up to her, tell her how much he likes her, and justsweep her off her feet and take her on an adventure. Women needromance in their lives.A study was conducted in New York City with highincome femaleexecutives. And they were all asked the same question. Would yougive up all this money and all this professional career that you'veworked so hard for in exchange for a perfect romantic partner andCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 7 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgrelationship. And all of those highpowered female executives said"yes." This shows you that women desire a romantic relationshipabove all else, and it is our job to give them that gift.When you take the mindset that you are a gift to women, and youhave such a valuable and powerful gift to give to them, then that putsthe power back in your hands. And you can go out and seducewomen with the confidence of knowing that you are giving them whatthey deeply and mostly greatly desire, something that's missing intheir lives. You are bringing that into their lives and they love you forit.Remember, in seduction the woman is the passive and the man is theactive. You have to take the first step. You have to take action. Nowoman wants to initiate the seduction. This is your job. It may bescary to go out and ask a girl out. Believe me, I know. This was oneof my biggest fears.But after you have read this book, you will know how to do it in a waythat protects you from ever getting rejected again in your whole entirelife. So please remember all these mindsets. And having thesemindsets will allow you to move forward with a positive attitude andnot get your heart broken, not get embarrassed, not get rejected. Youwill move with ease and grace in the land of women.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 8 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 2 - The 1 Key To Doubling Your ConfidenceWe all know that women love a confident man. But the big questionis: if I don't feel confident around women, then how can I beconfident? This is something I struggled for for over 10 years. Aftermuch study and realworld application, I have discovered whatconfidence really means.When we think of confidence, we always think of a man who isn't shy,who is outgoing, who is strong, powerful, loud, aggressive, etc. Thesecan be true, but this isn't the core of confidence. When a woman saysshe wants a confident man, she's really saying one simple thing.Women want a man who is confident enough in himself to be able tobe honest with her. That is all a girl is asking from you.The true root of all confidence is honesty, and I will tell you why. Theman who is able to be honest and speak honestly in all situations isthe man with the highest selfesteem and the highest confidence.I will give an example. Sometimes when I'm talking to a woman and Ifeel nervous, I will just tell her honestly, "Hey, you know what? Youare so beautiful and stunning, and I'm feeling really nervous rightnow, and I'm running out of things to say. Would you be a sweetheartand help me out?" Now, most men would think this is a terrible thingto say to a woman, and it shows her that you're weak, but it's not.Every time I have told a woman exactly what I am thinking and what Iam feeling, they have opened up to me in amazing ways.When a woman sees that you are confident enough in yourself toadmit that you have weaknesses and that you are human, whathappens is they immediately open up to you and connect with you,because they recognize something in you that is in themselves. Andthat one thing they recognize is vulnerability. The thing we all have incommon is that we are all vulnerable and scared.Everybody has weaknesses. Everybody has fears. But it is the rareindividual who has the courage to admit his fears to women. I havefound this one strategy of telling women whatever I'm thinking to beextremely effective, to be so effective, it's unbelievable.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 9 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgSo my advice to you is this. If you are the kind of person who has lowselfesteem or lacks confidence with women, have no fear. You donot have to wait until you have more confidence before you go outthere and try to get a girlfriend. I tried to wait it out for years andyears, and I will tell you this. Your confidence does not increase withage. The more you wait, the more insecure you'll feel. You are readynow to go and get the girl of your dreams.There are many times where I've successfully seduced a womanwhere I was insecure, nervous, fidgety, fumbling over my words, hadsweaty palms, etc. But I ended up connecting with her. And thereason is that women recognize that I'm being honest with them, andthat honesty is sexy. Because the man who has the courage to admitwhat he's really feeling, and being open vulnerably to her, that isintensely attractive to her. So the only confidence you need is theconfidence to speak the truth in times of pressure.When a woman wants a confident man, all she's asking is thefollowing. She wants you to present yourself to her in a full andhonest light with all your imperfections. She wants to see who youreally are, and not who you're pretending to be.Remember this: nobody likes fake people. If someone walks up toyou and is very fake, will you like them? No, never. So this similarlygoes with women. If you're walking up to a woman and trying to fakeyour confidence, she will feel it, and she will not like you. She willreject your energy. So make sure that when you approach women,you do it in an honest, open, genuine way. You do not need to beperfect. You just need to be honest and transparent.The fear of asking a girl out will probably never go away. You have tofeel the fear and do it anyways. But if you're doing it through honestyand through the techniques I'm going to show you in this book, youwill have a rejectionproof system that will allow you to show interestin women with the least possible amount of risk on your part. Honestyleads to confidence, which leads to attraction, so be honest to get agirlfriend fast.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 10 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 3 - Womens Biggest Need ExposedWhat is women's biggest need? Women's biggest core need is theneed to feel safe. What does this mean, exactly?A core need is a need that supersedes all other needs. When a coreneed is not met, no other needs can be met as well. A specificexample of this is the following. Woman's need to feel safesupersedes their need for pleasure, their need for money, theirattraction. It supersedes all their desires. Unless a woman feels safe,she will not engage with you in any way. So your number one priorityin getting a girlfriend is first creating a connection with her. She needsto feel safe around you.In the previous chapter, we talked about the importance of beinghonest and transparent with her. Honesty goes a long way in makinga woman feel safe around you. That's why it is such a powerful tool touse. When you are being honest, women can feel that you arehonest, and then what happens is they open up to you, because theyfeel safe.A mistake I made for over 10 years, and a mistake that men makeevery single day is that they try to impress women. They try to actconfident. They act fake in front of women. And when a woman feelsthat you are acting fake, in her subconscious mind, what is going onis the following: "Oh, this man must be hiding something. I don't knowexactly what it is, but I can feel that he's not being genuine. I feelthreatened, so now I'm going to close up emotionally and physically,because I feel like I am in danger." You do not want to elicit thisreaction in women. You want to elicit the opposite reaction.Your number one priority when talking with a woman who you'reinterested in is first, make her feel safe. The way to do this is, beyourself. Be completely transparent and completely honest with her.Do not be fake. When you are honest with a woman, even if you arevulnerable, nervous, or say something silly, she is going to think, oh, Ican feel that this man is being honest with me, so it is safe to bearound him, so I'm going to open up emotionally and physically tohim, and I can stay in this situation, and let's see what happens.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 11 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgA lot of men are focused on impressing women and causing attractionin a woman. But before you can cause attraction in a woman, youneed to make her feel safe around you. Once she feels safe aroundyou, the stage is set for her to become attracted to you, because nowshe is relaxed and emotionally open and ready for your advances.So remember, when seducing a woman, your number one priority isfirst, make her feel safe and comfortable around you. Once you havedone this, you are way ahead of the game, and the possibilities of herbecoming your next girlfriends are greatly increased. Safety createsconnection, and connection leads to attraction. So if you want toattract a woman, make her feel safe and connect with her first, andthen the stage is set for something wonderful to happen.Exercise: Go out and try to be as honest as you can with the womenyou talk to. You can start with women who aren't that intimidating toyou, and just practice speaking your mind. You can do this withpeople in general, men too. If you feel insecure, scared, nervous, orawkward in a situation, speak your mind. Blurt it out to the otherperson. Chances are, they are feeling the same thing. Chances are,they will feel relieved to see the human side of you.Society is filled with fake people, and it is the rare individual who is agem among the lumps of coal. It is he who is confident enough to justspeak honestly. People connect with us most when they see that weare vulnerable and we are human, so stop trying to be perfect.Perfect is overrated. Confidence is overrated. The only thing youneed to do is be transparent and real to people, and you will beamazed at how many doors that opens for you.Women are so tired of all the men who are acting and faking. Sowhen you come along and you are honest, you are vulnerable, andyou are just...you know, you don't take yourself too seriously, and yousay something like, "Oh my God, you know, you are so beautiful. I'mkind of stumbling over my words, I don't know what you're doing tome," she is going to feel charmed. Women love being appreciated.They're not going to take offense to it, and they're not going to lookdown on you for admitting that you are nervous. They understand youare human.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 12 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgPractice this, make it a habit, and it will help you connect with womena 100 times better than all the men around you, and you will be soahead of the game, it's not even funny.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 13 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 4 - ABCs Of Style & Body Language ThatTurns Women On InstantlyNow you have the correct mindset to go out and get a girlfriend. Andyou have the ability to be confident for the simple fact that you havethe ability to be honest, so you are already confident now. And thirdly,you know exactly what she needs and how to give it to her. So now,it's time to prepare yourself to actually go out and get her.Body language and style are very important for one simple reason.93% of our communication is nonverbal. What this means is that thewords we say only account for 7% of what we are communicating.The other 93% is our body language and our tone of voice. In thischapter, I will teach you the basics of body language and style thatwomen find attractive.So, let's start with style. It is important to take care of your body. Youneed to stay healthy. You don't need to have sixpack abs or hugemuscles, but it is important that when people look at you, they do notsee a slob. They see someone who takes care of himself. Exerciseregularly. Eat healthy food. Look your best. It's not about having aperfect body, but it is about making the best with what you have. Firstimpressions are very important, so you want to make sure that youmake the best first impression that you possibly can.Style, clothes and accessories: Women judge you on how you dress.Make sure that your clothes fit your body. Loose clothing is notgenerally attractive, unless it's a particular style such as if you're arapper, then it's fine. But if you're not a rapper, and you have anoversized shirt and your pants don't really fit you either, and if youhave old sneakers or boots that you should have thrown away threeyears ago, then those are blocking you from attracting women. Tryyour best to have new clothes, keep your clothes clean and wellfitting to your body.Shoes are another important thing. Keep your shoes clean. Womenjudge a lot by a man's shoes. If you have nice shoes but they're filthy,she will think that you're a slob in your life. So keep your shoes clean.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 14 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgKeep all body hairs trimmed and short. Make sure you always smellgood and are clean as well. Women have a more sensitive sense ofsmell than men, so make sure that you always smell good.So, those are just the basics of style Dress in clean clothes, keepyour body clean, keep your body hairs trimmed, exercise regularly, tryto eat healthy, and just make the best of what you have. Women willappreciate you for it.The next important aspect of attraction is body language. A womanwill judge a lot about you from what your body language istelegraphing. A confident man is generally a man who is very still. Hismovements are slow. He is always relaxed. He is never in a rush. Hedoes not fidget. He does not shuffle his feet. In general, he has a verystrong presence, and people can feel that presence around them.Here is a list of body language techniques that you should apply toyour everyday behavior. When you're standing; stand with your feetshoulderwidth apart. Keep your chest out. Keep your head tilted a bitback. Keep your shoulders back. Have your back straight. Move verylittle. Don't be stiff, but just don't fidget.If you are sitting, sit with your legs spread apart. You can also haveyour arms spread apart. Lean back; take up a lot of space. Adominant man is not afraid to take up a lot of space.When standing, try to lean back on something. This is called "lockingin." The person in the most comfortable position between two peopleis the more dominant person. So, for example, if you are leaningagainst the bar and she is just standing there, you are morecomfortable than her. This subcommunicates that you are highervalue, and that she is working hard for your approval. This causesattraction at a subconscious level in women's minds.Smile: A confident man always smiles. He feels good, he feelsrelaxed. All seduction comes down to one simple thing. If you can berelaxed around women, then you can have more women than youever dreamed of. It all comes down to just being relaxed.A lot of men forget to smile, because they're either nervous, or they'retrying too hard to be dominant. Always remember to smile. A smile isinviting. It is open. It makes her feel safe, which satisfies her biggestCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 15 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgneed. It telegraphs that you are living in a wonderful, fun reality, andeveryone should come and join you in that reality.A confident man keeps good eye contact. Never break eye contactbefore the woman does. If you break eye contact with a girl beforeshe looks away, you have displayed that you are submissive to her.Always make sure the woman is the one who looks away first. Thisdemonstrates to her that you are the stronger one, because womenalways desire a man who is at least a bit more powerful than she is.Why? Because women's biggest need is to feel safe, so they need toknow that the man can keep her safe.Speech: Speak slowly in a calm, controlled manner. Let there bebass in your voice at all times. When you have bass in your voice,your chest vibrates when you speak. You can practice this at home.Eyes: Keep your eyes light and playful. Gaze at her with ease, andnot with some intense stalker stare. These are some basic style andbody language techniques that will help you amplify attraction in thewomen that you talk to.Exercise: Stand in front of a mirror and implement all these bodylanguage techniques that you have learned in this chapter. Practicethem at home, and slowly add them to your repertoire daybyday,and everyday interactions, whether it's with women you're attractedto, or just with people in general.Once you adopt these body language and style habits, people willperceive you as more attractive and more confident. Once you havethis style and body language done, you will see that women will beattracted to you before you even say a single word. Remember, bodylanguage accounts for 93 % of communication, so do not neglect it. Itis much more important than the simple words you say when you talkto the girl you like.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 16 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 5 - How To Naturally Start ConversationsWith Any WomanNow that you are ready, you are going to go and talk to the girl thatyou like. For a lot of men, this could be the most intimidating step ingetting a girlfriend. I completely understand your fears, and I havebeen there a 100 times before. The rest of this book is going to teachyou how to express your interest in women with risking very littleembarrassment or rejection. So take a deep breath, relax, and put allyour worries aside. We are going to make this as easy and aspainless as it can possibly be.When you want to go and talk to that girl you like, the first thing youneed to do is smile. Remember, you are a man. You are bigger thanher, and if she does not know you, you are even a threat to her. Asmile tells her that you are safe, and it's OK for her to talk to you.The second important thing you need to do is make strong eyecontact with her. When I say strong, I do not mean intense. I justmean, have the strength to look her straight in the eye and not lookaway. People who have shifty eyes or people who look down at theground elicit suspicion in other people. You want her to feel safearound you.By looking her straight in the eye, she can tell that you're not there tolie to her. She can tell that you're not hiding anything. She knows thatmen who cannot look in her eyes are men who are hiding something,and she closes herself off to those men. So make sure when you goand talk to the woman you're interested in, give her a big smile, befriendly, and make strong eye contact. The gaze in your eyes shouldbe soft, lighthearted, playful, and friendly.Warning: Do not look at her in a sexual way. Do not go into theconversation with a sexual vibe. This will turn her off and make youseem creepy. The vibe you want to give off when you first go and talkto a woman is that of lighthearted, playful, easygoing, fun. The basicunspoken message is, "Hey, you seem interesting. I think I'm justgoing to come and talk to you for a bit." When you open aconversation with a girl in this way, it sets the stage for her to feelsafe and connected with you. And now that she's open, you can havea nice, easygoing conversation together.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 17 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgExercise: Go out and start neutral conversations with women. Seehow well you can keep your smile and your constant eye contact withthem. Practice this enough that it becomes a natural habit, so that thenext time you meet the woman of your dreams, you will be able tolook her straight in the eye, give her that playful smile, and open herup to be receptive to all your advances.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 18 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 6 - How To Stay Out Of The Friend ZoneA lot of men make the mistake of not expressing their interest in a womanand ending up in the friend zone. If you do not somehow communicate to thewoman that you are interested in her, then she is going to think you are justbeing friendly. And then she will slot you in the friend zone.The friend zone is somewhere you want to avoid at all costs, because once awoman puts you into the friend zone, it is almost impossible for you to getout. The best and simplest way to prevent this from happening is by givingher a genuine compliment by verbally expressing your interest in her in anindirect way.A woman will understand that you are not just talking to her because youwant to be friends with her but because you are interested in something moreintimate. It is critical that you set the frame of the relationship very early on.By complimenting her early on, you are setting the frame that this is aromantic interaction and not just an innocent friendly exchange.The good thing about giving a woman a compliment is that it doesn't leaveyou vulnerable. On one side it shows her that you are romantically interestedin her but on another side it keeps her wondering that is he interested in meor is he just giving me a compliment?So, by giving her a compliment you are not giving all your cards away but atthe same time, you are keeping yourself out of the friend zone and you arealso letting her know that this is a romantic interaction and not just aplatonic one. Don't be afraid to compliment a woman. WOMAN LOVE TOBE COMPLIMENTED.The beauty industry is a multibillion dollar industry. It is therefore a reasonbecause women love to look good, and women long to be appreciated. Thinkof women as flowers and you the warm sun. Flowers need the warm rays ofthe sun to shine upon them in order for the flowers to blossom.Women need the heat of your genuine appreciation in order for their souls toblossom. I never get a bad reaction when I compliment a woman. Giving aCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 19 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgwoman a genuine compliment, especially at a time when she doesn't expectit, makes her open up to you in ways that are astounding. Women long,yearn and need your appreciation and your compliments. So do not be afraidto give them.The way to give a compliment Learning to give women compliments is asort of art form. Here are some specific guidelines that will help you. Whenyou are coffective unless the woman is younger, and not used to men'sattention.A much more powerful way to compliment a woman is to compliment heron something very specific. You can compliment her on the way she speaks,the way her eyes sparkle, the way her dress complements her body so well.You can compliment the way she moves, the way she walks.You can compliment her on the way she smells, her beautiful smile, thesparkle in her eye. The more genuine and specific your compliment is, thebetter it will be received. Women receive thousands of compliments duringtheir lifetimes, but most of those compliments are superficial and general.A beautiful woman has heard 'Oh my God, you are so beautiful' a thousandtimes. But it is the rare man who will point out the specifics of what makesher so attractive that will sweep her off her feet. So be specific in yourcompliments and you will see that they have such a huge impact in regardsto opening up women to you.Another advantage of giving women compliments is this When you give awoman a compliment, you are putting yourself out there. You are puttingyour ego on the line and she recognizes this fully.Women appreciate men who are brave and confident enough to speak theirminds. By complimenting her in a genuine way, you are being honest. Andhonesty lets her feel safe, and when she is safe, she opens up emotionallyand when she has opened up emotionally she is ready to be attracted to you.By complimenting women regularly, you are setting yourself apart from over95% of the men out there who just give general thoughtless compliments.The time to give a woman a compliment is as soon as possible. If you startCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 20 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgtalking to a woman, you can compliment her within the first five seconds oftalking to her.One thing I like to do is when a woman is talking to me, in the first 30seconds I will just interrupt her and I will say something like 'Oh my God, Iam sorry to interrupt you but your eyes are just so stunning. I just had to tellyou.' The specific words don't matter. Say what's really in your heart becausethat's what will give the most impact.If you prepare a compliment at home and then go and try to use it on awoman, chances are it won't be nearly as impactful as if you just speak yourmind at the moment. A cautionary tip is, do not give an overly sexualcompliment such as 'Wow I would really love to take you home and bangyou right now.' Keep your compliments nonsexual.When a woman first meets you, she is not ready to get sexual with you inany way, shape or form, just yet. Be patient until you reach the next steps.Exercise: Make complimenting people, a habit. From now on, wheneveryou are in the supermarket, on the street, at school or at work or wherever,anytime you see something that you admire in another person, make it apoint to compliment them. Make it in a very casual, matter of fact way andjust make it a habit to appreciate people.I have personally adopted this habit and still practice it today. Every time Isee a beautiful woman, I compliment her. Every time I see a person I admire,I compliment them. I compliment men, I compliment women, I complimentanyone who deserves a compliment.Do not hold compliments back; because once it becomes a habit, then itcomes out a lot more genuinely when you need it most. So the next time youmeet the woman of your dreams that compliment will just flow off yourtongue and have such a high impact that she will just love you for it and beopen to connect with you and take things to the next level.A compliment shows your intention with a woman. Make sure you include itin your repertoire of tools. If you do not express explicit interest in a woman,Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 21 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgshe might slot you in a friend zone and the friend zone is usually a lifesentence. So stay away from it at all costs!Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 22 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 7 - How to Keep The Conversation FlowingOkay, so now that you've complimented her and she has respondedpositively, you know that she might be interested. So now you can continueseducing her. If a woman receives your compliment in a negative way, thenchances are she's not interested in you. And you should probably cut yourlosses and move on to the next girl. But provided that she is responding toyou positively so far, it is time to continue the conversation forward.Keeping a conversation flowing was my biggest fear when it came towomen. Growing up I was very shy, insecure and quiet. I will tell you nowin all honesty that I am a very quiet person. Even when I'm with my closestfriends I tend not to talk very much. So keeping a conversation flowing wasmy biggest fear when it came to seducing women.In this chapter we are going to learn how to keep the conversation flowingeasily and effortlessly so that both of you may be relaxed and enjoy theprocess. First, let's put down some guidelines for your conversation.When you're talking to the girl you like, you must keep the conversationlighthearted and playful. Do not talk about anything negative and do not talkabout anything serious. You want her to associate you with feeling good, notfeeling bad. So make sure all your conversations with the girl you'reinterested in are lighthearted, playful, and fun.The more you guys can laugh together the more successful your seductionwill be. But if you're not naturally that funny, I know I'm not that funny, thendon't worry. Being funny is not a prerequisite to successfully seducing a girland making her your girlfriend. All you need to do is be positive,lighthearted, playful, and fun.Next we will explore how to stay lighthearted, playful and fun. Thefoundation of any enjoyable conversation is that both people are 100 percentpresent in the moment with each other. I would like you to think about aninstance when you were with your best friends. And you were all chilling outon the couch, enjoying each other's company, laughing and having a greattime.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 23 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgNotice that at that time your body was relaxed, and you were not all up inyour head thinking about, "What am I going to say next?" You were just inthe moment, spontaneous, and allowing every moment to unfold as it doesnaturally.What makes men turn serious when they're talking to attractive women isthis: when you go up in your head and start thinking about and planningwhat you're going to say next, what happens is you get sucked into yourhead. If you are up in your head thinking about what you're going to saynext, then you have lost the present moment.You are no longer there, present with her. You have left. Your body is therephysically, but mentally you're not there anymore. This is a very big mistakethat most men make. And it is a deadly one, because if a woman you aretalking to feels like you're not 100 percent present with her, she willdisconnect from you. She will not feel you anymore. And if she cannot feelyou anymore she's not going to feel safe, and then she's not going to feelattracted to you.When talking to a woman you need to keep the connection between you andher solid. And you do this by being completely present in the moment withher, and staying out of your head. Thinking is highly overrated. The truth ofthe matter is you do not ever have to think about what you are going to saynext.Our mind comes in two parts. We have the conscious mind and we have thesubconscious mind. The conscious mind is where we go up and try to thinkabout what we're going to say next. The problem with the conscious mind isthat that is not where our creativity comes from.Our creativity comes from our subconscious mind. When we engage inforceful thinking, which is thinking from our conscious mind, we block thecreativity and we block the subconscious mind from being creative. Andthat's why thinking about what you're going to say next actually is whatguarantees that you'll run out of things to say next. Because if your creativityis blocked, you will run out of things to say.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 24 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgOn the other hand, if you stay fully present in the moment and not go up intoyour logical thinking brain, then what happens is the channels are open toyour subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is now able to let thecreativity flow out through you, and you will never run out of things to saybecause you'll be in the moment. Things will just come up for you naturally.When you're present you hear what the other person is saying more, andmost importantly you stay connected with the woman. The best way to keepa conversation comfortable and flowing with a woman is to stay completelypresent with her.The idea is to have so much attention focused on her that you completelyforget about yourself. Focus on how deep she is breathing, how fast or slowshe is breathing. Are her eyes and pupils dilating? Is she playing with herhair? What is her body language? Is she touching herself in any way? Is shefixing her dress?When you put that much attention on a woman she cannot help but beseduced by you. Because it is the rare man who gives her such undividedand genuine attention. Remember, body language is 97 percent ofcommunication. The words only account for seven percent. You do not talkyou way into a woman's heart. The way into a woman's heart is by beingfully present and witness to her. When she feels you present with her, thenshe feels you, and is connected to you, and trusts you, and is open to startingsome kind of intimate relationship with you.Remember, women need to feel safe. When you're all up in your headtalking to her and you're not present with her, she can feel that. She can seethat you're distracted. This makes her nervous. This makes her feel likeyou're hiding something. So this makes her close down because her need forsafety is not being met.Conversely you can be completely present with her, and make her feel safeand connected with you. And then, if you do run out of things to say whichhas happened to me a lot of times, you can just giggle playfully and say,"You know what, I'm drawing a blank right now. I can't think of anything tosay. Can you help me out?"Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 25 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgOr you can say, "You know what, I'm so taken by you that I'm just drawing ablank right now and I can't think of anything to say, but I'm really enjoyingtalking to you, so don't think it's about you." The point is you can sayanything as long as you're being genuine, and present, and staying connectedwith her the conversation will flow.You must have faith. It comes down to science. Our logical mind is notwhere the creativity happens. Our creativity happens in our subconsciousmind. And the prerequisite for creativity is full inthemoment presence, is asilent mind. So you have no choice but to be present with women, becausethat's what it takes to connect with them, and that's what it takes to get yourcreativity flowing. Anything else will not work.Exercise. Go out and practice full presence in all of your communicationswith people. See how long you can stay connected and present with someonewithout thinking of what you're going to say next. This is challenging at first,but quickly becomes a habit.The more present you can stay with a woman the easier it will be to attractand seduce her. Men who truly are present with women and truly connectand listen to women are few and far between. By being that man you areliterally separating yourself from the millions of men out here. And this willhelp you get the girlfriend of your dreams. Go out, practice and make this ahabit.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 26 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 8 - The Secrets Of Flirting RevealedNow that she has responded positively to your compliment, and you arehaving a conversation that has an easy natural flow to it, where you are beingplayful and lighthearted, it is time that you flirt with her a bit. Flirting isbasically playful conversation and playful teasing that has a slight sexualundertone to it.When men are attracted to a woman, they make the mistake of being toonice to her. This does not work. If you are interested in a woman, and youare being so nice to her, she is just going to think you just want to be friends.It is not going to arouse any kind of emotional response in her.Remember! WOMEN ARE HIGHLY EMOTIONAL CREATURES. Theylove drama; they love the ups and downs of emotions. When you are talkingto her, you want her to feel a roller-coaster of emotions.If your conversation is monotonous, bland and just nice, then she is notgoing to walk away thinking about you at all. You need to make yourselfmemorable in her mind, and you do this by playfully teasing her, which isthe same as saying flirting with her. Flirting is simply playful teasing with aslight sexual undertone.Flirting can happen at the verbal level, with words and at the nonverballevel using body language. Some verbal examples of flirting could includethings such as 'Oh my God, you are so cute, you remind me of the Powerpuff girls.' 'Wow you are really special. Did you go to the school in the shortbus?' 'Oh my God, you are so cute, I just want to take you home and makeyou my pet.'You can also use playful, joking, disapproval to tease her such as 'Oh myGod, I can't believe you just said that. That's it; I think we need to break up. Iwant all my CDs back.' 'Oh my God, you live in xyz part of town. Oh I amsorry. I totally can't hang out with you. You are too much a nerd for me.' 'Ohyou like xyz movie. Oh, that's it. I am sorry, I think we have to stop thisconversation, I know. Have a nice life.'Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 27 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgThese are all examples of playful flirting, playful teasing. Notice, they are inno way, shape or form, hurtful or offensive to her. You are not trying tooffend her, or hurt her in any way. You are not trying to hurt her selfesteemin any way. Flirting is done in a way that is very obvious that you are joking.From time to time, a woman will misunderstand you and take offense towhat you say. If that happens, you can simply apologize and genuinely tellher that you didn't mean to hurt her feelings and that you were just jokingaround. When a woman sees that you generally didn't mean to hurt herfeelings, her ego, her selfesteem, she will easily forget about it.But remember, teasing is playful and not made to hurt anyone. So don'tmake it too personal and keep it very fun, playful and light. The way you canflirt with a girl nonverbally is through your body language. You can look ata girl in a way that is slightly sexual but at the same time playful andlighthearted. You do not want to look at her like you are looking at a piece ofsteak that you want to jump on and devour.Remember, you are not yet ready to sexually escalate with this girl. Keep itcasual. Keep it cool. One thing that really excites woman is emotions; istouch. If you are in an appropriate environment to touch her, then do so asmuch as possible. When I say touch her, I mean touching her in nonsexualways and in nonsexual areas of her body.Take her hand; touch her elbow, her shoulder, her forearm, the small of herback. Give her a pat here and there. Let her know that you are not afraid totouch her. When we speak to someone and we touch them simultaneously, itimpacts them on a much more emotional level.Remember, you want to be emotionally impactful in order for a woman to beattracted to you and to remember you and to think about you when you walkaway. Also, you want to show her that you are not just a potential friend, thatyou are interested in her romantically.If a woman accepts your compliments cheerfully, and sits there and has aconversation with you, and playfully teases you back and forth and flirtswith you, then that's a pretty big sign that she may be interested in you.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 28 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgRemember! WOMEN ARE VERY EMOTIONAL CREATURES. You wantto create a roller-coaster of emotions when you talk to them. Playfully teaseat any opportunity that arises. Don't be afraid to tease. The last thing awoman wants is some boring guy to just be nice to her. Everyone is nice toher. Be different, be that guy that's going to make her his girlfriend.Exercise: When you go out and have conversations with women, or evenwith men, make an effort to see how much you can playfully tease withthem. Make it a habit of not taking your conversations and interactions withpeople so seriously. Don't take yourself or other people too seriously.See how much playful banter you can throw back and forth between you andanother person. Flirting is a skill that will be developed over time andpractice. So practice at every chance you get. Just because you are notseducing a specific woman, you can still tease her playfully, just to get yourpractice going.Remember, the more you practice something, the better you get at it. So,once the woman of your dreams shows up in front of you, you'll be ready totease her playfully, and flirt with her and make her feel that emotional rollercoasterthat will have her absolutely loving your company.The main thing to learn about flirting is this. Flirting is a playful,lighthearted activity. It is meant to be fun for both people. So don't take ittoo seriously, and have fun with it. Women love a man with a sense ofhumor. And when you flirt with a woman, you are demonstrating to her thatyou have a great personality that she can fall in love with.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 29 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 9 - How To Ask Her Out Without Ever GettingRejectedNow that you've successfully walked up to her and had a playful,entertaining conversation with her, it is time to ask her out. Do not wait toolong to do this. Hesitation is the enemy of seduction. The more quickly youact, the higher your success rate will be with women. The man who hesitatesoften loses many opportunities that would have otherwise been there forhim. So if you have had a great conversation with a girl, and she is smilingand enjoying your company, it is time to ask her out. Don't delay. Don'tprocrastinate.Many men make the mistake of believing that they could do it later. But thisis the biggest mistake you can make. Remember, women are highlyemotional creatures. Women are also very impulsive and in the momentcreatures. Just because a woman is laughing and having a great time withyou now, it does not mean that she'll be in that same mood the next time yousee her.The way a woman is feeling in the moment will determine her response toyou. If you believe that you can have a wonderful conversation with awoman today and then wait one week and then ask her out, seven days later,what you are doing is putting a huge, unnecessary risk on yourself.Seven days later she might have her period, something bad might havehappened to her, she might be tired, or she might have forgotten about yourgreat conversation altogether. And then when you ask her out, it's going tobe incongruent, it's going to seem like it's coming out of the blue. And it justprobably won't work, where the chances are a lot less likely.You need to ask a woman out when the flirtation is fresh in her mind. Thebest time to do it is always now. The sooner you ask a woman out the better.This is of course a generalization, but it is generally true.So now that you've been having a wonderful conversation it's time to ask herout. Now, for men this is one of the scariest times, because we are afraid ofrejection. Just as women's biggest core need is the need to feel safe,similarly, men's biggest core need is the need for approval. That is why weCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 30 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgfear rejection so much. Because if we ask a woman out and she says, "No,"our biggest core need of approval has been violated, and this makes us veryscared.I am now going to teach you a way to rejectionproof yourself from womenfor the rest of your life. I am very happy to tell you right now that that thereis a way that you'd never have to ask a woman out again in your life.The way I ask a woman out now is in the following method. Using thismethod there is no room for a woman to reject me. I am sure you are veryexcited to learn this method, so let's get on with it.Instead of asking a woman a question, "Would you go out with me?" whatyou're going to do is you're going to offer her an invitation. Instead of sayingto a girl, "Would you go out with me for dinner next Friday?" you can say, "Iam going out next Friday for dinner. You should join me." What you aredoing is simply extending out an invitation. You are inviting her into yourlife. You are inviting her to come along with you to an activity that you arealready doing anyways. Using an invitation instead of a request does a lot ofpositive things for both you and her.First of all, if you invite her out to join you and she says, "No," she is notrejecting you, and it won't make it awkward for her or for you. Example. "Iam going out for some beers on Wednesday night, you should join me." Andthen she says, "Oh, sorry, I'm busy on Wednesday," you can just say, "Oh,OK, but you're still invited if you change your mind."That's very casual. No one feels hurt, no one feels awkward and everythingis cool. Inviting a woman to tag along with you takes all the pressure off ofher. Women hate to reject men, despite what you may believe. When youinvite a woman instead of asking her out, that takes all the pressure off ofher, and she really feels good about that. And a lot of times if she isinterested, she would say "Yes, I would love to join you."Inviting her to come join you on an activity that you're already going to doalso subcommunicates to her that you have a life, that you are not desperate,and that you are just a casual, friendly person, who is safe to be around. ItCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 31 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgshows that you are not dependent on her for your happiness. And womenlove to see that in a man.So now you have a rejectionproof method of asking women out. Just invitethem along to some activity that you're already doing, and they can eitheraccept and join, or refuse, but nobody feels rejected, nobody feels awkward,and nobody feels bad.Exercise. Make it a habit to invite people to activities that you are alreadygoing to do. Once you make this a habit, it will come across a lot morenaturally when you're saying it to the woman who you're interested in.Remember, all you're doing is saying, "I'm going to XYZ place on this day.You should come. It would be fun." That's all you're doing, is inviting them.It's casual, it's low pressure, and it's no problem if they say no.If a woman tells you that she would love to come, but she's busy on that day,you can just casually say, "OK, no problem, let's just keep in touch and wecan hang out some other time. What's the best way to contact you?" Thenshe will either give you her number, or her Facebook, or whatever methodthat she finds best for her.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 32 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 10 - How To Use Facebook & Texting To GetHer On A Date With YouUsually if a woman is interested in you she will either give you her phonenumber or her Facebook. If a woman ever gives you her email addresschances are she's not interested in you and just trying to blow you off lightly.Always make sure to take a woman's phone number. If a woman ever says"It's OK, I'll just take your number" then don't do it. She is not interested. Ifa woman is unwilling to give you her phone number or her Facebook thatmeans she is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you, so youshould just let her go.So now that you have her Facebook or her phone number or both you canstart to communicate with her. There is no rule of how long you need to waitbefore talking to her. If she gave you her number then you can text her verysoon after.When I'm seducing girls I hardly ever use the phone. I only use text andFacebook. The reason why is that the phone presents a lot of obstacles. Whatif you call her when she's busy? What if you call her when she's in a badmood? What if you call her and you get her answering machine? What if youleave a message on her answering machine and she doesn't call you back?There are too many variables on the phone that just mess up your game. It ismuch better to just use text and Facebook because that is nonintrusive to herand if she is not available or not in a good mood it's not going to affect youin any way.If you do need to call her and you get her answering machine then I reallysuggest that you leave a message. If she just gets a missed call from youwithout a message it's kind of weird. Make your message very brief. "Hi,this is Jade. I just wanted to say what's up. I'll call you back another time.Bye."Do not tell her to call you back and do not leave a long message and speak toher machine because there's something really stupid and silly about speakingto a machine and that does not help your chances with her. Keep yourCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 33 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgmessage as brief as humanly possible and tell her that you will call her back.You do not even have to call her back after that. You can continue textingand Facebooking until you guys meet.The main time when I use the phone is right before I meet a girl. So let's saywe're meeting at three O'clock at a coffee shop. I will call her at 2:30 andsay, "OK, so are you sure you know where the coffee shop is, whatever? Allright. See you there. Bye." Very quick conversation that's usually a minute orless.Texting and Facebook messaging. Keep your texts and your Facebookmessages very brief. Keep them playful and don't reply too quickly whenshe replies to you. You want to show her that you like her, but also that youhave enough selfcontrol and other options out there that you're notdesperate for her. If a woman smells any kind of desperation in yourcommunication she will run the opposite way, so lean back, relax. Staycasual. Stay playful.Keep the ratio of communication even. What this means is that yourmessages should be as long as her messages are or shorter, but rarely everlonger. Also, if you send her one text you should wait for her to text youback before you send her another text. If you send her a Facebook messageyou should wait for her to reply before you send her another Facebookmessage. The exchange should be equal.If you are sending her longer messages than she is sending you and if youare sending her two messages for every one message she sends you backthen you are being needy and you are telegraphing way too much interest.She will smell the desperation in your communication and no matter howmuch she was interested in you she will probably run the other way. So keepthe value exchange equal. This is critical.To create some mystery do not be too available to her meaning thatsometimes if she sends you a message that is not particularly urgent you canwait an hour or two to respond. This will show her you have a life, you'rebusy, and you're not always waiting by the phone. Also shows her that you'renot so eager to hear from her.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 34 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgWomen need a challenge. You have to keep her suspended between hope anddoubt. Even though you told her you liked her, you complimented her, andyou asked her out on a date you still have to keep her guessing because thesecond a woman knows that she has a man wrapped around her finger is thesecond that she loses all attraction and interest in that man.Do not make the mistake of believing that once a girl likes you you canswitch off and just be nice to her and go back to your monotonous ways.Women need constant excitement and emotional stimulation in order to stayattracted and interested in you no matter how powerful their love is.So make sure you follow these guidelines of communication through thephone, text, and Facebook to ensure that you maintain her interest in youuntil you meet her for your first date.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 35 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 11 - How To Go On Your First Date & What ToDoThe first thing we're going to do is we're going to eliminate the word "date"from our vocabulary. The word "date" puts a lot of pressure on both you andher, and nobody really likes that word too much, especially first date.Instead, we are going to say that you and she are going to hang out together.Some people call this a day two instead of a date. So that's what we're goingto address it as. Here are some guidelines to your day two with the girlyou're interested in.First of all, keep it very casual. Most guys use the day two to try to reallyimpress a woman. They take her to a fancy, expensive restaurant. They pickher up in the car. They take her all these places and a lot of money. And thatjust puts a lot of pressure on her and on him, and it's not just natural.Remember! If a girl has given you her contact information, communicatedwith you, and is now going out with you on a day two, she is definitelyinterested in you already. What this means is you do not need to impress her.She is already impressed. All you need to do is show her that you're a cool,fun, easygoing guy that she can enjoy her time with and be safe with.So, keep your day two very casual. And if possible involve little or nomoney in the date. If it's summer or you live in a warm climate then take herto the beach, take her for a walk, take her to a park. My best day two is whenI do that. If you have a car, take her in the car and go drive to some niceplace, nice spot and then have a little picnic or something.Women aren't looking for anything fancy. And most women get up taken to arestaurant or the movies on day two, and they're sick of it. Be original. Themovies is the worst place you can ever take the girl on a day two, because ittakes away the opportunity for you two to connect, and talk, and form somekind of strong bond.Although the movies can work sometimes, it is much better if you plan a daytwo where you and her are going to be engaged in a social activity together,Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 36 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgthings like mini golf, bowling, walking in the park, walking on the beach,going shopping together, having her join you to go shop for some things thatyou need for your hobby. Just try it to make it as casual and as cool aspossible.If you can't think of anything then meeting at a coffee shop is also good,because it doesn't cost a lot of money and you kind of have a time limit onyour date. So it's not too long, so she's not too nervous, and neither are you.If things go well you can take the date somewhere else, maybe to themovies, or shopping, or just walking around the city. Or you can just gohome.Another important thing you need to do on your date is always lead. Do notask the woman, "So what do you want to do now? Where do you want to gonext?" Women hate making decisions, especially in a situation when they'rewith a man they like. Be the man. Take the lead. Make the decisions.Women don't care if you make bad decisions as long as you make somedecision. If you put the pressure on the woman to decide where you're goingto go and how long you're going to stay etc. she's going to lose attraction foryou. She does not want to think. She wants to be present in the moment andswept away. It's your job to lead, so be the man and lead all the way.A question comes up very often for men, "If I ask her out on a date, or a daytwo, should I pay?" I am of the belief that yes, if you invited a woman outsomewhere, then it's your invitation, you're the one inviting. So yes, youshould pay. This shows that you are generous, you have money, you're notbroke, and you're not cheap. It also saves a lot of awkwardness. Just pay forher. You invited her out, so pay for her.The important thing to remember is your day two should be something thatfits your everyday lifestyle. If you never go to a fancy restaurant then don'tinvite her to a fancy restaurant because you are misrepresenting yourself. Ifshe is taken on a fancy restaurant on the first date she is going to expect thatyou're going to keep taking her to fancy places.Remember! If a girl is going out with you, you no longer need to impressher. She is already impressed. She just wants to see if you guys have aCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 37 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgconnection together and enough chemistry to move forward and form arelationship.Remember to flirt, and touch, and just be lighthearted and playful, and havea good time, because that's all women are looking for. They just want tohave a good time.Exercise: If you have a girl you're going to take out, or if you don't have agirl then pretend you have one you're going to take out, and sit down andplan a day two right now. See what you would plan, where you would meet.Are you going to pick her up, or are you going to ask her meet yousomewhere? Where are you going to go? If you have fun there, where areyou going to go next after that? See if you can plan something that is verylow cost or free and that is fun and low pressure, and allows you to beplayful in your element, show your personality, connect with her, and justhave a good time. If you can bring your girl into your reality and show heryour world, that will do wonders for you.For example; if you're part of a band, then bring her to a practice and let hersee you jamming with your friends. If you do videography, then show heryour equipment, and maybe show her some work that you've done.Whenever you can show a woman a part of your life she feels more safe andsecure, and connected to you because she feels like she knows you better. Souse the day two to really showcase who you are, what you are about, whatyour likes are, and don't try to be too accommodating, and think about howto make a perfect day two for her. She wants to get to know you, so give herthe real you upfront.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 38 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgStep 12 How To Know When Shes Ready To BeKissedSo, now you are either still on your day two or you're on your day three orday four and you would like to kiss her. There are no rules set in stonesaying when you should kiss a girl, but if a girl likes you then you shouldprobably have kissed her between the second and fourth time you have hungout together.It is very important to point out that not all women are the same. Somewomen think sex is no big deal and will kiss you very easily. Other womenneed more time and connection before they're able to open up physically toyou. So be aware of this. Just because a girl isn't ready to kiss you it doesn'tnecessarily mean that she's not crazy about you. Just give her a bit moretime. If a girl keeps hanging out with you then she obviously likes you, soit's just a matter of waiting for the right moment to do it.OK. So now we are going to talk about how to get your first kiss with thegirl that you are hanging out with. Touch is very important. Again, a lot ofguys make this mistake. They like a girl so much, they treat her really nicelyand they're really careful about how they act with her and they don't touchher in any way. This is a huge mistake. If you never touch a girl then the leapbetween talking to her and kissing her is going to be massive and jumpingfrom just hanging out and talking to her and kissing her is going to be tooweird and awkward.So how do you do it? What is the proper way? The proper way is to initiatetouch from the very beginning of the relationship. She needs to be used toyour body close to hers so make sure during your day two and onwards thereis a lot of touching going on. Put your arm around her, walk around withyour arm around her, poke her, playfully pinch her, tickle her, hold her hand,stroke her hair, and touch her arm when you are talking to her.Touch all of these nonprivate areas of her body as often as possible to gether used to you touching her. This also lets her know that you're a sexualbeing and you're not afraid of being sexual. If you've been holding hands orCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 39 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgarm and arm all day then it's very easy for you to turn your head and kissher, but if you've been separate all day and just talking then the leap betweenjust talking and then leaning in to kiss her will be very awkward and risky.So the secret of kissing a woman is to do a lot of touching first. Get her usedto your touch.How to know when she's ready to be kissed? When you see that the womanyou're with is very comfortable with your arms around her, holding yourhand, she doesn't pull away at any time, she stays close to you, when you'resitting side by side your legs are touching, your bodies are touching. Onceyou're at this stage she's pretty well ready to be kissed. If you notice that shedoes not move away when you touch her then you can be pretty damn surethat she's ready for you to kiss her.So the way to kiss her is to look into her eyes and just be talking to her ormaybe be silent. Brush her hair aside and see if she flinches or not. If shedoesn't flinch and she keeps good contact with you lean in and give her akiss. Most of the times she will accept your kiss and be relieved and happythat you're kissing her.In some rare instances you will find out that she's a very shy girl and shemight giggle and turn away at the last minute. If she giggles and turns awayand isn't offended then it's no problem. She just needs a bit more time. Youcan try again in five minutes, ten minutes, half an hour, or maybe the nexttime you see her. It's no big deal. Just take it as a joke, take it playfully, anddon't be pushy in any kind of way. When she's ready she will do it.The first kiss tells the girl a lot about the chemistry between you two, so it'svery important that you give her a good experience. The first times you kissa woman do not stick your tongue down her throat. Keep the kiss very light.Use mostly your lips and just lick her lips a bit, maybe have some tongue totongue, but keep it very light. Also, be the first one to end the kiss. Thisshows her that she can be safe around you, that you can control yourselfsexually, and that she can be safe to open up to you sexually. It also leavesher longing for more.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 40 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgAfter the first kiss I like to end it quickly and then just continue on withcasual conversation and most times the girl will look at you with a look inher eyes that's saying 'oh my God! I can't believe you just kissed me andnow you're just casually talking to me again and you stopped the kiss soquickly'. This creates anticipation. Remember, girls love a challenge. Girlslove to be teased. You can go in and kiss her a minute later or two minuteslater and the second kiss can be a lot more intimate and intense than the first.The first kiss communicates that you are safe, that everything is OK, and thatyou are not desperate. The first kiss is where you give your first impressionto her about how you are sexually. When she feels that it is light andnonobtrusive then she will appreciate you and really fall for you.So remember! Always lead up to a kiss with a lot of touching. If you do nottouch the woman you are dating then it will be very, very hard and awkwardto find a moment in which to kiss her. Find ways in which you can be closetogether physically and have a lot of touch between you so that when itcomes time to kiss it will be a natural, effortless, and fun transition that bothof you will enjoy.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 41 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgConclusionNow that you have mastered these simple 12 steps, you will find that it isvery easy and effortless for you to get a girlfriend. Just remember some ofthe most important points. Stay positive, playful, and lighthearted. Be fullypresent with women you're talking to. Show your confidence through beingcompletely honest and transparent about who you really are, and how youreally feel.Compliment women to make them feel good about themselves, and makethem open up to you emotionally. Compliment women to keep you out ofthe friend zone. Ask women out so you stay out of the friend zone.Stay aware of your body language, your tone of voice, and your eye contact.Always remember to smile. When you're flirting with her, stay playful,friendly, and lighthearted. And remember, this is a game to be enjoyed.When you follow the 12 steps laid out for you in this book, you will find thatgetting a girlfriend is a lot easier than you ever thought possible. The days offear of rejection are gone, because now you have a rejectionproof formulathat will allow you to seduce any woman you want without ever having tosacrifice your pride in the process.Thank you very much for reading this book. I wish you all the best in yourfuture endeavors.Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 42 www.how2getagirlfriend.orgIf you enjoyed this book then check out the upgraded 2.0 version.In the 2.0 version of this book, I go into great detail about:Exactly how to act when you walk up to a girlExactly what to sayHow to boost your level of confidence & end lonelinessHow to stay extremely motivated and conquer your fearVersion 2.0 is available in the Kindle store click here to go there now.Or if you prefer it in PDF format then click here.Warmest Regards,JadCopyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 43 www.how2getagirlfriend.org