1.How to Be Happier at Work: 10Tips http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/how-to-be-happier-work-10-things-stop-doing.html By Jeff Haden @jeff_haden

2. Blaming People make mistakes. Employees dont meet yourexpectations. Vendors dont deliver on time. So you blame them for your problems. But youre also to blame. Maybe you didnt provideenough training. Maybe you didnt build in enough ofa buffer. Maybe you asked too much, too soon. Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead ofblaming others isnt masochistic, its empowering--because then you focus on doing things better orsmarter next time. And when you get better or smarter, you also gethappier. 3. Impressing No one likes you for your clothes, your car, yourpossessions, your title, or your accomplishments.Those are all "things" People may like yourthings--but that doesnt mean they like you. Sure, superficially they might seem to, butsuperficial is also insubstantial, and a relationshipthat is not based on substance is not a realrelationship. Genuine relationships make you happier, andyoull only form genuine relationships when youstop trying to impress and start trying to just beyourself. 4. Clinging When youre afraid or insecure, you hold ontightly to what you know, even if what you knowisnt particularly good for you. An absence of fear or insecurity isnt happiness:Its just an absence of fear or insecurity. Holding on to what you think you need wontmake you happier; letting go so you can reach forand try to earn what you want will. Even if you dont succeed in earning what youwant, the act of trying alone will make you feelbetter about yourself. 5. Interrupting Interrupting isnt just rude. When you interruptsomeone, what youre really saying is, "Im notlistening to you so I can understand what youresaying; Im listening to you so I can decide what Iwant to say." Want people to like you? Listen to what they say.Focus on what they say. Ask questions to makesure you understand what they say. Theyll love you for it--and youll love how thatmakes you feel. 6. Whining Your words have power, especially over you. Whiningabout your problems makes you feel worse, notbetter. If something is wrong, dont waste time complaining.Put that effort into making the situation better. Unlessyou want to whine about it forever, eventually youllhave to do that. So why waste time? Fix it now. Dont talk about whats wrong. Talk about how youllmake things better, even if that conversation is onlywith yourself. And do the same with your friends or colleagues.Dont just be the shoulder they cry on. Friends dont let friends whine--friends help friendsmake their lives better. 7. Controlling Yeah, youre the boss. Yeah, youre the titan of industry.Yeah, youre the small tail that wags a huge dog. Still, the only thing you really control is you. If you findyourself trying hard to control other people, youve decidedthat you, your goals, your dreams, or even just youropinions are more important than theirs. Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requiresforce, or fear, or authority, or some form of pressure--noneof those let you feel good about yourself. Find people who want to go where youre going. Theyllwork harder, have more fun, and create better businessand personal relationships. And all of you will be happier. 8. Criticizing Yeah, youre the boss. Yeah, youre the titan of industry.Yeah, youre the small tail that wags a huge dog. Still, the only thing you really control is you. If you findyourself trying hard to control other people, youve decidedthat you, your goals, your dreams, or even just youropinions are more important than theirs. Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requiresforce, or fear, or authority, or some form of pressure--noneof those let you feel good about yourself. Find people who want to go where youre going. Theyllwork harder, have more fun, and create better businessand personal relationships. And all of you will be happier. 9. Preaching Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching.They share the same father: Judging. The higher you rise and the more youaccomplish, the more likely you are to think youknow everything--and to tell people everythingyou think you know. When you speak with more finality thanfoundation, people may hear you but they dontlisten. Few things are sadder and leave youfeeling less happy. 10. Dwelling The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learnfrom the mistakes of others. Then let it go. Easier said than done? It depends on your focus.When something bad happens to you, see that as achance to learn something you didnt know. Whenanother person makes a mistake, see that as anopportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. The past is just training; it doesnt define you. Thinkabout what went wrong, but only in terms of how youwill make sure that, next time, you and the peoplearound you will know how to make sure it goes right. 11. Fearing Were all afraid: of what might or might not happen, of what we cantchange, or what we wont be able to do, or how other people mightperceive us. So its easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we needto think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few morealternatives. Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by. And so do our dreams. Dont let your fears hold you back. Whatever youve been planning,whatever youve imagined, whatever youve dreamed of, get started onit today. If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to changecareers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new marketor offer new products or services, take the first step. Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything. Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever. 12. Today is the most precious asset you own--and is the onething you should truly fear wasting.