how to be more assertive
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ASSERTIVENESS BASICS FOR A MORE
ASSERTIVE LIFE
ASSERTIVE LIFE
THERE ARE MANY OPPORTUNITIES IN THE
WORLD
MOST ARE CLAIMED BY THOSE WHO’RE ASSERTIVE OR AGGRESSIVE
SO WHAT OF THE PASSIVE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD? WHAT OF THE
SHY, TIMID, AND THOSE LACKING IN SELF-ESTEEM?
THE REALITY IS . .
THEY ARE LIKELY TO BE TAKING WHAT THEY ARE GIVEN, OR TAKING THE SCRAPS LEFT BEHIND OF THOSE WHO’RE MORE ASSERTIVE AND
AGGRESSIVE IN LIFE.
I BELIEVE THERE IS PLENTY OF PIE TO GO
AROUND IN THE WORLD.
BUT WHAT IS HAPPENING IS ASSERTIVE PEOPLE ARE GETTING
THEIR FAIR SHARE, AND AGGRESSORS ARE TAKING REST.
THAT LEAVES PASSIVE PEOPLE WITH WHAT
LITTLE REMAINS OF THE PIE.
SO WHAT ARE THE PASSIVE, SHY, AND TIMID
TO DO?
IT’S TIME TO LEARN TO BE ASSERTIVE!
IT’S TIME TO REALISE YOUR
WORTH.
IT’S TIME TO REALISE YOUR
VALUE
IT’S TIME TO PLACE YOUR NEEDS AND
WANTS
ON THE SAME LEVEL AND AS
OTHERS
YOU ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT IN THE WORLD AS ANYONE
ELSE!
NOW IT’S TIME TO LIVE, ACT, AND SPEAK
LIKE IT
THE BEST WAY TO DO THIS IS THROUGH
ASSERTIVENESS
ASSERTIVENESS IS YOUR KEY TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT
WITHOUT HURTING ANYONE ELSE
ASSERTIVENESS WILL HELP YOU MOVE TO THE
FOREGROUND
RATHER THAN HIDING IN THE BACKGROUND
ASSERTIVENESS WILL HELP YOU COMMUNICATE YOUR IDEAS,
WANTS, AND NEEDS EFFECTIVELY
AND YOU WON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT BEING
JERK OR AGGRESSIVE
BECAUSE ASSERTIVENESS IS NOT
AGGRESSION
SO HOW DOES A PASSIVE PERSON BECOME
ASSERTIVE?
WE’RE GOING TO GIVE YOU TWO TIPS TO GET
YOU STARTED
STEP ONE
CHECK YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
PASSIVE PEOPLE WALK PASSIVE, TALK PASSIVE,
AND LIVE PASSIVE
IT EMANATES FROM THEIR BODIES SENDING
A MESSAGE THAT
“I’M A NICE PERSON. PLEASE DON’T HURT
ME!”
A PASSIVE PERSONS BODY LANGUAGE CAN BE
CLOSED OFF, WITHDRAWN.
PASSIVE PEOPLE HESITATE TO MAKE EYE
CONTACT
THEY MOVE WITH LITTLE DIRECTION RATHER THAN
WITH PURPOSE AND POISE
WHEN YOU CHECK YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
STAND A LITTLE TALLER
TILT YOU SHOULDERS BACK AND BRING YOUR
CHEST FORWARD
FACE YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND HOLD EYE
CONTACT
TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SAY TO YOURSELF
“I CAN ACHIEVE MY FULL POTENTIAL, I CAN BE
ASSERTIVE”
HOW DOES THAT FEEL?
EMPOWERING?
CHECKING YOUR BODY LANGUAGE IS DOING A SHORT
SELF ASSESSMENT ON HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF
A FEW CHANGES IN THIS AREA AND YOU’LL INSTANTLY
START FEELING MORE ASSERTIVE
IF YOU LOOK ASSERTIVE, YOU'RE GOING TO FEEL
ASSERTIVE, WHICH WILL HELP YOU TO
ACT ASSERTIVE!
STEP 2
CHECK YOUR MINDSET
ASSERTIVENESS AND NON-ASSERTIVENESS
HAPPENS BETWEEN YOUR EARS
IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE YOU CAN BE ASSERTIVE
OR THAT THERE’S IS GREATER POTENTIAL IN
YOU
IT WILL BE HARD TO ACHIEVE
ASSERTIVENESS
ANYONE CAN BECOME
ASSERTIVE
IF THEY WORK FOR IT
MANY PEOPLE HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT
THEMSELVES
MANY PEOPLE ARE NOT AWARE OF THEIR
ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
SOME OF YOUR ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
INCLUDE
THE RIGHT TO ACHIEVE
THE RIGHT TO BE HEARD
THE RIGHT TO BE FREE
THE RIGHT TO SPEAK
THE RIGHT TO SAY NO
THE RIGHT TO SAY YES!
THE RIGHT TO SHARE YOUR
VIEWS
IF YOU HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT ANY OF THESE RIGHTS APPLYING TO
YOU
IT’S TIME TO CHECK YOUR
MINDSET
YOU HAVE A RANGE OF ASSERTIVE
RIGHTS
BUT IT’S UP TO YOU TO STAND UP FOR
THEM
EMBRACE THEM
AND DEFEND THEM
ASSERTIVENESS WILL HELP YOU DO
THIS
THANK YOU FOR WATCHING THIS
SLIDESHOW
HOPEFULLY IT CAN HELP YOU EMBRACE YOUR
ASSERTIVE SIDE
AND REACH YOUR FULL POTENTIAL
BE ASSERTIVE
AND GET YOUR SHARE OF THE
PIE
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