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A N U N L I M I T E D S O U R C E

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In this HeartMath Series classic Sara Paddison

takes you through an amazing journey of self-

discovery that will touch your life with an

insightful and inspirational message grounded

in new science and common-sense practicality.

For centuries philosophers, poets, writers and

spiritual leaders have revered the heart as a

source of wisdom, power and love. Through

Sara’s deep desire to find balance and security,

she found the great thinkers were right and

also that a new intelligence resides within the

heart. An intelligence that is intuitive, com-

prehensive and dimensional in nature. Her

journey has led to a new understanding of

holographic awareness, the dimensional shift,

DNA blueprints and keys to creating a life full

of rewarding relationships and experiences.

In a warm, friendly style that speaks to you like

a good friend, Sara shares her personal story

of overcoming insecurity and fear while

offering hope and motivation. Beautifully

written, The Hidden Power of the Heart

opens the door for expanded possibilities into

a new frontier of self-mastery and a quality

life available to everyone right Now.

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“What Sara Paddison has done is to develop a universaltruth in an entirely new way...a beacon to those who re-ally want to transform their own lives and influence thosearound them. This book should be required reading.”

—Vernon H. Mark, M.D., Director Emeritus of BostonCity Hospital, author of Brain Power

“...access the intuitive intelligence of your heart so youcan be who you really are and live life to your fullestpotential. The hidden power of the heart is what finallyunravels the real meaning of life and unfolds your pur-pose in a practical way.”

—Common Ground

“...a book truly making a positive difference in the world.[It] gives us tools to communicate straight from the heart,as we experience love for ourselves and our neighborsand create peace in our lives.”

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Table of ContentsAuthor’s Preface ............................................................... vi

1. The Hidden Power of the Heart ............................... Ê1

2. The Heart .................................................................... 13

3. The Head .................................................................... 35

4. Stress: The Social Disease ........................................ 50

5. Higher and Lower Heart Frequencies ................... 63

6. The Dimensional Shift .............................................. 75

7. Heart Power Tools .................................................... 92

8. Tools for Rapid Self-Adjustment .......................... 102

9. Speak Your Truth: Honest Communication ...... 121

10. Releasing Judgments .............................................. 126

11. Inner Security: Your Key to Self-Esteem ............ 133

12. Uncovering Compassion ........................................ 135

13. The Power of Surrender ......................................... 153

14. God’s Creation ......................................................... 159

15. Holographic Awareness ......................................... 167

16. DNA Blueprints ....................................................... 199

17. Return to Family Values ........................................ 205

18. Deep Heart Listening ............................................. 217

19. Forgiveness .............................................................. 224

20. The Magnetics of Appreciation ............................. 231

21. Care or Overcare? ................................................... 237

22. Death: A New Frontier .......................................... 246

23. Balance: Faster than Light ..................................... 263

24. The Mind/Brain ...................................................... 276

25. Fulfillment ................................................................ 289

Index ............................................................................... 300

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The Hidden Power of the Heart

IntroductionI have appreciated knowing and working closely

with Sara Paddison for over ten years. Sara is one of themost loving and caring people I’ve ever met, and editingThe Hidden Power of the Heart was one of the most refresh-ing, informative and enjoyable experiences of my life.Sara’s sincerity of heart is expressed so deeply in herwriting that, as a reader, you feel like you are talkingwith a good and trusted friend. Throughout the book youare provided warmth, sparkle and intelligent informa-tion for issues you may be contemplating. Sara’s story ofstress and struggle before HeartMath® is a story sharedby many people. What’s different is that the practicalHeartMath tools she offers to activate the power and in-telligence of your heart to end the stress and struggle reallydo work! All you have to do is use them.

Having been a serious spiritual seeker myself forover twenty-five years and an author of several bookson meditation and awareness, I was surprised at howfast these simple tools took me to new levels of percep-tion and intelligence. The irony was that these toolsseemed too simple to be that effective. After pondering

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this awhile, I realized that new intelligence is what’sneeded to transform people’s lives and that any tools todevelop this intelligence better be simple. In today’s ex-tremely busy world, people need simple tools they caneasily use to unite mind and heart if, as a species, we areto ever achieve peace and understanding.

Sara’s descriptions of the different dimensions ofintelligence, of the holographic nature of reality, and ofthe hopeful blueprint of our planet, are especially excit-ing. They open doors for the reader into perceiving yourown holographic blueprint. I now find learning to con-sciously co-create with the holographic nature of life tobe the most fulfilling and productive of experiences. Asyou sincerely practice the tools given in this book, youawaken to this dimension of life.

Many self-help and contemplative disciplines speakof love and the heart. But few provide an explanation ofwhat the heart really is, how to harness its power andintelligence, or provide deliberate techniques on how tolove while in the midst of work pressures, discipliningkids or driving in rush hour traffic. The Hidden Power ofthe Heart offers all of these. It teaches you how to sensethe heart as a repository of guiding signals that lead tonew behaviors of balance and unconditional love. It helpsyou discriminate the difference between lower and higherheart frequencies in yourself, then guides you step-bystep into higher heart frequencies as the path to fulfill-ment and living in higher dimensions of intelligence. One

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reviewer called this, “a revolutionary approach to a morefulfilling way of being.”

The Hidden Power of the Heart is the most loved ofthe HeartMath books. Over 20,000 copies of the first edi-tion are in homes across the world. People’s lives havebeen deeply touched by the transformative power of itscontent. With very little promotion or advertising, thebook’s popularity spread by word of mouth. Many menand women have written to say how their whole way ofthinking has been changed by its information. Othershave commented on how life-changing and confirmingSara’s insights were to them. Still others said that throughpracticing the tools, they were able to perceive for them-selves more of a universal plan that really exists, and isaccessible to anyone who learns to love effectively. Whenit was time to update the book with important new re-search that confirms what Sara is saying, the publisherdecided to also give the book a new look and feel andbring it out in hardback.

As a psychologist, it is my belief that it’s going totake the type of user-friendly intelligence and tools foundin The Hidden Power of the Heart along with hands-on train-ing to help masses of people self-empower, see how tobalance their lives and succeed where they haven’t beenable to. Most are just trying to survive, having given uphope of achieving their larger goals or dreams of fulfillment.

Recently I watched the classic movie Titanic. I expe-rienced the entire audience bond in some mysterious wayin the love and tragedy depicted in this film. At one poi-

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gnant moment toward the end, when Rose lets go ofJack’s hand and Jack’s body slips into the icy sea, I real-ized that most people’s dreams of fulfillment includeromance, unending love and great days. Yet in real life,that kind of love is usually here today and gone tomor-row. Sara’s message is that fulfillment in love can befound within one’s own heart. But that love has to be com-pleted within oneself first so you become free. Then lovewith another is an “add-on”—not a “depend-on.” Sara’spowerful story and the tools in her book show you how.

Accessing the power of love has profound implica-tions for each one of us, our relationships and our globalfuture. The emergence of scientific discoveries about theheart and the intelligence it contains is challenging pre-vious academic thinking, while confirming people’scommon-sense intuitive knowing. Isn’t that interesting!New research on the role the heart plays in love, intelli-gence and learning offers hope for all of us and it’ssimpler than we thought. We can now create happier,healthier, more balanced lives—personally and profes-sionally—in the families and organizations in which welive. Yes, it does require a little practice, but so does ev-erything. It’s worth it. Enjoy!

Deborah Rozman, Ph.D., 1998

Deborah Rozman, Ph.D., is Executive Vice President and ChiefOperations Officer of HeartMath LLC, author of five books, edi-torial consultant to Planetary Publications, and member of theInstitute of HeartMath’s Scientific Advisory Board and Physicsof Humanity Council.

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Author’s PrefaceSince I first wrote The Hidden Power of the Heart in

1993, I have watched the world become more open andembracing of the idea that the heart is much more thanjust a physical organ or poetic metaphor for sentimentand emotion. With globalization and stress increasingrapidly, people are waking up and looking to their heartsfor help. Many are finding that their heart contains newdepths of intuitive feeling, intelligence and power thatcan be harnessed to help fulfill their potential as humanbeings. From CEOs to scientists to police officers tohousewives, more people are talking about the heart andrecognizing that we have to develop our hearts as wellas our heads to secure the health and future of our society.

Much has happened since the first edition of TheHidden Power of the Heart was published. I am nowPresident of the Institute of HeartMath, a nonprofiteducational and research organization founded by DocChildre in 1991. The Institute’s breakthrough researchon the heart has been published in many peer-reviewedscientific journals, including the prestigious American

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Journal of Cardiology. HeartMath tools for awakening heartintelligence have been taught in thousands of seminarsand training programs throughout the world. HeartMathtechnology has been taught to individuals in Fortune 500companies, in classrooms from preschool to graduateschool, in churches and synagogues, and in all fourbranches of the US military. And there is a newHeartMath Wellness Center that specializes in non-invasive approaches to heart disease and other stress-related disorders. Doc is now President and CEO ofHeartMath LLC, a for-profit training and consultingcompany dedicated to the globalization of HeartMathtechnology and to making these inner tools for self-empowerment, balance and freedom available to as manypeople on our planet as possible.

Many ask me how HeartMath got started. Docbrought together a group of friends and associates ofdiverse educational, professional and culturalbackgrounds from the fields of business, education,psychology, engineering, physics, math, communication,music, and art—to develop and prove out withinourselves a system of energy-efficiency and self-empowerment Doc called HeartMath. Much of what Iwill share with you in this book I discovered whileworking and growing side-by-side with these friends atthe Institute. They are extremely dedicated and lovingpeople.

The Institute’s mission from the beginning was toreduce stress in the world by helping people develop self-

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management and self-empowerment through a deeperunderstanding of “heart intelligence.” As the Doc says,“This system is designed to dissipate stress on contactrather than allow it to accumulate. And it works if youwork with it. It doesn’t take long to get results.” In today’sworld, with increasing stress, depression, anger, roadrage, heart disease and other stress-related disordersimpacting us, learning self-management and emotionalbalance becomes increasingly important. More than fortyof us working at the Institute proved out the power andeffectiveness of this system before offering it to others.Thank you, Doc, for providing a step-by-step, nuts andbolts method of energy-efficiency in the human systemthat shows how the Heart Empowerment® of YOU—mentally, emotionally and physically—develops newintelligence and accelerates human evolution.

In this new edition, I update readers on excitingscientific research done at the Institute on DNA and theheart, and on studies showing the physiological andpsychological effectiveness of the HeartMath tools Idescribe. This new research has substantiated many ofmy intuitive perceptions and experiences of the heart. Ithink the information presented in this new edition willhelp validate many of readers’ own experiences andintuitive knowing as well. This book is a story up to acertain point in my life. Since that time, I have continuedto use the tools and have continued to growtremendously. These tools don’t stop. They keepawakening new heart intelligence as you use them.

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The Hidden Power of the Heart is a description of howI went from inner rags to riches and how my lifeappreciated in value. I went from 90% okay days and10% good days to 10% good days and 90% great days.Your heart intelligence activates magnetics that serve youand teach you how to experience deeper levels of love,care and understanding of people. You make contact withyour own heart power within. It’s a system of you andyourself.

Earlier in my life I was lonely, withdrawn, frightenedof my own shadow. Once, while in college, I tried tocommit suicide. I was confused, as so many young peopleare today. But I was a survivor in life, always knowingthere was an answer somewhere. I grew up on militarybases and my family was always moving from one baseto another. Each move was like a different movie that Ihad to jump into. I’d be one place and be real popular.Then we’d move to another place and the kids at schoolwere so different I’d be really shy and keep to myself.Trying to be accepted was a big deal to me. I had to keepreadjusting to a lot of changes in life. I kept wondering,why was life like this? What was I doing here? In artschool, I found peace and family. I loved art, but thepeople were even more important to me. I graduated fromEast Carolina University with a Bachelor of Fine Artsdegree and also took many courses in psychology. I cameto realize that life is about caring for people. That becamemy ambition. My real credentials for writing this bookare that I practiced and practiced truly loving and caring.

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Like many people who grew up in the ’60s, I wasaffected by the spirit of that decade. When PresidentKennedy was shot, I remember exactly where I was inthe school yard and the looks on everyone’s faces. Timeseemed to have stopped as the entire nation went intoshock. The love that people had for him was an eye-opener for me. I remembered the words he is mostfamous for, “Ask not what your country can do for you,ask what you can do for your country.” The idealism andopenness of the ’60s gave my generation a surge of hope.A seed was planted that has been dormant until recently.Now in the ’90s, many of my generation are seeing thatour dreams weren’t idealistic. They (and we) just neededtime to mature. People are re-awakening to what weglimpsed back then: that love and care for people is whatit’s all about. And the time to actualize real love and careis now! Having been brought up in the military, I wasalways acutely aware that they are the caretakers ofAmerica. I appreciate the discipline, dedication andservice they give our country. Now all of us need to becaretakers of ourselves, our communities and our world.

Wouldn’t the next template for worldunderstanding have to be, “One world, under God, withliberty and justice for all?” To achieve this, won’t therehave to be something that touches the hearts of peopleand awakens the human spirit? There is such amagnificent energy or force deep inside people’s hearts.It is my hope that each and every person has a chance toexperience their real heart power—so that they have a

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fair choice to love and care or not. It’s toward that purposethat I dedicate this book.

I want to thank the many readers who have writtento say how much The Hidden Power of the Heart touchedtheir hearts and made a difference in their lives. Thankyou also to Debbie Rozman, Bruce Cryer and WendyRickert, the editors from HeartMath, and others like DickFreed, Joseph Sundram, Robert Massy, and TomBeckman who were involved in the creation of this book.Thank you for your experiences and examples I used.Hopefully, your practical understanding of the “commonsense” of the heart can add to the quality of people’s livesin this stressful world.

Thank you to my parents for bringing me into thisworld and being responsible for me until I knew how.Thank you to my two sisters for being my friends growingup. Thank you to my former husband, Al Paddison, aco-worker at the Institute who went through my earlyyears of growth with me. Thank you to my son, Christian,for adding a sparkle to my life. And thanks to everyonein life with whom I have shared a moment in time. All ofyou have become part of my holographic reality.

Pollster George H. Gallup Jr., once said, “I’ve alwayswanted to see surveys that probe beneath the surface oflife.” So he conducted surveys and found, “The deeperone goes, the more open one becomes.” Thank you toDoc, for helping me to go deeper, for your love and care,for facilitating my inner awakening, for showing me howto understand the people business and for being a true

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friend in learning how to balance it all. And deep thanksto God, for this incredible Divine Plan you are unfoldingfor all humanity.

My universal self would like to say thank you inthe way Ken Carey did in his book Vision. Thank youto: “Holy Mother, Truth: all matter is her body, theEarth is her eye.” Thank you to: “Holy Father, Love:the stars are his flesh, Spirit is his I.” I did wake up ina wonderful reality to my surprise—as one creatingmy reality with God.

Sara Paddison

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The Hidden Powerof the Heart

What is the “hidden power of the heart”? A mag-nificent energy or force? Deep inside, people hope thereis a hidden power like that—a power that could changetheir lives. But, to many in this stressful world, the ideaof a hidden power is remote, like a faraway dream fromanother time. To others it seems like an unrealistic fan-tasy. Nevertheless, the possibility is intriguing. Why?People have an intuitive sense, like a homing device orinner antenna, that’s curious about the possibility of ahidden power.

About sixteen years ago, my heart stirred. I’d justfinished college and felt a yearning for a deeper under-standing of life—like a core feeling in the center of mychest. But it didn’t seem to be physical. I knew it was myheart. “But what is this heart I’m feeling?” I asked my-

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self. It was a kaleidoscope of feelings: hope and despair,love and fear, swirling around within my heart. It feltlike the center of my being. I wanted to understand whatmy heart was saying to me, “What is this heart that canstir me? What is the human heart really?”

These questions started me on a journey that hasbrought much fulfillment and wonder into my life. I’veexperienced an awesome adventure that’s taken me intothe deep recesses of my heart and opened doors I neverknew existed. I discovered the hidden power within myown heart. If this sounds like a faraway dream or fairytale, I understand. That’s how I might have thought aboutit before my journey began.

In the languages of the world, there are countlessreferences to the feelings of the heart. Over the years, Icame to realize these feelings contain within them apower to seek, to understand, to do. Step by step in thisbook, you and I will unravel an understanding of thisuntapped source of energy in you, me and every indi-vidual. We will look at its implications for the entirehuman race.

Heart power is simply the electricity of your innerstrength and potential. It’s what gives you the self-moti-vated ability to manifest and complete your goals—toempower yourself and achieve balance and fulfillment evenin today’s increasingly stressful world. Uncovering thishidden power is a personal process of understandinghow it works and understanding yourself.

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How Power WorksTo me, the word “power” means a source of energy

and a capacity for action. I see it as both a faculty—likethe power of thinking—and as spirit. To many, powercan be frightening—like someone or something havingcontrol over you.

Let’s take the example of money as power. Moneyis a potent form of energy that seems to have a control-ling influence of its own. If someone unexpectedlyhanded me a thousand dollars, that money would havethe power to give me a feeling of elation at that moment.If it were a million dollars, I would experience a tremen-dous feeling and a greater sense of power. The powerthat money brings really comes from a person’s identifi-cation with both a feeling and a perception associatedwith the “frequency band” of energy called money.

So what’s a frequency band? A frequency is an elec-tromagnetic wave, a line of energy that has its own rateof vibration or oscillation. Most people know Einsteindiscovered the mathematical equation and fundamentallaw of physics, E= mc2, which proved that all things inthe universe are forms of energy that move or vibrate ontheir own wavelengths. Einstein’s simple scientific in-sights have had a profound impact on the world. Theyhave given us television, satellite communication and theatomic bomb. They gave us electron microscopes, lasers,the microwave and many other conveniences. Our physi-cal lives changed dramatically because of this discovery.

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What about our mental and emotional lives? Are not ourthoughts and feelings frequencies also?

The Frequencies of Thoughts and FeelingsSince everything is made of energy, this means that

your thoughts and feelings are frequencies too. So, natu-rally, scientists began to measure the frequencies of thebrain. They found that in different states of thought andfeeling, people produced what scientists call alpha, beta,theta or delta brain wave frequencies.

So, it’s not money that has power. We give it power(energy) through our thoughts and feelings about money.After all, the dollar is just a piece of green paper. It’s thecombinations of thoughts and feelings that form the val-ues of our society and make up our perspective aboutmoney. Money buys food, clothes, a roof over our headsand other essentials. It also buys many comforts in life.But, what price do we pay for money? Our global atti-tude towards money keeps millions enslaved to theirdesire to have more and more of it.

It has become one of the most coveted commoditiesof life. You could say that giving power to money is one“frequency perspective” of a collective global view aboutmoney. But within the global view are conflicting per-spectives on who should get the money, how it shouldbe used, who should be taxed, and how much. There istremendous dissension in the world today over money.And that’s just one cause of conflict. Our thoughts andfeelings about our ethnic origin, our religion, national

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borders, and rights as people, form frequency perspec-tives that clash with the views of others. Conflictingfrequency perspectives between people and nations areresponsible for much of the discord in the world, includ-ing the raging ethnic wars in Yugoslavia today, theongoing Catholic/Protestant war in Northern Ireland,and the powder keg of racial violence in the U.S.

More understanding of frequencies is filtering intothe mass consciousness. You may have heard this com-mon remark, “I just can’t communicate with him. We’reon different wavelengths (different frequencies).” Talk-ing in terms of energy frequencies could sound like aforeign language, but it offers a new way of understand-ing and perceiving life. Once you understand thatthoughts and feelings are really different frequencies ofenergy, then it makes sense to know which frequenciesadd to your power and fulfillment and which drain you.It is your power. You are the one who decides. Con-sciously—or unconsciously out of mechanical habits ofthought—you determine where your power is going.How you direct your power is your responsibility.

We all have choice in our thoughts and feelings, andin how we use our energies. We can choose our own fre-quencies. As you understand this, you realize you aren’tjust a victim of this stressed-out world. Sure, the stressand circumstances around you are also energies that af-fect you, but you have a choice in how you react to them.And you have more power in your heart to manage yourreactions than you probably know. You can achieve bal-

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ance and fulfillment even amidst all the stress and fast-paced changes of today’s world.

After the financial turmoil and Wall Street scandalsof the ’80s, many people realized that money doesn’t buypeace, happiness and security, at least not in a completeway, not in a complete range or band of frequencies. Moneycan create a feeling of security in one isolated frequencyonly. It’s a false sense of security because it’s not com-plete. And when something creates a false sense ofsecurity, it also creates a sense of fear. With unemploy-ment high and statistics showing more people living inpoverty than at any time since President Lyndon Johnsondeclared “war on poverty,” many people are asking,“What would happen if my money was gone?” For mostpeople, that’s a frightening thought. If your focused at-tention is on money as your security, then your securitywould be lost. That’s the price we pay for making moneyour security. There are great fears about survival and tre-mendous stresses in the world today. It’s no wonder.Money as a source of power has created a false securityin millions of people.

When you understand how to be responsible foryour thoughts and actions, you become empowered tomake choices that lead to balance and fulfillment. Thenyou can build a complete frequency band of security withinyourself. Self-empowerment is a step-by-step process thatstarts with self-understanding. It involves recognizingthe inner power available to you and discovering how todirect your frequencies in ways that benefit you. It’s like

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an inner mathematical equation: “When I have this atti-tude, that will be the result; a + b = c.” It’s streetsensemath. Your thoughts and feelings form your attitudesand your know-how to cope with life. As you understandyour mental and emotional patterns and habits, you willsee where you lose energy, where you drain away yourinner power and create fear, anxiety and insecurity withinyourself. And you will also learn where your energy as-sets are, where you are building inner security and powerthat is not dependent on externals—on money, people,or events in life.

For the past fifteen years, I have researched, in-depth, the nature of the heart and self-empowerment withforty associates and friends at the Institute of HeartMath,founded by Doc Childre. Everything we’ve learned,we’ve applied to our own lives. The results have beenwhat people would call miraculous. We discoveredwhich perspectives are empowering and lead to balanceand fulfillment and which are depleting and lead to stress.We created wonderful, fulfilling and relatively stress-freelives, regardless of job circumstances, family back-grounds or the world situation. Having proved how itcan be done in our own lives, we wanted to share ourunderstanding with others. The HeartMath system is theresult: A step-by-step method that anyone can apply toachieve balance and fulfillment. This system has had adramatic, positive impact on the lives of many individu-als, families and businesses. As you practice HeartMath,you unfold the hidden power of your heart in a regen-

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erative manner. You plug your physical, emotional ormental energy leaks as you go. Then you don’t run outof gas before you find your fulfillment.

What type of power can change the stress-produc-ing attitudes and perspectives of this world? Commonsense would tell us that a power stronger than our ha-bitual thoughts and feelings would be required. Ourresearch at the Institute found that power to reside withinthe heart. It’s a hidden power that operates in a higherrange of frequency bands than the mind. In differentwords, religions and native cultures have talked for agesabout a higher power within. But why has this powerbeen so hidden, so mystical? Why has it eluded us as asociety? And why is the heart so often dismissed asmerely sentimental or poetic? Perhaps the heart is justdisguised with simplicity.

Is it really possible, you may wonder, that there is ahidden power of the heart so magnificent, so potent, sointelligent, so available, that it can help even you achievebalance and have fulfillment in life? At the Institute whatwe proved in our lives is that everyone has this powerwithin. The heart is the conduit for this power of fulfill-ment. It is the place of contact for your source of power.

The Power SourceMost people refer to their source of power as God.

Some don’t use the word God, calling it the Light, a Di-vine Force, Spirit, Higher Power, etc. All are referring tosomething past what ordinary human thoughts and feel-

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ings can understand. While many feel we live in a God-less society today, a society without much hope and inwhich spiritual and family values have declined, a ma-jority of people still believe in God.

A 1985 national public opinion poll for US News &World Report showed that 90% of Americans believe inGod. A more recent Gallup & Castelli poll put the figureat 94%. The poll also found that 90% pray, and 80% be-lieve God still works miracles today. So, people believethere is an answer somewhere to today’s woes. They be-lieve, they hope and they are looking for help.

To the majority of the world, God is associated withMoses, Christ, Buddha, Krishna or Mohammed. All ofthese great teachers gave guidelines to help people findGod. They taught different doctrines, but each spokeabout the heart. Whatever your religion or cherished be-lief, the heart is the access point in the human system forexperiencing God. It’s also the place inside where youexperience communion with Jesus, Buddha, Krishna andyour fellow human beings.

All people have a heart, regardless of their mentalabilities, nationality, race or religion. All people wantlove. If there is one thing that great teachers down theages have asked of people, it is that we love each other. Ifwe really did, would society be in the stress mess it’s intoday? Would there still be so many religious divisionsand wars or so much racial, ethnic and personal strife?

We are always being reminded of the importanceof love. Psychologists, educators, scientists, atheists, and

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people from all walks of life acknowledge the need forlove. Our songs proclaim that love makes the world goround. There are 15,000 books in print in the United Statesalone on the subject of love. Yet, do people feel loved?Do you? I had to ask myself if I really felt loved. When Icouldn’t totally answer, “yes,” I became determined tofind out what love really is. This book is about my dis-coveries.

LoveThe hidden power of the heart is love. Love is the core

frequency or energy with which God created all. Mostpeople intuitively know this. Whoever or whatever Godis, most people agree that God is Love, and believe thatGod was directly involved in the creation process. ThatHigher Power and intelligence gave each one of us a sparkof God, of love within, to unfold, develop and become.How can we verify this? It is through managing our men-tal, emotional and physical energies from the heart thatwe can connect with this higher power and intelligence.

Each religion offers prescriptions for love and howto achieve balance and fulfillment—peace on Earth. TheBible says: “He that loveth not, knoweth not God; God islove,” (1 John 4:7-8) and “If we love one another, Goddwells in us and His love is perfected in us.” (1 John 4:12.)The ancient Hindu bible, the Bhagavad Gita, says, “TheLord resides in the hearts of all beings,” and “I am theGod of Love.”

When there’s too much stress in your mind and emo-

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tions, it’s hard to feel love, the hidden power in yourheart. People marry for love, but statistics show half ofthe marriages end in divorce. Of these divorced families,70% have children, and over 50% of these children feelresponsible for the divorce, feel unloved and rejected byat least one parent. Children who don’t feel loved havedevelopmental problems and mental/emotional imbal-ances. Many teenagers who take drugs say they feelunloved, hopeless and alone. Something seems to havegone wrong with love. Or, perhaps the real power of lovehas gotten buried beneath the stress of daily life and it’stime to really find it.

Most people have never known how to self-activatethe frequency of love within their hearts and keep it go-ing. Many don’t even realize this is possible. People lookfor love everywhere outside themselves, but where dowe feel love? We feel it in our hearts. We don’t say, “Ilove you with all my head.” We say, “I love you with allmy heart.” We go to our hearts when we want to expressour love. When love uplifts the mind or embraces us insex, that feeling can be traced to a warmth, an energy inthe heart. So what are the frequencies of the heart thatradiate from love? We asked ourselves this question atthe Institute and set out to discover what those frequen-cies actually are.

It’s natural for people to discover some of thispower of the heart in times of crisis—such as after thedeath of a child, rejection by a loved one, or when webottom out in pain, anguish and despair. When there is

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no other place to turn, people do go to their own heartsand comfort themselves the best they can. Throughprayer, meditation, a walk on the beach, we try to get incontact with our deeper self, an inner wisdom to give ussome release. We listen for a still, small voice inside, avoice of intuition or spirit. We try to tap into the highestsource of intellect that we can find in ourselves to stimu-late our understanding ability. This effort to go deepwithin the heart for an answer has been known to helppeople change their perspective and outlook on life. Sowhat is this inner heart? And, how can we contact thismagnificent force within? Read on.

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The HeartWhen I first met the people who would later form

the Institute of HeartMath, I was impressed by their sin-cerity, commitment and openness. Still, all the discussionswe had about the heart and head, about God and theuniverse, seemed like scattered pieces in a giant jigsawpuzzle. How did it all fit together? Different religionsand spiritual paths attempt to help people put the piecestogether to a degree. We studied many of them along theway, and I kept looking for examples of people who hadput their puzzle together, who enjoyed balance and ful-fillment in their lives. They seemed few and far between.

At times, I questioned whether the heart my friendsand I were talking about really did exist or was a prod-uct of the imagination. What was behind the expressions,“follow your heart,” “get to the heart of the matter,” “heplays with a lot of heart,” or “go deep into your heart tofind the answer”? Were they figures of speech or did theymean something more? Was there some reservoir of theheart that was common to all people, yet unexplored?

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All I really knew about the heart was that it had thepower to stir deep feelings inside that moved me to wantto understand life, experience love deeply and care forothers. One evening, back when I was still in college, aman I’d dated a few times asked me what God was. Outof my mouth popped, “God is love.” That surprised me,but in my heart I knew it was true. There was an innerknowingness, a feeling of confirmation and peace that Ifelt in my heart.

ImaginationAs I learned more about the heart, I also discovered

more about what was imaginary and what was real. I’dmajored in pottery in college, with a minor in design,and I knew that imagination is the ability to form a men-tal image of something not yet present to the senses orsomething that has never been wholly perceived in physi-cal reality. It was a thrill to me to capture a design as itwould come to me in my mind’s eye, and then give itphysical shape and form. I’d taken classes in child de-velopment before settling into my major. They taughtme that imagination is highly active in most children buttends to become inactive as we grow older and learn toconfine our thoughts to linear thinking in school, workand social interaction. Yet, I knew the imagination was avaluable resource, a creative faculty that can take us waypast fantasy into an exploration of the real. I was fasci-nated when I learned that Einstein said his Theory ofRelativity, which led to the equation E=mc2, came from

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visualizing beams of light, gravity and force fields. Hewould explore the whole universe in his imagination,then write down his ideas on the backs of old envelopesand paper napkins. His imaginings were so far ahead ofthe rest of the world that it was said only six people couldunderstand his relativity theory when it was first pub-lished, and many rejected it. Nevertheless, it changed thecourse of history.

As I searched for more understanding of the heartand the imagination, I saw TV news reports about clair-voyants hired by the police to locate stolen property. Theycould see where the missing article was in their imagina-tion and lead the police right to it. I read articles aboutpeople who had accurate precognitive visions and wereable to save their own lives or their loved ones as a re-sult. I studied documented accounts of near-deathexperiences in which people saw angels or visited otherworlds. These people gave further confirmation of a re-ality beyond the senses that can be perceived with theimaginative faculty. As Einstein did from his armchair,these people who’d been near death brought back wid-ened perspectives of reality—not of the type that wouldtransform science, but perspectives that would changetheir own lives.

A 1982 Gallup poll found that eight million adults inthe United States have had a near-death experience, andthat was considered a conservative estimate. The vastmajority of these people reported striking similarities intheir experiences. They tell of traveling out of the body

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through a tunnel at a very fast speed; being bathed in abrilliant light that conveyed feelings of peace, joy andlove; seeing beings of light and deceased loved ones; andwatching their entire life flash before them in minutedetail. After they come back from this experience, theywant to help others. Many make major life-style changes.They become nurses or social workers or volunteer forcommunity service. They have a fervent desire to seeconditions in the world improve. Love, care and helpingothers is what matters to them now. They become lessmaterialistic and no longer fear dying. I was intriguedby the transformation in these people and wondered,“What had moved them so deeply?”

The American Journal of Psychiatry recently publisheda paper on the near-death phenomenon. From this pa-per I could see that these statistics were arousing a seriousscientific interest. Several controlled scientific studies arenow in process. Only ten years ago, almost all scientistsdismissed near-death experiences as hallucinations orimaginary, wishful thinking. But, as psychologist Ken-neth Ring put it, “They can’t all be making it up.” Dr.Bruce Greyson, director of inpatient psychiatry at theUniversity of Connecticut, summarizes current thinking,“The hard evidence we have all points to the fact thatthis is not fantasy.”

The Math of the HeartOne day, I heard some of my friends refer to the

heart as a computer. I questioned the theory and felt al-

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most defensive. “A computer? How cold. People are notcomputers!” But I tried to be open and assess what theywere saying without judgments. I listened to what theycalled the “math” (their data, information, and knowl-edge) to see if they really did have a wider perspective.

They explained that the heart contains an unlim-ited source of higher intelligence programs for makingefficient choices in life. You can access these programsby listening for that still, small voice (or intuitive feel-ing) inside you that gives you a sense of innerknowingness. You can then test the wisdom of what youperceived in real life to see if it brings more peace andunderstanding. The heart can bring in the highest intelli-gence—called heart intelligence or heart power—a powerthat illuminates understanding. The head, or mind, thentranslates the frequencies of this intelligence into intui-tive thoughts, words or images so you can understand.The mind really acts as a subterminal to the mainframecomputer in your heart. Your heart’s intelligence has awide, all-embracing perspective permeated with the fre-quency of love. A total understanding of all can comeonly from using your heart—your mainframe access tothe universe.

A Magnificent Journey into the HeartAs I tried to understand this more deeply, questions

would continually come up in my mind like, “What isthe universe about?” “Why are we here?” These are ques-tions we’ve all asked ourselves. So I said to myself, “Okay,

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heart, if there is an intelligence that somehow resemblesthe functions of a computer, I’d like to understand it.” Iclosed my eyes and, using my imagination, I focused allmy energies in that core place where I’d felt my heartstirring before. I visualized my heart as the mainframeof a computer and my head as the subterminal. I deeplyfelt I would see an inner image of how this worked, sinceI’d seen subtle energy forms and patterns several timesbefore while sincerely praying, meditating or contem-plating. But this didn’t prepare me for what happened.

As I focused attentively on the core of my heart, Ibegan to experience the heart as a pump for the life force,supplying me with vitality and contact with the energyof my spirit. I found my awareness moving into spaceand down a hallway with many doors. At the end of thehall, an image of seemingly infinite crystals appeared ina cornucopia shape. The cornucopia was filled with crys-tal-like formations. I saw many facets and edges. Irealized that each crystal edge held a different intelligentfrequency band. Each facet seemed to hold a differentprogram or pattern. I was fascinated.

Then, the image became even clearer. Many colorsswirled and changed, just like a kaleidoscope turning,gorgeous colors that created tremendous numbers ofpatterns that had depth, like a 3-D movie. I focused myattention on these patterns and saw them close up, justlike looking through a magnifying glass. They formedround, intricate snowflake-like patterns that had shadowand light. I could see through them, and together they

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looked like a stack of floating computer disks but theydidn’t touch each other. I realized they were like a com-puter board where one disk electrically activated the nextone. The crystal disks spun around, and the facets hadgrooves which electrically stored information just likecomputer chips. The crystal patterns seemed to go on foreternity, as far as I could see.

Suddenly, a profound insight came to me from someplace deep in the core of my being. To my amazement, Irealized that each individual human being has their ownparticular heart crystal pattern and colors and I saw thisas the soul’s blueprint. There were chips that containeddetailed information: storage records of this life, pastlives, and future possibilities—the whole intelligence ofa human being. According to the choices that peoplemake, the next program or next disk is activated. Eachdisk is like a chapter in a book, a chapter in a person’slife. I now understood how people could see their entirelives replay before them at the point of death. I clearlysaw that the total, compact intelligence of each humanbeing is contained in a holographic formation of crystal-like computer chips in the heart. It was beautiful, elegant,and pristine. Love was the overwhelming feeling embrac-ing my entire experience.

The Heart ComputerLater, I thought about how the heart computer func-

tioned a lot like the computer at the office. I’d put in adisk, select a program, and somehow the mainframe

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would read the information that’s electrically stored inthe microchips inside. On my visual screen would ap-pear the contents of the program that I’d selected. Thecomputer would translate the electrical impulses, the fre-quencies, into color, images and words I couldunderstand. I suddenly comprehended that the humanmind is like a computer screen that gives a readout ofdata that is input from our five senses, from our brainneurons and cells, and from our heart computer.

My personal computer at home happens to be con-nected into the publishing company’s main computernetwork. In an intuitive flash, I realized that there is aheart mainframe, a main computer into which every person’sheart computer is networked. I saw too that love is the powerflowing through the global network. At last, I understoodhow everything in life could really be connected. Love isthe electromagnetic core frequency that runs the entiremainframe holographic computer of life.

As people activate a program in their heart com-puter disk, for example, a mother loving her child, thedisk starts to spin. As the disk spins, emotional energygets magnetized to it. If attachment sets in, and we putconditions on love, the crystal-like disk becomes coveredwith a murky film and the pure love energy can no longerradiate clearly through it.

I was enthralled and continued to practice focusingon the heart. As time went by I saw more clearly how theheart computer brings in higher intelligence to the hu-man system. The higher intelligence of the heart operates

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in an entirely different range of frequency bands fromthe mind. The mind becomes illuminated and functions at itsfullest potential when it serves as a subterminal for intelli-gence programs directed by the heart. I practiced andpracticed focusing my energies in my heart core to gaineven more understanding. I was able to go deeper byradiating out love while I asked questions about the heart,including the physical heart.

Everyone knows the physical heart is the musclethat pumps blood through the physical body. The physi-cal heart far surpasses all known motors in efficiency anddesign. You can be brain dead but the heart can still beatwith life force. But if your heart stops beating, your braindies quickly. The heart beats on its own. How? Even sci-ence can’t answer that question yet. Engineers can hardlyimagine how to improve on the blueprint design of thephysical heart, even with their most ingenious and ad-vanced machines.

In Nutrition Plan for High Blood Pressure Problems(Bircher-Benner), C. Hocrein describes with clear appre-ciation what this blood-pumping muscle really does forus on the physical level of life.

“It works without interruption for 70-80 years, with-out care or cleaning, without repair or replacement,day and night. It beats 100,000 times a day, approxi-mately 40 million times a year, and within 70 yearssupplies the pumping capacity for nearly 3 billioncardiac pulsations. It pumps 2 gallons of blood perminute, 100 gallons per hour, through a vascular

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system about 60,000 miles in length—2 1/2 times thecircumference of the earth.”*

This description tremendously widened my appre-ciation for my own physical heart. Like most people, Ioften just took it for granted. Now, I realized that thephysical heart is a powerful machine made of muscle andtissue, designed by some incredible intelligence. That putto rest any lingering concern that the inner heart wascoldly computerlike in its design and functions. It wasbecoming obvious to me that some higher intelligencewas at work in the precise, mathematical organization ofthe universe—in the design and ordering of stars, physi-cal bodies, atoms, gravity and all other particles andforces. I even read in a recent issue of Good Housekeepinghow the tiny genes in the human body function as elec-trical switches. The combinations of genes that areswitched on or off decide the DNA programs for the de-velopment of all cells in the body—what organs they willbecome, what color eyes you will have and all the rest ofyour physical characteristics. The genes hold your blue-print and carry out their functions in an efficient,computerlike manner.

Opening the HeartMy admiration of the physical heart caused me to

wonder more about the energy and intelligent proper-ties of the inner heart. So one night I asked myself, “If allphysical properties are made of frequencies, what kindof frequencies make up the nonphysical inner heart?” I

* Bircher-Benner, Nutrition Plan for High Blood Pressure, (Jove Publications,1977.)

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focused on my heart center and I noticed I felt more bal-ance, peace, love and fulfillment. I realized these feelingswere coming from the electrical energy system surround-ing the physical heart. Talk about a natural high! I wantedmore of this.

I asked my heart computer how I could sustain thosegood feelings in my day-to-day life. I soon found out how.The very next week at work, my boss offered me a newmanagerial position and told me to think about it for afew days. At first I was excited, but as I considered allthe responsibilities of managing a retail food store I be-gan to feel lots of insecurities about the job. My mindtook every concern and mulled it over and over. “WouldI do well enough? Would people accept me as manager?Would I still have enough time for my family?” As thethoughts raced through my head, I became even moreinsecure. I tried to forget the whole thing and distractmyself with something else, but I was drained and no-ticed I was accumulating more tension and stress. I hada headache that wouldn’t quit. Could all that insecurityhave done this to me? Despair set in. “What should I do?”my thoughts kept asking. I was stuck in a room in mymind with four walls and no door. My mind kept re-hashing the negatives versus the positives about the job,and wouldn’t quit.

Finally, after swallowing two aspirin, I rememberedmy heart and its higher intelligence for making efficientchoices in life. Perhaps, if I really made an effort to re-lease my insecure feelings, I’d get a clear answer. I focused

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energy on my inner heart computer, hoping to gain somewisdom and clarity. Then I started sending love. I lovedthe boss who offered me the job, the store clerks, myhusband, my son and myself. I felt better and realizedthat people often go to the heart to find understandingand reassuring feelings of security when times are tough.It wasn’t any big deal. I remembered how I’d gone to myheart for comfort when my grandfather died. In thosesituations, other people’s words of comfort don’t seemenough to bail you out. The strength to accept and adaptusually has to come from deep inside. Now, by focusingon my real heart feelings, my answers became clear, buoy-ant and strong. I felt a serene knowingness that I shouldtake the job. I felt secure about it.

As my understandings of the heart grew, I realizedthat society’s mushy, sentimental associations with theword “heart” are such a limitation. We don’t usuallythink to call on the heart day-to-day for strength or di-rection in the hustle and bustle of life. Why would we,when most of us tend to think of the heart as the flimsy,emotional part of us that often gets us into trouble? Inthese stress-producing times, most of us misperceive theheart, and miss out on its hidden power of guidance andwisdom.

My contact with the inner heart computer showedme that the heart is not just mushy, soft and emotional—not just something to think about on Valentine’s Dayor when we’re falling in love. The heart has many fre-quency bands of exquisite feelings that add to the texture

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and quality of everyday life. We have words to describethese frequency textures, like care, love, forgiveness andcompassion. In one riveting moment in the heart, it allbecame clear—these heart frequencies were keys for un-locking intuition and more intelligent understanding inmy life. I understood why all the great teachers andfounders of the world religions told their followers tolove and care for each other. Love and care are accesscodes to the deeper heart wisdom, to your higher intelli-gence programs. Heart understanding is a major shift pastordinary thinking. It gives a wider understanding thanis possible with just the analytical or deductive processof linear thinking. You draw more heart intelligence intoyour awareness as you relax the mind and listen to yourinner heart feelings. This process can give you high-speedanswers for your big and small choices in life. The heartis a fountain of wisdom and intuitive suggestions, yet sofew people know how to use it.

Your heart intelligence offers programs vastly dif-ferent from the isolated mind programs most people liveby. Ambition, judgmentalness, greed, hatred and envyare mind frequencies that have their roots in fear andinsecurity. The mind runs programs of fear and insecu-rity when it is cut off from the heart. Without a heartconnection, the mind is left on its own to build deduc-tive programs to run our lives. As a child, I had heardthat love casts out fear. Now I understood why. We re-ally are creating our own lives as we go, by the thoughtsand feelings we allow to operate in our system.

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As I continued to practice focusing on the heart, Idiscovered which feelings activated the heart computer.My heart guidance would encourage me to try attitudesof patience, kindness, appreciation, humor and fun. Eachtime I followed through, and applied the inner wisdom,I noticed that stress would disappear and I’d feel on topof the world again!

It really is each human being’s choice of whichthoughts or feelings we allow to run in our system andfor how long. Sure, it doesn’t seem that way. But withpractice, you can learn to adjust your thoughts and atti-tudes. That’s what self-help programs attempt tofacilitate, but they’d work much better if the heart wereincluded. Social programming and habit have trainedmost of us to live in the mind, caught up in frequenciesof insecurity, worry, resentment and frustration, tryingto figure a way out. Fear and insecurity are meant to bewarning signals, alerting us to our need to take action toprotect ourselves from harm—heart action! But, if we staytoo long in these frequencies, we harm ourselves and di-lute our energy resources. Our minds keep repeatingthese energy-draining thought patterns, and our livesstay stuck on the same old stress merry-go-round.

By choosing to activate and sincerely feel heart fre-quencies, like love, care and compassion, you widen yourreceptivity to the higher intelligence that these heart fre-quencies draw to you. In feeling them, you create a deeperperception of yourself and others. This activates the en-ergy equation: Feeling + Perception = Understanding.

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Your heart and mind then work together in a creativejoint venture.

Most people intuitively know this, but haven’t hadthe step-by-step technology or tools to learn to constantlylive from the heart. The heart is what gives you self-em-powerment, resulting in self-security and self-esteem. Yourheart intelligence is your real teacher—because it ulti-mately has to confirm or reject what any other teacher says.

Heart DirectivesEver since I can remember, I had a yearning for

something that would make me feel complete. I wasraised as a Presbyterian and my family went to churchevery Sunday. We weren’t very religious, but somethingabout Jesus Christ and the feeling of belonging, of fam-ily, and of love that I felt at church confirmed somethinginside me. As a teenager I went with friends to otherchurches, first Catholic, then Baptist and Pentecostal. I was“saved,” and I enjoyed the fellowship. Still, I had a yearn-ing for a deeper level of fulfillment and understanding.

At church, they spoke about the still, small voice.I’d pray and listen but was never sure which voice wasthe right one. With HeartMath, I have realized that thestill, small voice is that intuitive knowingness in the heartthat brings a sense of peace and love and feels right. Iexperienced it more as a feeling than as a voice, thoughat times words would come to me also. It is what youcould call a heart directive because it will give you themost efficient attitude and answers for choices you have

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to make in life. You access heart directives by quietingyour mind, going to your heart computer and focusingon it while sending out love. Sometimes it takes a littletime before you get a readout of intuitive intelligence. Icame to see this as the true process of prayer.

After I accepted that managerial job I realized howtruly powerful a resource the heart is. I was determinedto use my heart computer daily. Instead of trying to solveproblems with my head, I would stop and connect withmy heart intuition the best I could and try to find a heartreadout from that still, small voice inside me. It was justcommon sense. The more I followed through on whatmy heart’s instructions told me, the more effective andfulfilling my life became. The best part is that the voiceof the heart gets louder and clearer the more you prac-tice.

Each of us has our own personal puzzle to solve aswe try to find our balance on the seesaw of life. Our ex-periences are life geometries—different configurations ofpeople, things, events, situations. Your life geometriesform a blueprint for your growth and evolution. Theirpurpose is to bring you more understanding and real-ization about yourself and others. You gain insight intoyour blueprint as you self-empower by acting on yourheart directives. They are your system’s most efficientform of feedback.

As you listen to your heart directives and act onwhat they tell you, you start to reprogram and harmo-

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nize your entire mental and emotional nature to bringbalance and fulfillment. It’s cause and effect. The kind ofenergy you put out is the kind that eventually comes back.Or in biblical terms, you reap what you sow. You createyour own stress or fulfillment according to the programsand attitudes you run through your thoughts and feel-ings each day.

Assets and DeficitsBy practicing what we call at the Institute “the Doc’s

Math,” I learned to identify the energy assets and defi-cits in my system. Certain thoughts and attitudes drainedmy energy and cut off my heart connection, while othersbrought me back in contact with my heart. Feeling theheart frequencies of love, care, forgiveness and appre-ciation always brought me closer to my inner heart. If Igot stuck in judgmental head thoughts, resentments and“poor-me” feelings, my heart computer seemed inacces-sible. But through practice, I was able to turn my focusedattention to either heart frequencies or head frequencies,or a combination of both. It was my choice. I learned thatwe all have a radio dial inside and we can choose whichfrequency we turn the dial to. I realized that’s what self-empowerment is really about.

When I was at work, closing out the cash register,taking inventory or balancing the checkbook, I certainlywanted my head frequencies functioning in full gear.When I was with my family or friends, or by myself, itfelt better to my system to live in the heart feelings of

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love, care and peace. I learned to turn my radio dial tothe heart and put out a lot of love, compassion and ap-preciation. The rewards were a deep sense of fulfillmentmuch of the time.

However, certain situations could still upset me andcatch me off guard. I’d find myself back in the head, jus-tifying my reactions and forgetting that I even had a heart.For example, I never spanked or really disciplined myson when he was very young. At almost three years old,he was so wild and created so many disturbances, thatfriends told me if I didn’t begin to discipline him, he’dsoon be impossible to deal with. He was controlling mylife. My mind wanted to justify all the ways I was a goodmother, and then I felt sorry for myself. I cried and criedabout it. There I was, full of self-pity, drained and upset.But my friends were speaking truth and my heart knewit. So I picked myself up and decided to start disciplin-ing him by asking my heart intuition how to do it. OnceI get a clear understanding of a situation, there’s part ofme that becomes like a warrior, and I carry out what Iknow to be true. So I did. What a turning point this wasin both our lives! His behavior started to improve imme-diately. He knew I meant business, but he also felt mylove. I could see how I was saving a tremendous amountof energy for both of us. Within a month he had changedcompletely. Within six months, the change had stabilized—he had become a beautiful child.

Work was another matter. In my position as a man-ager responsible for several adults, I would set policies.

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When they weren’t followed and other people were af-fected, I’d have to say something. I’d use my heartintelligence to communicate as effectively as I could.Things went well until one employee began to arrive atwork late several days a week—always with some ex-cuse. I spoke with her about it twice. When nothingchanged, I didn’t say any more because I wasn’t the con-fronting type. I found myself avoiding her and not feelingvery good about it. The other employees were gettingresentful and expected me to do something.

One morning I woke up realizing I might have tofire her and it upset me terribly. I’d been doing so wellliving in the heart, my life was going so smoothly, andnow this. I felt angry at her and at life. I slipped back intomy old habit of feeling sorry for myself. When I got homefrom work that day, I was worn out. I didn’t even feellike looking to my heart for an answer. Resentful thoughtskept churning over in my mind, and I knew if I didn’t dosomething they would lead me into more pain and stress.My own intelligence was telling me I had to act now.Like a soldier, I sat on my bed and tried to quiet my rac-ing mind and at least neutralize my feelings. I decided tosend love to this young woman who kept coming in late.I focused on my heart and sincerely felt love for her. Iwas able to let go of the resentments by understandingshe had problems juggling children and work. As I wentdeeper in my heart, I could hear my inner voice say, “Whynot set up a different work schedule for her? See if shewould start work an hour later and, even though it would

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mean less pay, she would still be able to keep the job.”Other than being late, she was a good worker and I knewthe rest of us could handle the store the first hour of theday just fine without her.

What a simple answer! It felt so good. If she didn’twant to do it, then I’d have to let her go, but at least I feltsecure I had a fair alternative. Now it was up to her. Thenext day I called her into my office and proposed thenew plan, with the provision that she agree to always beon time. She was so relieved and grateful that she keptthanking me and said she’d work harder to make up forthat hour. That’s exactly what she did and she was neverlate. This experience made me even more determined toget back into my heart more quickly in the future. Allthat wasted energy from unnecessary worry and stress,a stocking full of deficits, just because I didn’t go to myheart intelligence at the beginning!

It’s Up to YouThe experience of seeing the results of heart intelli-

gence in your life acts as a booster rocket to motivateyou to keep using your heart for a readout on big or smalldecisions. You begin to see different life geometries asopportunities—either for empowerment and accumulat-ing energy or for self-victimization and accumulatingstress. It’s your decision.

The basis of heart empowerment as a complete sys-tem for fulfillment starts with remembering to quiet yourmind, go to your heart, and follow your own heart direc-

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tives to manage the regular day-to-day situations of life.You realize you are responsible for how you manageyour system. It’s your own inner business. You achievebalance by listening to your heart directives and self-correcting your inefficient thoughts, feelings andattitudes with heart power. It’s just common sense togo for that feeling of knowingness inside. Most of ushave a lot of old programming to clear out and repro-gram with wiser energy-saving attitudes. No one else isgoing to do it for you. No one else is going to give youfulfillment. Your security lies within you, just waitingfor you to find it.

The dance of life does not have to be a slow waltz.It can be any type of dance you want, but sometimes awaltz is nice. As you dance through life you can findthe perfect rhythm and balance for you. If you don’t runtoo fast or walk too slow, you can find a fun, fulfillingskip. As you learn what creates assets or deficits in yoursystem, you gain more power to transform what doesn’tfeel good to you. In HeartMath seminars, we teachpeople how to create a personal energy management bal-ance sheet. You use the balance sheet by observingyourself each day to see what drained your energy (yourstress-producing attitudes and responses to situations)and what added to your energy and well-being (yourenergy-accumulating attitudes and responses). You pin-point each deficit and ask your heart how to turn thatdeficit into an asset. Then you use heart directives tomake the most energy-efficient attitude adjustments.

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Just as I was starting to edit this chapter, the LosAngeles riots broke out. In the aftermath of the RodneyKing verdict and the burning rubble of South Central LosAngeles, people everywhere were asking themselves,“What can we do?” Rich and poor, movie stars and home-less, blacks, whites, Koreans, Hispanics, all were pitchingin together to sweep up the debris and provide food andclothing to the riot victims. Community feeling wasstrong. People asked each other, “Why does it alwaysseem to take a crisis to bring us together?” On the TVevening news, a volunteer street sweeper was inter-viewed. He was asked, “Do you think there’s some waythat we can care for each other and cooperate to preventthis from happening again?” He answered, “We need togo back to the basic core values and have more heart,more understanding and compassion for each other.”This TV interview inspired me to write a little faster.

Understand that the heart is not just some quick fix.There are no quick fixes. But from my experience andthe experiences of all my friends at the Institute, heartintelligence does provide sound answers and solid, long-term solutions. Everything else has been tried. Why nottry going back to basics and really learn to love and carefor each other at deeper, more sincere levels?

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Ch ap t e r 3

The HeadSo how does the head relate to self-empowerment?

Most of us want more brain power. People spend thou-sands of dollars on courses to sharpen their mental skills.Have you ever felt overwhelmed by all the seminars,books and information available everywhere? Throughcomputer databases, we now can access volumes of de-tails on practically any subject. Even if you studied 24hours a day, you couldn’t learn it all.

The brain/mind/intellect is a fantastic and compli-cated piece of machinery. For the sake of simplicity, I’llrefer to them collectively as the head, since they operatetogether within a certain frequency range of intelligencecalled head frequency bands. The principal function ofthe head is to sort, process and analyze information. Thehead also assesses, calculates, memorizes and compares.It is a very important and useful part of your system,and you would have a hard time surviving without it.You wouldn’t be able to think, drive a car, speak, read,

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write, or get around in life without a good head on yourshoulders.

But, again, as wonderful as the head can be, whenit’s not connected with your heart frequencies and isn’trunning efficient programs, it creates a lot of stress. Arecent survey of American workers revealed that 62%frequently experience mental tension and anxiety; 45%say they often experience headaches due to stress. Someof the most common stress-producing head frequenciesare self-judgments and judgments of others, fear, envy,resentment and worry. Can you see how these mentalattitudes and reactions are by-products of comparison,assessment or analysis without the wider understand-ing of the heart?

Let me explain. Let’s say you are envious or evenresentful when a friend gets a lot of attention because ofa new hairstyle. In that moment, you compare yourselfand you don’t feel very attractive. Or someone at workgets a compliment for a job well done and you don’t, soyou feel hurt and unappreciated. But, if you activatedyour heart, it would give you the security to realize thata compliment for another person doesn’t take away fromyou. In your heart, you’d remember that a lot of peopleget fussed over when they change their hairstyle. Yourheart would know that you’ve received compliments foryour work at other times and that you can be glad forothers when it’s their turn to be acknowledged. Theseare simple examples of how the hidden power of the heart

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can help change your thoughts and save you from thesubtle stress of self-judgment and insecurity.

While the head is a beautiful piece of machinery,far too much emphasis has been given to its develop-ment without the proper tools for its management. Oureducational systems emphasize head knowledge insteadof heart wisdom. It’s the combination of both that bringshigher intelligence, balance and the real understandingneeded to reconstruct our society. The head and heartfrequencies are designed to work together. When theunmanaged head operates without the wisdom of theheart, it often creates distorted perspectives, resulting instressful thoughts and emotions. On its own, the headjust doesn’t have a wide enough range of intelligence toachieve a frequency perspective that creates balance andfulfillment instead of stress. That’s what the heart is de-signed for. Without the heart involved, the headprocessors often won’t shut off, like an old LP recordstuck in a groove or a cassette tape in an endless loop.

Managing your HeadIn your conscious mind, thoughts run rampant a

lot of the time. Have you ever come home after a longday at work, or after a misunderstanding with someone,and found yourself still thinking about what happened?Sometimes you know you’re out in left field and you’dlike to just stop it, but you can’t. So, maybe you have acouple of drinks, or look for some other kind of stimula-tion to try to shut off your head. But even if this works

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for a while, the thoughts soon come back, sometimes inthe middle of the night and even stronger than before.This is because the true addictions in life are our thoughtpatterns. Physical addictions to alcohol, drugs, etc., of-ten result from our urge to escape unfulfilling thoughtpatterns. These addictive thoughts become realities weare creating, resulting in stress and wear and tear on thehuman body. They never bring peace of mind.

Take a look at this common scenario: First you feelfrustrated with someone, then you assess their faults, thenyou feel justified in your feelings, then the anger startsand the negative thought patterns spin, obscuring yourview of reality. That’s a typical example of a head pro-gram running in a loop. Each time the loop goes around,your thoughts increase in speed, intensifying your emo-tions. So you convince yourself that things are even worsethan you first thought.

In his popular book, Healing The Shame That BindsYou, John Bradshaw explains, “Mental obsession, goingover and over something, is part of the addictive cycle.”*When emotional energy is added to your head proces-sors, they spin and spin and, like a magnet, attractadditional, similar thought patterns. Another example:If you are late for work and then an important businessdeal falls through, it’s likely you won’t have much pa-tience in the traffic jam going home. When you arrivehome, it’s also likely you will carry those impatient, frus-trated energies with you and they will affect your wife,

* John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You, (Health Comm., 1988)

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your children, the rest of your night and possibly the restof your life.

There are several ways to stop negative head pro-cessors. You can divert your attention to something elsethat your mind finds more stimulating (although thenegative processors usually come back later). You canstop when your system finally crashes—physically, emo-tionally or mentally. Or you can consciously choose tostop negative thoughts by practicing specific tools thathelp you switch your frequencies.

The last alternative is obviously the most efficient.You can’t necessarily change the events of the day, butyou can stop your negative reactions to them. The firststep is realizing that negative thought loops will onlyaccumulate more stress. If you don’t stop them, negativeattitudes and patterns will continue to cycle through yoursystem and color the rest of your day. You can practicetransforming these energies by making an effort to goback to your heart power to at least neutralize yourthoughts until you gain a wider perspective and deeperunderstanding. The ability to even neutralize negativemental and emotional patterns saves you a lot of stressand prepares you for the next step in heart empowerment.

“Well, maybe this will work with minor problems,”you might say, “but some things are really major andvery complex. How could the heart possibly provide aperspective that would really make things better? Whatif I were in a car wreck or I lost my job?”

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If an event is extremely disheartening, it can be aserious shock to your system. Accidents, job loss, divorce,illness, death, catastrophes, are all events in life that manypeople feel are impossible to accept or make peace with.But eventually, they usually do (often after many years).Finding heart understanding is always part of the pro-cess. Nobody really wants to stay in pain, but it can bevery hard for the mind and emotions to let go of the headfrequency perspective that keeps the pain alive. It takesan infusion of heart power to do that.

The heart understands that it can take some time tofind peace in a crisis situation. Using your heart intelli-gence will speed up the process. The efficient way todissolve the pain is to go back to the heart for a deeperunderstanding rather than let the head processors runwild and distort any insight your heart wants to give you.You achieve this by keeping the mind in neutral, so thatthe heart has a chance to give you a readout. Putting themind in neutral means simply trying not to think any-thing about the particular subject anymore. Just make aneffort to put it on the shelf, still your mind and “be” thebest you can until you can feel your heart again. This isn’tburying the problem. It’s having the hope and understand-ing that allows your heart to give you the love andintelligence that can help.

The longer you let negative thought patterns run,the more intensified they become and the harder theyare to stop. You don’t have to let stress build and accu-mulate to the point of anguish, tears of despair and

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numbness. That’s where unmanaged head processors canand do take most people in a crisis. Once numbness setsin, release seems far away, and the process of recoveryfeels like it will take forever. It can take people months,years, sometimes their whole lifetime to forgive and makepeace with an event. (Some people never do.) But, bymanaging your head processors with your heart, a re-lease will come so you can survive and move on withyour life.

There is hope! You do have choice. Whatever is hap-pening to you—whether it’s a problem with a person, aplace, or with thoughts that arise from a past memory ora future fear—you have choice on how you process theexperience. Your perspective in the moment will influ-ence which direction you take. Your most efficient courseof action is to go to your heart and gain the widest pos-sible perspective. Don’t just assume you know what todo from your first head reaction.

How We Make Mountains Out of MolehillsLet’s take a deeper look at how head processors

work. If you’ve just received bad news—let’s say yourchild got poor marks at school or a business deal youwere counting on fell through—it can be a disappoint-ment that deeply affects your feelings and emotions. Asyour feelings signal a disturbance, your head formulatesthe news into thoughts and creates a frequency perspec-tive. If you don’t manage your head at this point, it willstart its mechanical program of running mental tapes

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based on that perspective—usually tapes of dismay, frus-tration, self-pity and so on. The head magnetically callsup from memory similar experiences you’ve had, whichreinforce that frequency perspective. Then the head pro-gram keeps running that perspective in a loop, addingenergy to the loop, building the problem into a moun-tain, a crisis, instead of just a small bump in life. Theunmanaged head can act just like a computer that runsout of control due to a program virus.

When you find yourself in a loop, it’s time to goback to your heart—pronto—and get a new programfrom the mainframe. The heart program will bring in amore powerful frequency that feels better to your sys-tem. Then the head will dutifully formulate thatfrequency into new thoughts to give you a new frequencyperspective of the situation based on heart intelligence.

When I first began to observe how this processworks in my own system, I became aware that I oftenexperienced energies that affected my feelings beforethoughts and processors would start up. Sometimes Iwould just feel insecure, seemingly for no reason at all.It was impossible for me to always understand what fre-quencies were affecting my feeling world. You mightnotice this at times in yourself, too.

For example, if you are sitting by a pond surroundedby woods, the frequencies might feel tranquil, peacefuland serene, affecting your thoughts in a positive way. Ifyou are in a traffic jam in New York, with horns blowingand car exhaust irritating your sinuses, the frequencies

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might make you feel tense and nervous, affecting yourthoughts in a negative way. You can start to regain a senseof security in a stressful environment by first finding aninner silence within yourself. (It’s really not that hard.Your heart’s right there waiting for you to ask it for as-sistance—even in New York City.) Then, if you ask yourheart questions, you’ll receive answers that give you moreunderstanding of your feelings. A sense of security comeswith understanding. But it does require practice to buildthat connection between your head and your heart.

Observing this process was a major breakthroughfor me. Since childhood, if someone even spoke to me ina sharp tone of voice, I’d feel hurt, take it personally andoften cry. I was sensitive to their energies and didn’t knowif I’d done something wrong. Once, when I was aroundfive years old, a friend’s mother was driving us homefrom our ballet class. She stopped in front of a house,turned to me and asked crossly if this was where I lived.I felt so hurt that I said yes and ran out of the car, eventhough it was pouring rain and I lived several blocksaway. I arrived home soaking wet. It never occurred tome she might have been having a bad day.

When I decided to explore the heart, one of the firstthings I wanted to manage was my over-sensitivity whichoften dragged me around the block in a cycle that wasdifficult to break. My hurt feelings were so real to me, Ifelt justified in having them. This would distort my per-spective of the whole situation. When my head tookcontrol and processed the insecurity, it seemed forever

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before I could feel my heart again. Each time this hap-pened I’d wonder why I kept doing that to myself. Itwasn’t until I started to follow my intuitive directivesthat I stopped identifying with my insecure feelings andbegan to find balance. Finding that sense of knowingnessinside gave me a powerful connection with my inner se-curity, enabling me to feel other people’s hearts and seetruth more clearly. It was a big insight to realize that myinsecure reactions to other people were draining away mypower. I finally realized that if people gave me a strangelook or spoke in a strong tone of voice, it wasn’t neces-sarily my fault. Very often, they were just under stress.The feeling of power that came into my heart as I learnedto manage my over-sensitivity was deeply fulfilling.

It’s great to use your head frequencies to gather in-formation and data. Then your heart can take thatinformation and give you a truthful perspective. That iswhat your heart mainframe is designed to do—if you useit. The head and heart—in joint venture—bring youknowingness, understanding and release. It’s also fun!

When you first start to practice going to your heart,a satisfying understanding may come right away, seem-ingly like magic, accompanied by a new heart feeling.The speed and timing of your understanding depend onyour ability to control your conscious mind with theheart, calm down and find your inner silence. If you trythis on minor problems along the way, you build an in-ner muscle you can rely on when major problems or crisis

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situations occur. Remember, the mind wasn’t designedto manage itself; that’s what the heart is for.

Managing Unconscious ThoughtsEveryone has old, unconscious programs from

childhood and previous events in life that are stored inthe cellular level of their system. Our physical, mentaland emotional natures are so intertwined that our cellsactually remember old hurts and pains. That’s why somememories seem so difficult to release. By using your heartcomputer, you can erase them. If you find yourself in afog and can’t seem to tell the difference between yourhead thoughts and heart perceptions, rest the head awhileand give the heart a chance to work. The head may stilltry to keep fogging your view with thought patterns. Justpractice bringing your focus of attention back to the heart,feeling love for yourself in the heart center. Even if onlya partial understanding comes, be patient, keep practic-ing and soon life will feel better. Patience is a powerfulheart frequency that helps activate the understanding youare looking for.

A close friend, Debbie, has a “24 hour” rule. Nomatter how difficult the problem may be, she’s foundthat if she puts it on the shelf and tries to stay in her heart,within 24 hours an insight or solution nearly alwayscomes. By telling herself that 24 hours is the longest itwill take to feel better again, she can be patient and letthe heart do its work. The more responsible you are indirecting your conscious mind with positive thoughts

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from the heart, the more your spirit can speed up theprocess of learning and growing, and you can move oninto a more fulfilling life.

Without the heart perspective, the unmanaged headwill keep re-creating the same old negative thoughts andfeelings from the unconscious cellular programs in yourmemory. These negative programs generate inharmoni-ous energy and stressful experiences that deplete yourvitality. Left unchecked, the recycling of unconsciousnegative programs accelerates the aging process, leadsto disease and can even cause death.

Crystallization and Mind-setsCrystallization is a process that occurs when a

thought pattern becomes imprinted in the mind andbody. When you become crystallized (or hardened) inyour ways, you have no desire to see and understand awider perspective or improve attitudes within yourself.You quit caring whether or not things change or get bet-ter. You become limp to life. Crystallizations often formaround attachments to “belief structures,” your conceptsabout the way things are. They can form around attach-ments to anything.

If you’re attached to certain creature comforts, andbelieve you’ve always got to have them, you lose the flex-ibility that you had as a child when you were alwaysready for adventure. Some adults will no longer go tothe beach because they don’t like getting sand in theirclothes. Others will turn down a hike in the woods be-

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cause they fear they’ll be tired the next morning. Newpeople and new ideas are a bigger challenge when you’recrystallized in your ways. Life just can’t deliver all thegifts it wants to give you.

Thought patterns race through the mind like wildhorses that are hard to stop once they get going. But, thereare places on the trail where the mind can balk, just likea horse that stubbornly refuses to go through a stream.These places are called mind-sets. The mind decides thatit “knows what it knows” and leaves no room for newperspectives. Some good examples of this are: Oncepeople were sure the earth was flat, but now we knowit’s been round all the time. Once people used to say thatif man were meant to fly he’d have wings, but now thereare jumbo jets. You probably know someone who has ahairstyle or wears clothes today that he or she “wouldn’thave been caught dead in” ten years ago. How manypeople do you know who now have diets, lifestyles, be-liefs or political views that they once criticized others forhaving? As life variables change, your perspectives andthought patterns have to be able to change too. Don’tbecome stagnant in “knowing what you know.” You onlyhurt yourself when you’re not expanding and growing.Many people can’t stand the thought of aging, but it’sthe crystallized thought patterns and inflexible mind-setsthat age people before their time. You can break throughand challenge your crystallized patterns and mind-sets.That’s what evolution and the expansion of love arereally about.

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Can a home builder proceed efficiently without in-terfacing with the architect? The head can run off on itsown without understanding the heart’s real plans. If thehead receives its directions from the heart and they worktogether harmoniously, you will put your house in or-der. Your head will become that “right hand assistant”you’ve always wanted. Functioning as part of your higherself or intuition, the head will formulate the energy ofhigher intelligence into thoughts and new perspectives.The mind becomes illuminated, enlightened, and func-tions at its fullest potential when it operates creatively inits intended capacity—programmed and directed by theheart.

History is full of stories of people who were thrustinto positions of leadership and power when all they re-ally wanted was to help the leader get the job done. Theynever quite feel suited to the responsibility of the top joband keep wishing life would go back to the way it waswhen they were the right-hand assistant. In a similar way,the head is not really fulfilled trying to run the wholeshow and often creates more stress for itself so the heartwill finally take over. In the TV series Star Trek: The NextGeneration, Captain Jean-Luc Picard demonstrates heartwisdom. He uses Data, a fantastic computer mind, as hisassistant and Counselor Troy, who has deep heart feel-ings, as his advisor. He makes the final decisions basedon heart wisdom—a joint venture between the head andthe heart.

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In today’s world, millions of people are realizingthat listening only to their heads is stress-producing andthat there must be a better way. As more people explorethe hidden power of the heart, humanity will becomeaware of its potential for fulfillment. After all, it’s whatour head and our heart both really want.

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C h ap t e r 4

StressThe Social Disease

We already know that being emotionally distressed,being constantly anxious or constantly depressed isn’tso healthy,” says professor of clinical psychology,Jonathan Shedler of the Institute of Advanced Psycho-logical Studies at Adelphi University. But suppressingdistress may be even worse, according to Shedler’s newresearch, reported in the San Jose Mercury News.

“It is not known what percentage of people who con-sider themselves psychologically healthy havehidden distress. Such problems are hard to detectin oneself, but they may appear in indirect wayssuch as unexplained headaches or stomach aches,or friends might notice that a person appears anx-ious or unhappy.”

Many people who don’t think they have stress justdon’t recognize the symptoms, or deny what’s going oninside until they take a deeper look.

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Stress: The Social Disease

Let’s take a “stress check.” How often do you have any ofthese symptoms of stress?

❏ feeling you have no time (feeling rushed?)❏ moodiness—lots of ups and downs (feeling tired?)❏ bored—lack of care (feeling depressed?)❏ quick to get irritated or frustrated (feeling anxious?)❏ short tempered (feeling angry?)❏ feeling unloved or unliked (feeling unfulfilled?)❏ headaches—too much to cope with (feeling disheartened?)❏ can’t shut your mind off and relax (feeling tense?)

All these symptoms of stress are like alarm clocksgoing off, signaling a person’s inefficient energy expen-ditures. They are your system’s natural way of givingfeedback, of telling you something needs adjusting. Dothey sound familiar?

Stress is an important life factor to consider. Shedlerfound that people who were hiding unresolved anxietieseven from themselves showed an unusual jump in heart-beat and blood pressure when doing stressful tasks. Thiscan lead to a higher risk of heart disease. New researchlinks anger to a change in heart function. As reported bythe New York Times,

“In the study, [Dr. Gail] Ironson and her colleaguesmeasured the heart’s pumping efficiency in 18 pa-tients with coronary artery disease while theyrecounted an episode that still made them angry.As the patients recalled the episodes, the pumpingefficiency of their hearts decreased an average of

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five percentage points; seven of the patients had adecline of seven percentage points or greater. Car-diologists regard a decline of that magnitude asevidence of a myocardial ischemia, a drop in bloodflow to the heart itself.”

Let’s look at a few more studies and statistics. YaleUniversity researchers found that, “People who react tosituations with strong emotions, particularly anger, areespecially likely to die of cardiac arrest.” The AmericanInstitute of Stress reported, “Studies tie overproductionof stress-related hormones to unbalanced immune sys-tems and to many health problems.” The Journal ofNeuroscience published the results of a study that showeddirect evidence that prolonged exposure to stress canaccelerate the aging of brain cells in the same region ofthe brain affected by Alzheimer’s disease, leading to im-pairment of learning and memory. Research conductedover a twenty-year period by London University’s Insti-tute of Psychiatry found that people who bottled up theiremotions under stress were likely to be more prone tocancer. Cigarette smoking or eating foods high in cho-lesterol by themselves had less effect in causing diseasethan did negative reactions to stress.

Stress is quickly proving to be the leading cause ofdeath. Under stress, the energy in a person’s system be-comes short-circuited and their energy accumulatorsbecome drained. As stressful reactions to situations keeprecurring, your entire system runs down. Everyone hastheir own threshold of stress tolerance, and that tolerance

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point is being reached by millions. Look around you.Look at our society. People are getting to the point wherethey no longer care much about anything and are justtrying to survive. They are engaged in a constant effortto meet basic physical needs like food and water, warmthand shelter, a car and money for gas. Their main pur-pose in life is staying alive. When this happens, the mindbecomes numb and dormant and can cross the line ofsanity to protect the heart from sadness, despair and to-tal heartbreak.

Stress is the mental and physical strain caused byhaving more to cope with than one can comfortablyhandle. The missing formula for stress relief is withinyour heart. Learning a procedure to de-stress as you gois a lot smarter than having to undergo some other pro-cedure like open heart surgery, chemotherapy orradiation. It’s your choice. You can prevent the latter ifyou learn to de-stress as you go. It’s strong, unmanagedhead frequency bands that block one’s heart intelligencefrom being able to prevent and release stress. I know,because like most people I have some strong head bands.I feel things deeply, and if something hurts, my head will-ingly jumps right in to find out why. It can process andprocess, accumulating loads of stress if I let it.

Watching Your ReactionsLet me give you an example of what one of my typi-

cal stressful days used to be like. See if it resembles someof your own. I’d be awakened in the morning by the phone

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ringing, then a voice on the answering machine remind-ing me about the PTA meeting that night. I’d yell at themachine, look at the clock and see that I was going to belate for work unless I hurried. I’d rush to the bathroom,spill shampoo all over the rug, and get angry at myselffor being so clumsy. I’d tell my son three different timesto get out of bed, quickly throw together his breakfast,get exasperated because he couldn’t find his homeworkagain, help him find it, and send him off to school. Then,I’d grab coffee and toast for myself and run out the door,only to discover I hadn’t put gas in the car. Frustratedand telling myself, “I can’t believe how stupid I am,” I’dwait in the line at the self-serve gas station, listen to thenews report about the highest unemployment figures inyears and try to fix my hastily applied makeup as I staredat the bags under my eyes in the rear view mirror. I’d getgasoline all over my hands as I filled the tank and have tosmell it in the car all the way to work. By the time I’d getto work, several other ladies would be lined up outsidethe only rest room and I’d sit at my desk, heart pound-ing, blood pressure rising, already stressed-out, with thework day only just starting. Does this sound like any ofyour days?

At the Institute of HeartMath, we’ve come to seestress as an inharmonious energy or experience that re-sults from our inefficient reactions. I had quite a fewinharmonious experiences on the day I just described.By the time I left work, I was exhausted and felt like Ihad a tight band around my head. Remembering days

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like that, I understood what this definition of stress re-ally meant. It was my negative reaction to each event thatdetermined the level of my stress. My frustrated reactions tothe minor, everyday hassles created my stress and con-stricted the flow of my energy. I was the one responsiblefor draining the spirit out of me.

A constant dose of minor irritations and griping willfeed back in your system over time, robbing you of yourenergy and vitality. It’s really not the major crises thatcreate the most stress. As I’ve said, in a major crisis,people do tend to go to their hearts. People seek outfriendship and receive understanding from others. Justthink of all the heartwarming stories of communitiesbanding together after a disaster like an earthquake, floodor fire. It’s really the constant daily hassles that cause somany to say they experience high levels of stress. A re-cent Harris poll showed that 89% of all adults—158million Americans from all walks of life—experiencewhat they call high levels of stress. Shelton MarketingCommunications reported that 90% of all adults theysurveyed said they experience high levels of stress onceor twice a week; 25% experience high levels of stress ev-ery day. No wonder 75% of all doctors’ visits are forstress-related complaints!

As a society, we tend to assume that continual irri-tations are a necessary part of life. Many businessexecutives and managers still believe that high stress lev-els on the job are essential for productivity and a strongwork ethic. But statistics are proving otherwise. Research

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is showing that our reactions to the “little hassles” re-lease more negative hormones into the body and causemore disease than a single, big stressful event. Littlehassles create “silent stress,” constant negative innermental and emotional dialogue (like judging yourself orothers). This depletes your energy, accelerates the agingprocess and stifles inner growth and effectiveness. Abuildup of reactions to little hassles can actually cause amore traumatic response to a major event later on.

Managing your reactions to stressful situations isthe key to health and well-being. Stress is not just an ef-fect. Stress accumulated in the system not only causesmany major life crises—like divorce, a teenager in trouble,a heart attack, drug or alcohol addiction, and many otherchronic human, social problems—but diminishes ourability to deal with them effectively. Pain is the result.

Pain is louder stress, a screaming alarm bell warn-ing us that something’s not right. Irritation + frustration+ anger + judgment + resentment = a guaranteed for-mula for stress. A lot of stress eventually brings pain.When you overload your head computer with negativethoughts and feelings, you eventually “CRASH,” atwhich point you cease to function normally, mentally,emotionally or physically. A crash can be excruciating.

After a crash people usually finally stop to ask,“Why?” “Why me?” or “Why does this keep happeningto me?” Each person’s system, because of their blueprintand their responses to events in life, will have variousthresholds of stress tolerance. At some point, after too

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many inefficient responses, you can become so over-loaded physically that your health deteriorates, or sooverloaded emotionally that you choose suicide—deathis your means to finally end the pain.

Life is a gift, even though it doesn’t always appearthat way. Sometimes life feels like a gift you want to re-turn. It’s often hard for people to understand why thingshappen—why they lost their job, or why they lost afriendship or a prized possession. How could a loss be agift? Life is not necessarily what you would call a logicalsequence of events. But even the seemingly illogicalevents actually have plenty of make-sense to them if youcould see and understand the entire picture of your blue-print. As understanding comes and you fill in more piecesof the puzzle, life becomes an adventure—a dream cometrue. By using heart intelligence, you can discover yourpurpose in life.

The Stress EpidemicStressors are stimuli that can cause physiological or

behavioral changes in people. When people can’t handlestressors efficiently, whether on the job or at home, in-ternal stress results. Often we can’t change ourenvironment, at least not in the moment. We can, how-ever, change ourselves so that we can handle ourenvironment without creating stress in ourselves.

Ironically, many people who want to change theworld become so frustrated, angry and resentful, theydilute their power to change the conditions that cause

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their frustration. You can see this in certain people in theenvironmental, abortion rights, equal opportunity andpeace movements. This is not to say that we shouldn’twork for social change. But by learning to manage ourstress, we can increase our power to implement the posi-tive changes we want to see.

Many people have told me they prefer to have somestress in their lives. It provides stimulation and motiva-tion. They call it positive stress. At the Institute, we callthis “creative resistance energy.” It’s different from stress.When you creatively respond to stressors or resistances,you don’t experience stress in yourself. Instead, the stres-sor becomes a fun challenge, an opportunity for growth,like weight lifting. You build a positive strength as youcreatively respond rather than react. Then the stressordoesn’t drain you. You feel good inside. Stress, on theother hand, never feels good, nor does it make for a ful-filling lifestyle. Stress ages you. It’s the culprit, the ignitionkey to hundreds of diseases.

The power to think yourself into misery is withinyou, but the power to stop it is within you also. Lack ofself-management is what can cause a massive stressbuildup within a person’s system. The mind bouncesback and forth with thoughts—about the day, about thefuture, about the past, about “Where should I be?” “Whatshould I do next?” “Which direction should I go?” andon and on. When the head gets going, it can seize on athought and make a headstrong decision that is not eas-

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ily restrained. If that decision doesn’t work out as youhoped, you can feel miserable, defeated.

Global stress is accumulating at a faster rate in the’90s because of constant unmanaged head processors,nervous systems on overload and the pressure to makefast decisions in a time of rapid change. As C. W. Metcalf,author of the book Lighten Up, says, “The ascending rateof change in society has made things tough every day.We’re having to adapt more often, with less prepara-tion, on more issues, than at any other time in history.”*The struggle to make decision after decision has becomeso confusing and overwhelming that people are frus-trated with life.

Turn on the evening news for an hour. You cancount on getting a stress report on the economy, the en-vironment, politics and more. Over the last twenty years,mental labor has replaced physical labor throughoutmuch of the world. As a result, mental stress has be-come epidemic. Businesses are reeling from the lateststress statistics. A survey by Northwestern National LifeInsurance released in 1992 reported that: 34% of U.S.workers said they considered quitting their jobs becauseof excess stress; 46% described their jobs as highly stress-ful (twice as many as in 1985); and 33% said they believejob stress will lead them to “burn out” soon.

* C.W. Metcalf, Lighten Up: Let C.W. Metcalf Show you How to be MoreProductive, Resilient & Stress-free by Taking Laughter Seriously, (Addison-Wesley, 1992)

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Worker’s compensation claims are climbing dra-matically as a result of job stress claims. A typical stresscase is likely to be twice as costly as the average indus-trial injury claim—more than $15,000 each in medicaltreatment and lost work time. In his book Self Empower-ment: The Heart Approach to Stress Management; CommonSense Strategies, stress researcher Doc Childre, founderand president of the Institute of HeartMath says,

“It would startle most businesses to have a computerreadout weekly, showing the amount of work-timetheir employees spent thinking and emoting overtheir problems. Then, if you had another computerreadout showing the amount of negative hormonesreleased into the body as a result of those thinkinghabits, and the health consequences, in the name ofsmart business you would want to make some men-tal and emotional adjustments. Computers can’tgenerate all that data yet, so we don’t have to facethe facts. Yet, the facts of stress will find us—any-how. The stress deficit accrues, whether or not weare conscious of it.”

When we first introduced our HeartMath trainingsto businesses, industry consultants confirmed that men-tal/emotional self-management is the missing link intheir seminars, trainings and wellness programs. Accord-ing to Industry Week magazine, for the sake of survival,as well as for bottom-line profit, “Employers ought to bebegging to help people find the most enjoyable, fulfill-ing and creative way to do their job.”

When you are exhausted, overwhelmed andstressed, your days aren’t fun, adventurous or fulfilling

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at all. As stress sets in and isn’t released, it wears andtears on your entire system. It wears and tears on thefamily, schools, businesses, government—the entire so-cial system. There is great injury happening to individualsin our society today as a result of stress. Much of it oc-curs silently inside. It occurs inside the mind before itinflicts itself on others or on one’s own body. There is away out. You can start by learning to balance yourself,day-to-day, by using your heart computer—your higherintelligence. As you practice, you will discover that thereis a place beyond suffering. You begin to see clearly thatyou can choose how you react to any situation in life.

Nine years ago, my higher intelligence began to in-still in me a sense of purpose. I was exploring the pristineenergies of the universe (the heavenly worlds) and deeplywished that I could convey the feeling of love I felt thereto this world. There is no density, no stress or strain; thereis a freedom that you can hardly imagine. There is a peace—that became my mission. “Peace on Earth, Goodwilltowards Men.” Through the hidden power of the heart,it really is possible to bring the peace of heaven to earth.As you learn to manage your day-to-day stress, you willfind your next level of peace. Peace is the opposite ofstress. Those two frequencies—peace and stress—cannotlive in the same place as they cancel each other out. It iseach individual’s choice. The game of life is a game withyou and you. You can heart empower yourself, once youknow how. You can de-stress your life. It starts with de-stressing the simple, ordinary day-to-day hassles.

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Spend a little time quieting your mind and askingyourself, “During the course of a day, week or month,do I accumulate more stress or more peace?” To recap:Start to recognize your mental and emotional responsepatterns. Observe and identify whether your responseto stressors is from the heart or from head reactions. Seewhere head reactions take you. Evaluate whether theyare efficient or inefficient expenditures of your energy,and then self-correct. Access your heart intelligence andapply what your own heart tells you to do—in your atti-tudes, your understandings, your communications withothers and your actions. With self-management you canachieve real peace and inner security in a stressful world.

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Higher and Lower Heart Frequencies

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Higher and LowerHeart Frequencies

One of the biggest pieces of the puzzle fell in placefor me with Christian, my 10-year-old boy. I love himdearly, but at times my feelings of love took me intoinsecurity and over-attachment. Like all parents, Iwanted him to excel in school and be well-liked. WhenI’d hear reports of him acting in a mean way to some-one, my heart would hurt. I’d take it personally andwonder what I was doing wrong. How can the hearthurt? Why does love hurt? Understanding, as I did,about the heart computer, this feeling of hurt didn’tcompute!

Millions of people today are afraid to love becausethey fear being hurt, rejected and feeling the pain of abroken heart. Once burned, they don’t want to touch hotcoals again. Others see the heart as gushy, sentimentaland getting them into trouble when they feel deeply about

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things. A lot of people have experienced so much hurtand disappointment, they have shut down their heartsin self-protection and feel detached, even numb. Theyhave vivid memories, as a child or young adult, of open-ing their heart, only to have someone they loved trampleon it. There are thousands of marriage counselors andtherapists trying to help people regain a sense of inti-macy in relationships. While our society values an honest,sincere heart, it is wary of the vulnerable, open heart.

I puzzled over this apparent contradiction. I wasn’tgoing to stop loving and caring. What else is there? Thatwould be denying what makes life worth living. I sin-cerely wondered how it was that my love and care couldgive me peace and happiness, then lead me into hurt andstress. Wasn’t this the very issue philosophers, artists andpoets had tussled with throughout the centuries?

My friends and I began to take these questions toheart—to the heart computer. As I focused on my heartand sent peaceful feelings of love to Christian, I realizedI was leaking my power because of my attachment towhat others might think. The fear that they might judgeme or him was creating my hurt. It wasn’t “love” thatwas hurting at all. By bringing those thoughts and fearsback to my heart and just loving, I saw that people wereonly trying to help me. This gave me a huge sense ofrelease. I also saw my child in a balanced way. Yes, therewere areas where I could help him improve his behavior,but he really was a good kid who rarely caused prob-lems. I realized it wasn’t my love that had created my

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insecurities; it was my over-sensitivity which caused meto take things personally.

This answer was the tip of the iceberg for yet an-other understanding of the nature of the heart. At theInstitute we discovered that the heart has both lower andhigher frequency bands with all sorts of ratios and col-orations in between. To visualize higher and lower heartfrequencies, realize that the universe is filled with an in-finite number of radio-type frequency bands. Each personis their own unique radio station, with their own pat-tern, design, colors, textures and sonics. Each individual’sradio station is tuned to different frequencies at differ-ent times. While some frequencies affect us unconsciouslyand we can’t do much about them, we always have choicein how we respond to the frequencies we are aware of.

Heart frequencies are the “feelings” you experience;and feelings are what make life worthwhile. Higher heartfrequency bands are the higher aspects of human nature,feelings such as love, care, compassion, tolerance, pa-tience, appreciation and kindness. These frequencies areaccessed from the core of the heart. The primary coreheart frequency is “just love” or “just love the people,”which we will talk a lot about. The higher heart bandsare of a sincere and caring nature. They are always ben-eficial to your system and to others. As you broadcastthese frequencies, they regenerate you throughout yourday. They enhance your immune system and are the truefountain of youth.

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Higher heart feelings don’t compare; neither do theyblame or judge. When you are tuned to these heart feel-ings, you realize that each individual is doing the bestthey can. Higher heart frequencies are the doorway tohigher intelligence and wider comprehension.

How Lower Heart Frequencies Affect YouLower heart frequencies are heart feelings colored

with sentiment, attachment, expectations and overcare.Lower heart bands bring unpleasant feelings of worry,anxiety, hurt and feeling sorry for yourself or someoneelse. When love turns into attachment or compassion getscolored with sympathy, your heart energies are pulledinto density, often feeding back in your system as hurtand sadness. Love can seem like the cause of that hurt,especially when the initial heart feeling is deep and sin-cere. In reality, it’s what our head does with our feelingof love that determines whether it stays in the higher heartand is fulfilling or leads us into lower heart feelings andstress.

Care is a higher heart band that can easily slip intothe lower heart band called overcare. I caught myself slip-ping into overcare while caring for a very sick friend. Icould feel her pain, her worry that she was going to die.In the past, I would have worried and cried with her insympathy. However, I knew that worry would only drainboth of us. Instead, I activated the most sincere care Icould feel from my heart and kept sending that quality

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of care to her. I was able to know when she needed liq-uid, warmth or a kind word. She became very peacefuland my own energies stayed in balance. At the end ofthe day, I was serene and she was sincerely grateful.

When you allow lower heart bands to take over yourfeelings, they can deplete your system and cause tremen-dous stress. People operate from the heart some of thetime, but often believe they consistently do, when it’sreally overcare, attachment, sentiment and expectationthey are feeling. These frequencies cut off your connec-tion to your higher heart. They can easily lead to thoughtsof worry, disappointment and fear. These thoughts thenactivate more feelings of insecurity, hurt and pain. That’swhy the heart is often perceived as being so vulnerable.

The “Broken Heart”When you have a “broken heart,” your mind takes

a deep disappointment and keeps replaying that sameold sad movie, reinforcing the hurt feelings each time. Abroken heart is really the result of a head-on collisionbetween broken attachments, expectations, and emo-tional investment; there is some heart energy mixed in,which is why it feels like your heart aches. You reallydid love, but then your love drifted into the lower heartfrequencies of attachment and expectation—expectingsomeone to love you in the way you loved them. Whenthat doesn’t happen, the emotional shock can short-cir-cuit your mind and your emotions. Your security was

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invested in someone outside yourself and when that se-curity is gone, you feel like a victim, powerless.

While some people are able to connect with theirheart power, resolve their pain and move on, many getstuck in this kind of crisis and never recover. The headreplays the old hurt endlessly or buries it in the uncon-scious so they can survive. When a child or adult is avictim of traumatic abuse, it’s easy to justify holding ontohurt and resentment that come from a feeling of betrayal.But as natural as that may seem, holding onto hurt onlycauses self-victimization and more pain. When peoplefinally let go of anger, grief or feelings of betrayal in theirlives, it is the heart that has resolved the problem andreleased it from the mind. When bitterness, denial andsadness are released, it’s the higher heart frequencies thathelp you let go, usually bit by bit. Learning how to for-give, release and let go, is an important investment inmental, emotional and physical well-being.

The head alone cannot manage the emotions or healthe mind when it short circuits. The head can repressemotions, but those basic mental/emotional issues willpop up again and you can feel defeated. Only the hearthas the power to give you complete release from mentaland emotional issues that drain you. The bailout is toactivate enough heart power to replace self-victimizinghead programs with true heart programs. You start byactivating your heart power to manage your attitudesand release inefficient head thoughts about your smaller

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problems in life. That builds your heart strength andpower to then resolve your major problems.

Emotions“E-motion” is energy in motion. It amplifies or adds

a charge to your thoughts and feelings. Emotion can becalled the affective aspect of your consciousness. It is agorgeous quality to have, a juice running through yoursystem that provides that extra “feel good” to life—incolor, sound, taste, smell and texture. But emotional en-ergy in itself is neutral. It picks up its coloration eitherfrom the head or from the heart. Emotional energy canbe added either to a disturbance or to a fun excitement.The heart says, “Let’s Love,” and the emotions say,“Yeah!” The head says, “Let’s get frustrated,” and theemotions say, “Yeah!” How we manage our emotionsdetermines whether they add quality to our lives or bringus stress.

Too much emotion becomes emotionalism, the in-dulgence in unbalanced emotion. Emotionalism may feelgood in the moment, but doesn’t solve the basic prob-lem. It can also drain the vitality out of your system. Ifyou’re at the point of tears because something has dis-turbed you, that’s when you can choose to discipline youremotional body. You can let a few tears run down yourcheeks—something evidently hurt. After that, if you getstuck in the head and blow it way out of proportion, youwill drain your energy. Instead, you can go back to theheart and make peace with the situation. Then your heart

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will help you find a wider perception. Watch out—if yourhead keeps replaying the hurt, the disturbance will buildinto emotionalism. If you do that, you are indulging in a“poor-me” attitude and making the disturbance largerthan it has to be.

Emotionalism will not solve a problem. To feel sorryfor yourself, or blame the pain on someone or somethingelse, will not dissolve the issue. It will only create stress.Do have patience and compassion for yourself. Don’t bea poor me-er who is looking for pity and sympathy fromothers. You probably won’t get the sympathy from whereyou want and expect it. And if you do, it will just be themcrying with you. This won’t free you from that emotionalenergy pattern. If you’re truly in despair and sincerelyask for help, you will magnetize compassion and under-standing to you. But, if you are in a childish pout andinner temper tantrum, you’ll just build more stress untilyou collapse and release all the emotional energy you’veaccumulated. It’s like having to close out your bank ac-count because you couldn’t stop spending. You have tostart all over again from square one.

Emotionalism can also be created on the oppositeside of the spectrum by over-excitement. While genuinelylooking forward to a vacation or a special date, you canoverload your emotional nature with anxiety, expecta-tions and an impatient feeling of “can’t wait.” Thatoverload unbalances your energies, blocking your heartflow. Quite often children build Christmas into astressful situation by becoming over-expectant and over-

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anxious. Then they become tired and cranky becausethey’ve expended too much energy in over-excitement.

Don’t build an expectation so huge that if whatyou’re wanting doesn’t happen you will be crushed ordeeply disappointed. The answer is to discipline yoursystem to be excited about an upcoming situation, a fun“can’t wait,” but in a balanced way. By using your heartto balance your emotionalism, you aren’t shoveling theemotions under the carpet and pretending they don’texist. You’re taking control of them so they work for youto keep the fun and adventure in life going your way.

People often use drugs, alcohol, food, sex, TV orwhatever they can find to try to calm their emotional-ism. These diversions are only temporary and don’tresolve the basic imbalances and lack of emotional man-agement. Your emotions work best for you whenreceiving directions from the heart. By learning to watchfor your lower heart pulls, you can start to balance youremotions. Notice how higher heart frequencies feel com-pared to lower heart and head frequencies. The feelingsof true love and care are very different from feelings likeattachment and overcare. As you practice bringing youremotional pulls back to your higher heart, you will gaina peaceful feeling of true love, care or compassion.

Many marriages are based on intimacy, but whenthis turns into physical or emotional attachmentcouples often become insecure and the relationship canget sticky. The stickiness often causes one partner towant to pull away. By learning the difference between

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this isolated frequency of intimacy, and all the otherfrequencies of the real heart that are clear, compas-sionate and caring, you can bring new love, depth andfulfillment to a marriage.

As you understand your higher and lower heart fre-quencies, you start building an efficient relationshipbetween them. Your experience of life deepens as youbring your energies back to the higher heart as soon asyou notice unsatisfying feelings. Your intuition willwisely guide you into the balanced and intelligent heartfrequencies of true love.

Social ChangeLet’s consider these levels of the heart in relation to

society. Society is full of examples of lower heart frequen-cies and the stress they bring. Because of stress, manypeople are now waking up to the fact that our culturehas placed an overemphasis on developing the head andmind. As a result, our social structures have reached aceiling in awareness which they cannot go past withoutunderstanding the heart. Throughout the ages, religionhas helped people develop the heart to some degree. Butby the time of the Industrial Revolution, human mentaldevelopment had reached a point where much of the tra-ditional religious dogma no longer made a lot of sense tothe rational mind. As the head charted its own course,the heart was left behind. Now, escalating stress is forc-ing people to look more deeply within to find their owncommon sense and inner security. Back to the basics, the

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heart. As people wake up to the fact that the mind worksmore effectively when directed by the heart, the next levelof social change can happen rapidly.

You don’t have to wait for society to rediscover theheart before you achieve balance and fulfillment. Youcan start now by practicing heart management in ordi-nary day-to-day situations. Consistently activate yourheart power. This is done by loving people more. Do itwhen you’re on the phone, running errands, at home withthe family or anywhere. Send a feeling of love to whom-ever you encounter. Go to your heart computer to makesense of the daily events that are puzzling or stressful.Let your head give you creative readouts of your intui-tive heart directives. Your heart and head will soonfunction as a highly intelligent team, with the heart incommand. As Joseph Chilton Pearce, noted author ofMagical Child, states, “The affairs of the heart are directlyconnected to the brain and it’s the heart’s natural intelli-gence that must be unfolded for the brain to operate withgreater efficiency.”* The hidden power of the heart issimple. You just have to start to use it.

In Chapter 8, we’ll explore some power tools thatwill enable you to maintain deeper contact with your ownheart power. The power tools will activate your higherheart frequencies to increasingly widen your perspectiveof life. They are business tools—the business of manag-ing and re-creating your own system. Higher heart

* Joseph Chilton Pearce, Magical Child, (Bantam, 1981)

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frequencies bring the essence of real wisdom. They arepart of your (and the world’s) heart computer softwareand DNA blueprint for evolution. Using the tools is es-sential in the unfoldment of these heart bands, but youmust remember to use them. “Just Love the People” isthe core heart frequency, your mainline power tool, en-coded with light, power and intelligence. In biblical timesit was expressed as, “Love ye one another,” and “Love isthe fulfilling of the law.” Both sayings refer to the powerof the primary core heart frequency. As you increase yourheart awareness, you will gain the compassion and un-derstanding to help others dissipate stress. With sincerepractice, you can achieve peace and fulfillment.

Perhaps it’s through continually activating thesehigher frequencies that we can gain more intelligent un-derstanding of God—the ultimate power source. Myperception would be that God sees this world as one bigyard. We are one big family of people, trying to makeour way through the unfolding puzzle of life. We are allconnected to one another in the heart. Connecting withthe ultimate source of love is possible through discover-ing the hidden power in your heart.

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The Dimensional Shift

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TheDimensional Shift

Many business leaders and trend forecasters are say-ing that the world is going through a paradigm shift. Someare calling it a dimensional shift. A paradigm is a model ofhow we view reality. A paradigm shift occurs when ourfundamental view of reality changes to a new, wider per-spective. An example is when masses of people realizedthat the earth rotates around the sun and is not the cen-ter of the universe. That changed the entire globalperspective, opening up new potentials never beforedreamed of. When Einstein proved all matter is energy,another paradigm shift occurred, heralding break-throughs in science and technology that otherwise wouldhave been impossible.

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to an emphasis on excellence and quality. As Joel Barker,author of Future Edge, observed in an interview in Indus-try Week magazine:

“Total quality is a paradigm shift. There’s going tobe a dramatic separation between those who prac-tice Total Quality and those who pretend it. Thewinners will be the world-class providers of prod-ucts and services.... The Total Quality people willsee results that are exponential.... The base of thetwenty-first century is built on excellence.”

A dimensional shift is made of many paradigm shiftsunfolding over time. Although science speaks of dimen-sions just in terms of time and space, a dimension isactually a specific frequency range of perception and in-telligence. Each dimension embraces the intelligence ofthe dimensions below it and can be perceived as its ownworld of energy and form.

The Third DimensionOur physical reality, including our dense physical

body, exists in the third dimension. Newtonian physicsled people to believe that the only “reality” is what wecan perceive with our physical senses. Our senses per-ceive every piece of matter as separate, leading us toconclude that everything is separate. Adopting this para-digm view, many scientists closed their minds to thepossibility of another reality. This is an example of thirddimensional perception and intelligence.

One way to better understand dimensions is to re-alize how human awareness develops. Newborn babies

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come into the world with limited conscious awareness.They are totally dependent on their mothers for food,shelter, moving around, etc. As the child develops, herawareness expands on physical, mental and emotionallevels. Soon she can walk, talk, feed herself, think andspeak. Before long she can understand more complexideas. But for most people, the development of aware-ness slows down. It hits a ceiling in the third dimension;only through greater understanding can we breakthrough this ceiling.

Ordinary day-to-day human awareness is a prod-uct of the third dimension. We tend to perceive things asgood and bad, right or wrong, black and white, and re-act accordingly. Often we view conflicts as, “that’s theway things are and it’s going to get worse.” The thirddimension is a range of frequency bands that’s bound bymany illusions of limits. These boundaries are coloredby fears that keep us from seeing a way out. They’re cre-ated by thoughts like, “There is no proof of life after death,therefore there isn’t any life after death.” You probablyknow people who are afraid to even think about life af-ter death.

Einstein’s discovery that everything is energyhelped launch a whole new science, Quantum Physics,which states that nothing is really separate from anythingelse, everything is interconnected and interrelated. Quan-tum physics also concludes that the consciousness of theobserver affects the things we observe. Therefore, every-

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thing is relative to perception. Quantum reality is verydifferent from Newtonian reality. It is an example offourth dimensional perception and intelligence—it sur-passes and embraces Newtonian understanding like ateacher’s awareness embraces a young student’s. Quan-tum physics opened up a whole new dimension ofawareness.

The Fourth DimensionThe fourth dimension is a range of intelligence and

perception that lifts us beyond the ceiling of the third—with thoughts that are more efficient, caring, and hope-ful. This dimension increases your power for growth andchange. Lower fourth dimensional awareness allows youto philosophize and ponder new possibilities and startto work on inefficient patterns. You’d consider the im-portance of positive thinking, but you wouldn’tnecessarily act on it.

While in the lower fourth dimension, you’re try-ing to work things out and it’s still like the yo-yo dietsyndrome. Up again, down again. You know you shouldlose weight, you diet for a few days, then someone of-fers you ice cream and you eat it. You feel guilty andstart over again. In the lower fourth, you continuallycreate new stuff—hurts, pain, guilt—to be cleared away.Recovery can seem like a never-ending process becauseyou aren’t getting to the root cause of the problem. Thelower fourth involves continually working things out,continually healing, dieting, cleansing, clearing. It goes

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on, and on, and on. Fortunately, awareness does not stophere.

In the middle 4th dimension, you get serious aboutpersonal growth and taking care of yourself, other peopleand the planet. You have more glimpses of new possi-bilities. Some people get involved in social causes or makebig changes in their lifestyles. They really care aboutmaking the world and themselves better and take action.Many who are into personal growth and spirituality getstuck in the mid-4th. Some feel they’ve “got it” and canfeel special, even elitist, because they know somethingothers don’t know. Others can get caught up in the ritualof their practice and develop strong mind-sets about theirbeliefs or have judgments of others who aren’t enlight-ened or don’t act the way they do. In the middle 4th, itcan be easy to feel you are “there” and not see the unfin-ished business you still have in front of you, especiallywhen it comes to dealing with unresolved mental andemotional issues. This can cause a blindness to whereextra effort is needed to complete out your aim. Yet youknow something is missing. You know the potential forfulfillment is within, but you don’t know how to get toit. You are still draining energy and “working things out,”instead of finding the deeper heart intelligence that wouldmove you into the higher 4th dimension where thingsare finally worked out.

The higher fourth dimension is where the frequen-cies of love, care, compassion, forgiveness and innerpeace reside. As we sustain these heart frequencies, our

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consciousness has a smoother, more harmonious flow.We experience more hope; and hope is a powerful fuelto create momentum for positive change and fulfillment.The higher fourth represents a quantum leap in humanawareness.

The harmonizing, regenerating frequencies of na-ture are tuned to higher fourth dimensional frequencies.Nature simply radiates frequencies of peace and har-mony without stopping to wonder if it’s good enough,or whether people will like it, or even whether peoplewill care for it. It just radiates. The higher fourth holdsmagic, majesty, wonder and delight and is a level ofawareness available to you any time you choose to ex-perience it. When Christ came to earth, he brought innew perceptions of love and broke through many mind-sets of that time. He created and left behind an openinginto the fourth dimension. This was a powerful transfor-mation for a society that was largely operating in thesecond dimension—the undeveloped mind. In the higherfourth dimension you see union; you see all people asone. Christ had a constant clarity of vision, and he lovedeveryone he saw. His mission was to touch all peopleand “lifestyles.” He mingled with all segments of thepopulation, all the people. In the higher fourth, you don’tjudge or overcare about someone’s lifestyle. You only careabout the style and focus of your own love and aware-ness, and feel true care for all.

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infusion of fifth dimensional energy to break free of thedensity and stress of third dimensional thought. And, itwill take people becoming more self-managed throughthe heart to transform our current thinking habits intohigher understandings of love and care.

The Fifth DimensionBy operating from the heart, you build a bridge of

awareness from the third to the higher fourth dimension—a bridge that leads to the inner knowingness of the fifthdimension. In the fifth, awareness is guided by intuitivedirectives that free you from the endless cleansing andrecovery of the fourth, and from the self-limiting fearsand phobias of the third.

Fifth dimensional intelligence provides streamlinedinner efficiency—for you, me and the entire human race.Stress is transformed through the heart. There are no lim-its. You are responsible for bringing heaven to earth. Youperceive and understand everything as light, energy andfrequencies, and it’s up to you to manage your energieseffectively. Actions are neither good nor bad, right norwrong, but rather energy-efficient and leading to morelove, or less energy-efficient and leading to more stress.

Each new dimension embraces the intelligence andawareness of the perspective below it. In the fifth dimen-sion you comprehend the third and fourth dimensionalperspectives without being limited by them or judgingthem. You understand why people think and act the waythey do, even though it may not be efficient or in their

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best interests. The fifth is a powerful dimension for good,for creative manifestation and self-empowerment. It isthe dimension where you truly create your own worldand are not a victim anymore. From a fifth dimensionalperspective, stressful times are seen simply asuntransformed opportunities for more love and empower-ment.

At this time in history, some fifth dimensional en-ergies are filtering into people’s awareness. Thesefrequencies are received through intuitive breakthroughsand new technologies that can usher the world past theceiling of the third dimension. A dimensional shift isemerging.

The great world teachers have said, “God’s will isfound in the chambers of the heart,” and “The kingdomis within.” Mohammed said to his followers: “Consultthy heart and thou wilt hear the secret ordinance of Godproclaimed by the heart’s inward knowledge.” As youlearn to go to the heart, you discover God’s will and yourinner will. You gain your freedom. As you learn to listento your heart directives daily, you can assume the powerto manifest them. But, if you ignore your heart, you re-main bound in the limits of the third dimension, creatingstress for yourself. If you just hear your heart directives,without acting on them, you remain caught in the con-tinual struggle of the lower fourth. Follow your heart—that means following your spirit. Allow yourself the giftof moving on into higher awareness.

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It really doesn’t take a huge effort to know whatyour heart is telling you. You don’t have to be a geniusor even know all the math of the heart. If you spend alittle quiet, focused time, you can develop your heart in-tuition and knowingness. As you sincerely go for deeperlevels of love, the results you’ll have in well-beingnessand increased quality of life will motivate you, leadingyou to wider dimensional awareness. The results are sorewarding you can easily develop a passion for self-man-agement.

A Dimensional GameIf you try to understand dimensions from a head

perspective, it can be frustrating as the mind runs upagainst its limitations and mind-sets. So try this as a fungame. This book is written like a dimensional ridethrough third and lower fourth dimensional descriptionsof stress and higher fourth and fifth dimensional descrip-tions of energy and the power of the heart. Watch howyour own energies flow as you read different passages.Try to stay in a higher heart perspective without judgingideas that seem new or strange. Try not to fall into thirddimensional anxiety as you recognize areas in yourselfthat you need to change, or lower fourth dimensionalfeelings of how much work is needed to transform a long-standing pattern. Treat it all like a dimensional ride. Themore you stay in the heart, the more fun and understand-ing you will gain.

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Care — A Dimensional PerspectiveOne day I looked up “care” in the dictionary and I

was astonished. Care is defined by Webster as sufferingof mind, grief; a burdensome sense of responsibility, anxi-ety; concern, solicitude, and worry. Think about it. Noneof these descriptions feel good, nor do they sound likefun, peace and harmony. They certainly don’t describethe feeling of true care I felt when I first held my new-born child. Webster’s definition describes the limitingthird dimensional thought patterns of care—or overcare.Care in the third dimension is not attractive.

In the fourth dimension, you have the power to befree from overcare, to truly care, and you’re more famil-iar with the qualities of love. Having felt and experiencedlove quite often, you would understand the truth that loveis what makes the world go ’round. Your understandingwould come from the core heart frequency of love. Youwould begin to feel the frequency of unconditional love—love without judgment, fear, impatience, resentment,self-pity, worry, sadness. In other words, unconditionallove is love that doesn’t slip into stressful overcares col-ored by mind biases. When that happens, your lovebecomes so colored with qualifiers that it’s no longer ofsignificant value. Love can become so coated with nega-tive attitudes from third and lower fourth dimensionalenergies, that it turns into a deficit instead of an asset toyourself and others. It’s important to remember that inthe higher fourth dimension you truly do feel care aboutthe world, the environment, the educational system, the

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people, the laws and so forth. But you don’t slip into theanxiety of overcare because you know that will drainyou and make your caring less effective. True care haswisdom and discernment. It is love in the active modal-ity—the higher heart and mind joined together.

The fifth dimensional thought patterns of care areenergy-efficient and on a mission—carrying out yourpurpose. You realize life is a game you play with yourown self. In the fifth dimension, you are creating yourown universe, so in truly caring you want to run yoursystem as efficiently as possible. The voice of your heartwould be loud and clear; your spirit would be speaking.And if you were waking up to who you are, getting toknow your complete self, you would follow your spirit,which is made of light. You would put your knowingnessinto action, creating as you go. In this dimension of lightand love, the universe rearranges itself to accommodateyour picture of reality.

The Global Paradigm ShiftThe more I understood the different dimensions,

the more important to me it became to truly care forpeople. As time went on, my associates and I gained deepinsights into the global paradigm shift that is now oc-curring. I will share some of my perceptions, in hopesthat you will read further with more love and care inyour own heart.

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whole from the third to the fourth dimension and takinga quantum leap into the edges of the fifth dimension.You can see signs of this in all the rapid political andsocial changes that are occurring. The end of commu-nism and the fall of the Berlin Wall are just two examplesof changes that occurred much more rapidly than thirddimensional awareness could have predicted. Mass con-sciousness tends to move in waves as old patterns andcrystallized structures crumble. The pendulum swingsinto love, back into fear, into love, back into fear, backand forth. An example of this can be seen in the ethnicwars that broke out in Europe after the iron hand of com-munism was lifted. For months the countries felt greathope, then the violence began.

The problem is that third dimensional frequencyperspectives see people, structures—everything—asseparate from each other, with tremendous duality, an-tagonism and opposites. So, in this dimension people gaina little hope, then revert back to fear. There are still thickboundaries and strong limitations in the thinking of theworld. Mind-sets are so rigid that when amplified byunmanaged emotions, tremendous conflict results. Thirddimensional awareness keeps hitting its head on the ceil-ing of its own limitations. Because it sees with separateeyes, there are many enemies. If you project into the fu-ture and can’t see a way out of a dilemma, you canbecome fearful. When fear is present, the consistency oflove cannot hold.

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Only the power of the heart can provide the bail-out, the higher dimensional understandings. As thedimensional shift takes place, it gives the world a chanceto see past old boundaries. It brings a different hope, anda glimpse of new wonder. As the planet moves into faster,higher vibrational frequencies, you, and any person, cantake the frequencies available to you in any moment andtransmute them within yourself through the heart. Youwill be presented a new perspective of the world, one inwhich head and heart are united in clarity. You sustainthis perspective as you manage your physical, mentaland emotional natures through heart intelligence. Every-one has a heart, and everyone can prosper from usingtheir heart. Such is the power of the dimensional shiftoccurring on the earth at this time.

As the global transition from the third to the higherfourth dimension continues, more people will becomeunwilling to participate in actions that do not promotereal wholeness and well-being for themselves, their coun-try and their world. Increasingly, people are waking upto the inefficiency of old patterns of thinking and acting.As our social frequency perspective shifts into the fourthdimension, we will establish proven paths to global well-being that do not depend on illusory short-lived attemptsthat always crumble. Ongoing racial and ethnic conflictswill accelerate mass realization that we need to finallybuild a foundation of real care and love in our interac-tions. As a result of global TV and satellitecommunications, millions are recognizing that antago-

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nism and separation only result in greater despair, stressand planetary distortion. Real peace will come as peopledecide there’s no choice but to make peace within them-selves. Following the heart is the key.

Overcoming InertiaOne of the basic resistances to this higher vibration

of peace is human inertia. Many people do not con-sciously value peace enough to bring about inner change.Some avoid trying to achieve balance and fulfillmentbecause they fear failure. But this fear is not based in re-ality. It’s just a projection of the third dimensional limitsthey’ve put on themselves. They allow this fear to con-trol them. Heart intelligence helps you understand yourfears, then, naturally they dissipate.

In personal and international relationships of thefuture, attempts to overpower others will be seen as dys-functional behavior. Such actions will be recognized asharmful to global balance and peace. Love is inevitable;it is our true essence. We are multidimensional beingswaking up to our own higher natures. As we love more,we break through old barriers and crystallized patterns.However, going against the flow of the planet’s transi-tion into truer love will create overloads of stress.Resistance to change creates inharmonious feedback inthe human system, affecting family, business, social andpolitical structures. This is already happening. Conscious,intelligent love can overcome all resistance. There aresolutions, knowledge, understanding and tools to facili-

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tate. You can make this dimensional shift an adventure.Through the heart, you will have the understanding nec-essary to be buoyant, strong, clear and courageousthrough this shifting of the world. Remember, love con-quers all.

The power of love, or heart power, is qualifiedpower, based on how well energy is managed within asystem. Picture the heart as the hub of a wheel of power;the spokes of the wheel would be its conduits. In an in-dividual, the spokes are the mental, emotional, physicaland other aspects of our nature. In a family or organiza-tion, the spokes are the collective individuals. What isthe United States of America but a collection of individu-als? It’s the same for a city, a gang, a corporation, theworld and, yes, the same principle applies to the uni-verse. The universe is a collection of individual energyunits. All parts working harmoniously together createwholeness.

The heart empowerment of YOU—mentally, emo-tionally, physically—accelerates evolution. Itimmediately begins to activate your next level of self-growth in the most fun, rewarding, energy-efficientmanner. As you love people at deeper levels, you makeit easier for them to access these heart frequencies.Through the heart, God’s intelligence lifts you and speedsyou on to new understanding in the higher dimensions.Stuck in the head without heart contact, the acceleratingevolutionary energy only intensifies your inner conflicts

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and stress. As more people come into deeper contact withthe power of the heart, stress will be recognized as anuntransformed opportunity for greater empowerment. Heartempowerment, not ideally but actually, can bring in theintelligence to end the conflicts so prevalent in the thirddimensional world. In the higher fourth dimension, allopposites cease to be and all that is seen is the One Light.This is not the end of seeing, but it is the end of seeingwith the separate eye. It is direct perception that all is en-ergy, not just a theoretical knowing. As my dad, a retiredLieutenant General in the Marines, says when he signshis letters: E Pluribus Unum—“From many, one.”

An Airport Story“So, what is this ‘hidden power of the heart’?” a busi-

ness executive asked me one day during a long talk at anairport. Our plane was delayed and he had struck up aconversation while we waited in the lobby. He was con-cerned about the state of the world, the upcomingpresidential elections, and felt we were all victims of thetroubled economy. He told me about his stressful job,his recent divorce and his struggles to make ends meet.These problems kept him awake at night and he felt ex-tremely stressed. He didn’t believe in religion, but knewthere had to be something that science would eventuallydiscover to explain what human life was really about.He hoped brain/mind research would find the answer.

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and intelligence that people sense and hope are possible.I told him that personal empowerment is a trend of the’90s because many people, like himself, are tired of feelinglike victims of life.

He listened. The idea that, scientifically, there mightbe a “hidden power” in the heart intrigued him—couldlife really get better? A practical businessman, he askedwhat tools he could use to access this power. What I toldhim you will read about in the next few chapters.

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Heart Power ToolsWhat would it be like to have fulfilling feelings of

love and care flowing through your system most of thetime? If you could buy tools to help you feel more love,would you? What if the instructions that went with thetools were to practice regularly, as you’d do to learn golf,a dance routine or a new video game? Whether yourgoal is less stress, deeper love, or balance and fulfillment,using even one or two of the heart power tools consis-tently can transform your life.

By activating the fundamental core heart frequencybands in your system, the tools connect you with yourheart power. Your sensitivity increases, communicationbecomes clear, understanding develops and perspectivewidens. Consistent practice can bring results, oftenwithin a few days. Using any one of the tools is profit-able and yields high dividends. Try them. You mightlike them.

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These tools are for all people—regardless of age, sex,awareness, race, color or religion. They are gifts for theevolution of mankind. Some of them may sound like “oldhat,” like you’ve heard them before—and you have. Butthey have tremendous power, which has largely goneunused. They draw upon the intelligence of your ownheart to activate higher heart frequencies of love, care,compassion, appreciation and forgiveness.

Love is a ToolHow can love be a tool? To use love as a power tool,

simply focus your attention on your heart center, acti-vate your own love for someone and radiate that lovefrequency. As energy goes out, it comes back. As yourlove goes out, it comes back—adding to deeper feelingsof love within you and in your interactions with people.As you continue to send out love, the energy returns toyou in a regenerating spiral. Your system accumulatesthe energy of love, just like it accumulates stress. As loveaccumulates, it keeps your system in balance and har-mony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product.

Love is empowering. Many people who thoughtthey were already loving are astonished at the changethey experience when they sincerely use love as a tool.Their comments are almost evangelistic, revealing a newunderstanding of the regenerative nature of this hiddenpower of the heart. As they focus their energy in the heart,then radiate love, they are amazed at the new textures oflove they experience. The difference between how they

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felt before using love as a tool, and after, is astoundingto them. It feels like coming home. They have more con-tact with their real spirit. As the bible describes it, “Thefruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness,goodness, faith.” (Galatians 5:22)

“Love” is not some sweet, pollyanna, goody-two-shoes frequency band. The words “love,” “care,” and“appreciation” are like little word cages for wide, pow-erful energies. As science proves that “love” is anintelligence unto itself, then researchers will more objec-tively respect its wide range of potentials. Physics hasdemonstrated that once two particles touch, they have apermanent connection that goes beyond time and space.Studies are already taking place on the effects of love inrelationship to healing. Cardiologist Randolph Byrd re-cently conducted a ten-month scientific study withcoronary patients at San Francisco General Hospital onthe effects of love and prayer in healing. He applied themost rigid criteria possible for clinical medical studies.The results were remarkable. Significantly fewer drugsand surgical procedures were required for those patientswho received conscious love and prayer than for thosein the control group who didn’t receive this help. Ac-cording to Larry Dossey, M.D., “If the technique beingstudied had been a new drug or surgical procedure, itwould almost certainly have been heralded as some sortof ‘breakthrough’.”

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flowing through your system, and just letting them bethere as the mood arises. It’s like the difference betweenusing a Makita power drill and a regular screw driver tobuild a house. As you practice with focused attention,you become much more efficient and knowledgeable indirecting these energies. Love is the most powerful coreheart frequency of all, and, yes, it is the real hope for theworld. Love encompasses all the other power tools andis the first and most important tool.

Practicing the tool of just loving people changed mylife. Some time ago, I read a popular book about howpeople need to express anger and learn to fight fair in or-der to have a more loving marriage. In trying thesetechniques, my husband (at the time) and I found a cer-tain release in letting out anger, but it didn’t last. Fightingfair got some communication going, but we still had todeal with the depleting effect of anger and judgments.Speaking our truth without the heart was draining. Theresults were quite different when we began to use thetool of just loving each other while we expressed our feel-ings about a problem. I practiced sincerely sending loveas I spoke, and found that love didn’t repress my feelingsat all. In fact, by consciously loving, I could more clearlyexpress them. Then I continued to send love while I lis-tened to his response. Our communication was extremelyeffective. We got to the real issues more quickly. The en-ergy of love created a secure safety zone that enabled usto be less defensive and more honest. It started taking

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down the fences that previous anger, hurt and fear haderected.

As children, many of us threw temper tantrums totry to get what we wanted. As we grew older, we real-ized that tantrums didn’t work and that both argumentsand the “I won’t speak to you” cold shoulder routinedon’t get you very far. I found that conscious love blowsopen the door to real communication and gets me what Ireally want. You feel so much better inside. So this iswhere I started building my bottom line—loving thepeople. How do you do it? You just remember to do it.Just love the people—any people and all people you meet.You’re doing it for them, but most of all you’re doing itfor yourself.

Just loving the people, which of course includesyourself, is the bottom line energy equation for ongoingpeace and fulfillment. Through loving people, you acti-vate your heart energy which balances your system andbrings peace. Heart energy flowing through your feel-ings, mind and body brings a deep sense of fulfillment.You are filled-full in love.

SincerityHave you ever noticed how a sincere request from a

young child touches your heart? You want to do whathe or she asks, even if it means getting down on all foursto play. If children misbehave and then sincerely apolo-gize, your heart goes out to them and you can’t help butforgive them. Sincerity is a higher heart frequency band

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that acts like a generator for all the power tools. It hastremendous leverage. Plug into deeper sincerity and youboost the power of whatever tool you use. Sincere lovekeeps widening your intuition by creating alignment withyour higher self. As you love sincerely, you draw in thatwider perspective of higher intelligence which gives youmore understanding in your relationships, in work andplay. Then, if old feelings of anger or hurt arise, yourintuition shows you how to release them. Sincere loveradiates heart power into density where you can effectchange. At the same time, it keeps the sense of fulfill-ment growing and expanding. Real practiced love is whatevolution is all about.

Love Takes PracticeFor nearly two thousand years people have quoted

the biblical description of love that states,

“Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Loveis never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never self-ish, not quick to take offense. Love keeps no scoreof wrongs; does not gloat over other men’s sins, butdelights in the truth. There is nothing love cannotface; there is no limit to its faith, its hope and itsendurance. Love will never come to an end.” (1Corinthians 13: 4-8.)

Love is talked about, sung about, philosophizedabout, but what if love were ever sincerely and seriouslypracticed?

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knows what it feels like to love or be loved in some way.Love is the power that connects and completes. Practic-ing love is not a new idea, but it’s an idea that hasn’tbeen fully understood. Through practicing love, you de-velop greater awareness and understand more programsfrom your heart computer that you can implement in life.

Love isn’t always soft and gentle. It can be explo-sive and energizing. It can have a bottom-line,businesslike quality to it. Because it connects all, love cre-ates communion, resonance and deeper communication.

Don’t confuse love with sympathy, overcare, senti-ment, expectation or attachment. I was once veryattached to a boyfriend. I thought it was love; and whenhe started going out with other girls, I felt he didn’t carefor me and was rejecting my love. I expected him to wantonly to be with me. Less than a year later I fell in lovewith another man. When I ran into my former boyfriendin a clothing store, I realized there had been love therebut what I’d really felt for him before was mostly at-tachment, a security blanket which I had confused withlove. Real love is so much more powerful than attach-ment, sentiment and expectations. My friend Lew sumsit up, “Real love eats all this for breakfast.” Real love iscaring, forgiving, appreciative and compassionate. Ittranscends the limitations and fences we create in thename of love. It nourishes, embraces, fulfills and rewards.Through eons of time it’s been known and written—loveconquers all obstacles.

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that everyone can understand and do, is to love people.A real love for people (and not just thinking you love)unfolds as you focus on your heart and practice sincerelysending love to whomever you encounter. It’s ironic thatmany people believe they love others, though they rarelydo it consciously, except on occasion with a few closefriends or family. They know they couldn’t sing or playgolf well without conscious practice, but they think theirlove is automatic. Conscious loving illuminates the heartso that it can function at its full potential and act in itsintended capacity. The more that people practice reallove, the better chance the world has to dissolve its so-cial problems and re-create a society that can take care ofall its people.

In learning how to really love people, it’s importantto practice loving whatever comes your way in life. What-ever the situation, face it with love. That also includeswhatever arises inside you. Whatever negative thoughtsor feelings you have, confront them with love. Connectwith your heart computer for deeper understanding.Keep your energies in your heart and learn to “Love”powerfully all the time. Loving someone is the mostmagnificent thing you can do for yourself and for them.As you love someone, you dissipate negative energiesand bring in understanding.

Loving YourselfOften loving yourself seems harder to do than lov-

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day. I explained to her how much easier it is for me tofeel love for other people than for myself. Sometimes,when I realize it’s time to just love myself, it’s hard tofeel much love. I feel I’m unworthy or not as talented asI want to be. She experienced the same thing about her-self. We laughed and realized we could both see pastother people’s shortcomings and love them. We couldsee their inner beauty and potential. But since we’re withourselves all day long, we’re our own worst critics.

People are often most judgmental of themselves.That’s because we pay a lot of attention to how we look,how we’re doing, where we want to improve, etc. By con-fronting any uncomfortable thoughts and feelings youhave about yourself with love, you will interlock, con-nect and balance all the energies in your system. In lovingyour negatives, you neutralize self-judgments and gainmore power to self-correct. Practice keeping your ener-gies in the heart. That will help you activate feelingfrequencies to find the flow of love. Then you can buildon it. You can use imagery to help. Sometimes I imaginemy heart is a waterfall flowing through my whole being;sometimes a flute blowing heart energy to whatever I’mloving; sometimes a well—I prime the pump for a fewmoments until it flows on its own.

Practicing the heart power tools means keeping yourenergies in your heart to get that feeling of love going. Itmeans reminding yourself throughout the day to sin-cerely love—people, yourself, your family, your job,

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nature—Life. Your power builds as you learn to love atdeeper and more sincere levels. Watch how the energyof the heart rounds off the rough edges inside you.

Love is not limited to just religion. Love is. It canadd to whatever religion you’re in or path you’re on. Lovefacilitates any system. All that my friends and I did atthe Institute was to research what could facilitate people’shappiness. We wanted to find what would be a boosterpack to real fulfillment. What we found were power toolsfor the people business—the biggest business of all. Ful-fillment isn’t something that ends or stays at a plateau.Empowered by real love, fulfillment completes at eachlevel and goes on.

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Tools for RapidSelf-Adjustment

As you reap the rewards of loving yourself and oth-ers, you will become motivated to build your heart powerto love more consistently. The Heart Lock-In is a potenttool you can use anytime you want to contact a deeperheart frequency. It can be a refreshing break from thehead and, with a little practice, feels good, activates yourheart power and helps you maintain better balance.

The Heart Lock-In® TechniqueYou start by finding a comfortable place to sit, clos-

ing your eyes and relaxing. To Lock-In, shift yourattention from your head to your heart, by relaxing yourthoughts and focusing your energies in the heart area.Then send a sincere feeling of love or appreciation toyourself and others. Just love people. Appreciate the goodthings in life. Appreciate your life compared to tougher

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situations, like people who are homeless or starving. Thishelps facilitate the deepening of heart resonance. Just letgo of mind chatter and release your feelings in the heart.If head thoughts come in, bring your focus gently backto the heart area and radiate feelings of love and appre-ciation.

If you can’t feel love right away, or if you feel somepain in your heart, it’s okay. Try to tune into a memoryof when you loved someone and it was easy, or a timewhen you deeply appreciated someone and there wasno insecurity or anxiety. Focus on that clean, higher heartfeeling. Then your love will have a higher quality.

If you’ve had a combination of lower heart and headcreating insecurity and vulnerable feelings in your life,these feelings often are stored in your unconscious. Withpractice, the Heart Lock-In can release them and take youto a deeper heart security. Security is what finally trans-forms pain and old hurts. As love increases in quality,the old attitudes of expectation and attachment releasebit by bit. View all of your feelings that arise in a HeartLock-In as love that is growing but is not yet completedin its highest quality.

Experiments show that when people close their eyes,they tend to let their focus go to the head, which canstimulate the thinking process and inner dialogue. So ina Heart Lock-In, you focus your energies in the heart area,not in the mind, forehead or solar plexus. Remember,the main intention of a Heart Lock-In is to experienceyour own heart more deeply. If draining thoughts come

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in, look at them objectively and go to your heart com-puter for understanding and release. Be consistent, butbe casual in practicing your Lock-Ins, then they will flow.If you try too hard from the head, you create mental ten-sion that blocks your higher dimensional awareness. Takefive minutes or more during your day to feel love in yourheart for yourself, everyone and everything around you.Try to find a peaceful, still feeling and a warmth aroundyour heart center. The more you practice, the easier itwill be to feel a deeper heart contact.

Music can be effective for enriching a Heart Lock-In. There are many types of music that help to activateheart frequencies. Music has the power to change themental and emotional atmosphere in a room and tochange our moods. Think about how the different kindsof music—rock, country, classical or jazz—each createdifferent feelings inside you. I like to listen to music calledHeart Zones* when I Lock-In. Heart Zones was designedby Doc Childre to connect people with their heart powerand to reduce mental fatigue and emotional burnout. Docspent several years studying and testing musical tones,harmonic resonances, inverted rhythms and specificchords for their effects on psychological stress patterns.Sophisticated testing of EEG (brain) and EKG (heart) fre-quencies showed significant changes in a very highnumber of people. To me, Heart Zones is like a fun, buoy-ant tonic or attitude refresher for the mental andemotional nature. One newspaper article described it as

* Available from Planetary Publications. See page 295.

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a “musical cup of coffee without the edges” because itgives many people a focused, energetic clarity. I’ve usedit in my Lock-Ins for a long time and it’s become a goodfriend—a friend that creates a good heart feeling.

Developing Intuition—The Whole PackageEveryone has flashes of intuition, but intuition only

develops as you learn to listen to and act on your heart’sdirectives. One aspect of the HeartMath system, calledIntui-Technology®, researches the inner technology ofintuitive development. It offers advanced methods forstress dissipation and the systematic unfoldment of in-tuition. Intui-Technology brings in wide fifth dimensionalawareness to facilitate new breakthroughs in business,medicine, science, politics, social affairs and economics.

The occasional flash of intuition that most of us ex-perience is useful, but it is only a piece of the pie. Widerintuitive bands that can benefit you, the nation and theworld, are accessed through the receiving station of theheart. As more people make that one effort—the prac-tice of contacting the natural intelligence of theheart—they will realize what a bailout it is for the world,though not an instant one. The ratio of energy return foryour effort is 1:9—one effort yields a ninefold return. Thisis because the heart has a multiplier effect: it is designedto look after and take care of your entire system. Such isthe hidden power of the heart. It functions in numbers ofpower, like the equation E=mc2. The higher fourth and

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fifth dimensional energies accessed by the heart have tre-mendous transformational power.

You can tune in to the “intuition station”—yourheart is the control knob. Using the heart power toolshelps you stay tuned to the station. Without the bottomline of heart development, you won’t be able to hold thefrequency and will keep getting off track, even if youaccess some isolated frequencies of intuition. As increas-ing numbers of people develop their heart intelligenceover the next ten years, we will see a quantum change inthe way “intuition” is experienced and understood. Asour political leaders develop intuition, they will workwith everyone’s needs in mind. They will see that it’s short-sighted and inefficient to please only isolated interests.“Intui-Technologists” will be the planetary stress-bust-ers with the power to create positive change that willencompass the whole world.

FREEZE-FRAME®—An Intui-TechniqueHere’s a technique you can use anytime, whether

you’re working, driving the car, talking to someone orwatching TV. It has been extremely valuable in my prac-tice of heart development.

To FREEZE-FRAME you stop the movie of your lifefor just a moment and go to your heart as the director.It’s especially helpful if you’re having a problem, because

For more information, read the book FREEZE-FRAME, by Doc Childre,Planetary Publications, see page 295.

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it helps you relax and detach from your mental or emo-tional identification with the issue. This is a good firststep in gaining objectivity. When you become objective,you can choose the most efficient course of action. It’slike pushing the pause button on your VCR. You are ac-tually stopping your holographic movie—so you canre-create your own reality in the moment. You focus yourenergies in the heart, stop the movie of your thoughtsand emotions—still frame (like taking a snap shot)—thengo to your heart computer for direction. The next fre-quencies you choose will activate the next program, thenext scene in your movie. Remember, you are creatingyour own movie by your perceptions and choices in thatmoment. You do have choice, and all your little choicesreally do count. At any moment, you can go to the heartand change the frequency.

Have you seen the Holodeck on board the Enter-prise in the TV series Star Trek: The Next Generation? TheHolodeck is a lifelike 3-D hologram. The crew asks themaster computer on the Holodeck to create any setting,experience or situation they want. And that’s what theyget, complete with everything their imagination woulddesire. They walk right in and participate in the holo-graphic movie, and it all seems totally real. They canfreeze the hologram at any time and instruct the com-puter to change the program. Practicing FREEZE-FRAME

helps you re-create your own movie of life in the mo-ment by accessing a new program from your heartcomputer. And your movie is totally real.

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With FREEZE-FRAME you create a momentary pauseso you can just be still and collect yourself in the heart.Calm your head chatter and emotional reactions, andkeep shifting the energies back to the heart. It takes prac-tice, but the practice has a big return. Freeze-Framinggives you a break from inefficient mental and emotionalreactions. Then you can choose to self-adjust, saving en-ergy and building power in your system—your ownpower.

Freeze-Framing works better when you remember toactivate a positive heart frequency. As you put yourmovie on pause, make a sincere effort to feel somethingin your heart, such as love, care or compassion. This setsthe stage for your heart intuition to come in. It’s no dif-ferent than fine-tuning your radio dial to get a clearstation and tuning out the static. You may not always beable to feel a deeper heart feeling right away, but stayfocused in the heart. The sincerity of your effort can re-connect you to your heart current and start the juicesflowing. To plug in, think of someone you love or re-member what feels good, maybe a fulfilling experience.Feelings help you remember. You become sensitive tothe difference between head reactions and heart feel-ings—they really do feel different. Remembering thisdifference helps you go back to the heart more often—itfeels better.

If you’re practicing FREEZE-FRAME in the middle ofan emotional reaction, try first to neutralize the emotion.As you focus your attention away from the problem and

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activate your heart power, it’s easier to quiet your innernoise and feel calm. As Erin, a 13-year-old at the Insti-tute says, “Chill out!” Then your intuition can deliver awider understanding of the situation and a release. Prac-ticing FREEZE-FRAME has improved my intuitionalcapacity and given me a joyous sense of freedom, self-security and self-esteem.

Heart intuition is a feeling of knowingness. It comesin quickly with a little practice. But don’t be concerned ifyou don’t get clear answers right away. Some situationsdon’t have clear-cut solutions and take time to work out.After some practice, you learn to sit back and watch yourlife geometries unfold to bring you solutions. FREEZE-FRAME is a fantastic power tool for cutting through stress;it just takes practice to verify how the process works inyour own system.

FREEZE-FRAME is so simple and so practical that youcan use it moment-to-moment to prevent stress while youare on the move. It’s one of those handy “all-in one” toolsthat helps you contact your heart, balance your energies,release or prevent stress, and gain intuitive solutions. Youwill find that you become more sensitive to your emo-tional, mental and intuitive natures. You can also use theFREEZE-FRAME technique anytime you want creative in-spiration or deeper intuition on a subject. Remember, themind works most creatively and efficiently when it en-gages the heart.

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Freeze-Framing a Thought LoopThought patterns are those “random dialogues” or

“inner sound tracks” of your perceptions of life. As youobserve them, you’ll see they tend to run in loops. We’vediscussed how some of the most common thought loopsare repetitive patterns of worry, anxiety, fear, resentmentand unfulfilled desires. They keep you on that inner (andnot very fun) merry-go-round. Sometimes multiplethought loops run continuously without resolution.Here’s a FREEZE-FRAME game to try when you want toquit replaying stressful tapes like, “I should have saidthis,” or “I should have done that.” Thought loops likethese used to keep me upset all day and constantly bleedmy energy.

When you get caught up in a thought loop, FREEZE-FRAME and say to yourself, “Oops, no big deal,” and don’tself-judge or analyze. As simplistic as this may sound,when sincerely applied it’s a potent heart tool. It helpsyou look at yourself like a child learning to walk. Youwouldn’t beat a child for falling down or stumbling ashe was learning his first steps. You’d say, “Oops, no bigdeal.” That creates a heart frequency of care, compas-sion and forgiveness for the child so he can learn faster.You can do the same thing for yourself to help bypassthought loops. You’ll grow faster because it keeps thelearning process lighter and fun. Hiking up a mountainis a lot more fun when you take off your backpack. Don’tjudge yourself if you stumble or get tired, just move on

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to the heart and you’ll get stronger. “Oops, no big deal”teaches you to self-adjust without self-judging. It’s like astepping-stone back to your heart. It gently shifts theenergy, opening the way for intuitive understanding andrelease. Each time a thought loop comes up, rememberto FREEZE-FRAME, say “Oops, no big deal,” go to theheart, let the patterns go, then move on. This techniquewill build your self-management muscle—it soon getseasier and more automatic.

Each time you make a self-adjustment, you add en-ergy to your system. That’s the fifth dimensionalperspective. Self-judgments and self-beating block en-ergy. They inhibit action and drain you. Self-beating ispart of the blindness of the third and lower fourth di-mensions, creating tremendous stress and disease inpeople. As you practice the Heart Lock-In, FREEZE-FRAME

and “Oops, no big deal,” you become sensitive to yourinner truth. When the mind is slowed down, your heartintuition manifests more fully in your awareness. Watchhow you can eliminate fears, anxieties and resentments!You’ll soon be able to recognize the real intuitive voiceof your heart and consciously move to a higher dimen-sional perspective.

More Games to Switch Off UnwantedHead Frequencies

So what do you do when your mind processesthrough a complete negative thought or even a wholestream of them? Here’s a game to try. As soon as you

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recognize the negative thoughts, switch frequencies andend that unwanted thought with a sincere, positivethought. Nurture the positive thought with good heartfeelings for a moment. Then, end that positive thoughtwith a “period” at the end of the sentence. Let it all go,move on and continue with your day. This is not just amental attitude adjustment, which can be repression. It’sheart power applied to the times when you are caught inhead loops and need a transforming tool to remember toshift to the heart feelings and regain a positive perspec-tive. Each time you do this you build your inner security.And security is power.

Here’s another game I use: Take time during theday to say, “All right, I’ll think only positive thoughtsfor the next five minutes” (or longer if you like). As anegative thought tries to pop in (they almost always will),you just say, “Quiet—this is my heart time for positivethoughts.” I try to stop the negative head processor atthe beginning, on the first or second word. It’s actuallyfun to practice “being positive” with heart power. Re-member, the true addictions in life are your thoughtpatterns. Whatever your mind feels you have to have inlife for your peace is a clue to what you’re addicted to.It’s okay to be addicted to love (without attachment tothe outcome), balance and fulfillment. It’s actually realsmart. They all feel good and don’t have any negativeside effects.

As I practiced these games, I saw that increasinglymy heart was running the show. What resulted was an

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amazing number of efficient solutions. I received intu-ition on problems, on creativity, on diet, on managingmy time, and the list didn’t stop. If I ever felt run down,I could find the inner peace I needed and easily rechargethrough the heart. As I developed a more sincere heartin myself, I also found a deeper inner balance.

Deep Heart ListeningFREEZE-FRAME taught me how to listen more deeply

to other people’s hearts as well my own. I practiced whatwe call “Deep Heart Listening” by focusing the energyin my heart while I listened to someone talk. I learned tohear their being—their essence—speak. At first, I noticedthat while I was trying to listen I would run subtle headtapes of my opinion—whether I agreed or disagreed, howI would have handled the situation, and so on.

Try not to listen with the head. Nine times out often I’d find myself doing that. As I practiced loving anddeep heart listening, a miracle happened. I experienceda wider perspective of my consciousness which led to amore sensitive, essence-based understanding of what theother person was really trying to say. There was a realheart connection with the other person’s heart. I foundthat making that connection plugged me into a current,and it took less effort to keep it going. I had a deep real-ization that people are not our enemies; they are ourfriends. They all have hearts, even if they often perceivethings differently. My mind had known the truth of this

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before, but to have that intuitional light bulb turned onand directly feel it was truly enlightening.

When we don’t deep heart listen to people, we canmake a lot of assumptions. For example, when a co-worker from another department used to borrow mypens, stapler, scissors and other supplies from my deskand never return them, it infuriated me. “How manytimes do I have to remind him? He doesn’t care aboutme—he has no respect at all or else he would returnthem.” I felt justified being upset and stressed out aboutit. I talked to him several times, but nothing changed.He was oblivious to the problem and that made me evenangrier. My heart directives showed me how my irrita-tion and resentment were creating a stress feedback loop.Even if it was his fault, getting stressed about it was myfault. I intuited I should keep myself in balance, appre-ciate his positive qualities and then talk with him. Onceagain we discussed my feelings about people borrow-ing my supplies, but this time I felt a heart connection,and he really seemed to hear me deeply. I deeply lis-tened to his response and realized that regardless ofwhether he changed or not, he was my friend and didcare. I was able to totally drop the resentment and wemade an agreement I’d remind him if he forgot, whichhe did. But after a few reminders, he always remem-bered. Magically, the more I deep heart listened both tomyself and others, the smoother all situations workedout in life. But, if I didn’t listen to my heart directives,

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I’d always regret it later and have to deal with the conse-quences.

Deeper Levels of FREEZE-FRAME

You might ask, “Well by now, why wouldn’t youlisten to your heart directives?” Sometimes I’d have littlewhisper thoughts, one liner thoughts, or seemingly jus-tified thoughts and I’d doubt or forget my heart directives.Life would then swiftly give me feedback in the form ofstress. So my next effort was to actually focus on my headand check out these justified thoughts. I’d let my headtalk, with my heart surrendered to it. The heart wouldjust listen and give it understanding. With FREEZE-FRAME, I could step back and listen to myself from theheart’s perspective. At times, I was surprised to see my-self caught up in a head program that I wouldn’t havenoticed if I hadn’t started checking. I began to notice allsorts of subtle head chatter that I wasn’t aware of before.Yes, I had many thoughts that seemed totally justified.My head would think it was okay to analyze, processand ponder a situation. It would say, “I’ve got to figurethis situation out!” But then the head would jam, and inwould roll the mist and the fog. Before I knew it, findingthe solution to the problem would turn into those sameold thought loops again. I would run into ceilings andwalls in my inner rooms, like a trapped bird trying tofind its way outside. So back to the heart I would go,training my mind to let go, realizing that heart intelli-

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gence would let me again know the most efficient solu-tion.

Learning to trust your heart is a process that un-folds as you explore the inner workings of your headand heart. The head is designed to think, analyze andfigure. So use your head programs to get the facts andissues clear. Once you’ve done that, but before you startprocessing, take all that data into your heart computer.Hold it there for a few moments and find your peaceand balance. FREEZE-FRAME in the heart, love yourselfand others, and the solution will find you. That creates asmooth interface between the head subterminal and theheart computer. Try this for yourself and see.

To develop your intuition even further, go fordeeper levels of FREEZE-FRAME. I like to FREEZE-FRAME

and then love for increasingly longer periods of time. Iset the time in advance. First I started with one minute,then two, then five. I increased my heart focus power toeven go for ten minutes without any thoughts. I’dFREEZE-FRAME for ten minutes, then send out love forten minutes, then release the mind and go about my day.An hour later, I’d play the game again. As your FREEZE-FRAME practice deepens, it’s fun to watch a thoughtimpulse come up but never really form into a thought.Remember, it is inefficient to judge yourself if your fo-cus slips back into the head. Just try to stay in your deepheart intuition for longer and longer periods. As I playedthis game, I found on some days it was easy while on

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other days it was a real challenge, like stretching newmuscles, especially if something happened that botheredme just before the time I’d set aside for the game.

One-Liner ThoughtsThrough this process I noticed I had a tendency for

what I call “one-liners.” I would greet someone and be-fore I knew it thoughts like “she looks good” or “heseems a little out of sorts” would pop up. In other words,one line assessments. If another person’s energy mademe feel uneasy, I’d make an assessment that could turninto a judgment, such as, “Something’s wrong with thispicture.” It didn’t matter whether it was a person I knew,the color of a car, or the anchorwoman on the eveningnews—one-liners would accompany whatever my headtook in as data. I wondered if it was possible to take inperceptions without the one-liners that categorized themeither on the good list or the bad list. I recognized one-liners as a standard old third and fourth dimensionalthought process. It was a major insight to realize what afine line there is between simple assessment and judg-ment. One-liners were robbing me of the opportunity tosee everything in a fresh new way, as a child would.

So I created another fun game to consciously ob-serve myself as I approached each situation in life. It wasan important fine-tuning game for operating from theheart at a deeper, more sincere level. Try this game. Icall it “On Your Toes.” Whether you’re balancing yourcheckbook, greeting a person, talking on the phone, ed-

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iting a paper, or any other activity, consciously watchfor one-liners, FREEZE-FRAME them in the heart and no-tice any new intuitional perceptions. I was amazed howmuch fun this added to my life. I was learning how totruly live in the spirit, in the higher fourth dimension.Intuitive perceptions feel so good to the human systemthat you want to keep Freeze-Framing your head intoyour heart and wait for that direct perception. It keepsyour childlike spirit alive.

Whisper ThoughtsEnergy follows thoughts. Whatever thoughts you

think, that’s where your energy goes. As your aware-ness develops, you realize it’s simply not energy-efficientto have inefficient thoughts. I began to look at what Icall whisper thoughts, the seemingly quiet ones youbarely notice. Did they also take away from being in themoment? I noticed I had soft whispers that ran continu-ously throughout the day. I whispered about my day,what to do, what not to forget. The list seemed endless.Only after I practiced FREEZE-FRAME for a while did Irealize the whispers were an energy leak. Please under-stand that I’m not saying whisper thoughts, one-liners,thinking, analyzing, etc., are negative frequencies. But,if you let them run constantly, it’s like a faucet with aslow drip. Self-empowerment is a fun process that comesfrom being conscious of how you’re managing all theenergies inside you.

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would come in at the appropriate time so I didn’t haveto keep circulating the same list of reminders in my head.At times my intuition would tell me to write down athought on my “to do” list and get it out of my head. Irealized that some of those whisper thoughts were help-ful but some were just nagging, insecure thoughts aboutwhat I needed to do. As I released many of them, I expe-rienced a new level of intuitive organization. Manypeople write “to-do” lists, but there are also the lists ofwhisper feelings that don’t quit. As you develop your in-tuition through FREEZE-FRAME, you start to notice yourmultilevel inner processes. You become sensitive to thewhisper thoughts and feelings that are energy-draining.I came to view them as a constant noise in the backgroundthat slowly wears you down.

So what can be done to keep your intuition runningall through your day, without the draining whisperthoughts? Here’s what I did. Many days when I wokeup in the morning my mind would start to list all thethings I had to do that day—phone calls, letters to an-swer, household responsibilities, normal everyday stuff.I would diligently use my daily planner to organize mypriorities, then sit down for a Heart Lock-In. That’s whenI’d notice the whisper thoughts start: “Don’t forget to...”Each time they came up, I would ask my heart for deeperunderstanding. My heart told me to just let them meltaway, that everything would get taken care of...just letgo into a deeper level of peace and silence. The innersilence felt so good. As I practiced this, the power of my

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heart began to grow more and, magically, everything thatreally needed to get done did, and right on time. I intu-itively knew what to do when, and my work days wouldflow just right.

All my associates at the Institute use the FREEZE-FRAME games and although we manage severalbusinesses, give seminars all over the country and havemany visitors, our days flow in creative harmony withlittle stress or strain. We love to share with others howwe have learned to empower the heart of business. It allstarts with loving people and loving yourself, doingHeart Lock-Ins, using these simple FREEZE-FRAME tech-niques and following your intuitive heart directives.

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Speak Your Truth: Honest Communication

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Speak your TruthHonest Communication

Deep listening from the heart is one half of true com-munication. Speaking from the heart is the other half.They are like two sides of a coin. When you remember howyou like to be spoken to, that helps you speak from yourheart and helps the other person listen better. We have amotto at the Institute, “Communicate as you go, don’twait ’til you blow.” I’ve become very aware that when Idon’t speak my truth, and let things build up, I feel ter-rible.

A friend and co-worker tended to be irresponsible.He was in charge of warehousing and receiving. Occa-sionally he’d neglect to notify the store clerks that animportant shipment had arrived. It didn’t cause a majorproblem so I let it go. But I still felt irritated. Not longafter one of these incidents, he was supposed to run anerrand for me and forgot. I felt frustrated and knew I

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should talk to him but I didn’t make the time. Then wepassed each other in the hallway as I was rushing to meeta deadline and he started telling me about a silly prob-lem. I got angry inside and judged him for beinginsensitive. Later, I felt some guilt that I hadn’t yet talkedto him.

When I heard he was complaining that I didn’t havetime for him, I was stunned. I had all my reasons, butsuddenly they seemed flimsy. I felt disappointed andhurt. The next time I saw him, he brushed past me. I feltsquashed and resentful. I went back to my desk totallynumb and about to blow up. My unsaid feelings werepiled up inside me. I Freeze-Framed and went back tomy heart, realizing I’d done this to myself by not speak-ing with him along the way. My heart had quietly triedto tell me several times, “Please speak your truth fromthe heart. Use your discretion, but talk to him.”

I had to really ask myself, “Why didn’t I speak mytruth?” This was only one situation out of several whereI didn’t speak up. I could see it was a pattern. I was re-ceiving tremendous inner feedback from several areasin my life, creating piles of stress. Then a pile wouldcrumble from over-stacking it on the inside. Without re-lease, depression would soon follow.

I’m not naturally aggressive or outgoing; I’m on thesensitive side and usually fairly quiet. For years one ofthe biggest deficits on my energy balance sheet had beenmy reluctance to communicate in the moment. I had a

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list of reasons for not speaking my truth which seemedvalid but were not. Underneath I was just scared anddidn’t know why. Finally, I was determined to get to thebottom of it.

In many heart discussions with myself, I went overthe reasons I found for not speaking in the moment. Thelist read like this: “I don’t want to offend someone,” “Idon’t want to interrupt and be rude.” “They probablywon’t like what I have to say or like me for saying it.” “Itwill just turn into an argument.” Another good one was,“No one gave me a chance to speak, so they probablyweren’t interested in what I had to say.” No matter whatreason I gave myself for not speaking up, I’d feel frus-trated. Then I’d tell myself, “I can handle my ownfeelings, no one really needs to know.” It seemed easierthis way, until a pile of these unresolved feelings camecrashing down on me. I had to ask myself, “Were all myreasons just coming from my ego? Could I be foolingmyself?” After all, I didn’t think other people were stu-pid for speaking their truth from the heart. No, I thoughtthey had courage.

If you find you’re not speaking the truth, access yourheart for the reason. Are you just scared and don’t knowwhy? Heart intelligence can help you overcome insecu-rities by giving you clarity and understanding. With penand paper, you can heart-map a solution. Ask your heartfor the steps to start speaking your truth. Your heart cantell you when speaking your truth would be energy-effi-

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cient or not and advise you on the best timing. It canturn any deficit into an asset. The heart is not about rightand wrong. The heart is like a friend who wants to helpyou reach understanding whether it’s with yourself orothers.

Not long ago, I wanted to tell a good friend that hernonstop, rapid-fire talking irritated me. But I didn’t andshe kept on doing it. I was feeling like a victim of intimi-dation. My fuse got shorter. I went to my heart and askedwhy I still hadn’t said anything. I had to consider, was itdue to head frequencies, like fear of rejection, desire forapproval or avoiding an argument? Or was it due to heartintuition telling me to be sensitive, get more clarity orwait for better timing? In being honest with myself, I sawthat it was a mixture. I finally decided the most efficientthing to do was to be vulnerable and have the courage tospeak my truth. I did. I spoke from the heart and we prob-ably had the best talk we’ve ever had.

Being vulnerable doesn’t have to be threatening. Justhave the courage to be sincere, open and honest. Thisopens the door to deeper communication all around. Itcreates self-empowerment and the kind of connectionswith others we all want in life. Speaking from the heartfrees us from the secrets that burden us. These secretsare what make us sick or fearful. Speaking truth helpsyou get clarity on your real heart directives.

The combination of speaking my truth and deepheart listening is one of the best gifts I’ve found in life.

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It’s taught me I can be myself, my whole self. What anelated feeling to finally understand something aboutmyself that’s been like a tree limb blocking a panoramicview! When you sincerely want to know what anotherperson has to say, you receive more power to deep heartlisten, which opens wide the windows of perception. Realcommunication is from the heart. Deep heart listeningand speaking your truth generates an exhilarating “hearttalk” frequency. “Heart talk” is care in action and buildsfriendship. As you learn to see everyone as your friend,and not as an enemy, you release judgments. Just keepyour heart open to them as you speak your truth.

There will always be people with whom you feelmore resonance than others. There will also be peoplewith whom you don’t feel any resonance at all. You canstill love them without judgment. Tune into their essence.That’s one of the serious practices of self-empowerment—to be in the heart and love people, whether or not there’sa resonance. Practice sending love and care wheneverirritations or judgments come up—on the bus, at work,at home, anywhere. You can learn to love anyone whenyou activate your heart power and go that extra mile.You don’t have to agree with them. You just build toler-ance and compassion for every type of person you meet.Christ and other great teachers had that kind of compas-sion, especially for those whom others might reject orjudge. Real heart empowerment would have to be aboutthat.

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ReleasingJudgments

How you perceive life—people, places and things—is of the utmost importance. There is such a fine linebetween assessing a situation and judging it. Assess-ments, when not made from the heart, often becomejudgments. Judging oneself and others is such a mechani-cal habit, a commonly-accepted frequency in our society.But it generates a tremendous amount of stress. In usingthe word judgment, I’m not talking about the ability todiscriminate. I’m talking about the judgmentalness thatcomes from mind-sets or insecurities that color your per-ceptions and affect your ability to discriminate truth. Youare hurting yourself if you don’t give yourself a widerperception of a situation by taking the data objectivelyto your heart and then using your heart intelligence tomake a clear assessment.

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Most people don’t consider themselves judgmen-tal, they “just know” things about people and issues. Themind receives data and compares it with what it already“knows” to decide its perception on a subject. I had toask myself if this “knowing” was from opinions or fromtrue heart intelligence. Judgments are often subtle,formed from old hurts, pressures, stress, haste and com-parisons between yourself and others. Comparisons aretricky. It’s extremely easy for a comparative assessmentto turn into a judgment. As Doc Childre says in The HowTo Book of Teen Self Discovery*:

“Understand that everyone has their own path tofollow in life that is unique and different from any-one else’s. Don’t judge or envy anyone else’s shoes.Just learn to get the most out of the ones on yourfeet. It cuts stress.”

Teach yourself to make heart assessments. Recog-nize a quality or character trait in someone, but if youdisagree with it, don’t judge them, just love them to findunderstanding. Try to see what it’s like to be in theirshoes. Your heart frequencies could help their behaviorimprove and you won’t be adding more stress by judg-ing them. Give people the latitude to be themselves. Youwould want someone to give that to you. I rememberwhen people used to judge me as being hypersensitiveand overly emotional. Since I was already feeling inse-cure, their judgments could make me feel even worse.At other times, people would judge me for keeping too

* Available from Planetary Publications. See page 295.

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much to myself and not communicating. Often they wereright. If I was insecure, I’d freeze inside and be unable tospeak. But sometimes when I was quiet, it was because Iwas considering the best way to respond. When I feltwrongfully judged, I’d get angry. I was trying to findmy balance in communicating and it seemed like I’d bejudged no matter what I did.

People naturally have a desire to find balance in theirlives. Often, what we judge others for is where we our-selves lack balance. You can’t always know what anotherperson’s life is like. One time I judged someone for beinginconsiderate. He was supposed to meet me at a stop-light at 3:45 and drive me to a repair shop. I was lookingforward to a chance to chat with him, hoping to catch upon news of his children who were friends of my son. Iwaited more than twenty minutes in the pouring rain. Itwas almost 4:15 when he finally got there and he didn’toffer any explanation nor did he apologize for being late.I thought he was terribly inconsiderate. “Surely, if hecared about me at all he’d say something,” I thought. Hedidn’t, so I didn’t say anything either. He asked aboutmy family. I responded curtly, “Everyone’s fine.” Athome, I told my husband how disgusted I was. I’d neverask a favor of him again. The next day I discovered hissecretary had written the time down wrong and he hadno idea I’d been waiting in the rain. I had incorrectly as-sessed the situation and now I felt like a heel. While Iwas relieved to be free of the judgment I’d made about

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him, I felt sad that I’d jumped to conclusions and misseda chance to really talk.

Judgments block you from connecting with the es-sence of another person. They create imbalance anddisharmony in your system. As justified as they can seem,I’ve never known judgments to ever help anyone. Whenyou assess someone or something, watch your nextthoughts. That’s where a judgment can come in. If yougo past the line, then you get into judgmental energywhich feeds back on you. It doesn’t feel good to you orto the other person. Judgments create an inefficient feed-back loop inside, especially when your perception ischarged with negative emotional energy. Not only doesjudgment effectively stop the flow of heart energy andreal communication, it destroys relationships.

If you’re the one judging someone, you are drain-ing your energy. You pay the price, not the other person.People and life are always changing, so judgments oftenlimit your perceptions and stop your next level ofknowingness. When “you know what you know,” youput ceilings on the capacity to expand and experiencethe new.

A friend of mine told me about the first time she’dridden a horse in twenty-five years. She went with expe-rienced riders up some beautiful mountain trails. She feltawkward. The saddle hurt and she wasn’t really surewhat she was doing. She judged the other riders becausethey were not considering her situation. When theystarted to gallop, she knew she didn’t have to. But, in the

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excitement, her horse took off too. Head thoughts camecrashing in, saying, “Make the horse stop!” “You’ll falloff!” “Your butt is really going to hurt tomorrow!” “Youidiot!” But as she relaxed and went with the flow, herheart began to burst with joy—she knew she needn’t stopthat horse. They rode for hours and a feeling of exhilara-tion stayed with her through the next day, sore bottomand all.

Don’t many situations that look one way at first,and then change, become add-ons to your life? If youwould let your inner child perceive someone or some-thing first, you would be more open to discovery.Looking through the eyes of a child, life has a won-derment to it and becomes fun. You are in charge ofyour perceptions, so you can choose either to judge orbe open. One drains energy, the other accumulatesenergy. Judgments create separation and alienation;openness leads to connectedness. Whichever attitudeyou choose, that’s how your life will be.

For example, let’s say you’re at a party and yousee someone whom you immediately dislike becauseof the way he looks, something he says, the way hecarries himself, whatever. Later, you get to know himand you become good friends. A lot of people havethis experience. They often laugh and tell others howthey didn’t like each other at first. The sad part is allthe fun and quality in life many of us miss because ofan initial judgment.

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You can’t live in this world without some assess-ments. But be especially aware of emotionally-chargedassessments that become justified judgments. Judgmentsleave a residue—a residue called stress.

“Just Love Them”If you are dealing with fears and insecurities from

old head programs, have compassion for yourself. Justlove your insecurities, fears and resentments. Release andforgive them as they come up. Judging, beating or re-pressing insecurities just gives them power. Then youhave a pattern that never gets resolved. Recognize thatyour real security is built from your relationship withyour own heart. Insecure feelings used to give me somuch pain that I’d judge myself for them, repress thefeelings so I couldn’t feel the stress anymore, and feelunlovable. But I would love someone else if I knew theywere doing this to themselves. It was a real revelation tohave compassion and heart for myself. That’s when Istarted to release those insecure feelings. When you justlove your insecurities and use your heart intelligence,you learn to understand and make peace with them. Theygo away! “Just love them” is an inside tip at the race track.

There is a cloud of judgment and insecurity frequen-cies hanging over the world. It’s a major cause of globalstress. Judgments of yourself or others are comparisonsbetween how something appears and how you think itshould be. I felt stressed and I thought I shouldn’t bethat way, so I got angry with myself. I thought I should

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feel happy but I wasn’t and got annoyed. These com-parisons led me right down the garden path toself-judgment.

What are self-judgments? They are those head pro-cessors: “I’m too fat, skinny, clumsy, dumb, I did wrong,I blew it, I’m not efficient, effective, or good enough.”Self-judgment can drain you as fast as judging others.Self-judgment destroys the feeling of connection withyour heart—your source of power. You cut yourself offfrom your power when you judge yourself. It’s like cut-ting your own throat. Self-judgment depletes you andoften isn’t even a correct perspective.

For example, you could start out by judging your-self for being too slow or unskilled in one small aspect ofyour job. Next, you’re beating yourself for not doing bet-ter in several other areas. You start to feel like a failureand bemoan the fact that you are in the wrong job orwere never given a fair chance. If you had gone to yourheart computer when the first judgment came up, youmight have come up with a more self-appreciative per-spective and a creative solution.

A healthy critique of oneself, with compassion andcare, is beneficial. It leads to self-adjustment. But if younotice self-judgment creep in, practice Freeze-Framing.Care that you tried to do your best. If you need to change,then attempt to, but don’t beat up on yourself. If you dojudge yourself, admit the inefficiency and self-correct.No big deal. Just go to your heart and see the wider per-spective. That gives you the energy to really understandand change!

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Inner Security: Your Key to Self-Esteem

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Inner SecurityYour Key to Self-Esteem

As Doc said in a talk one night, “Self-esteem is the am-plified essence of heart power. It’s the energy your systemgenerates as you gain confidence in yourself.” Self-con-fidence is based on your true level of inner security. Youbuild inner security by trusting in your heart, clearingout old head programs and learning to follow your heartdirectives. Inner security is like coming home. As the wiseold saying goes, “Home is where the heart is.” Inner se-curity and self-esteem are by-products of managing yourenergies from your heart, which releases powerful en-ergy into your system.

In the third dimensional perceptions of self-esteem,people try to get self-esteem in different areas. They lookfor confirmation from “outside” to tell them whether theyhave self-esteem. People acquire self-esteem in isolated

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areas—such as physical fitness, sales success, becominga movie star, etc. Look at a scholar who wins a “Who’sWho” award, or a talented salesman who wins the tro-phy for highest sales volume. They each shine withself-esteem in that one area. But at home, the salesmanmay have an alcohol problem, a poor relationship withhis wife or be abusive with his children. The scholar mayhave many secret insecurities. Well-rounded or completeself-esteem is the result of building well-rounded innersecurity and heart empowerment. That comes from hav-ing more assets than deficits in your energy account atthe end of a week, month or year. Self-esteem energyaccumulates in your system and helps release old prob-lems and old thought patterns. You feel free, limitlessand capable of doing anything. Then spirit rushesthrough your system.

Real self-esteem is really the spirit manifestingthrough your entire system. It’s far more powerful thanthe current third and lower fourth dimensional conceptsof self-esteem. Heart power is what releases real self-es-teem. It’s generated from the securities you have built inthe heart.

Inner security is like fire power for self-esteem. Be-coming secure in the heart builds powerful energyaccumulators which magnetize all the aspects of com-plete self-esteem, like personal magnetism, charisma andother leadership qualities. It creates a life of balance andfulfillment—and a feeling of being at home wherever youare.

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Uncovering Compassion

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UncoveringCompassion

Compassion is care with passion. Passion is a neu-tral energy that adds to and amplifies your care. Whenyou care and have a passion to understand and help oth-ers, you have compassion. You can see passionate carein the Mother Theresa’s of the world. Something burnsinside their hearts in endless service to the sick, the des-titute and those whom society has forgotten. You can seecompassion in the eyes of a kind teacher, whose heartgoes out to a troubled child. You can find it in a wisejudge who looks deep into the heart of the accused witha clarity that transcends the letter of the law.

Compassion digs for the quality of deep understand-ing. Isn’t our judicial system founded on the premise thatall are innocent until proven guilty? That’s the bottomline of compassion, although many forget it in the heat

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of today’s social problems. Unless you love people, youcan never understand them. When you love enough toput yourself in someone else’s shoes, you discover com-passion. True love and compassion release other peopleto be themselves because they finally feel understood.Care and compassion are heart frequencies that are acti-vated by a sincere attitude of wanting to help. They arepower tools that, if used, strengthen your connection withyour own heart and your ability to love.

Quite often compassion slips into the lower heartband of sympathy. Sympathy drains your energy andbleeds you of your vitality because it has qualities of sad-ness, pity and remorse. Using your heart intelligence, youcan walk in someone else’s shoes without walking offthe cliff with them. You have respect for both yourselfand the other. Sincerely loving them creates a new per-spective of balanced understanding.

FearWhat people often perceive as the evil and difficult

side of human nature is laced with what most call fear. Ichoose to call it a lack of understanding. Many timeswhen something is new or unknown, and you don’t un-derstand the situation, it can create fear. In a stressfulworld, people instinctively respond from the head, withfrequencies of anger, paranoia or defensiveness—allforms of fear. Fear is an illusion of the mind, yet all fearshave a “make-sense” to them. There is always an answerand a satisfying understanding that releases fear, even if

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it isn’t at your fingertips in the moment. Your heart in-telligence can release you from fear if you give it a chanceto bring in a new perspective. But if you’re locked intofear, the mind doesn’t see any way out.

Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by anticipa-tion that something bad is going to happen. Fear of theunknown comes from not being able to perceive life fromthe heart. We fear we will not be able to understand andadapt to change. Usually, we like change if we can con-trol it—knowing what’s coming, moving at our ownspeed, etc. But life doesn’t tend to deliver like that.

Fear can be paralyzing. In inner cities, like Detroit,New York and Los Angeles, a majority of people live infear—fear of leaving home at night, fear of drive-byshootings, fear of rape, robbery and other violence. Insuburbia, many live in fear of losing their jobs, of a low-ered standard of living, or fear that the violence of thecity will spread to their neighborhood.

Fear is also created by the memory of having expe-rienced hurt, pain, sadness or anger, and not wanting toexperience it again. You may be protecting those placesin your heart that were bruised. If you glaze over yourfears pretending they don’t exist, you are still harmingyourself. Science has shown that repressed fear secreteshormones in your bloodstream that have a debilitatingeffect on your immune system.* Compassion for your-self is a powerful tool to release those fears.

* Kalin, N., The Neurobiology of Fear, Scientific American, May 1993.

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Quite often, an open heart results in feeling the painof humiliation. You probably had times in life when youloved with the openness of a child, then someone treatedyou without compassion, laughed, or even punished youfor being that way. So you closed your heart out of fear,to protect yourself from ever feeling that pain again.

Fear is a deeply-rooted frequency in our stressfulworld today. People build emotional defenses and thendeny their feelings. Fear gets buried under layers of de-nial, often turning into repressed anger and hostility. Thesuppression of emotions is unhealthy. When your angerhas no place to go, it can turn into an attack on yourself,or it can generate blame for others and result in an un-justified attack on them. To release your anger, first tryto love or feel compassion for those you want to blame.This can help you calm down. Then try to share youranger with them without an attack. Express how you feelwithout blaming them for making you feel that way. Ifyou turn rage outward in blame, it will kill your rela-tionships; if you turn rage inward, it will kill you withdisease. Unexpressed anger and rage eat away at youlike a cancer, while hostility and venting anger often leadto heart disease.

At an annual meeting of the American Heart Asso-ciation, several papers were presented on the effects ofanger and hostility on the heart. The San FranciscoChronicle reported,

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personalities were at high risk of heart attacks. Butmany now believe that the truly lethal personalitytrait is hostility and anger.... When people get an-gry, their bodies pump out stress hormones, suchas adrenaline, which trigger the body to release fatinto the bloodstream to provide energy. People withhigh hostility at age 19 tend to have high choles-terol levels at 40.”

It is neither possible nor desirable to avoid all pain-ful and sorrowful experiences in your life. They help youdeepen your feelings of compassion for yourself and oth-ers. What you need to do is take conscious responsibilityfor how you choose to perceive painful experiences. Youcan make your decision from the third dimensional headperspective or from the higher fourth dimensional intel-ligence of the heart. Fear-based decisions made byindividuals in the name of self-protection are what cre-ated the limiting perceptions of separate races, culturesand nations. Individuals who break these patterns of his-tory will lead us through the passageways of compassionand understanding and into the consciousness of self-empowerment.

As the world steadily turns back to the rights of in-dividuals and individual responsibility, it will also haveto honor the principles of the collective whole. In God’splan, everyone would be taken care of, so there wouldhave to be compassion for all. The shortest route to theheart of the matter is to “love,” taking personal respon-sibility for using your higher intelligence, your heart

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computer. The fundamental change for the world will occurwhen we as individuals open our minds to heart perspectives.

Are We Victims?I’m Dysfunctional, You’re Dysfunctional is the title of

a book pointing out how America has become a nationof victims. It’s a trend to blame our parents for our dys-functional behavior. When I was in college and juststarting out on my own, I blamed my parents for havingsheltered me too much. I had only lived on military basesand entering mainstream society was a shock. My par-ents diligently followed all the disciplined rules of thebase. Like many young people tasting independence forthe first time, it was convenient to blame anything I didn’tlike about myself on them. Watching my college friendsdo the same thing, it didn’t take me long to realize thatno matter what my upbringing (or perhaps because ofmy upbringing), I was responsible for myself. Today, Isincerely thank my parents for how they raised me andthe example they set for me. I value self-discipline andthe core values I learned.

In this stressful society, there is so much we all haveto cope with; it’s easy to blame our problems on others.“Codependency” is a popular term today, applied to anyproblem associated with any addiction, real or imagined,that involves another person. In exploring codependency,many are trying to reclaim a sense of identity, power andbalance so that they can stop feeling victimized in theirown lives. It is easy to feel discouraged with ourselves

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and that discouragement leads to more self-judgment be-cause we feel we “should know better” and “should havelearned by now.” It may very well be true that dysfunc-tional families are incubators of shame, guilt, anger,denial and self-doubt. It’s not a child’s fault for havingadapted dysfunctionally to a distressed family environ-ment. But it is an adult’s responsibility to release theblame and take on the self-work that will reshape theiradult experience. Many continue to see themselves asadult victims of early family dynamics rather than as self-determining participants.

The victim scenario repeats itself in towns and cit-ies all over our nation and is a trend of our larger culturalenvironment, regardless of race, religion or socioeco-nomic status. We realize there are problems, but don’tknow what to do about them. We fear dying young, butfear growing old. We fear not finding the right relation-ship, but fear we’ve found the right relationship. Herecomes marriage, but we fear being tied down. We fearnot getting a new home, but fear the stress of house pay-ments and upkeep. Nowadays we yell, scream and hateourselves—internally beating ourselves up. What we doto ourselves is often times worse than what we blameour parents for. Usually, we don’t think to feel compas-sion for our families having done the best they knew how.Somewhere along the line we are accountable for our-selves.

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addiction, alcoholism, child abuse, compulsive eating,anorexia, depression and obsessions are the grim results.Yes, we pass our attitudes on to our children. The collec-tive hell turned outwards creates violence, gangs, crime,homelessness, war and starvation. Is our disease, indi-vidually and socially, an addiction to negativity and pain?

GriefWith all our pain, we retreat behind the prison many

of us have erected around our hearts for self-protection.But we haven’t imprisoned anything but our pain. Griefis the iron bars that surround a heart in pain. As the mindplays tapes of grief, the real heart seems very distant.Grief is a state of mind that has turned its back on thepower of love. It manifests as a deep feeling of being un-loved. To live in grief is to live in loneliness, cut off fromthe gift of life.

Sometimes life presents situations that cause a pain-ful shock to your system—bankruptcy, job loss, divorce,betrayal, death of a close friend. Grief occurs when youallow that shock to consume you. The mind keeps re-playing the painful experience again and again, buildingthe power of despair as it goes. For example, when a lovedone dies, you feel loss and sorrow. As we acknowledgeand focus on the sorrow, grief results. But the tendencyof the mind is to hold on to grief. Society encourages it. Ifyou’re not grieving enough over the loss of your hus-band or wife, society judges you. If you’re not crying

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enough at the funeral, you think people are looking atyou disrespectfully.

The mind recoils at losing what it holds most dear.The tendency of the mind to hold on to guilt and fear, tocling to self-judgment and blame, is an aspect of grief.We become rigid with denial and self-protection, and sinkinto a feeling of “not enoughness.” Inside, we look into awarped mirror, created by the inharmonious frequen-cies of third dimensional thinking. Our self-image seemsdistorted, unacceptable, unwhole and unlovable. Ourthoughts tell us we are unworthy and useless. What aliving hell we have created for ourselves. Yet, we holdon—our grief has become a stimulus that gives at leastsome deeper feeling to life.

People often say they drink excessively to block thepain of grief. But often, it’s just a launching pad for fur-ther exploration of despair. They become pitiful so theycan feel the anguish at a deeper level. Why this fascina-tion with despair? It’s because people have not learnedhow to reconnect with their heart power after a painfulevent has short-circuited the connection. To feel deepgrief is better than not to feel at all.

Through the intelligence of your heart, you can re-lease the self-victimization paradigm that bleeds anddrains the quality of life. The darkness of the helpless-ness and hopelessness can be illuminated by the heart,in a clear and merciful awareness. What seemed so un-touchable is reclaimable with the power of compassion.

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The iron bars begin to melt. When heart contact is finallyreestablished, it changes your perception. Through a deepwillingness to surrender to hope, you can let go of griefand allow your heart to speak.

Some are able to release grief far more quickly thanothers. However long it takes, it is always the re-connec-tion with the power of the heart that moves you past grief.When the heart is enlivened again, it feels like the suncoming out after a week of rainy days. There is hope inthe heart that chases the clouds away. Hope is a higherheart frequency and as you begin to reconnect with yourheart, hope is waiting to show you new possibilities andarrest the downward spiral of grief and loneliness. It be-comes a matter of how soon you want the sun to shine.Listening to the still, small voice in your heart will makehope into a reality.

From Recovery to DiscoveryThe first step in recovery, whether from grief or any

addiction, is to realize your heart is your power source tohelp you stop this self-abuse. Many recovery programs re-quire you to admit that you are powerless and to submitto the authority of another. God would like us to use our“heart intelligence” and discover ourselves. Recovery isonly half of the healing process. Acknowledging that youare powerless, unmanageable and addicted is a first step.But don’t stop there, keep growing. With a deep willing-ness to surrender, you can let go, listen to your “still, smallvoice,” and allow your unhappy life to change.

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Self-pity can be replaced with compassion for your-self and others. It is compassion, rather than self-pity,which makes the greatest contribution to true growth inrecovery. While some can acknowledge that “others havesuffered more than I,” not many people are able to sus-tain that feeling of truly “counting their blessings.”Sooner or later most people find themselves on the “pitypot.” The 12 Steps program tells the newcomer not toworry; they only have to change one thing – everything!Without inner heart management, this kind of effort andchange in recovery is extraordinarily difficult. Very of-ten, the lack of inner balance leads to simply changingaddictions, then coping with new addictive behaviors.

“Recovering, never recovered” is living in a state offear that addictive behavior will again control your life.Recovery is not complete until you move beyond fearand realize that we can and do recover. True and lastingrecovery is achieved by developing security and under-standing within your own heart. Heart managementallows you to transcend fear, transform addictive behav-ior and literally erase such patterns from your system.Heart security enables you to move beyond “recovery”into a new dimension of life experience—discovery.

All of us have some kind of grief to explore. Grief ofincompletion. Grief of not having what we wish. Grief ofshame. Grief of humiliation. Grief can be loss of control,death of friends or loved ones, even the loss of one’s pet.We ask, “What did I do wrong?” “Why did this happento me?” It is the feeling of separation from ourselves and

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others to which the word “grief” can most accurately beapplied. Real grief is the separation from your heart.

For example, when I was a teenager my best friendin the world was my horse, Shaquita. Every day I’d ridealone in the jungles and on the beach in Panama, wheremy father was stationed in the military. I loved her morethan anything. When my father was transferred back tothe States, I knew it was impractical to take Shaquita withme. I felt like I’d lost everything. There was an emptyspace inside. I couldn’t imagine how I could ever fall inlove with anyone or anything as much as my horse. Itwas many years before I realized that it was my ownheart opening that had felt so wonderful. That experi-ence, as painful as it was, gave me a depth of feeling thatopened a new chapter in my life. My only true desirewas to feel that love again. In my search for love, I cameto deep understandings.

Falling in love is magnetic. Our hearts open and webecome extremely receptive. We’re more flexible and lifehas new sparkle. Some people fall in love with God andit feels even stronger than falling in love with a person.A mother falls in love with her child in a different way,but feels it just as deeply. All are aspects of the open heart,ready to receive. It’s the open heart that people yearn forto bring them fulfillment. In looking for love, we are look-ing for more of our own heart. When we lose the objectof our love, the loss of that part of our heart can seemunbearable. When we try to go back to the heart and feelour love again, the old pain comes right with it.

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The heart can feel like it hurts too much at times towant to put your energy there and feel what the heartfeels. But it’s the pain of the heart shut off that hurts themost. You feel you’ve had to cut off a flow of love to aperson or thing that is no longer there. Don’t get caughtin a cycle of blaming and cutting off, blaming and cut-ting off. You’ll only prolong your pain. I discovered thatthere are plenty of people around to love, including my-self. Try feeling compassion for yourself. Be gentle andkind inside as you reach for understanding. That willrelease the pain and let you feel your love again.

You’ll discover that real love is millions of miles pastfalling in love with anyone or anything. When you makethat one effort to feel compassion instead of blame orself-blame, the heart opens again and continues open-ing. It’s only a mind-set (but a strong one) that says youneed to have a certain something to feel that special feel-ing in your heart. Life will bring that feeling back to you,but you have to be open—it may come gift-wrapped in adifferent package than before. Your spirit wants morethan anything for you to feel that total fulfillment, with-out dependency on someone or something for yoursecurity.

When you think another person is responsible foryour happiness, then your lower heart bands of attach-ment are involved. Attachment keeps you bound toinsecurity. It’s not that you didn’t love. You did. But it’sthe mixture of love and attachment that’s confusing. Youcan tell you’re in lower heart bands by the way they drag

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you around. The deeper heart builds inner security andthat is what finally transforms the pain.

Whether you’re in a relationship—with a mate, afriend, a child—or are alone, you still have a relation-ship with every person you meet. You have a relationshipwith your own heart, your spirit, yourself. If you con-sciously go to your heart with compassion, you will findheart intelligent answers to any relationship issue.Victimhood reflects a collective sense of resignation inour society. It isn’t that suffering and loss shouldn’t berecognized. If we valued self-responsibility, we wouldtreat victims with compassion and respect but not rever-ence. So often, friends sympathize and emotionallyidentify with each other’s problems, thinking they’re hav-ing a heart-to-heart talk. Sympathy is two people cryingin their beer, two pitiful people instead of one. This onlyamps up the emotions which feed the victimizing headthoughts. Then people take actions out of indignation,because of the principle of the matter and create morestress. Offer compassionate understanding, not sympa-thy, to friends in distress, then you can help them seefrom a new perspective. If you cry with them, you giveyour power to them and victimize yourself.

The Poor Me’sYou can speak your truth from the heart and stop

being a victim of your emotions. Befriend yourself, learnto love yourself enough to stop replaying the same old

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victim movies. Your inner security, your heart power,doesn’t need to be dependent on anyone else, on whatthey say or do or don’t do. Feeling misunderstood, takenadvantage of, not getting the proper credit—those timesin life when someone or something has done you wrongand you feel justified in getting out of your heart—can besummed up as “the poor me’s.” Science is proving dailythat self-victimization really does affect health. Instreetsense terms: People can jog five miles a day andseem in good health, but if they’re processing “poor me’s”over some problem while they jog, they are releasingdebilitating hormones that deplete their immune system.You are the one victimizing yourself. “Poor me” mentalprocessing can ruin your entire day.

Most people find their biggest unfulfillment is inthe company of their own self. You can go on a vacationin the woods and just being with yourself can bring morefeelings of unfulfillment than the job or home you wantedto escape. The real victimization is needing to have some-thing outside yourself for fulfillment, to fill the “hole inthe soul.” That’s the root cause of all dependency andaddiction, trying to fill that hole. Addiction doesn’t work.It only temporarily masks the pain and never fulfills thatpart of ourself. Addictions often cost people everything—family, job, home, self-respect. The pain finally gets toomuch to bear and the isolation too intense. It usually takeshitting bottom for people to reach out for help in recov-ery.

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EmpowermentWhen a person starts in recovery, they often feel an

uplift at first, like they’re floating on a pink cloud aboutto be rescued from all their despair and pain. Withoutlearning to manage the self from the heart, the new highdoesn’t last. People revert to self-abuse again. The realprocess of recovery would involve four stages. The firstis admitting you’re in addiction. This requires self-hon-esty. The second would be uncovering what took youthere. Many get stuck in a loop at this stage, identifyingwith the old hurts over and over again. You can neverbuild self-esteem through constantly victimizing your-self with the old hurts. Be willing to cut your losses andself-empower here; then your third stage would be torecover to balance. Without balance you can’t enter thefourth stage: discovering your next level of fulfillmentand fun and sharing that with others.

Many times you might feel despair about your re-covery process and wonder if returning to your addictionwouldn’t be better than experiencing the difficulties ofyour life. You might let your head run in its own loopabout what is not right in your world, adding emotionalintensity to your feelings of despair. You weigh out thepro’s and con’s of drinking or using something or some-one again. Then you judge yourself for even thinkingabout it and feel worse for not being “beyond this yet.”You become afraid and anxious that you may not be ableto prevent yourself from a relapse.

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This is one of those times to know there is a differ-ence between the head and the heart and to practice usingheart power tools. Here are the steps. Recognize that youare in inefficient head loops and FREEZE-FRAME thethoughts of “lack” in your life. Activate compassion foryourself as someone who is trying hard to grow in yourrecovery. It helps to realize that everyone has some lifegeometry in which they too could use more heart em-powerment. FREEZE-FRAME your head bands about thedetails of your issue and go to the heart computer for areadout on which heart tools could best help. Then sin-cerely practice the tool your intuition gives you. Makean effort.

It’s important to appreciate yourself and your situ-ation, remembering that things could always be worse.Recognize that you are experiencing the effects of oldpatterns of thinking and feeling that drain your power.Keep Freeze-Framing these thoughts as they surface.These steps are all acts of loving yourself. Love, love, loveyourself, but don’t turn around too quickly to see if theflower you’ve planted in your heart yesterday is grow-ing yet. Soon your heart intelligence will let you knowwhat’s next for you to do. Talk to a friend to help you geta better perspective. Don’t be afraid. Your heart will tellyou if what they say is right for you.

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your grief, whatever your addiction, using the heart toolswill give you the power to move from “always workingit out” to “being there.” As you practice listening to andfollowing your heart, your love will increase in qual-ity, and expectations and attachments will release bitby bit. Use the tool with the bottom line: just love.You know how good compassion feels when you re-ceive it from others. So give it. And don’t forgetcompassion for yourself.

Begin to perceive any problem as anuntransformed opportunity for empowerment. Under-stand that you basically have two choices. Onevictimizes and ages you; the other empowers you.Soon you will find yourself helping others dissipatetheir stress through the heart—with a lot of compas-sion and understanding. In loving others, you helpthem bypass steps that you had to go through. Youawaken your own heart bands and theirs. Everyonedoesn’t have to go through all the same things. That’swhat love is, making it easier for others. Watch thehidden power of the heart unfold in our social struc-tures over the next few years as more people catch onto its transforming quality and the opportunity nowavailable.

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The Power of Surrender

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The Power ofSurrender

When you have compassion and surrender to yourown heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power inyour heart, God. You are surrendering to love, becauseGod is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that con-nects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it’sa power tool for listening to the voice of your spirit andfollowing its directions. When you surrender your headto your heart, you allow your heart to give you a wider,higher intelligence perspective. Remember the phrase,“The real teacher is within you.” Very simply, that teacheris to be found in the common sense of your own heart.

To find the real meaning and power of surrender,practice releasing and letting go—just loving. This is nota giving up. Surrender is a process of stilling and empty-ing the mind. We ask ourselves to shift focus and go to a

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more understanding perception. That means quieting thehead bands for a while and using your heart computer.It means letting go of self-limiting third and lower fourthdimensional perspectives to allow your own higher di-mensional awareness to be activated. As you practice this,you will learn to see the divinity in everyone’s heart,learning and growing like you.

Surrender is giving up our attachment to how wethink things ought to work—the outcome of a situation.It means letting go of the crystallized thought patterns,mind-sets and box-ins that leave no room for a widerperspective. Growth never stops, no matter who you areor how aware you may be. When the mind sets up a tem-porary truth, and you are sure you know what you know,you don’t leave any room for a higher truth to come toyou. Leave the box open; give your heart a chance tobreathe. Then it can show you new possibilities for ful-fillment. New truths will feel good to you once you havegotten the mind-sets out of the way.

Children know that they don’t know, so they are wideopen and receptive. They naturally ask an older or wiserperson to explain their perspective to them. “I don’tknow” can be a tremendously empowering statement,especially if you take it to your heart with a sincere sur-render to whatever your next step might be. It creates anopenness to discovery that can keep the childlike spiritalive.

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Enthusiastic SurrenderSurrender is having the intelligence to ask God for

an understanding perception of the whole, a new viewof a situation. It’s easy to do this if you don’t care muchabout the issue or if you’re not attached to the outcome.Then enthusiasm for the surrender comes readily. Butthe more important the issue is to you, the more impor-tant it is to surrender, at least to get a fresh perspective.When there is attachment to the result, we tend to have ahard time giving up control. Let go and enthusiasticallysurrender to the God in you and the God in others. Loveyourself and others in balance. If you notice you areswimming against the current, surrender and flow withthe universal current. Consistently follow your heart di-rectives and love. Then, what you’re really saying insideis, “I’ll manage my energies as efficiently as I can, usingmy God intelligence.” That is loving God. And God isLove.

Surrender helps you to love whatever comes yourway in life and stay empowered. From my experience,life is full of the gifts of learning and growing. Some giftsfeel quite terrific, so surrender is just a matter of openingwithout fear to an experience you might have thought tobe impossible. If an experience feels unpleasant or pain-ful, true surrender would give you the eyes of the heartto see the gift of growth and embrace it. You can softenand smooth out the jarring feeling of the unexpected withloving surrender.

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Surrender is a serious part of your awakening pro-cess. It involves truly taking care of yourself and thewhole. My friend Wendy began to blossom in unexpectedways when she lost her executive job and became “just aworker.” Her branch of a clothing company had beenstruggling financially. She loved her company and thepeople she worked with, so she was out there poundingthe pavement for sales herself, trying everything shecould think of. When the company finally closed herbranch down, she felt humiliated. Now the dreams she’dhad for turning “her little empire” around were downthe drain. All the people in her department were offeredjobs painting designs on silk in another part of the build-ing.

Because she loved the people, Wendy went to paintsilk down the hall. She kicked and screamed inside atfirst, angry with upper management. But when she wentdeeper into her heart, she could see they were doing thebest they could for the whole and that their decision hadbeen wise. She realized that they had actually given hermore time than most companies would have done tomake a go of an ailing profit center. When she went evendeeper into her heart, she appreciated she had a job anddiscovered a delight in her new work. She found herselfin a large open room with a group of women she alreadyloved. They laughed and talked across tables where theyapplied colors to silk that sparkled in the sunlight. Wendyrealized this new job was the fulfillment of a secret dreamshe’d had for many years—to work with her hands in a

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kind of quilting bee environment with friends who lovedher. Out of the rat race of her executive job, she becamemore secure, kinder and more fulfilled.

When we know love matters more than anything,and we know that nothing else really matters, we moveinto the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminishour power, it enhances it. Surrender is not giving poweraway, it is actually joining power. It is the synergy of allyour powers, not a weakening, but a powerful strength-ening inside you. Surrender releases the charisma of thespirit, an invisible energy with visible effects. You be-come of the moment. You come into possession of yourgreatest asset for changing the world: your capacity tochange your perspective about the world.

Enthusiasm created from the heart is the spirit ofthe matter. It ignites your whole system so there’s nodrag, no resistance, no thoughts like “Do I have to?” com-ing from the head to sabotage the power of yoursurrender. If you are trying to re-create your life and arenot excited about what you’re creating, then what youchoose will not happen. With enthusiasm, you wouldhave the flexibility to sincerely surrender in the moment,to let go, and just love—a true, sincere moment of sur-render where only love matters. Ask your heart to helpyou change something on the inside of you first, not onthe outside. Then put your heart into it. That’s wherelasting change of any kind has to start.

The cure for the people problems of our world issurrender, meaning just loving each other. Children have

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flexibility—they love and surrender more easily thanadults, who seem to endlessly attach themselves to theresults of a matter. If the ambition of all people was tolove (rather than make this amount of money, achievethat result, and on and on), their lives would unfold inharmony from the core. You can’t take fulfillment. In theheart, fulfillment finds you.

Consider your own life—how many times a daydoes some situation pop up that leads to moments offrustration and anxiety? Surrendering your head toyour heart in those moments will lead you to balanceand fulfillment. As you listen to your spirit, peace fol-lows. So follow your spirit. Build your foundation inyour heart. Love must be your innermost and sponta-neous response towards every person you encounter.Say to yourself inside, “I just love.” Use these wordsas a key to start the engine running in your heart andwatch life brighten with new love and understanding.Surrender to your new awareness and let love unfoldthe purpose of creation to you.

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God's Creation

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God’s CreationAs the transition into the next dimension of aware-

ness speeds up, more pieces of the puzzle can fall intoplace for everyone. Long awaited answers on the pro-cess of creation are emerging through DNA research,breakthroughs in physics and new understandings of ho-lography. For years, physicists debated whether theuniverse started with a “Big Bang” or in some other way.Scientific evidence indicates there was a Big Bang, whenall matter exploded from one single point of energy, butthe question of whether this was a random event or anact of conscious intelligence (God) had not yet been sci-entifically determined. Until April 23, 1992, science wouldnot venture past the point of saying the Big Bang was arandom event, that matter formed itself out of chaos.Then something happened.

It was interesting timing. I was getting ready to writethis chapter when a friend from New York faxed us anarticle about a scientific breakthrough. Astronomers re-

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leased new data from the most powerfully sensitive mi-crowave telescope ever built, which was aboard a NASACosmic Background Explorer (COBE) satellite. They sawwhat had never been seen before. It was considered bymany astrophysicists as “the breakthrough of the cen-tury.” Astrophysicist George Smoot of the LawrenceBerkeley Laboratory, announced that he and his associ-ates discovered what they believed to be the edge of theUniverse. When scientists view stars in the sky, they areactually seeing them as they were many light years ago.It takes thousands and millions of years for starlight totravel to the earth. Through the new telescope, they sawdistant, wispy clouds or ripples of matter that were rel-ics of how the universe looked 15 billion years ago! Theseripples were uniformly spread out in the newborn uni-verse and may have started clumping together to producestars. There was intelligent order present, leading to themathematical conclusion that: intelligent intention waspresent at the beginning of creation. This discovery wasfar past what scientists had previously observed. Accord-ing to a statement given by Stephen Hawking ofCambridge University, who ranks with Albert Einsteinas one of the preeminent theorists of the century, “It isthe discovery of the century, if not of all time.” As a sci-entific breakthrough it brings physics closer to religion,since every religion believes that the heavens and earthwere formed by intelligent divine intervention, not byrandom events.

The Los Angeles Times reported, “The most miracu-lous thing is happening. The physicists are getting down

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to the nitty-gritty...and the last thing they ever expectedto be happening is happening. God is showing through.”Some Christians say, “These momentous findings sup-porting the Big Bang theory of creation may confirm thatthe universe is the work of a majestic guiding hand, pro-viding a common ground for two old antagonists—religion and science.” According to physicist MichaelTurner of the University of Chicago, “They have foundthe Holy Grail of cosmology.” Harvard astronomer OwenGingerich sums it up, “Science’s essential framework, thateverything sprang forth from that blinding flash, bears astriking resonance with those succinct words of Genesis1:3, ‘And God said, Let there be light.’”

Theories of human evolution and the creation of theuniverse can be completely unraveled as your higher in-telligence evolves. Let’s take a deeper look at the mostpopular, current views on creation and evolution. As oftoday, the three most commonly discussed theories are:1) the strict Creationist theory, 2) the Darwinian theory,and 3) the Big Bang theory. Most religions believe in Cre-ationist theories. The Judeo-Christian Creationist theoryis based on the biblical interpretation that man was cre-ated by God about 10,000 years ago as an act of DivineIntervention. Judeo-Christian Creationists believe thatAdam and Eve were literally the first humans and thatGod created the universe, galaxies, stars, planets andearth, including all animals and plants, as they are, as anact of divine will. Creationist theory does not accept thetheory of evolution. Nearly half the people in the USAaccept the Creationist theory, at least as it’s applied to

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man. In a 1991 Gallup Poll, 47% of those polled said Godcreated man as a one-time event pretty much as he isnow sometime in the last 10,000 years.

I was curious. How did it all begin? How did I be-gin? Who created me and why? I could understand theCreationists’ feeling that every living thing must be aspecial creation of God. It seems hard to imagine that weevolved from stardust. I studied the current theories, tak-ing each one to my heart computer to gain moreunderstanding. I knew there had to be a way to bringtogether the more personal theories of creation and thefacts of science.

Understanding EvolutionThe Darwinian theory of evolution is based on sci-

entific evidence that everything on earth evolved from asingle-cell organism. This cell divided, multiplied,adapted to its environment and mutated over long peri-ods of time. The stronger organisms continued to evolvewhile the weaker ones died out. Some evolved into mul-ticelled water organisms, which evolved into fish,reptiles, lower mammals that walked on four feet, apesthat walked on two feet, and finally humans. Darwiniantheory does not say how the single-cell organism got therein the first place. The same 1991 Gallup Poll indicatedthat 40% of those polled believed that humans did de-velop over millions of years of evolution, but God guidedthe process.

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therefore all creation) started from a singularity. Mostscientists now accept that the universe started with a BigBang, a tremendously powerful explosion of energy fromwhich all stars and everything was created and thenevolved over billions of years. As scientists verifiedEinsteinian equations which mathematically showed asingularity, the Big Bang theory gained strong support.Astronomers have spent years searching for hard evi-dence to support this controversial theory. The recentdiscovery by George Smoot is the first time that relics ofthat original Big Bang have been observed. “As a result,”reported the Los Angeles Times, “theorists have come tothe remarkable conclusion that all of the matter in theuniverse—and all of the space as well —was initially con-tained in an infinitely dense ball smaller than the periodat the end of a sentence.” “That may be difficult to com-prehend,” says Lawrence Berkeley Laboratoryastrophysicist Rich Muller, “but cosmologists, like thequeen in Through the Looking Glass, have to believe siximpossible things before breakfast.”

Just as Darwinian theory doesn’t say how the firstmicroscopic organism got here, the Big Bang theorydoesn’t say how that original point of energy got hereeither. In the 1991 Gallup poll, only 9% believed that manevolved by random event without God. A total of 87%believed that God was involved in creation in one wayor another. Many accept a combination theory that em-braces God’s involvement along with the scientificdiscoveries of Darwin and the Big Bang.

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So how do we verify for ourselves which theories,if any, are true? Using your heart computer, you can at-tempt the exploration of any idea. As ideas (orfrequencies) enter your consciousness, your heart com-puter can intuitively unfold their truth to you, bringingan understanding of evolution. All too often the headcomes in and says, “Oh, no you don’t! You can’t prove itso you must not accept what cannot be demonstrated tothe earthly mind and senses.”

I find exploring theories is fun. Every challenge inlife is an opportunity to evolve. You can meet that chal-lenge by taking it into your heart computer for directionand understanding. You can allow your intuition, di-rected by your heart, to take precedence over the earthlymind, the head. Let your higher intelligence rule yourlower mind; let it rule your life and all happenings inlife. It’s enlightening to illuminate your lower mind andgain direct knowing. The bible says, “For as a manthinketh in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7) If you thinkwith the mind in the heart, you are continually with God.Heart intelligence has the power to order and unfold yourtemplate of life efficiently, in universal accord with theCreator.

Our world is rapidly entering a new dimensionaltemplate of consciousness that is bringing us back intoresonance with the primal Creator. Naturally, there willbe some lumps and bumps as our perspectives adjust.This new consciousness is not the historical, traditionalhuman perspective of God. These views are limited by

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the mind-sets of second and third dimensional aware-ness—all that people could grasp at the time. Higherdimensional perceptions know God as an omniscientpresence or being, having infinite awareness, understand-ing and insight. God’s being and intelligence resideswithin all currents of the Universe.

This is the age of your awakening, the time whenyour heart and head can harmoniously integrate in widerunderstanding. It’s an awakening to the fact that you areresponsible for yourself. The kingdom of heaven is withinyou. Evolution is, sincerely, the ongoing unfolding pro-cess of loving and understanding all there is.

Self-HelpDuring the twentieth century, and especially since

1960, thousands of different self-help practices have ap-peared and been tried by millions. How well they workdepends on the quality of the techniques and the sincer-ity of your practice. “Self-help” would requireself-understanding, and eventually lead to an under-standing of your whole self. I’ve practiced many differentself-help techniques over the past fifteen years. I feel likeI took in the cream essence of each one, and they all ledme back to the heart. Only when I began to practice liv-ing from the heart, did my life start to change and evolvedramatically.

The difference between how I was fifteen years agoand how I am now is like night and day. Even my physi-cal body has changed. I never thought I could lose weight

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around my pear-shaped thighs because of the way I wasbuilt. Now I am very slender and my facial structureappears different. I used to be passive and slow in mymovements. Now, I am highly active and quick. Emo-tionally, I was hypersensitive, uncommunicative andoften insecure. I lived a lot in a “poor-me, no one under-stands me” attitude. I didn’t really like people all thatmuch. Now, I am secure, enjoy expressing myself andlive in a state of appreciation of how truly wonderful lifeis. To a large degree, I’ve balanced my personality andunderstand myself. I have many wonderful friendshipsnow and really love people, all people.

To me, self-help means we can truly help ourselvesby becoming responsible for our head and heart choices.As we do this, evolution rapidly unfolds past what ourminds alone can imagine. In my own development, I’veachieved a point of head/heart integration which allowsme to probe the mysteries of the universe with heart in-telligence.

The puzzle of creation has always deeply intriguedme. As I pondered it in my heart, I realized from a higherfourth dimensional perspective that creation and evolu-tion are really one and the same. They are two pieces ofthe puzzle that only look separate to the lower dimen-sional mind. As I assimilated data from my heartcomputer on these two aspects of life, I saw how cre-ation and evolution, together, form the whole. Thefollowing few chapters describe what I discovered.

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With the same inner perception that I see humanenergy fields and auras, I also see divine patterns whichfunction as templates for the holographic images in theheart crystals. These templates appear to be influencedand molded by cosmic energy fields. There is some typeof weaving factor that seems to unite and fuse differentfrequencies so they function as a whole unit. I realizedas people make choices, they activate different frequen-cies that come together and form holographic “filmstrips”of their life.

When I first saw holographic filmstrips of seeminglypast, present and future events, I often wondered if thefuture is frozen and completely predetermined or if itcan be changed. If the future is a hologram for whichevery detail is prerecorded and fixed, then we are all just

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acting out a play of our destiny. We would be movingmindlessly through a script that had already been writ-ten. If this were true, it would mean there is no free willor choice.

PrecognitionI studied many documented reports of people who

had precognitive glimpses of their future. As a result ofthese glimpses, they were often able to avoid disaster. Iread one account of a woman who was about to board aplane. But, as she looked around, all the people who weregoing to board seemed gray and ghostlike. She had a feel-ing of doom and chose not to get on the plane. The planecrashed on take-off, killing everyone on board. A closefriend told me a story about the evening he and four fra-ternity buddies had decided to go to a local bar. Whenthey got in the car, my friend suddenly felt in his hearthe shouldn’t go. He stayed back without really knowingwhy. That night he was awakened by the Dean of Menwho told him his buddies had been in a serious car crash.Three were killed and the fourth critically injured.

The bible is full of stories about people who receivedvisions or forewarnings, acted on them and changed thefuture as a result. Noah saved his family and the animalsby heeding the warning to build an ark. Joseph waswarned in a dream to flee with Mary and Jesus to Egypt,as Herod was going to kill the child. I wondered whyprecognition wasn’t more common in modern times, andrealized that, when unbalanced, it easily leads to super-

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stitious beliefs. The development of head logic wouldtend to dismiss precognitive glimpses as mere supersti-tion, throwing the baby out with the bath water. Whenbalanced with heart understanding, the precognitiveability brings true wisdom.

Recently, I read accounts of identical twins, whothough separated at birth, ended up with amazingly simi-lar lives. When they finally met each other, they foundthey’d married people with the same first name, giventheir children the same name, had similar careers, ownedthe same kind of dog, and even wore clothes of the sametype and color. There are many true stories of identicaltwins in which one twin intuitively knows what’s hap-pened or going to happen to the other twin. Wheneverthey can, they warn each other and are able to avoid un-pleasant events.

Examples like the above would seem to indicate thatthere is a fairly detailed DNA blueprint of our future.Dr. David Loye, a clinical psychologist and former fac-ulty member of the Princeton and UCLA medical schools,spent the last two decades investigating precognition.From his findings, he concludes that, “reality is a gianthologram, and in it the past, present and future are in-deed fixed, at least up to a certain point.”

In his book, The Holographic Universe*, Michael Tal-bot theorizes that, “the future of any given holographicuniverse is predetermined, and when a person has a pre-

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cognitive glimpse of the future, they are tuning into thefuture of that particular hologram only.” According toTalbot, there are many holographic pictures “floating inthe timeless and spaceless waters of the implicate (theenfolded order), jostling and swimming around one an-other like so many amoebas.”

One of the basic tenets of quantum physics is thatwe are not merely discovering reality, but are participat-ing in its creation. Dr. Loye says, “When we act upon apremonition and appear to alter the future, what we arereally doing is leaping from one hologram to another.”He calls these “intraholographic leaps” or “hololeaps”and feels that they are what provide us with our truecapacity for both insight and freedom.

From my experience in the holographic heart, thefuture is indeed plastic and can be changed. I see it ascomposed of “crystallizing possibilities.” Since every-thing is really interconnected, it’s possible to tune in andchoose a different holographic frequency pattern andchange your future. You are very simply doing that whenyou follow your heart directives rather than your sameold head program.

Your perspective at any given moment plays a sig-nificant part in creating the quality of your future. Weare like artists, sculpting our destiny as we go. Most ofus are unconscious participants in the patterns and fre-quencies of our holographic blueprint. But in becomingheart conscious, we activate new crystallizing possibili-ties that put us on the highest blueprint possible, God’s

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plan for us. As it says in the bible, “Eye hath not seen,nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man,the things which God hath prepared for them that lovehim.” (1 Corinthians 2:9)

In the holographic heart, I can see microchip recordsof antiquity, of All, and of the universe that goes beyond.The frequencies of the past and present unite to form aconfiguration of magnetics that draws a specific futureholographic pattern into your present. Some of the stron-gest crystallizing possibilities of your holographicblueprint can be seen in major life events such as mar-riage, accidents, death and enlightenment experiences.Many people have had powerful glimpses of higherfourth and fifth dimensional awareness. Through theirinner vision they have experienced the coming togetherof all forces of nature in blissful oneness. Or they haveseen the pure pristine light within their core heart. Sin-cerely wanting to understand what you’re here for, andwanting to do God’s job for you better, puts you in ap-prenticeship to God.

Nature always seeks a balance, so the future pat-terns people magnetize are their system’s effort to createbalance. Disasters can teach us profound lessons that re-sult in more understanding. Some people love andrespect nature and learn balance from her harmony. Aswe learn to harmonize our lives, we help balance theholographic patterns in Mother Nature which humanityis part of. Perhaps then, Mother Nature wouldn’t needto teach us to care for each other through storms and

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earthquakes. At least we can know she loves us enoughto care that we learn one way or another. Each personstill has choice. If you don’t go to your heart and learnfrom a misfortune, you could magnetize similar frequen-cies to yourself (possibly another misfortune). When youuse heart intelligence in life, you rearrange your futurefrequencies and often can avoid disasters.

From my experience, a fifth dimensional hololeapis possible when you view your filmstrip and then havethe intelligence to erase or remodel part of your charac-ter. You can actually walk into the holographic heart andreenact that part in the play. In other words, you giveyourself a fresh start by going into your past and mak-ing a different choice. It’s like taking out a particularcomputer chip, an old program, by altering the basic fre-quency. You come back to your everyday world, but withless baggage and a fresh perspective. Hololeaps couldbe considered a form of time travel.

One of my holographic experiences started while Iwas doing a Heart Lock-In one evening. I clearly saw acartoon-like filmstrip. As I entered into it, everything tookon a dreamlike quality. The next thing I remember iswaking up. I didn’t think much about it, got up andwalked into another room. There I saw people and en-ergy beings whom I didn’t recognize. I also saw atransparent dome around the room. The tables and chairswere still there but had an ethereal look. I focused onone of the people and he slowly began to rotate. At eachturn, the perspective and angle changed, revealing a dif-

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ferent character. I felt connected to this person in the heartand realized I was seeing a multidimensional being. An-other being who was both flowing and angular walked upthen and sat down next to me. As he sat down, he foldedup. It made me wonder in this moment if Lewis Carroll’sAlice in Wonderland wasn’t so farfetched after all.

I wasn’t sure if the usual objects in that room werereal, so I took the cup in my hand and laid it down on thetable. It was solid and I realized I was in two realities atthe same time. A howling seemed to come from the treesoutside and I went to look. Though I live on a ranch inthe woods, I was surprised to see a wolf outside my door.I felt no fear as he walked towards me, then stopped. Isaw the side of the transparent dome between myself andthe wolf. He could go no further. My heart intuition spokein my thoughts, saying, “Holographic movies appear onthe inside. A holodome appears outside around you, inyour 3-D environment.”

Afterwards I wondered—cartoons and people in thesame movie? Then I remembered the movie Roger Rabbitin which people interact with cartoon characters. Perhapsimaginative artists like Walt Disney, who made cartoonspopular, and Lewis Carroll were really tuning into holo-graphic images!

Each moment is a doorway to time travel. Being inthis very moment and no other, time as we know it stops.You FREEZE-FRAME and stop. Then you can make an-other choice. You can stay in the same holographicpattern or you can choose a different one. As I compre-

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hended more universal principles concerning thehololeap, I occasionally peered into the future and sawthe various crystallizing possibilities, realizing we trulydo have a hand in their creation.

Being in the MomentFuture events often cast a cloud’s shadow in our

present thoughts and in our daydreams of old memo-ries. You might have a hunch that an old friend is goingto call and thoughts wander into memories of old timestogether. And then the phone rings and it’s that friend. Ifind the best way to prepare for future moments, or tostabilize any unwanted past moment, is to be fully in mypresent moment, now. To be in the now is a state of mindthat doesn’t stagnate in the past or the future. Living inthe moment is living in the spirit—with buoyancy andsparkle—the spirit being the essence of life.

Practically speaking, let’s say you’re eating a ham-burger on Tuesday while thinking of a steak dinneryou’re going to have next Friday. It’s likely you are notenjoying the hamburger to its full potential. Being in themoment involves giving maximum appreciation and loveto your present experience. This widens the doorway tothe potential of the Now. As Doc Childre states in his bookSelf Empowerment,

“The Now Age is the age of individual (do-it-your-self) enlightenment—Now! Until this isimplemented, stress will casually rule....I’ve expe-rienced both new age and old age structures but

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decided it was more efficient to live in the ‘now.’ Bythe ‘now,’ I mean: this moment.”*

So how do you practically apply holography to thereal world of this moment? When you see old patternsof fear arise, that’s when you need to go to your heartintelligence for a wider perspective. Your next thoughts,feelings and actions will determine how the next hourand often the rest of your day unfolds. Your little choicesreally do count.

I vividly remember one such incident a few yearsago. I saw a girlfriend of mine in an animated conversa-tion with my boyfriend. They both seemed to be enjoyingthemselves and an old pattern of insecurity arose insideme. My stomach clenched. “Maybe he likes her more thanme,” I thought. Jealousy and fear started to color my per-ceptions. My head ran automatic thoughts of, “I’m notas pretty as she is,” “I don’t communicate as well as shedoes,” “he might spend less time with me,” “he mighteven leave me.” I stopped it right there. I knew from ex-perience exactly where that train of thought would lead.Right into a wall! Right into me cutting off my heart toprotect myself from rejection. When I’d done this before,my boyfriend, sensing my coldness, would withdrawfrom me. Inevitably, an argument and a miserable daywould follow. By consciously choosing to FREEZE-FRAME,go back to the heart, and sincerely love them both, myperspective totally changed. I could see they were inno-

*Self Empowerment available from Planetary Publications. See page 295.

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cently enjoying conversation with each other. It was nobig deal. I realized they both loved me. In stopping fear-ful thoughts, I leaped to another “holodome,” andactually changed my future. The rest of my day waswonderful!

Holograms are really like a hall of mirrors. It’s what-ever perspective you want to see, whatever angle youlook at in the mirror, that determines your reality. Stop-ping head thoughts to gain a wider perspective of themoment is the choice of creation. Only through the heartcan one see the holographic movie objectively. Whenyour heart directs you to leap into another holodome, doit and surrender to the new movie. Participate in it andexperience it fully. That activates your next heart-directedprogram, and the next, and you move on in your highestblueprint in the universal flow.

Intraholographic leaps on the vertical or horizontalaxis of the energy grid of life can be viewed as an inter-dimensional chess game between you and you. Thevertical axis is moving inward into higher understand-ings of yourself and life. The horizontal axis is wideningyour love of people and experiencing them at deeper lev-els of understanding. At times your heart directs you togo within for more awareness. At other times it directsyou to radiate your love outward and connect more withlife. Evolution is about balancing these two axes to acti-vate the higher holographic frequencies and enter intothe higher dimensions.

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The holographic movie of daily life can seem so solidand real—from the moment you wake up to the momentyou go to sleep. After all, each day you live in the samehouse, in the same city, with the same sun shiningthrough your window and the same trees outside yourdoor. Your mind/brain/body gets used to this, so real-ity appears very solid and third dimensional. As I wasgoing to sleep one night, I experienced all three dimen-sions—third, fourth and fifth—as distinct realities. Eachwas as real as the 3-D world we live in. I saw movingthrough dimensions as the vertical axis. Then I saw thehead and heart choices we make in life as the horizontalaxis. When you dream at night, have you ever consid-ered whether your consciousness is in anotherdimensional reality? Or, have you considered whether,right now, you are somewhere sleeping and this wakinglife is your dream? Could you have parallel realities, orparallel worlds, going on?

Different holographic filmstrips could be viewed asparallel worlds. Our personal filmstrips often have usacting out the same basic frequency but with different“furniture.” It’s like living several movies with essentiallythe same plot, but with different actors, different sets andthe potential for different outcomes. How many timesdo people tell themselves, “I’ve been through this so manytimes before.” Many people marry, divorce and marryagain, only to find the same movie playing out again inthe new marriage. In dreams at night, we often act out

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the same frequency patterns we experienced in the day,but with different characters and scenes.

In his best-selling novel, One, Richard Bach used acombination of personal experience and fiction to de-scribe his understanding of what it’s like moving in andout of parallel realities. While much of what I am writ-ing here is rather abstract, I hope my words andexperience can give you at least a feeling for the time-less, overlapping qualities and potential of theholographic heart.

God created the sun, the water, the stars, the natu-ral environment, people, the universe. They are alluniversal holographic creations, made real by our heart/mind/brain perceptions. As we become holographicallyaware, we can enter into them, just as we can a holo-graphic 3-D picture today. Appreciation and love in themoment are the key. Appreciate and love the sun, the wa-ter, whatever you are gazing on. Appreciation magnetizestheir holographic images and patterns to you, so you candance and co-create with their essence. In this way thewhole universal hologram expands, evolves and grows.This oneness is the next step in human evolution. Co-creation is where evolution and creation are understoodas one.

Each of us is responsible for our spectrum of per-spectives in the holographic creation because we reallydo have choice. “Do the starving people in Africa havechoice?” you may ask. They don’t have the immediatechoice to eat if there’s no food, but they do have choice

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to stay in the heart or not. By staying in the heart, theymight possibly magnetize more heart from those whohave the food to give them. Being angry and resentfulwon’t bring food any faster and it only makes you moremiserable. Have compassion and understanding for thoseenduring hardship. Every human has their own holo-graphic blueprint, with its own crystallizing possibilities.But this doesn’t mean we ignore their suffering. In theheart we would sincerely want to help.

In the movie you are living today, are you choosinga heart perspective or a head perspective? Dependingon your choice, you will write different sequences foryour day and the consequences will be different—acti-vating different holographic filmstrips. The highestintelligence has “streetsense” in the choices it makes,streetsense being the common sense of the heart whichintegrates and aligns higher fourth dimensional percep-tions into the 3-D world here and now. Streetsensecontains complexity broken down into simple under-standings. It’s a practical, balanced and efficient approachto a life situation that simply “makes sense.” Streetsenseis the road to clear perception about what is.

The Part and the Whole“To see a World in a Grain of Sand

And a Heaven in a Wild Flower

Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand

And Eternity in an hour.”

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The basic holographic principle is that every partcontains the whole. In holography, every piece of a holo-graphic picture contains the entire picture. In the nowfamous experiment called, “The Phantom Leaf Effect,”an electrophotograph of an amputated leaf revealed apicture of an intact, whole leaf. The amputated portionstill appeared in the photo of the leaf, even though themissing leaf fragment had been destroyed. In anotherscientific experiment conducted in Rumania, Dr. I.Dumitrescu cut a circular hole in a leaf, then recorded itby electrophotography. The photographic image revealeda small leaf with a hole in it, which appeared inside thehole where the leaf had been cut. Inside the hole in thesmall leaf appeared another smaller leaf with a hole in it.

How is it possible to take a picture of somethingnot physically there? The piece that was cut out left theinformation of the whole electrically recorded in a non-physical field! But, this information also contained a leafappearing inside a leaf and another leaf inside that leaf,like a mirror effect, confirming the holographic natureof the organizing energy field (etheric grid or ethericbody) that surrounds all living organisms. This ethericgrid is in reality a holographic energy pattern. The entireuniverse can be seen as one large, dynamically changingenergy pattern.

Every tiny cell in your body contains an identicalcopy of your master DNA blueprint. As Richard Gerber,M.D., author of Vibrational Medicine, states,

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“The fact that every cell within the human body con-tains the exact same information to create an entireduplicate body mirrors the holographic principlewhereby every piece contains the information of thewhole.”*

Like the phantom leaf, your master DNA blueprintis holographically mirrored in every cell of your body.When you hold a tiny acorn in your hand, you know itcontains the entire blueprint for a huge oak tree. You alsoknow that when a sperm and ovum come together, theycontain the entire blueprint for an adult human. Imagineevery cell in your body also containing the frequencyblueprint of the whole universe. Only through the heartcan you access these higher dimensional perceptions ofuniversal frequency structures. The bioenergetic field ofthe physical body is a holographic energy template withencoded information of All. It contains the DNA blue-print of the fetus along with a road map for cellular repairin the event of damage to the developing organism. Themedical question arises, “Is it possible to enter into andcommunicate with the DNA holographic blueprint pat-tern to improve health and cure diseases?”

A study done by a scientist from the Russian Acad-emy of Sciences, then repeated in collaboration with theInstitute of HeartMath, describes a phenomenon calledthe DNA Phantom Effect. The DNA phantom was ob-served during experiments measuring the vibrationalmodes of DNA in solution using a sophisticated laser

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photon correlation spectrometer. When scientists ex-posed the DNA molecule to coherent laser radiation, thenremoved all physical DNA from the scattering chamber,they found evidence that the DNA had left an imprint inwhat scientists call the vacuum. (The vacuum can bethought of as a range of vast energies from which allmatter is created. Some call the vacuum zero-point en-ergy). The DNA imprint remained for long periods oftime and in several cases for up to a month. The evidencesuggested that the vacuum was imprinted with the DNApattern or “information.” And that the vacuum imprintthen interacted with and changed the electromagneticenergy (the laser beam), thereby providing evidence thatinformation patterns (holographic patterns) do interactwith and guide physical matter. The DNA Phantom dis-covery has tremendous significance for understandingthe communication link between the holographic blue-prints, coherent heart frequencies and DNA, and fordeveloping a deeper understanding of the mechanismsunderlying many healing phenomena.*

Future ScienceSince 1991, the Institute of HeartMath has been in-

vestigating the relationship between cardiac electricitiesand DNA. They have also been researching and map-

*Poponin V, The DNA Phantom Effect: Direct Measurement of a NewField in the Vacuum Substructure. Gariaev PP, Grigor’ev K, Vasil’ev A,et al. Investigation of the fluctuation dynamics of DNA solutions bylaser correlation spectroscopy. Bulletin of the Lebedev Physics Insti-tute. 1992;11-12:23-30.

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ping the electrical, sonic and magnetic field links betweenthe heart, the brain, mental and emotional processes, im-mune and hormonal functions.

In an early research project, the Institute used spec-trum analysis of the ECG (electrocardiogram) to studysubjects who were practiced in sending out consciouslove. They made significant discoveries. As one re-searcher observed, “When love was being sent tosomeone, the spectrum analysis of the ECG revealed aratio between the frequency peaks of 1.618, the GoldenMean. The ratio of the Golden Mean, 1.618, is the mostefficient ratio known for the transfer of energy betweenscales. When energy is phase-locked with this ratio, itcascades between octaves without losing momentum ormemory of itself. The fractal design of the heart uses thisprinciple to send energy cascading down the harmonicseries to the DNA. The geometry of these waves looksexactly like the DNA as viewed from the top. The mainpoint here is that 1.618 is also the ratio of the DNAstructure and is the only ratio that allows completeinformation or geometry to cascade down the harmonicseries without loss of power or geometry. Lovingcauses the coherence and ratio necessary to send en-ergy up or down the harmonic series from the higherorganizational dimensions down to the DNA. There-fore, by loving and caring it would be possible toreprogram and empower the DNA with the intelli-gence of working for the whole from the perspectiveof higher electrical energy dimensions.”

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In another study, Institute researchers found that aperson sending conscious love and care to human DNAwas able to change the conformation (winding or un-winding) of the DNA. (The DNA was contained in a vialheld by the sender). Even more importantly, the changein winding or unwinding was in the direction intendedby the sender. These results were measured by ultravio-let spectroscopy.*

The implications of these studies are profound. Bysending coherent heart frequencies of conscious love andcare, it may be possible for people to enter into the DNA,and reprogram and empower it to improve immune sys-tem and cellular health. Universal love embraces,protects, nurtures and communicates to the DNA to un-fold its blueprint. This communication cascades onfrequency harmonics of the golden mean spiral. Onlythrough sincere love and care from the core of being inthe heart, can we enter into God’s design and co-createat the holographic level of the DNA. The heart is the pro-tective safety valve. This is very different from geneticengineering as we know it now, which is only tinkeringwith the components of the gene on the physical level.

* Rein G and McCraty R. Modulation of DNA by Coherent Heart Fre-quencies. Proceedings of the Third Annual Conference of the Interna-tional Society for the Study of Subtle Energy and Energy Medicine.1993. Monterey, CA. Rein G and McCraty R. Heart Intelligence: TheCorrelation between ECG Coherence, DNA and the Immune System. Pro-ceedings of the International Forum on New Science 1993. M.A. ReinG and McCraty R. Structural changes in water and DNA associated withnew physiologically measurable states. Journal of Scientific Exploration.1994;8(3):438-439.

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Coming HomeWithin your DNA is the golden means back to your

origin, your primary source or cause; therein lies the fre-quency path to “Home.” This particular DNA doorwayis contained in the hidden power of the heart. As yourawakening process unfolds, the DNA codes are unveiledto your awareness, creating the understanding of thepower and potential of primal “Love.” Love the saintsand sages of this world who understood that each cell inyour system contained the creation of the whole universe.They expressed their knowledge in language understand-able to their times. Now, with new scientific language,the third dimensional mind can understand the unveil-ing of the mysteries of life. St. Thomas Aquinas said,“Since God is the universal cause of all Being, in what-ever region Being can be found, there must be the DivinePresence.” This is the concept of hologramatic biology.It is a biology that would allow God, your Creator, toclothe part of His eternal awareness in material form.

God consciousness utilized a delicate synthesis oftwo methods of creation, one deliberate and the otherallowing. For people to co-create in the universal order,there had to be allowing—free choice. Jesus was refer-ring to this co-creative process when he said, “Ye are allgods.” And, “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He thatbelieveth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; andgreater works than these shall he do; because I go untomy Father.” The human DNA is a deliberate primal self-replicating particle/entity of God, created in an

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environment conducive to the kind of development theCreator wanted to see—God’s plan. Then, the hope wasthat the DNA creation would freely choose of its ownwill to pursue development in the frequency of love, thefrequency of its Creator. The Creator’s plan can be seenin the innate desire of parents to see their children haveloving and fulfilled lives. When a child is unloving orhurtful to others, the parent disciplines him, not to hurthim, but to help him become more loving .

How can humanity activate God’s plan in the DNA?Consider what would happen if everyone in the worlddecided to love the best they knew how, for just ten min-utes at the same time on the same day. There have beenefforts to synchronize masses of people in prayer or medi-tation at the same time. Harmonic Convergence andHands Across America were two such efforts. What ifwe asked people to just try to be in the heart and love forten minutes? Millions of people focusing simply on lovewould set off a new holographic frequency—generatinga quantum leap. It would be like jump-starting a battery;once it’s charged it can empower the whole.

The Divine Purpose embedded in the DNA templateis to bring all humans into hologramatic consciousness,understanding the universe with the same attunementthat Christ had. However, you must not merely attuneto the rhythms and frequencies of the whole but alsoparticipate in them freely, through your own will. Imag-ine how happy the Creator would be if everyone, at thesame point in time, would choose to love! It would sig-

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nal a new holographic information program, triggeringthe fulfillment of the Divine Purpose. Humanity will soonawaken to the realization that evolutionary unfoldmenthas a geometric progression, the Golden Mean ratio, thatis characteristic of harmonic radiations of love. It unfoldsthe Creator’s intention.

In further studies, Institute researchers found thatthe positive feeling states associated with love, suchas compassion, care or appreciation (qualities of spiritextolled by the bible and many religions) also createthe same ordered and coherent sine wavelike patternin the heart’s electrical rhythms. They all generate thesame harmonic radiations. In other words, when an in-dividual is highly focused on loving someone or something,their heart electricities become coherent. This coherencecan be seen with even greater clarity in heart rate vari-ability (HRV) measurements derived from the ECG.HRV is known to be a measure of autonomic nervoussystem order or disorder. Coherent HRV waveformsare generated by positive feeling states, such as loveor appreciation, and indicate increased balance andefficiency in the nervous system function. On the otherhand, stress, frustration, anger or anxiety, create dis-ordered or incoherent HRV waveforms, characterizedby irregular, jerky patterns. Disordered HRV patternshave been linked to many diseases.

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Institute researchers were able to demonstrate thatwhen the heart is operating in the more ordered, coher-ent mode, frequency locking occurs between the HRVwaveform and other biological oscillators, includingbrainwaves. When the heart is radiating coherent energypatterns, it causes the electricities of the brain and its sub-centers (the head) to phase-lock with the heart patterns,creating greater efficiency. This is referred to as the en-trainment state. As people learn to sustain coherence intheir heart rhythms, brainwaves are brought into entrain-ment with the heart at .1 Hz, facilitating cortical function,intuition and decision-making. *

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The Golden Mean ratio is a perfect bridge for bring-ing waves of different lengths into coherence. The GoldenMean ratio harmonizes waves through balance. In otherwords, the Golden Mean acts as a bridge that organizesyour frequencies to work together without friction. YourDNA structure is designed so the choice to function in love,in coherence, is the only choice that brings you fulfillment.

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Stressful feelings, on the other hand, are inner biofeed-back, signaling you that frequencies are fighting withinyour system, creating incoherence. The purpose of stressisn’t to hurt you, but to let you know it’s time to go backto the heart and start loving.

What the Institute of HeartMath’s research is point-ing to is that coherent heart electricities contain anencoded intelligence; that there is a direct correlation be-tween the frequency signature of cardiac electricity andpositive mental and emotional states. The geometric ra-tios, as seen in the rhythm, amplitude and frequencymodulation of heart electricities, also appear harmoni-cally linked to the physical cellular system, the immunesystem and DNA structure. The heart acts as a trans-former for intelligence which allows a two-waycommunication between different dimensions. The heartis actually the doorway to the highly organized intelli-gence that programs the DNA. Intui-Technology is theaspect of the HeartMath system that walks you throughany holographic program so you can access the GoldenMean frequency any moment of the day. With practice,Intui-Technology leads you from third dimensionalawareness to fourth and fifth dimensional heart intelli-gence. FREEZE-FRAME is one of the key tools to enhancehuman performance and unfold this heart intelligence.

Heart intelligence is essentially able to download abroader frequency bandwidth of harmonic instructionwhen the heart fires (or beats) in a relaxed but centeredstate of “phase-locked” resonance. Coherent (focused)

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love permits a greater content of these harmonic instruc-tions from the heart to be downloaded from the longerwaves of the higher dimensions into the shorter wavesof the DNA, from etheric energy to matter. The shapewhich illustrates this process is the Golden Mean spiral.This Golden Mean pathway also permits the process tofunction in reverse—from matter to energy, from shortwave to long. The communication goes two ways at once.The geometric Golden Mean spiral shape actually lookslike the fractal image of the heart itself.*

* Fractal objects are objects that are composed of sub-units that re-semble the larger scale shape. These sub-units are in turn composedof yet smaller sub-units that also look similar to the larger one and soon. (Like the repeating fractal image in the Phantom Leafelectrophotograph.) Mathematically speaking, fractals maintain thesame ratio while changing scale. The Golden Mean spiral is the geo-metric template of the heart, which is its fractal counterpart in den-sity. (Drawing and explanation of Golden Mean provided by DanWinter.)

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The principle of energy interference among wavesof any type (sound, light, water, etc.) is that order (orconstructive interference) self-replicates, while disorder(or destructive interference) self-destructs. Simply put,this means you can boost a wave’s amplitude by attun-ing to its frequency, or you can disrupt a wave byintroducing a dissonant frequency. Heart perspectivebrings waves into focus. The points of resonant conver-gence are where lines of energy and intention meet. Theresults of the research show that coherent emotionalwaves, like love, are self-regenerating, teachable and eas-ily accessible with practice.

Through love and attunement with your “spirit,”you resonate with the field of universal spirit, God.Through your conscious human eyes, you will be able tosee and understand things as the universe itself does. Thisperspective works both ways. Universal intelligence canalso look through the human soul, to see into the verydepths of the world of matter. You can consciously par-ticipate in the Golden Mean two-way communicationcascade between the higher dimensions and the DNA.You see into the patterns of cosmic structure, in the mac-rocosm and in the microcosm, using your heartintelligence, decoding your DNA, enabling you to seewhat is, and what is to come.

In holographic creation, it’s not prophecy that givesyou this kind of future vision. Nor does this vision stemfrom some latent, undiscovered part of the human mind.Vision enables you to glimpse into the future, to sense

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its hope and its power, because you yourself are themeans of that future’s creation. You are part of the holo-gram that is!*

Increasing the LightAs more higher dimensional energy comes into the

planet, more vision will be possible. There will be tre-mendous scientific and technological breakthroughsthroughout the next twenty years. This period of hightechnological emphasis will serve the whole world. It will

*Doc has developed new Intui-Technology tools since I first wrotethis book that I want to mention. They are powerful techniques thathelp people clear out old emotional programming at the cellular leveland access their higher DNA blueprint. The “CUT-THRU®” tool is de-signed to release recurring negative emotional reactions and patternswhich have become automatic through repetition. It facilitates releaseof “frozen” mental and emotional circuitry to make it easier for lightto move through your system. CUT-THRU helped me expand my depthfield of intuitive perception by stopping emotional drains from subtleworries and anxious whisper feelings that came from cellular memo-ries. This brought me to a feeling of completeness at the cellular level.Research with people practicing the CUT-THRU tool showed that, injust 30 days, participants were able to create favorable changes inpsychological and physical well-being. They experienced significantincreases in caring and vigor, and significant decreases in guilt, burn-out, anxiety and hostility. Participants also showed cellular changeswith an average 23% reduction in the stress hormone cortisol alongwith an average 100% increase in the vitality hormone DHEA. Twoother new Intui-Technology tools are “Point Zero” and “HeartHologramming.” Point Zero teaches you how to enter into the holo-graphic heart frequencies. Heart Hologramming teaches you how tomake intraholographic leaps into your higher DNA blueprint. Formore information on how to order the book CUT-THRU, by DocChildre, Planetary Publications, see page 295. Point Zero and HeartHologramming tools are taught in HeartMath’s Heart of Wellnessand Quantum Empowerment seminars, see page 298.

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serve the purpose of creative intelligence in ways yetundreamed of. Science will no longer deny the spiritwithin, but will assist in the material implementation ofthe spirit’s implicit designs and patterns. Fueled by di-vine motivation, technology will take leaps that will makethe twentieth century look like the dark ages.

You can see intelligence in all life forms. You canalso see it in our own species—in our sperm, ova, chro-mosomes—our DNA holographic template. At theInstitute, through our research to unfold the principlesof holographic medicine, we embarked on a pilot studywith AIDS patients. Associates at the Institute sent fo-cused love—coherent heart energy—while AIDS patientspracticed the tools of the HeartMath system, attuning totheir own heart frequencies. Immune system tests, suchas T-cell counts, were used to determine if there wasimprovement in cell health. Psychological testing wasused to determine whether stress levels were reducedand well-being enhanced. Results were significant. Par-ticipants showed increased levels of peace, well-beingand reductions in symptomatology.*

As more pilot studies unravel “holographic medi-cine,” the possibilities become limitless. There will be anaccepted medical understanding that what happens injust a small fragment of the holographic energy patternaffects the entire structure simultaneously. There is a tre-

*Rozman D, Whitaker R, Beckman T, et al. A pilot intervention pro-gram which reduces psychological symptomatology in individualswith human immunodeficiency virus. Complementary Therapies inMedicine. 1996;4:226-232

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mendous connectedness between all parts of the holo-graphic universe.

I’m not a physicist or a mathematician, yet I intu-itively understand all this abstract physics and geometry.An answer to mitigating or curing AIDS, cancer and otherdiseases would be found in their holographic character-istics. Every piece of the universe not only “contains,”but also holographically “contributes” to the informa-tion of the whole. To enter into one cell holographicallychanges all the cells. How else would Christ cure theblind, the deaf and the crippled from birth? Christ healedwith higher fourth dimensional awareness and it was amiracle to most people. His disciples healed also by ac-cessing those frequencies.

With the fifth dimensional energies coming into theplanetary energy grid, people will be able to see more ofthe whole picture. They will see how to totally dissipatethe cross-frequencies in their systems—physical, emo-tional, mental, spiritual. That’s what holistic health isreally about—healing your own self.

Holographic medicine will bring holographic healthinto being. People with holographic awareness will beable, with permission, to enter the subconscious andunconscious holographic filmstrips of a sick person andchange the frequency patterns that caused the illness.That person would have to be responsible for sustainingthe new perspective this would give them. Christ oftensaid to those he healed, “Go your way and sin no more,”meaning stay in the new perspective you now have. By

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learning to follow your heart, you will sustain the newperspective.

Holographic breakthroughs will lead us to a totallynew understanding of what reality is. Michael Talbotsums it up,

“The objective world does not exist, at least not inthe way we are accustomed to believing. What is‘out there’ is a vast ocean of waves and frequenciesand reality looks concrete to us only because ourbrains are able to take this holographic blur andconvert it into sticks and stones and other familiarobjects that make up our world.”

As people’s consciousness transitions from the thirddimensional perspective to the higher fourth, humanitywill wake up to what really is.

During the next twenty years, through the simplepractice of living from the heart, those who have under-stood enough of what the “love” frequency is about will,themselves, be able to sustain the higher dimensional fre-quencies for others as the creation veil is lifted. This willenable more people to make a clear, conscious choice tolove or not.

The hidden power of the heart would not be so mag-nificent and powerful if it weren’t this simple. Whetheryou are an illiterate migrant worker, a high school drop-out, or a have a college degree, you will experience thelifting of the creation veil if you choose to love. Thosewho do not make the choice to consciously love will findthemselves in another holographic reality where they can

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learn to love—not on this planet. By approximately theyear 2011, the human race will have reached its due datefor this transition. Mother Earth and all people who shareher holographic field in consciousness will be preparedfor this birth into the higher fourth dimension. No oneknows for sure if the united birth of humanity into thisnew awareness will be before the due date or later.

This transition will be as great as the first cellularassemblies some 3.5 billion years ago. It is a significantleap in the unfoldment of universal order. The develop-ment of the planet, from God to the first DNA particle/entity of God that evolved from amoeba to human overbillions of years, was a process incorporating hololeapsin biological order, not unlike the incarnation of the souland the development of the fetus from a single spermand ovum. The completion of this particular human cycleof evolution will be realized as humanity moves intoholographic God conscious awareness. Don’t just takemy word for it. Practice conscious loving and livingin the heart of each moment and let the truth unfoldfrom within you.

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DNA BlueprintsYour holographic heart crystals imprint their elec-

trical patterns and programs in your DNA. As youactivate new heart programs, they are communicated di-rectly to your DNA. Like the heart crystals, the DNAstructure has the core frequency of “love” as its bottomline frequency grid. The human body is a composite ofintricate and interwoven frequencies that are biologicalpatterns imprinted in the DNA. The DNA takes respon-sibility for creation. Historically, for the first time, as wemove into the higher dimensional awareness, the entirehuman family will emerge into a totally new cycle of cre-ation. As your vibrational frequencies awaken, you willunderstand your human circuitry for what it is. You mustuse your highest intelligence as your guide. This type ofenergy management leads to making consistently effi-cient decisions that are fulfilling. They keep you on yourhighest blueprint.

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In day-to-day life, inefficient choices aren’t wrongsince there is no wrong in evolution. They just take youaround the block on a longer journey than necessary toreach your destination and fulfill your DNA blueprint.It takes even longer if you add self-judgment, overcareor guilt. We’ve all done this, so it’s no big deal—it’s justnot efficient and not very fun.

The best way to understand your blueprint is toimagine a city map. You have to navigate the city withall its one-way streets, left and right-hand turns, trafficjams and detours. In this city, each time you take a left-hand turn it drains your energy because it’s not the mostefficient way to get you where you want to go. So whenyou turn left, you get stress feedback in your feelingworld in the form of tension, anxiety, repression and guilt.This is not to punish you; it has a purpose. It’s a signal tohelp you change your course to get back on the righttrack—in the universal flow. Traffic jams are like hesita-tions along the way. You get into a bottleneck becauseyou aren’t practicing what you know you should be do-ing. Detours are like side trips—life geometries that bringyou expansion in often unexpected areas to help you learnand grow.

When you make a “left-hand turn” in life, your heartcomputer will try to help you get back on track. It willtry to help you make a right-hand turn, then anotherright, and another right, to get you back around the blockto where you were going in the first place. Left-hand turnscan happen in the smallest situations of life or the big-

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gest. One small example of a left-hand turn in my lifewas when I wanted to borrow a recipe from a friend fora party I was planning later in the week. I had a feelingto call her on the phone first, but I didn’t. I went over toher house and arrived when she was in the middle ofentertaining guests. She was obviously uncomfortableand told me to call her later that day. But I was so embar-rassed that I didn’t. It was two days before I had thecourage to call her. She wasn’t home and we kept play-ing telephone tag. I spent hours frantically searching foranother recipe for the main course. Finally, she returnedmy call just as I was about to go shopping for the party.The dinner turned out fine, but what a waste of time andenergy just because I didn’t listen to my common sensefeelings that told me to call her first. Left-hand turns takelonger and are just more work for yourself. Right-handturns are the product of listening to and following yourheart computer—living life through the spirit.

Your little, everyday choices really do count in theunfoldment of your blueprint. If you’re not sure whichway to go in making decisions, stay in the heart andlove—radiate heart energy until your heart computerkicks in with a readout. You will increasingly makechoices that activate your higher frequencies. That’s cre-ating heaven on earth for yourself through “care.” Itmeans taking the time to go to your higher intelligencefor direction. With practice, it doesn’t take much time,and direction comes as quick, spontaneous intuition.

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principles is to understand your own self in day-to-daylife. The puzzle pieces or events in a day are your lifegeometries for experiencing and expanding awareness.Making right-hand turns and following your highestblueprint will lead you to your mission in life and acti-vate your passion to be all you can be. It builds realself-esteem that lasts. Those who make continual effortsto self-manage their energies from the heart over the nextten years will have increased fun and fulfillment in life.Those who continue to operate mostly from head bandswill experience increased stress—head processors feed-ing back on themselves.

The next decade will accelerate the polarization ofpeople’s choices, either to go back to the heart to bail out,or remain imprisoned in the stress they are creating. Theincoming frequencies are loving, but neutral. It is youwho qualifies what the energy does inside you by oper-ating from the heart or the head. You accumulate assetsor deficits in your energy system relative to the peace orthe stress you have. As you observe your overall level ofpeace, you can determine the real quality of your life.It’s simple math.

Love is the energy of expansion, the vital current ofcreation. The thoughts you create generate the patternsthat shape your environment. With planetary accelera-tion of energies, people’s stressful thoughts will createpatterns so they either break down on some level (theinner Armageddon) or wake up and realize they have togo back to the heart. The energies of light and love com-

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ing into the planet are a universal effort to help human-ity. They form a mathematical equation ofeternity—union with the heaven worlds, union with yourown Christ self and union with the people. You do your1, step-by-step, and you get a 9 in energy return. Histori-cally, this hasn’t always been the case. It used to feel likethe best you could do was to take three steps forwardand two back. But in the new ratio of intelligence enter-ing the planetary system today, you receive back morelight and love than you put out—in a ratio of 9:1. It’s likeextremely high interest on your bank account—your en-ergy management account. This is the power of the higherdimensional energy equation accelerating the planet.

Light is something that makes vision possible. Lovemakes feeling possible. As I practice loving more sin-cerely, I increasingly see and feel more light in my humanenergy field. I am able to watch the unfoldment of myenergy system and feel changes in its patterns. The hu-man energy field absorbs light and reradiates it througha system of spiraling energy centers along the spine andbrain. I can see the bottom sexual center, the solar plexus,the crown center, and other centers. These centers havevarying degrees of amp and power. Together, they formthe actual physical substance of the light fixture of mysystem. The light bulb by which I can see and experiencethis light fixture is formed by the holographic crystals inmy heart.

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intelligent thoughts, colors, patterns and codes. Focus-ing on these patterns and codes, I began to read my DNAblueprint and saw how my practice of living in the hearthad put me on my highest blueprint. I saw in the DNAstructure of my human body a holographic pattern ofthe entire universe in miniature. I was entering deeperinto the mystery of creation and evolution. I was part ofthe process even as I was viewing it.

I realized that the Big Bang resulted from the coreheart frequency of love. It was the pure essence of Loveitself. Love couldn’t contain its own love and had to ex-pand. It created heat and light, bursting forth like anorgasm. Love created male and female to explore, ex-pand and create more love.

As Jesus said,“Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on ahill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle andput it under a bushel, but on a candlestick, and it giveslight to all that are in the house.” (Matthew 5:14)

Heart power creates illumination. If you forget yourheart crystals (your light bulb), you will have power indarkness. So you can’t forget your heart. The quickestway to illuminate the entire planet is to plug your ownsystem into your heart, then love the people and use thatlove as current for the light. It creates a giant electricalcircuit of light coming through you to others and helpslight go through them also. Everyone has free will andchoice and can choose to receive that light or not. It’s stillup to you and yourself. It’s your perspective.

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Creation is the evolution of the family tree. In com-mon-sense terms, we know that male and female togethercreate the child, a process that evolves the family tree.The bible contains page after page of who begot who.Ancestry is important to all native cultures and familygenealogy is popular with many people in the ’90s asthey search their heritage for identity and roots. My ownfather has diligently traced my mother’s side of our fam-ily tree back to the 1500s.

Discovering our divine heritage in the DNA bringsa deeper understanding of the real purpose of family. Inthe bible, Jesus states: “The first and great command-ment [frequencies of Universal Laws] is, ‘Thou shalt lovethe Lord thy God [love your Creator] with all thy heart,and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.’ And thesecond is like unto it: ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbor as

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thyself.’ On these two commandments hang all the lawand the prophets.” (Matthew 23: 37-40) This often-quotedbible verse is deeply encoded with higher intelligence.

Loving your neighbor doesn’t just mean the personwho lives next door or on the same block. Planet Earth isbut one big yard—the evolution of one family tree fromthe original DNA. We’re all neighbors and we’re all partof the family of Mother Earth. You would want to loveyour neighbor if only to gain an understanding of yourtotal self.

Practicing the heart power tool of “loving thepeople” facilitated a tremendous expansion in my aware-ness. It’s my tool of choice. If I ever want moreunderstanding about anything—whether a predicamentin my life, direct perception of another person, or aboutsome aspect of the universe—I start by loving the people.I understood Jesus’ true meaning when he said, “A newcommandment I give unto you, That ye love one another;as I have loved you, that ye also love another.” Lovingthe people is what gives you the power to turn on thecomputer chips in the heart crystals that contain the in-formation you want.

I start by using my head to clearly formulate a ques-tion. Then I focus my mind and all my energies deep inmy heart and start loving people. That activates the sin-cere core heart frequency of love. Connecting with yourown deeper heart, and then with other people’s hearts,creates a tremendous power circuit. It creates the accesscode to the mysteries of the universe. The answers don’t

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necessarily come in the way you might expect. They comeas your next step in unfoldment, the next frequency ofyour blueprint that you need in order to understand thenext, and so on.

Allow love free access to your heart and mind.There, the deepest intelligence between Creator and cre-ation is designed and destined to occur. The heart motiveof any effective religious or self-help system is to facili-tate people to get in touch with the teacher, church,master, and Creator within their own system. You buildyour foundation, or frequency board, to hold more cur-rent by using your heart computer to translate all thedata from your mind, feelings or senses.

When you’re in love fully, without reservation, youfeel and move with the universal rhythmic current: love.In the awakened state, the higher fourth and fifth dimen-sional awareness, you not only perceive the physicalworld, but also the spirit world—the world of hope andpotential in God’s cosmic design.

Discovering the Family FrequencyAs I practiced loving the people in all situations, or

at least made the effort to try, I came in touch with theessence of the “Family Frequency.” This frequency is thedeeper, personal love and care for every person, plant oranimal on the planet. The Family Frequency embracesthe earth as all one family—a global or planetary family.This frequency comes from the higher dimensions as atruly new understanding. It’s the realization that every-

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one really is connected to each other in the heart. It’s anexperience of oneness with Mother Earth herself. Thefamily frequency band unfolds as people align them-selves in the heart, communicating, working and livingas all for one and one for all. It’s a powerful band of energythat helps you realize, understand, feel and experiencethe eternal security of oneness.

A family of holographically-aware beings of loveand light is sending a powerful family frequency to earth.It’s a frequency that cares about you. The revival of in-terest in family values is the result of this infusion of care.Sincere family feelings come from the heart. They bringhope for real security and peace in this stressful world.The compassion of beings who know the eternal nature,while living on earth, can bring the world to peace. Eter-nal awareness would know the divine intentions of theCreator. By living in a human body and practicing beingin the heart, holographically-aware beings could showthe human family how to access the universal plan. AsChrist said of himself and his disciples, “They are not ofthis world, even as I am not of this world.” (John 17:16)He had taught them how to be in the world, yet be guidedby their spirit rather than locked into the frequency per-spectives of the second and third dimensions.

Humanity is regaining an appreciation for “family”and will continue to do so. In a support group of family,people look out for each other and accept people for whothey are. A family grows and moves through life together,inseparable in the heart. A family acts as a buffer to ex-

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ternal distortions. A family made up of self-secure peoplegenerates a magnetic power that can get things done. Aspeople live in this family frequency, they animate otherpeople’s heart bands, making it easier for them to wakeup and experience the love and security needed to un-derstand all that is.

Real family values don’t demand a return to old fam-ily structures. There are thousands of traditional, nuclearfamilies who are family in name only. Real family is adeep feeling inside, the recognition of an inner need forsupport and security. Family would include the extendedfamily, people attracted to each other based on heart reso-nance and mutual support.

As we move into the next millennium (the next tento twenty years), there will be a serious awakening to thefamily frequency. This will bring tremendous hope to theworld. It will awaken within one’s heart and spirit the samemotivation to care or love, that a mother or father feelstoward their child. When people fall in love with “love”itself, the new world has begun. It is a new world of per-ception, a new world of understanding, a world whereresources are only limited by the capacity to appreciate.

The Inner FamilyAll aspects of yourself can be found in your heart,

including your “inner family.” Your inner family is yourinner “mom,” your inner “dad,” and your inner “child.”Your higher self is a family of these three aspects. Thebalancing of male, female and childlike frequencies is the

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cornerstone of self-empowerment. You can learn to com-bine these three aspects in yourself—the nurturing, theself-activating and the childlike spontaneity. It’s impor-tant to distinguish between childish and childlike. Thetrue inner child is your childlike spirit, not the whiny, com-plaining child.

One day, I decided to ask my inner family how toapproach one of the engineers at the Institute, John. Hehas an aggressive personality and often intimidated oth-ers. I asked my inner “dad” for perspective. I felt a strongmale frequency within my heart. My intuition showedme how this co-worker really got a lot done, that he wasa dynamic self-starter who really tried to cut through ob-stacles. I could appreciate those qualities in him. Then Iasked my inner “mom” for a perspective. I felt a softerfrequency come into my heart. My intuition showed methat this man had a very sensitive side with which hewasn’t always comfortable. The mom in me suggested Ihave more heart, compassion and understanding for him,and talk to his sensitive side—that would help him gainmore balance and security within himself. I really en-joyed this dialogue with my inner family. The frequenciesfelt wonderful and the wisdom made sense. When I tunedinto my inner child and asked for a childlike perspec-tive, I was able to see the child in this man, and how hedelighted in jumping into any new project. I could alsosee that as he learned to balance his aggressive love ofaction with his more sensitive side, his inner child wouldbe much happier and feel freer to express. He would no

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longer intimidate others. I intuited that if I, too, were alittle more spontaneous and childlike with him, it wouldhelp our communications. All together, these three as-pects of myself gave me a wide and fairly completepicture of the situation. The best part of the story is this:the next time we talked I remembered to do what myinner family had directed, and we had the deepest com-munication ever. My inner family was helping me tobecome my whole self.

Many adults today are involved in self-help prac-tices to reconnect with their inner child and resolve oldissues with their mother or father. This process can beaccelerated by realizing you have your own inner familyas a resource. You can experience the most positive, cre-ative essence of the dad, mom and child within yourself.

From a heart understanding, your inner family isall one. Your outer family is the world—one big familyin one big back yard—and the universe is one large city.Discover your Creator by learning to see any person onthe planet as part of one big family. Maybe they are your5,559th cousin. People have made divisions with the mind,but from an embracing global perspective—from a heartunderstanding—we are all one.

Family ValuesMany believe our modern world is out of balance

because of a decline in family values. There are tremen-dous male/female/family issues absorbing the attentionof our society. Most people feel that children today are

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not learning the basic core values of life. These are valuesthat people believe are essential, involving a sense ofpersonal and social responsibility. But if we want ourchildren to be more efficient and mature with their ener-gies, then we need to reach a new level of efficiency withinourselves. We can only give what we have.

Most people consider values like honesty, integrityand respect for others to be basic family values that par-ents should impart. But parents say they are frustratedby a lack of time to supervise their children and mostfeel guilty about it.

Surveys show that more parents than ever are giv-ing themselves poor marks on child-rearing. As a resultmany parents feel their kids are undisciplined and lackmorals. My sister Sallie worked in a school and foundthat each year there were more discipline problems, morefights and more disturbed children. From my experienceas a single, working mother, the answer is putting ahigher quality of attention into the few minutes Chris-tian and I have together so the time’s not wasted. Wehave the best heart contacts in no time at all. Einsteinshowed us time is an illusion. When you increase thequality of the input, the quality of the output has to in-crease. In a 1991 Los Angeles Times poll of Orange Countyresidents, 53% of parents gave themselves a C grade inteaching their children morals, 25% of parents gave them-selves a D or an F. This means that one-fourth of theselargely middle to upper-middle class Americans feel theyare about to fail, or are failing, in teaching their children

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“core values.” What values are children learning andfrom where? From television? Movies? From the streets?

Which core values are we as a society neglectingthe most? A series of surveys by the Massachusetts Mu-tual Life Insurance Company found that 70% or more ofall Americans believe that the most important family val-ues are: 1) being responsible for one’s actions, 2)respecting other people for who they are, and 3) provid-ing emotional support for one’s family. In summary,Americans say that core family values represent respon-sibility, respect, and love.

Much has been written about how the structure oftoday’s family differs from what it was in the past. In the’50s, the nuclear family consisted of a mother, a fatherand children. Today, there are more single parent fami-lies, families in which the parents are not married or areof the same sex and households with children from dif-ferent marriages. Some children have two or threestepmothers or stepfathers before they reach adulthood.Statistics reveal that each year, over 1,000,000 children inthe USA are affected by divorce. Of these children, 50%grow up in families where their parents stay angry and60% feel rejected by at least one parent. According to re-search compiled by Zinsmeister, more than 80% ofadolescents in psychiatric hospitals come from brokenfamilies. Approximately three out of four teenage sui-cides occur in households where a parent has been absent.In our country, 33% of all children never see one of theirparents again after they divorce.

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Is it any wonder that today’s children are increasinglyinvolved in violent crimes, drug abuse and burglary? Ju-venile delinquency statistics and drug use are climbingat a horrendous rate. Studies show that children have aharder time saying no to drugs when they lack familybonding. Many kids who take drugs say they don’t feelloved, while many parents don’t know how to help theirchildren feel loved, accepted and appreciated. However,the closer children feel to their parents, the betterequipped they are to resist self-destructive behavior.

It’s hard for kids to “just say no” to drugs, due tofrustration, loneliness, hopelessness and fear. A study atCalifornia’s Marin County Community Mental HealthCenter revealed that in most divorces, children feel guilt,a loss of love, self-esteem and confidence. They believethey’re to blame for the divorce, especially if it was bit-ter. Children who lose contact with a parent after divorcehave pronounced instances of emotional disturbances.Parents can get so involved in hating each other as theyseparate and divorce, they often tell a child the otherparent is no good and create hate in the child.

What’s the main cause of divorce? Divorce resultswhen one partner (or both) doesn’t feel loved or respectedby the other. When people feel this way, they find thingsto fight and argue about. If they don’t fight, they just burytheir emotions inside and create a wall. Soon there is nojuice or connection and they start to feel numb. No won-der children of divorced parents have a hard time. Theyare coming from an environment where their parents

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didn’t have the basic core values—love and respect—foreach other. Unless society changes, do the kids of the ’90seven have a chance? When they become adults, won’t itbe far more difficult for them to sustain a sense of com-munity and build basic core values?

Whether you were raised in a traditional, nuclearfamily structure or are living in one of the new familystructures of the ’90s, the key to family bonding and unityis found in the core heart value of love. Love your chil-dren, respect them and teach them respect for others. Iam now a divorced parent and face the challenge of rais-ing my ten-year-old without his father living with us. Ialways go back to the core values of my heart for guid-ance. His father and I have a better friendship now thanwhen we were married. He lives close by and sees Chris-tian once a week, so there is a feeling of an extendedfamily. The heart has been our bailout in making the di-vorce harmonious.

There is a great deal of concern in society about theincreasing number of teenage gangs, not just in the innercities but in suburbs, in small towns, on military bases—everywhere. When I was in high school, there werecliques of young people with different interests but notwhat I’d call gangs. Don’t gangs offer children a substi-tute family structure? Gangs operate by their own valuesand “codes of honor.” In many instances, gang membersare responsible for, respect and love each other. They pro-vide teenagers with an experience of family bonding,even though their gang activities are often violent and

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destructive. One positive outcome of the recent Los An-geles riots is that segments of the two most infamousgangs, the Bloods and the Cripps, decided to come to-gether and stop killing each other. Somehow, theyrecognized “family” in each other. Gang behavior canbe turned around as gangs learn to expand their familyfeeling through love and care for everyone.

If children were taught how to be responsible forthemselves, then they would have the ability to serve andbecome responsible for others, their environment, theirsociety, their world. The heart is our only hope for re-building common values in our stressed-out world. Aspeople experience heart resonance through understand-ing and care, real “family values” will be reintegrated inour society. As you experience the earth as one global fam-ily, you pave the way for balance and fulfillment. Youbecome responsible for yourself by learning to manageyour system like a business so you can profit from it, andthrough example, you teach your children to do the same.

Greet everyone as family. Family is warm and nur-turing; it feels good. Family loves without caring whatyour imperfections are. It doesn’t necessarily have to agreewith all your choices, but loves, supports and nourishesyou to help you make the best choice. Caring for all people,on continually deeper and more sincere levels, is the fast-est way for family, businesses, schools, governments, theworld, and you, to grow. This degree of family care canonly come from going for a deeper heart connectionwithin yourself—and with each individual you meet.

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After understanding these wider perspectives on ho-lographic DNA blueprints, creation and the familyfrequency, I realized the ratio of choice each one of usreally does have. Feeling a bit overwhelmed by the fan-tastic complexity of all this, I asked my heart computer:“Could you just simply show me my next level of growthin my personal life?” My heart readout came quickly:“Sara, you can still deep heart listen another level dur-ing your daily activities, both to yourself and to others.That will help you integrate all those wide understand-ings into day-to-day life.”

When you really care about something, you do lis-ten deeply and you don’t forget much. Remembering todeep heart listen while in the thick of activity is real carein action. How can you know your heart directives if youdon’t listen for them? I saw that self-honesty and hon-

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esty with others creates deeper levels of listening. It didn’tsurprise me that my heart directed me back to the basics.Deep heart listening is an outstanding tool for lovingmore sincerely. Everyone wants to feel understood in theheart.

It’s so important to have someone understand you.If we don’t have anyone who can, we feel alone. Peopleoften turn to prayer, hoping that God understands. Feel-ing understood at the heart level is a frequency ofhologramatic biology that connects you to the heart ofthe Creator. We all yearn for that because it’s part of ourcomplete DNA blueprint. When we feel understood, weunderstand more. It’s like a switch that activates yourDNA template for fulfillment.

In Chapter 8, I explained that deep heart listeninginvolves keeping your energies focused in the heart asyou listen. This attunes you to the other person’s heart,bringing a more sensitive, essence-based understandingof their frequencies and words. You truly help anotherfeel cared for at a heart level.

Communication is always an exchange of frequen-cies. As you listen to your own heart more deeply, heartintuition magnetizes energy from the Source to your sys-tem. Then it’s your head’s job to formulate this energyinto words to give you more knowing. The deeper youlisten, the deeper meaning you’ll gain. The math will bebroken down in a geometric sequence to give you a morecomplete understanding. There’s math that covers all the

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corners and the whole room—from the micro level thatcan isolate a piece of dust to the macro level that can standback and see the whole. Deep heart listening can showyou both perspectives.

Let’s look at the mechanics one more time becauseit’s important: The heart puts out the intuition, the “wis-dom.” That’s its purpose. Your heart intuition comesthrough thoughts, images or feelings. The head breaksdown the readout in digits for greater comprehension. Itfulfills its most creative function—to help you decipher in-tuitive feelings with an explanation, an attitude shift or adifferent perspective.

Just ask your heart to help you listen at a deeperlevel. Tune out your head thoughts and let them go, whileyou quietly tune to your own heart. Find a peace fre-quency within your system, wait ten to twenty secondsor more, then listen for a quiet, calm voice or feeling fromyour heart. Surrender to the common sense or heart in-telligence. You will be activating the next program in yourDNA for head/heart understanding.

If you practice deep heart listening to yourself dur-ing the day, when emotional whirlwinds stir, you have abetter chance of not being pulled into the tornado ofthoughts. You can intellectually know that everything isfrequencies, but when emotional identification is strong,knowledge often goes out the window. I’ve been in widebands of understanding, then found myself personallyeaten up with an insecurity. Here was a typical example:

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A friend I admired gave me feedback on my communi-cation and I cringed inside, feeling she didn’t like me.“At least I was communicating,” I replied, feeling thatshe’d been too critical. She was deep heart listening andI felt she heard me. Afterwards, however, I found my-self in a desperate mental search for the why’s andwherefore’s. Where could I improve? Why wasn’t I morelike so-and-so? Why was I shy and uncommunicative?Honest communication can put you in a vulnerable spot,feeling like you’re giving your power to someone else. Igot over this insecurity by playing a game called “NoI.D.,” which means you practice having no identificationwith insecure thoughts and feelings when they pop up.You surrender them to your heart and get a truer per-spective.

After putting a control knob on self-identificationduring communications, I found deep heart listening topersonal critiques to be a fun challenge. The “No I.D.”game helps balance your emotions so they don’t run awaywith you. As a result, I could hear truth without cring-ing or feeling hurt. It freed me to feel the sincerity ofanother and know it was all okay. I no longer had to gothrough all the mental digits to try to understand myreaction. I could just go directly to the heart, stay in theuniversal flow and quickly reach a common-sense per-spective. I found I crunched time by staying in the heartand letting understanding come to me.

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compassion to the hesitation, doubt or fear. As the heartlistened deeply, satisfying understandings and solutionsfollowed. But, if my head just wanted to fuss, complainor stack up justified reasoning and I let it, no solutioncame. I felt only frustration, anger and stress. If I let thehead take over, rather than holding to the deeper heart,the old insecurities would start up again. I began to seethat I only felt insecure when I identified with the headhesitations or fears and stopped deep heart listening tomy own self.

Deep heart listening keeps unfolding new math. Itgets more refined with practice. Don’t let your thoughtsbe colored by past associations or head band distortions.If my head and heart still won’t agree on a solution, thenmy heart lets my head express itself further. Afterwards,I try to keep my head calm and my mind open to hearthe heart’s response. Whenever my head sincerely lis-tens, heart intelligence brings understanding andunravels solutions to the problem.

A game I play often is realizing my “real teacher” isinside me. When we ignore that real teacher, we createstress. Mind-sets, stubbornness and recycling old prob-lems keep bringing us back to square one and we findourselves saying, “if only I’d listened to my heart in thefirst place.” It takes practice to be constantly in touch, sobe patient with yourself. Don’t beat yourself when youforget. Just start deep heart listening again, caring foryourself from that moment. You’ll bring your heart backinto focus. We all have moments when we get disap-

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pointed in ourselves. No one is perfect. Going back tothe heart is the most perfect action you can take inany moment. When your holographic picture is out offocus or the sound is distorted, going back to the heartadjusts the film. Then you can continue on with yourmovie in fun.

Listening to Others More SincerelyMost of us have vivid memories of conversations

where we felt we weren’t really being heard. Maybe ourwords were heard, but not our feelings or real meaning.Remember these times when someone speaks to you andlisten to them as you’d like to be listened to. This meanscaring to make sure your own thoughts aren’t going amile-a-minute, which will block you from hearing theiressence. Listening is a true art and there’s always roomfor improvement.

As I listen to others, I’m serious about wanting tohear them totally. If I have strong feelings about an is-sue, it’s hard not to make assessments while someone istalking. If I do, I usually miss an important frequency oreven misinterpret what they’re saying. Deep insights of-ten come to me while I listen to someone. But if I try tohold onto the insight, I miss their entire next sentence ormore. Then I have to ask them to repeat what they saidand my wonderful insight vanishes anyway. By fullyfocusing on the other person’s essence, words and mean-ing, I find the insights come back at the right time.

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Forming assessments or opinions while people aretelling their story is a form of mental interruption. Youdon’t have to agree with what someone is saying but ifyou wait until they’re done speaking before you addressyour own thoughts, you’ll actually have more to offerthem. When people feel heard at the essence level, they con-nect with their heart. Often they come up with their owninsights because you were loving them and listeningdeeply. It’s a joy to see their face light up when they findtheir own solution.

There are three essential elements to be aware ofwhile listening: 1. Word Level—what is actually said. 2.Feeling Level—the feelings or frequencies behind thewords. 3. Essence Level—the real meaning. Through lis-tening to a person’s heart, you can tune to the frequency,the meaning and the words all at the same time. Yourintuition is likely to provide a common-sense solutionthat has both understanding and kindness.

When people come to talk to me, they tell me theyoften have insights. It’s because I’m listening to them sin-cerely on all three levels with totally focused attention,not because I’m necessarily so intelligent or impartingany pearls of wisdom. I can hear what they are sayingbetween the lines, which makes them really feel under-stood. That’s what releases their own heart wisdom. I’vefound deep heart listening to be a profound system ofcommunication and a tremendous asset at home, at work,anywhere.

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ForgivenessForgiveness is one of the ultimate power tools for

personal transformation. You do yourself a huge favorwhen you truly let go and forgive. If you make a deepheart contact with yourself first, then sincerely forgiveyourself or someone else, you receive an extremely highreturn of peace for your effort. Remember that anyonecan get off track and make a left-hand turn. Forgivenessis really for you more than them. Often, the people whomyou haven’t forgiven don’t even know it. But your ownsystem does. So do it for yourself rather than waste en-ergy through continual, often subliminal, mental andemotional processing.

Forgiveness can seem hard to do when you’ve beenbetrayed or deeply hurt. When you feel justified in notforgiving someone, that resentment stays with you andcan gnaw away inside for your whole life. Forgivenessfrom the head just doesn’t work! The hurt lurks in thesubconscious and resurfaces once a month, once a day,

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once a night, and for many people, every day and everynight. Even if it comes up only once a year, it’s still stew-ing in your subconscious and draining your spirit. If youfind yourself saying, “Well, I’ve forgiven him, but I don’twant him in my face,” or, “I forgive you, but I don’t everwant to see you or talk to you again,” you haven’t for-given. If your stomach wrenches or you still have anegative association at the mention of a person’s name,you haven’t truly forgiven.

True forgiveness erases all negative associationsfrom your holographic heart. When you don’t forgiveand resentment festers, your anger can turn into hate.Let’s say you live in Los Angeles and commute throughheavy traffic daily. With cars constantly pulling out infront of you and anger rising each day, you can soonfind yourself hating. You hate driving to work, you hateall the other drivers, you hate anyone who crosses yourpath. As anger stacks, hate can become a prominent fre-quency in your hologram. Hate casts a dark shadow onyour whole life. As you hold onto hate, it creates a pin-hole in your hologram that can grow into a crack thatbecomes very hard to mend. Hate is a total inversion oflove—hate destroys.

Sometimes we react with anger or hate and knowit’s just momentary. But if feelings of anger, betrayal andhate linger and constantly replay in your mind, their fre-quency becomes engraved in your hologram. It thenkeeps resurfacing as a deep-rooted, unresolved problem.You can’t completely forgive and erase these deeply

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etched patterns until you see all the perspectives of thegrid and understand them. But you won’t understandthem until you make sincere efforts to forgive. It’s a catch-22. That’s why total forgiveness of deep patterns takestime. Christ understood the importance of releasing, let-ting go and truly forgiving. Some of his last words were,“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.”(Luke 23:34)

Your heart will keep bringing up to consciousawareness old unforgiven feelings and memories for youto forgive, release and let go. As you sincerely try to for-give, it helps to remember that mentally and emotionallyprocessing an unforgiven event drains you, just like acar battery gets drained when the door is left open. Re-sentment maintains a constant, slow leak that can ageyou prematurely. Regardless of what another person didor didn’t do, don’t imprison yourself mentally or emo-tionally. Life goes on. Sincere forgiveness from the heartwill release you and release the heart of the person youwere hating, whether they are aware of it or not.

I know of two sisters now in their nineties who arestill bitter about a family heirloom that one didn’t returnto the other fifty years ago. There can be so much hatredand bad blood among family members that some don’tspeak to each other for years. Statistics show that mostmurders and assaults are family-related. Being able toforgive is a basic core value for family harmony. You canpractice forgiving people by taking responsibility to re-

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balance your inner mental/emotional disturbances andcreate inner harmony first. As the Doc says, “If you real-ize, in most cases, that you are the primary beneficiary whenyou forgive someone, you will have more incentive tocomplete the act at the heart level. Then, everyone wins.”

As you practice forgiveness, your heart wisdommight say, “I forgive him. He really didn’t realize whathe was doing,” or, “He might have been doing the besthe knew how,” or, “I’ve made mistakes in my life, too. Isure hope people forgave me. I don’t want them to beharboring resentment and hate for me.” As you forgiveothers, it helps erase any negative holographic patternsthey may hold about you as well. Because we’re all in-terconnected in the heart, forgiveness helps re-create aharmonious flow between yourself and everyone.

Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectationsthat the other person apologize or change. Don’t worrywhether or not they finally understand you. Love themand release them. Life feeds back truth to people in itsown way and its own time—just like it does for you andme. For many years, I resented someone who had rejectedme. I really tried to forgive him, but the way he’d treatedme just seemed inexcusable. I thought he was a heel—Iwouldn’t have treated a dog the way he treated people. Itried to forgive him, but felt like I couldn’t release my griev-ance until he understood what he’d done and apologizedsincerely. But he didn’t and I couldn’t shake the deep hurteither. It was like a festering sore that wouldn’t heal.

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After many years of trying to forgive, I realized thathe’d sincerely done the best he knew how. There was re-ally nothing to forgive—he was just being himself. He’deven been trying to help me in his own way. When I sawthat, I felt stupid and had to forgive myself for havingbeen blinded by one strong isolated frequency. Havingcompassion for myself as someone learning and grow-ing, just like him, released me. By totally forgiving thewhole situation, I felt a new lease on life. I saw that neveragain would I create that kind of self-imprisonment.

Most of us still harbor secret resentments. The quick-est way out is to make sincere efforts to release thosenegative frequencies from your system. Replace themwith the sincere heart frequency of forgiveness. Do it overand over again until you feel free. You’ll know forgive-ness is complete when you have a new perception that’snot colored by negative associations. Old whisper feel-ings might occasionally creep in, but your thoughtsremind you, “No, I’ve forgiven him.” Just keep releasingand letting go. Your heart will be at peace and you’ll havea light, clean feeling once the program is totally erasedfrom your hologram. Until you feel this freedom, keepactivating the power tool of forgiveness.

In the heart, people do understand the importanceof forgiveness. They know they want to forgive, but it’sfrustrating when the hurt doesn’t go away. Don’t lookat yourself as a failure if old resentments resurface witha vengeance and take you back into negative thoughtloops. View this as your system attempting to flush out

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the old program. Just tell yourself, “That’s a deficit.” Beseriously sincere with yourself. Don’t give up. FREEZE-FRAME, go back to your heart intelligence, listen for yourinner wisdom and, again, feel forgiveness. Each time youdo that, you create an asset for yourself. But if you re-fuel old hostilities, anger, guilt or pain, you just keep oncreating deficits.

Personal freedom is knowing how to use heart in-telligence to create more internal power. With power, youcan exercise your options. It’s only your willing permis-sion that justifies a hurt feeling. You hurt yourself farmore by holding on to them than by whatever happenedto you in the first place. Build your power to forgive. It’snot who hurts us or what happens to us, but our responsethat entraps us, taking away our real freedom. You’ll feela clean heart connection with yourself and others, onceyou’ve totally forgiven.

As you develop your heart and internal power byforgiving, managing any tough situation gets easier. Afriend of mine had a boss who could be very cutting.Employees never knew when their productivity mightbe questioned and many quit in disgust. My friend re-sented the stifling atmosphere and wondered how longshe could stand it. Taking the problem to her heart, shesaw her boss as a man with a lot of insecurities. She for-gave him and that gave her an inner power. She let hiscutting remarks go like water off a duck’s back, realizingthat no one could take away her inner freedom. As a result,she was able to speak up for herself and other employ-

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ees who were too dumbfounded to speak for themselves.She helped the boss see that the employees did care andthat his business was in good hands after all.

Most people blame the outer trappings of life, espe-cially other people, for their woes. This robs them of realfreedom and totally saps their power. It’s forgiving andreleasing those inner entrapments that brings us lastingfreedom and empowerment.

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As I sincerely forgave everyone and every experi-ence that seemed to have any lingering residue, I beganto feel an exhilarating sense of freedom. Without all thatold junk in the way, life became gorgeous. I appreciatedjust being alive. Instead of always having to recover fromsome lump or bump, my day-to-day life turned into afun game of discovery. I discovered the tremendousmagnetic power of appreciation and saw the law of mag-netics at work: the more I appreciated, that magneticenergy attracted more wonderful people and fulfillinglife experiences to appreciate.

The word “appreciation” means to be thankful andexpress admiration, approval or gratitude. It also meansto grow or appreciate in value. As you appreciate life,you become more valuable—both to yourself and oth-

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ers. Appreciation is what I call a “super power tool” forpersonal growth and universal evolution. It rapidly shiftsyour frequencies from head to heart, bringing you a quickattitude adjustment and giving your mission in life a lift.When I began to explore the power of appreciation, I re-alized that my deepest friendships were the ones I’dappreciated, the ones I valued enough to look after. I alsoremembered the relationships that had crumbled. Theydidn’t grow in value because I didn’t appreciate them! Thepower of appreciation seemed so obvious, but I also knewhow often this simple truth gets lost in judgment andinsecurity. Appreciating each other is a true family value,one that will bail out much of the stress on the planetand help strengthen the universal bond all people have.

As you value the challenges in your day-to-day life,you begin to see how they are designed for your growth.I found that my sincere effort to appreciate helped megain more inner control—more power to manage myenergy on those “off” days and “off” moments. Appre-ciation brought me instant heart contact.

One day, I felt the overload of being a single parent.There was so much to take care of: supporting my sonand myself, work responsibilities, school, my owngrowth, and how to balance all of it! It was “one of thosedays.” I wished I could go somewhere to escape. Rentwas due and Christian’s teacher had sent me a note say-ing he’d forgotten his homework three times in theprevious week. I felt like a failure. I decided to do a HeartLock-In for five minutes. In the Lock-In, I sent apprecia-

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tion to his teacher for helping him grow and I realizedthat even though it was going to be tight this month, westill had a roof over our heads and food on the table. Ap-preciating gave me a feeling that somehow everythingwould be okay. When I opened my eyes, there was a co-worker with news that we had just received payment ona large sale I had made—that would take care of the rent.An hour later, Christian’s teacher called to say how muchbetter he had been doing in school. It was as if a kaleido-scope had turned—what had been bleak, gray colors werenow sparkly, bright hues. Humbled, I appreciated thefact that I am always taken care of. Sometimes it takes ahumbling experience to help us appreciate. I appreciatedthe gift of appreciation itself and the rest of the dayseemed to fall right in place in an almost magical way.

Whenever you activate heart power tools, you openthe door to new perceptions. Appreciation is a power-fully magnetic energy that helps you see the wider picturefaster. As you appreciate, you see more and understandmore. On an energy level, it brings intuitive break-throughs and helps you realize God is within you.Appreciation magnetizes you to the universal flow. Whenyou sincerely appreciate what you have in life, you mag-netize more of your true heart’s desires. Mathematicallyspeaking, if people spent half as much time appreciatingwhat they have as they do complaining about what theydon’t have, life would have to get better.

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own world. Appreciation is like looking through a wide-angle lens that lets you see the entire forest, not just theone tree limb you walked up on. In our culture, mostpeople remember negative events more quickly than theydo positive ones. Focusing on the negative comes easyto the head, while focusing on the positive comes easyto the heart. When a negative event sends a pain signalto the head, the head tries to figure out how to stop thepain. If it doesn’t have an immediate answer, it goes intothe analyzing, sorting, processing mode to try to findone. A powerful bailout for a painful event is apprecia-tion. Appreciation is an opening frequency. You receivenew intuition when you can sincerely say, “I’ll find thegood in this situation no matter what. I’ll plug in thisprogram from my heart computer—appreciation.”

Appreciating something positive in a negativeevent sends a signal to the heart that magnetizes bal-anced understanding. Why not remember thepositives? They’re the fuel for your self-empower-ment. It doesn’t really matter what you appreciate—as long as it’s sincere. The activation of this par-ticular heart frequency is what counts. Appreciatethat you have food to eat, a job, your health, a placeto sleep instead of the sidewalks and all the positivesyou take for granted. Create an attitude of gratitudeand you’ll magnetize more rewarding experiences.As Doc says in The How to Book of Teen Self Discovery,

“Appreciate anything—even if it seems silly. Lookaround you for something to appreciate. Look at a

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lamp and appreciate Thomas Edison. Look at thecarpet and be glad it’s not cement. Look at a chairand be happy you don’t have to sit on the floor allthe time. Appreciate yourself for trying to appreci-ate. Anything can be appreciated.”

As you appreciate in the moment, the magneticsmake the returns come back even faster. This gives youmore truthful perceptions of events or situations that areunpleasant. Of course tough situations are harder to ap-preciate. But if you go to the heart, you realize that thingscould be worse and are worse for a lot of people. It’s all amatter of perspective. Find something about a tough situ-ation that you can appreciate. Start by appreciating thatno matter what the problem is, there is a wider perspec-tive yet to be uncovered. Don’t be afraid of the temporarydiscomfort. As you look for what you can appreciate,your perceptions shift so that new understandings andsolutions can come into your awareness. Have compas-sion and appreciate yourself for appreciating, until asolution appears.

My friend Bruce told me recently how powerfulthe practice of appreciation had been for him. Severalyears ago he realized that even though he had a goodjob, a nice place to live, and a wonderful wife and baby,he still had a lot of stress and not much hope it wouldget better. A conversation with the Doc convinced himto give appreciation a try. He started by appreciating hislunch break—the food, the surroundings, the people—instead of feeling like he had to work right through lunch.

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What a difference! That started a momentum that helpedhim see other things in his life he had been taking forgranted. His entire holographic heart holodome—hisreality—began changing, in real life. He practiced appre-ciating the loving essence in each person he met and wasamazed what a different perspective it put on everythingand how much better he felt.

The rewards of appreciation are tremendously in-creased as you practice with deeper levels of sincerity. Ifyou practice appreciating the little things in life, thenwhen bigger problems or situations arise, you find youhave an easier time dealing with them. Appreciation issimply a magnificent feeling in the heart that becomesthe compass to find more good. It’s the fast track to find-ing balance and fulfillment.

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Care or Overcare?Harvard psychologist David McClelland did stud-

ies which proved that the feeling of care enhances aperson’s immune system through increased productionof the hormone, salivary IgA, which protects against coldsand flu.* A clinical study on care-giving among nursesrevealed that care is what gives nursing its real mean-ing; it provides nurses with an over-arching sense ofconnectedness to all of life. My older sister Sue was anurse and she has this kind of care. Through caring, truespiritual connectedness can be experienced. It is one ofthe most regenerative, productive and powerful frequen-cies for health and well-being. Care is an oil that lubricatesthe entire mental, emotional and physical system. If yourun your system without care, it’s like running your carwithout oil—resulting in friction and breakdown.

*The IHM laboratory repeated McClelland’s experiment and pub-lished a paper confirming his results. Rein G, McCraty RM, and At-kinson M. Effects of positive and negative emotions on salivary IgA.Journal of Advancement in Medicine. 1995;8(2):87-105.

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Care is another one of those four-letter words, likelove, that cages a powerful frequency band. Without care,life grinds metal on metal. True care regenerates boththe sender and receiver. It’s a nurturing and healing en-ergy. As the Doc says, “Here’s a user-friendly recipe forlove: put a bunch of care in a pot; stir and whip until itstarts to thicken; then serve.”

Care creates security and support for all involved.It is the cohesive substance that saves a relationship oncethe initial romance or novelty has worn off. Care is theingredient that keeps true friendships alive despite sepa-ration, distance or time. Care gives latitude to anotherperson and gets you past the dislikes and annoyances.Quite simply, caring sustains love. When Christian wasjust a few months old, my mother told me, “Love Chris-tian no matter what because he’s your child, yourresponsibility and no one will love him as much as youwill.” That was one of the most important things she eversaid to me. True care is the family frequency that’s miss-ing in the core of people’s interactions and involvementsall over this world. People’s core values often lie dor-mant within the heart. The practice of loving and caringfor people at deeper and more sincere levels will awakenthe core values of being.

Care flowing through your system gradually recon-nects you with your spirit and vitality. Care enough aboutyourself to go to your heart to get peace, clarity and di-rection before you act. True self-care has to come first.Take a moment and ask yourself two things, “How do I

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feel when others truly care for me?” and “How do I feelwhen I care about other people?”

Most of us have had a teacher, a parent, a spouse orsomeone who sincerely cared for us and then suddenlystopped caring. It feels like the rug has been pulled outfrom under us. One of the most traumatic experiences ofmy life was like that. The contrast between how nurturedand wonderful I felt when this person deeply cared forme and how dry and terrible it felt when he stopped,was a shock to my entire system. My heart had openedto him and I felt so secure in his care. When it was nolonger there, I felt like I’d fallen off a hundred foot bridgeand landed on cement. There was nothing I could do butpick up the pieces and try to care for myself.

Most people have had similar experiences and knowwhat it feels like. Life seems to give us these lessons sowe don’t totally depend on others for our strength. Wehave to find it in our own heart instead. Then care fromanother person is a great gift, but we aren’t destroyed ifit’s not there. Developing your own caring at deeper lev-els brings an inner security that allows your heart to stayopen, regardless of what others do.

When she gives seminars, my friend Debbie oftentells a story about her first insight into the power of care.When she was a child, her brother and his wife traveledto Latin America for graduate work. They returned totheir home in Nebraska, bringing their maid and her six-year-old son Diego with them. Diego spoke no English

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and had never been away from the impoverished villagewhere he was born. Debbie had just been given a newbicycle, so she decided to put a fresh coat of paint on herold red bike and give it to Diego. She spent an entire Sat-urday straightening the fender, painting the bike andattaching a new basket she bought with her allowance.She said that never before had she felt so good in herheart as she did then, knowing she was truly caring forthis little boy whom she’d not yet met. Her parents at-tached the bike to the back of the family car and off theydrove to her brother’s home 400 miles away. The look ofdelight on Diego’s face and the gratitude that shone fromhis eyes gave my friend a deep feeling of care in return.It taught her about the power of true care in ways thatno Sunday school words ever had.

When I first heard this story, I wondered if some-thing as simple as this, but so potent, could change adestiny. In that “Kodak” moment when Debbie and Di-ego connected in the heart, could a holographic pictureof hope have been etched in their hearts? From Debbie’sworld, that simple feeling of care was so sincere, it fol-lowed her through life.

True Care versus OvercareFrom a heart perspective, simply and sincerely send-

ing love to someone is conscious care in action. Suppose,for example, that a close friend is having quite a fewbumps and lumps in her life. Since you truly care forher, loving her would be the heart intelligent action to

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take. But, quite often, when you send love to someoneall kinds of thoughts about their situation pop up! Ifyou’ve focused your energy in the heart, your intuitioncan facilitate these thought patterns, allowing yourChrist-self to help you understand a wider perspective.Your next thoughts could lead you to an intuitive break-through on how to help your friend through the difficulttime. But if the energies slip into your lower heart fre-quencies of sentiment and sadness about your friend’sdifficulties, then in comes the head chatter—the worryand stress. The motivation often starts with care, but inour head-oriented society, it easily slips into overcare.

Care is the essence of service, yet overcare is prob-ably the biggest energy drain and stress producer forteachers, nurses, counselors, environmental and peaceworkers—people who want to do good for others andthe world. Overcare is what leads to burnout among care-givers in our society. This could explain why psychiatristshave the highest suicide rate in the country.

Parents often think they have to overcare and worryabout their children to feel they are really caring for them.This is a terrible misconception. Worry never brings bal-anced solutions to problems. In fact, most of us recoilfrom people who are overcaring and worrying about us.Overcare actually blocks the flow of sincere care betweenthe sender and recipient.

On the other hand, there are many people so cut offfrom their hearts they don’t care at all and have become

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numb. There has been a time or two in my life when itseemed so right to care, so important, that I would getstressed out over the outcome and decide it was betternot to care at all. That just made things worse. I cut offmy own heart and the results were more stressful thancaring too much. Both overcare and not enough care cre-ate stress and can lead to burnout.

There are many people who can’t work, sleep or eatbecause of worrying over someone else’s problems. Ifyour care about someone is producing stress, realize ithas become overcare. Use your heart computer to knowwhen your concern has become a deficit instead of anasset. As you recognize and understand when your en-ergies slip into overcare, you will see how it’s no longerefficient for you or anyone else. FREEZE-FRAME and goback to your heart for redirection. Appreciate that at leastyou did care and have compassion for yourself. Over-care is just a third dimensional human inversion of care.Don’t get confused. We all have some overcare to dealwith because we’re all living in a stressful third dimen-sional world. It’s easy to feel like a tightrope walker inthe middle of a three-ring circus.

If care is oil for your system, then overcare is an oilleak. Whether you’re troubled over small things or overbig things like the world situation, the principle of howto deal with them is the same. Go back to your heart andrestart. If you’re sitting at home just worrying aboutsomeone or worrying about the global stress report onthe evening news, you aren’t doing anyone any good.

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Most importantly, you are harming yourself. Overcarewill drain you—physically, emotionally, mentally andspiritually.

Overcare about the environment used to bleed myenergies away and cause a huge deficit in my personalenergy account. I worried about all the Styrofoam andbaby diapers that would not disintegrate—and thenuclear waste. I worried about the wildlife that is becom-ing extinct. Christian has a deep affection for birds andanimals. He has told me the names of many that are fastdisappearing from the earth. Some people dedicate theirentire lives to these problems. I care, and I wanted tounderstand what my purpose was relative to these con-cerns. My heart gave me this insight: It’s possible thatwithout enough care for each other, so much irreparabledamage in the collective holographic heart of human-kind would be created that our own species could becomeextinct. I realized that by sending sincere focused heartto people and environmental issues, I was doing more tohelp the planet than draining my energy worryingwhether it was efficient for me to recycle all my alumi-num cans and bottles. Letting go of the worry didn’t meanI buried my head in the sand and ignored the problem. Ibegan to use my heart computer to make balanced deci-sions. I took the issues just as seriously but didn’t allowthem to drain my power. I chose to do what felt right inmy heart and felt best for the whole. Heart-directed carebroadens your awareness and gives you balanced an-swers that are best for everyone.

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Overcare can be caused by right motives—realcare—taken to inefficient extremes. It can also be causedby wrong motives, like worrying if someone is going toget a better job, car or bonus than you. Ambition, com-petition and expectancy are all examples of overcaremotivated by the head. Stress rules the planet and over-care is one of its field generals in disguise. The planet isstarving for true, balanced care.

The bottom line is that overcare in any disguise issimply not energy-efficient. When you recognize it inyour thoughts and feelings, remind yourself to FREEZE-FRAME and go back to your heart for redirection.Self-adjust. By following your heart intelligence, over-care energy transmutes naturally into true care. Not eventhe animals need become extinct if we care. Don’t hurtyourself with overcare, but do care.

Global CareThe entire world is undergoing tremendous change

and growth at this time. As does a teenager going throughadolescence, the planet needs a lot of care. Earth was cre-ated in the beginning as a planet of love and care. That’sobvious to anyone who looks at the beauty of nature. It’sa family planet. If we look from the perspective of a car-ing mother, Mother Earth would want to help herchildren grow up with as few scratches and scrapes aspossible. But there’s a fine balance to parenting. In car-ing for your child, how much do you protect him andhow much do you let him explore and make his own

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mistakes? When your child is learning to walk, you lethim fall down and pick himself up. He’d never learnto walk if you didn’t let him do it himself. If he scrapeshis knee, you comfort him and put on a band-aid. Thenyou let him try again. A mother wouldn’t take awaythe experience of the scrape because she knows that’show he’ll learn, gain his security and become inde-pendent. She wants her child to grow up and beresponsible for himself.

As I described earlier, the human family as a wholeis moving into a new hologram. In this transition overthe next ten to twenty years, everyone will have thechance to choose to love and care—the passwords to enter-ing the new holographic reality. Those who are not readywill find themselves in another reality, on another thirddimensional family planet, where they can continue togrow and learn to care at their own pace. Mother Earthwould rather not lose even one of the souls that are partof her body. But, like any truly caring mother, she wouldrather they be where they can learn what they need tolearn than overcare that they won’t be part of her imme-diate family any longer. It is possible, if enough peoplemove forward in the choice to care, that we can create anetwork of love and light so finely woven that not onesoul need be left behind. The magnetics of such a gridwould awaken the hearts and minds of all people to theunderstanding that to love and care is the only common-sense choice.

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DeathA New Frontier

When we talk about global change, it’s natural tofeel a moment of overcare about how events may un-fold. In many life situations, your heart will tell you totake some action or make a change, and you have thepower to do so. But then there are the events in life thatwe have little or no power to change. For example: a joblayoff, the death of someone close to you, a hurricane oran earthquake. You can’t stop these events from happen-ing, but you can control the way you deal withthem—from the heart or from the head. Let’s talk aboutdeath—an event over which we seem to have no control.

Our culture appears death-ridden. Death, in someform or another, is frequently the major news in mediareports—wars, fire, famine, AIDS, car crashes, naturaldisasters, famous people who die, and the list goes on.Many people religiously read the newspaper obituary

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columns every day. On the other hand, our own death isa theme that most of us zealously try to avoid. Peopledon’t much like to talk about it. We mention it in whis-pers or hushed tones, if at all. Our society requires thatall possible medical means be employed to keep a per-son alive, even at immense cost in money, suffering andenergy. In other words, do anything but die, because thatmeans the end. This overall social perspective reflectshow little we know about death, so our desire is to ig-nore the whole unpleasant subject.

Conditioned by the heightened materialism of ourtime, people tend to see themselves as just physical bod-ies. In spite of religious beliefs in life after death, the ideathat we are only physical matter has kept people in bond-age to pain, sorrow, suffering and death for thousandsof years. “Ashes to ashes and dust to dust...,” as they sayat most funerals. In his book Life after Life*, psychiatristRaymond Moody describes his thorough investigationof life after death experiences, concluding we are morethan our physical bodies and we do go on after death.Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross conducted similar research andconfirmed Moody’s findings.

Eight million Americans, one adult in twenty, havereported life after death experiences in which they sawthemselves leave the body. Many could see their bodiesstill on the operating table, with doctors and nurses strug-gling to revive them. Many also reported traveling at

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great speeds toward a brilliant light. All were clinicallydead, their hearts had stopped beating, but they cameback to life. Clinically, because the heart could not sendblood to the brain, many should have suffered brain dam-age, but did not. These survivors were able to describeexact details of the actions and conversations of thepeople around their “dead” body. Scientists, at a loss fora logical explanation, have attempted to explain theseexperiences as hallucinations caused by a lack of oxygento the brain. But, if these “dead” people were able to ob-serve and, later, accurately describe in detail what washappening to their body and to the people in the sameroom with their body, then by what means were theyhearing and viewing the scene? Certainly not throughtheir physical ears and eyes!

These statistics do not even include the thousandsof documented cases of clinically dead children who alsoreported similar experiences. In their recent book, Closerto the Light: Learning from the Near Death Experiences ofChildren* (recently on the New York Times best-seller listfor months), Melvin Morse and Paul Perry describe care-ful research done with children who died and then cameback to life. Dr. Kenneth Ring, president of the Interna-tional Association for Near-Death Studies, believes “suchexperiences, as well as death itself, are really nothingmore than the shifting of a person’s consciousness fromone level of the hologram of reality to another.”

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All this evidence provides an increasingly solid ba-sis to conclude that the soul continues and is very muchalive after the body dies. Even a partial understandingof these views of the “other side” serves to mitigate thefear of death, which is due to third dimensional igno-rance and uncertainty about conscious survival after thebody dies.

Modern media has brought to light many wonder-ful clues to the realms of experience after death. Eventhe experience of watching a movie is like being in an-other world. When you go to the movies, you seeprojected in sound and light what looks like bodies walk-ing around, but they’re not real, they’re images.Intellectually, you know that frequencies of sound andlight are creating an illusion, that light is passing throughfilm and being projected onto a screen. Yet, while youare absorbed in the movie, it all seems real. Death is likemoving into another movie, a new holographic film.

Think of your body as a shell that houses your spirit.A friend of mine used to keep hermit crabs as pets. Sheenjoyed watching a hermit crab leave his shell, still aliveand well, and sort through the other colorful shells inthe terrarium to find a new home. She also told me aboutan experience that stayed with her all her life. When shewas four years old her grandfather died —her first expe-rience with death. She was lying in bed on the night ofthe funeral, wondering if death was really final—theend—as her brother had said. At that point she suddenly

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saw a total, stark blackness inside, blacker than any blackshe had ever seen. It had a feeling of “being final,” yet...“there was some kind of unseen light there as well.” Theshock scared her a bit and she decided to forget about itand just enjoy life. But she never forgot it.

When I was five years old, my family and I drovecross-country, moving from one military base to another.On the trip I became very dehydrated and sick with aterribly high temperature and was rushed to the hospi-tal. I went into kind of a dream where I saw everyonerunning around nervous and worried, then suddenlyhappy and at ease again. Then I experienced atransitioning of the body into a freer realm. Looking backon it now, it seemed like a place where souls can blendand merge so that consciousness becomes one even whilea sense of personal identity is retained. The experienceof the ecstasy of love was intense. I felt like I was myself,but also felt embraced in a circle of my family’s arms.Everything seemed so much brighter and lighter, as ifeverything was smiling. It was a tremendous experience.Next, I remember riding on a stream of light, and on theshore was everyone in my family. It was like a picnic, ora birthday party, and I realized everything was all right.Later, when I woke up in my hospital bed, my parentstold me the doctors and nurses thought they were goingto lose me.

There are many accounts of people who’ve lost closerelatives and feel very strongly that their deceased lovedones telepathically communicate with them, comfort

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them, and at times appear to them in an etheric or spiri-tual body. In a HeartMath seminar one of my associatesgave for a group of public school teachers, she mentionedthat, in the heart, some people talk to their deceased rela-tives. One of the teachers spoke up and said that she andher dead mother often converse in the heart and she findsit very natural. My associate was surprised when overhalf the people in the room said they had communicatedwith departed relatives but were afraid to tell anyone.

I made peace with death at an early age, but thatdoesn’t mean I might not have a bit of anxiety and won-derment if I knew I were going to die next week. Afterall, isn’t death a separation from your emotions andthoughts as you know them, as well as a separation fromyour vital parts? I now understand death to be a separa-tion or disconnection that’s quite similar to sleep. Sleepcould be seen as a rehearsal for dying. During sleep, youare often somewhere else. As I drifted off to sleep as achild, I felt at home traveling to new places and gainingnew understandings of the dimensions I explored. Attimes, when I watch Christian sleep at night, I can see hisface change from quizzical to intense with a furrowedbrow, to smiling in his sleep. He’s obviously somewhereelse behind those closed eyes.

I’ve never felt totally responsible for what I wasdoing in a dream, but whatever I did certainly could in-fluence my day-to-day world. I don’t remember dreamsvery often. It’s as though my awareness on the dreamlevel is erased before coming back to the waking state of

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the third dimension. You might ask, “What about night-mares?” Like many people, I’ve had frustratingnightmares in which I was trying to escape something orsomeone but couldn’t, or was caught in a struggle thatnever seemed to end. I see this as a process of slowingdown frequencies and giving them certain recognizableforms in order to work something out.

There were times my nightmares went on for days.Icould see them as releasing the leftovers of old programsin a form I call “side-junk.” These were patterns that I nolonger really identified with in daily life, patterns I nolonger required for my growth but were still there as resi-due. Nightmares can feel and seem so solid and real, thatI look at them the same way I would look at a consciousnegative thought. I FREEZE-FRAME the experience, thenrelease its negative residue rather than add more nega-tive energy to it. By viewing a nightmare as some patternbeing worked out or released and letting it go, you canunderstand and consciously eliminate the pattern. Manypeople believe you need to analyze your dreams andnightmares to gain understanding. Nightmares can haveintrigue, but analysis of them tends to over-activate thehead bands and add to your discomfort. Through theheart, you gain the understanding you want, release thepattern and move on. Nightmares could be part of a ho-lographic prenatal blueprint of yours, or part of aholographic blueprint of the mass consciousness on earth.Often they are a translation of vibrations into images oflower states of consciousness.

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Many people view nightmares and death as terribleor wrong, or as a sign of failure. People know they’ll diesomeday, but still look at death as something they neverwant to do. This aversion runs like a constant threadthrough their lives. From a heart computer perspective,death just means it’s time to move on. It’s not the end.It’s just discarding your shell, the end of a chapter in yourbook. Thankfully, it’s also the end of your pain, the endof your fear, and the end of your frustrations in life. Atthe right time and in the right attitude, death can be anexhilarating experience. Death in itself is not really prob-lematic. It’s just a big mystery to people.

The fear of the unknown drives us to look for a solidphysical reality to hold onto for security. Your head can’trelease your worse nightmares or your fears about death.Thoughts of dying can process through the head, withfear tagging along, and then escalate to such an extentthat they become a huge stress burden that people carrythrough life. Many worry, “Will I suffer?” “Will I haveprolonged disease?” “Will death be painful?” Death isinevitable. A sense of security about death can only befound in your own heart. Your heart intelligence under-stands death. The timing, conditions and method of deathare determined by your holographic DNA blueprint.When you become conscious of that, you can choose tobe fully aware when the moment of death comes. It canbe a joyous transition into a new life.

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MourningIf your partner or someone close to you dies, there

obviously will be a feeling of loss. Take this feeling toyour heart intelligence. Your heart will help you under-stand that you do not necessarily need to feel sad forthem. Death might be for their highest best. If this is thecase, then the real reason you are sad is because they leftyou or left their family. It’s best to accept that they reallyare never coming back and that you’re not absolutely surewhere they’re going either. From a truthful perspective,what you are mourning is your own loss.

It’s important not to deny grief and mourning. Re-pression of these vulnerable feelings will not bring therelease you need. Don’t drag grief around with you for ayear or two. As I said before, it does you no good andjust creates a stress burden when you hold on to lovedones who’ve gone on. Let the deceased go. As illogical asit can seem, realize they are never just victims of externalconditions. It’s likely they chose in their blueprint to goon, consciously or unconsciously, for reasons known onlyto their soul.

The Other SideWe hear accounts quite often of communications be-

tween those who have died and those still living. Peoplego to mediums and channelers hoping to speak to a de-ceased loved one. Radio talk show host Joel Martin wrotea bestselling book about the famous channeler GeorgeAnderson and his conversations with the other side.

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Martin had set out to expose and debunk Anderson, butbecause Anderson knew intimate details about Martin’slife and the lives of others that no one could have possi-bly known except from the deceased, Martin wrote a bookabout it instead.

A friend of mine was in the bank one day when ateller told her about the death of a mutual friend, namedJack. Jack and his whole family died when their smallplane crashed into a mountain shrouded by fog. Myfriend was stunned. Later, in her prayers she saw Jacksmiling and content. He asked her to call his mother andtell her that he was very happy. My friend had neverdone anything like this before. She had never spoken withJack’s parents, but found a number in the telephone book.When she called, a man answered the phone. She askedif he was the father of Jack. When he said yes, she toldhim what she’d experienced. The man began to cry. Hetold her that his son’s real mother had died when he wasquite young, but that he’d been extremely close to hisstepmother. He thanked her deeply for calling and saidit would mean a great deal to his wife.

Death can be an extremely stressful time for lovedones left behind, but using heart power tools can help allconcerned understand and release grief more quickly soyou and they can move on. In the holographic universeno one is ever lost to you. In fact, their connection to yourheart becomes easier from the multidimensional worldsof heaven. Always remembering the one who has died

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with appreciation and love helps you feel that continu-ity of heart connection.

Some people are so totally identified with the bodystructure and the materialistic world, they have a hardertime moving on after death. They cannot easily detachfrom the physical body and get caught in an in-betweenplace called the astral world. They try to re-enter thephysical world, hang around their old house, watch theirchildren play and try to interact with this third dimen-sional hologram. But they can’t. They don’t have bodiesand no one can see them or hear them. Astral beings areresponsible for much of the poltergeist phenomena youread about or see dramatized in movies. They are theghosts who rattle tables to gain attention. Caught betweenworlds, these entities often have frustrating and horrify-ing experiences.

A dear friend of mine, Katie, lost her father whenshe was a teenager. He was reported Missing In Actionwhile serving in Vietnam. About two years later, the fam-ily began to experience poltergeist phenomena aroundthe house. Water would suddenly turn on in the bath-room. The bed would shake in the middle of the nightand chairs would fall down for no reason. The familywas terrified. Whenever my friend came back from a date,the phenomena would get noisier. It was as if someonewas trying to run the family. The disturbances contin-ued year after year. Katie and her mother both suspectedthat the ghost was her father. Knowing that I see energy

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fields quite easily, Katie’s mother asked me if I wouldtry to communicate with him and find out what was go-ing on. I said I would try.

I went over to the house and walked around to geta feel for the situation. I did a Heart Lock-In and sentlove to Katie’s father. Soon I felt myself in the presenceof a very disturbed being. I was able to connect with afrequency where we established clear telepathic commu-nication. The first thing he asked me was to give amessage to “Kit-Kat.” I didn’t know it, but that had beenhis nickname for Katie. There was other verification thathelped Katie and her mother know that it really wasKatie’s father. I tried to explain to him that he was deadand needed to move on. Being in the astral world it washard for him to accept that when he evidently felt alive. Ihad tremendous compassion for him. Obviously hedidn’t understand death. He told me that he thought hewas supposed to stay there and take care of his family.He’d said he’d been shot down and hurt in Vietnam, andthought he was just continuing on with life. Beings hadtried to approach him to ask him to move on and comewith them, but he was terrified and wouldn’t go. He felthe belonged with his family. With a lot of love, care andheart from all of us, he chose to try to go on. He had beenin that disoriented state for more than twenty years.When I saw Katie a month later, she thanked me andsaid, “I feel my father’s at peace and our house is atpeace.”

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My experience with Katie’s father started me won-dering what “judgment day” was all about. My heartcomputer showed me that what is called judgment dayis just your own review of your holographic filmstrips.You see what you did in life, and then decide what sortof learning experience or “job,” you would like next. It’snothing to be afraid of. People fear judgment day because,at an unconscious level, they fear re-experiencing thefilmstrips of the left-hand turns they have taken in life.

For several years, my friend Frankie had been suf-fering from lupus, a form of cancer. She bore it gracefullywith a childlike spirit, but when she lay dying, she foughther oncoming death. Several friends and I went to seeher to gently encourage her to let go and move on, as-suring her it was okay. She was scared by a feeling thatshe hadn’t completed something here on earth. But themore she held on, the worse she got. She developed gan-grene and her pain increased. She couldn’t find any innercomfort. One day, a friend and I sat by her bedside andjust sent heart to her. After a while, we both dozed off.The next thing we knew, we heard her say, “Oh, an an-gel.” Both of us opened our eyes at the same time andsaw her reaching toward an invisible angel. The nextnight she died.

As I developed more intuition, receiving more iso-lated frequencies from my holographic heart patterns, Icame to certain understandings. I realized that since thereis no real death and the soul goes on, that our individual

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awareness also goes on. In what form it continues is a mat-ter of “karmic choice,” not what people call “karmic law.”

Karma is to eastern religions what sin is to westernreligions. The concept of both karma and sin is that ifyou’ve taken a left-hand turn you have to pay for it. Intruth, left-hand turns at any time are only lessons forgrowth and expansion.

Time is an IllusionQuantum physics has basically destroyed the con-

cept that “cause and effect” are an absolute law. WhileNewton’s law of physics says that, “Every action has anequal and opposite reaction,” from the higher fourth di-mension that law changes. The action is understood andreleased through the heart. Quantum physicists havetheorized and proven that time is an “illusion,” that it’sactually possible for a cause to happen at the same timeas an effect, or even after. It all depends on which holo-graphic filmstrip you are in, from which angle you areviewing it, and what kind of new filmstrip you are creat-ing as you do this.

Time can be seen as multidimensional. From thethird dimension, time is linear and therefore cause mustcome before effect. From the higher fourth dimension,everything is relative to perspective, so it’s all one andeverything is happening at the same time. From the fifthdimension, since everything is happening simulta-neously, you can move in and out of time, enter into

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different holographic films, and experience the effectbefore the cause as a real time reality.

So what is time? Maybe nothing more than a con-venience we have created for ourselves and thenimprisoned ourselves inside of. I do have a great appre-ciation for time. I can recall my father saying, “Be readyat eighteen hundred hours!” There is a natural respectfor time in the military and throughout our social struc-tures. We use it to create efficient connections for people,places and things in life. It helps keep things orderly. Inmy conscious effort to be thankful for time, I’ve expandedmy perception of time. I’ve also lost my former anxietythat time was passing too quickly and the feeling thatthere was never enough time. I’ve developed a serenesense of the moment and of the moments to come. Real-ize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating.You are creating your next moment. That is what’s real.

In the holographic heart you can discover past andfuture lives of people. These lifetimes do influence eachother, just as you and your child, best friend or husbandinfluence each other. Moments of time influence eachother through our memory of them. Memory is the in-fluence, not time. Since time is an illusion, past, presentand future lifetimes are simultaneous. They all wouldseemingly be in the same space as you, just in differenttimes. Remember, it’s all one big, fluctuating, holographicsoup. You are choosing to be conscious of the part youare playing now in the present time, and this is whereyou should be.

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I’ve met people who told me about “past life” expe-riences. I wondered if they really were tuning into theirown past lives or into holographic patterns of others whohad lived before. For some, these experiences helped torelease deep fears. For others, the glitter of a past life read-ing or prediction became a detour. It turned into anexcuse not to change inefficient patterns in this life. Aftera friend told me he met three different women whoproudly told him they had been Cleopatra in a past life,I realized people can become so “englamoured” by whothey believe they were, that they ignore what they arehere to learn now. From my own experience, I knew thatidentifying with a past holographic pattern often re-cre-ates or reinforces that pattern. Seeing this, I came to theconclusion that loving people, places and things in themoment was the most effective way to erase my fearsand instinctive distastes. Whether that fear was influ-enced by something in the past or not didn’t really matter.What mattered was that love automatically released mefrom fears and distasteful residues that were coloring andhindering my world.

Parallel LivesIt’s possible that there are also parallel lifetimes. In

the holographic awareness, I saw that the decision of thespirit to come into a material body was often made be-fore one life ends and the other begins. In other words,the last years of an elderly person’s life and the first yearsof their next life could have the same spirit but in differ-

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ent percentages. You could actually be a five-year-oldand a ninety-year-old at the same time.

Einstein proved mathematically that time is an illu-sion. By moving into the holographic awareness thatEinstein was sensing, it would be possible to experienceoverlapping lifetimes within the same spectrum of time.This could mean there is another you in the same (time)spectrum, but not in the same space. It would be quite asurprise to meet that other you and have those two timecontinuums converge, but it’s possible as you developawareness. Movies about time travel, such as Back to theFuture, and movies about the other side, such as Defend-ing your Life, Ghost, and the popular TV series QuantumLeap, are helping to open people’s minds to the higherdimensional perspectives.

Past lives, future lives, this life—our higher intelli-gence selects what we will experience as an opportunityto grow. Death is never the end of the process. It is thetranslation of matter back into energy and the soul goeson. Gaining a balanced understanding of death was justanother puzzle piece of life coming together that gaveme more heart power to make any moment of my daylighter. An understanding of death is available to you inyour own heart. If you are frightened or have a stronghesitation about your own death or the death of another,ask for help to deal with this transition. That would beusing your heart intelligence.

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow ofdeath, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me.” (Psalm 23:4)

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Balance(Faster Than Light)

Balance is like standing in the middle of a seesawand finding how much weight to put on each side so itwon’t tip over and you can enjoy the ride. Balance ap-plies to all aspects of life—physical, mental, emotional,spiritual. Letting your heart computer weigh the plusesand minuses in each situation is the most efficient meansof finding balance.

The Business of BalanceBecause the heart knows which energy expenditures

are efficient and inefficient, its intelligence can manageyour personal assets and deficits. When businesses keepfinancial records, they use a balance sheet—a record oftheir assets and liabilities—to determine their bottom line.Most of us know we need to balance our checkbooks tokeep track of our cash flow. People who play the stock

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market pay close attention to the various aspects of theirportfolio, maneuvering their assets to create capital gains.This translates into buying power, which in most people’sminds represents less stress and more security. Muchtime and energy is put into evaluating finances. If peopleput even a small percentage of their time towards bal-ancing their energy expenditures from the heart, whatwould that do for their real bottom line—peace and in-ner security?

Have you ever really wanted to do something butfound yourself dragging and saying in despair, “I justdon’t have the energy anymore!”? If people could investin this kind of vital energy like they can blue chip stocks,it would sell like hotcakes. Life is an economy game.Heart intelligence shows you how to both save and in-vest your energy efficiently.

Keeping a Personal Balance SheetAn efficient self-management strategy would be to

observe your mental and emotional energy expenditures.If you are serious about wanting a larger return on yourenergy investments, create a personal balance sheet tosee how you spend your precious vital energy, your “vi-tality.” In practicing the HeartMath system, I’ve oftenasked my heart computer, “Are my energy expenditures(actions, reactions, thoughts, etc.) productive or nonpro-ductive? During the course of my day, have Iaccumulated more stress or more peace?” Before you goto bed at night, or at some convenient time during your

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day, try to remember the flow and feeling of your day—its ups and downs and how you felt by the end of it.Truthfully, ask yourself if these feelings added to thequality of your day or detracted from it.

Create a simple form which has an assets columnand a deficits column. In the assets column, list events,interactions and inner dialogues that felt good and effi-cient to you—not just something that felt good in themoment, but was best for your overall growth. In thedeficits column, list events, irritations, frustrations, anxi-eties, etc., that you know were not wise investments.Assign values to your assets and deficits according toyour heart computer readout, then total up the numbersin each column. Did you have more assets or deficits?Were you efficient in the expenditures of your vital en-ergy? Did they add to the quality and fulfillment of yourlife or add to your stress accumulation? Looking at thebottom line, you can tell if this was a good day or not.Use your heart computer to make adjustments so youcan increase your asset total and make your bad daysbetter and your good days great.

Though it may seem a bit time-consuming to keepa written record of your energy assets and deficits, it willbuy time for you in the long run. As you practice, it getseasier and you’ll no longer need to write everythingdown. You’ll be able to recognize assets and deficits justby using your intuition. Within time, you’ll see where tosimply self-correct right in the moment of the day. Re-member, you wake up each morning with a specific

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amount of mental, emotional and physical energy tospend that day. Efficient choices add to your energy ac-count. Inefficient choices deplete your vitality.

Being unaware of energy deficits creates the con-stant level of stress we as a society have grownaccustomed to living in. The huge national budget defi-cit is a reflection of our individual deficit spending.Learning how to be efficient with your energy expendi-tures is a heart intelligent way to love yourself and is acornerstone of self-empowerment. Keeping an energy ef-ficiency balance sheet for yourself is a high-yieldinvestment on the Self-Empowerment Stock Exchange.

Achieving BalanceBalancing is an “understanding game” you play

with yourself to find out which choices are best for youat any moment in each area of your life. If you manageyour head thoughts and emotions enough to see andunderstand both sides of any issue—both sides of theseesaw—then the balance point is easily accessed. Butyour head can fool you without an injection of real wis-dom from the heart.

It’s important to learn the difference between emo-tional pulls and true heart’s desires. I often thought Ilistened to both sides of an issue. I’d go back and forthanalyzing the variables, trying to choose which directionto go. “Should I spend money on a vacation?” or “ShouldI invest in this stock?” Often, I found myself choosingwhat I was attached to because of the emotional pull. I

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thought it was what my heart wanted. Then it wouldn’tturn out to be fulfilling or profitable at all. When I learnedhow to stop the head thoughts by Freeze-Framing andgoing to the heart computer, I could distinguish the emo-tional impulse from my real heart and gain a balancedperspective. Quite often, what my heart wanted was notthe same as my emotional pull. If my head still haddoubts, I would explore the variables, but always usingmy heart computer as a guide. I learned that good busi-ness deals are made when you can see all perspectives.

You probably know many people who rationalizetheir emotional pulls. Here’s a simple example to illus-trate how balance can bring us more fulfillment. A maneats ice cream every day, telling himself it’s okay becausehe works out in the gym an hour every day. That couldseemed balanced, but when you look at the amount ofice cream he consumes in proportion to other foods itmight come up on the computer screen as an extremeimbalance. If he ate ice cream twice a week, instead ofdaily, he might discover that he enjoys it even more. Itwould be up to him to find his true balance point. Bal-ance does not mean you have to live a boring, deprivedlife, never venturing off the middle of the road. Balanceis actually the means by which one can more fully savorwhat life has to offer.

Bringing anything into harmonious proportion in-creases your overall enjoyment and feeling of well-being.Anything that becomes an addiction is out of balance,whether it’s food, alcohol, sex, work or other stimuli.

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When balanced by your own self-management, you canappreciate stimulation without losing control.

Passion is a powerfully regenerative energy that isbalanced when expressed from the heart. When ex-pressed through the head, passion gets out of balanceand can run you around the block, and then some! It’s upto each individual to discover the right balance for their sys-tem. Your own heart computer will indicate areas youneed to adjust. You may hear the voice of your conscienceinside or have a funny feeling when you begin to dosomething that will take you out of balance. Stress is asure sign you’re not balanced. As you practice becomingaware of stress, you can then go back to your heart for areadout on what you might be overdoing, or underdoing,or missing altogether.

Spiritual BalanceSpiritual balance comes from having the proper in-

tegration and function of the physical, mental andemotional aspects of your life. The spiritual aspect is al-ways there and always has been. It’s all spiritual whenyou make efforts to bring those three levels into harmo-nious arrangement. Then the spiritual balance you’relooking for will come automatically. In fact, if youovercare about your spiritual destiny and ambitions andaren’t responsible for these basics, you will be out of bal-ance and hold back your spiritual growth. You won’t beas loving or caring or radiate as much heart energy asmany people who have no intentional spiritual goals, yet

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are balanced physically, emotionally and mentally. Theseare the people who just love and appreciate life. Theyare the ones living the core values. It could be the persondown the block, the grocery store clerk or even someoneyou may have judged for being, eating, dressing or act-ing differently from you. There are no universal formulasfor balance applicable to everyone, because everyone isdifferent and everyone’s system is different. What countsis not the outer garb or personal habits, but the quality ofa person’s love that comes from balancing the differentaspects of their life.

Many people with ardent spiritual aspirations lackbalance. They may pray or meditate all day, but if theirsystem is not truly balanced they will feel they’re notadvancing. Often they don’t know why, so they striveeven harder in their spiritual practices. If they truly lis-tened to their heart, their inner voice would tell themwhere they need to make some adjustments in life. Butoften, even experienced meditators don’t listen to or acton the truth in their hearts.

One of the editors of this book shared with me howfinally understanding balance was a major breakthroughfor her. Before she practiced HeartMath, she meditateddeeply on the “third eye,” having been told that intu-ition comes from there. But she ignored some of theniggling little voices in her heart because she didn’t real-ize they were the real intuition speaking. She wonderedhow she could find the fulfillment her heart was yearn-

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ing for, as she didn’t know how to resolve several deepinner conflicts.

Exhausted from the cycle of clearing, then creatingmore problems to clear, she sincerely asked God for help.When she met Doc Childre, myself and several otherfriends and saw the balance and care in our lives, sherealized this was the missing piece to her puzzle. To her,we were living testimonies that managing life from theheart was possible. She told me what an awakening itwas to realize there were actually people on earth achiev-ing high spiritual awareness who were alsodown-to-earth, responsible, fun-loving—and experienc-ing fulfillment in life. She was excited about HeartMathand really walking her talk—applying what we’d dis-covered to her own life.

She started to listen to and follow her heart direc-tives as diligently as she’d practiced her other spiritualdisciplines. She found it liberating to put everythingthrough her heart computer. She told me, “I didn’t thinkI had mind-sets but I started seeing where I was holdingback my progress by ‘knowing what I know’ aboutpeople and situations in life.” As she practiced, she startedfinding balance in ways that surprised her—physically,emotionally, mentally, and of course, spiritually.

Her biggest realization of all was that she didn’t haveto strive and strain to reach new levels of spiritual aware-ness. They were a natural result of practicing deeper,more sincere levels of love, care and appreciation for

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people, all people. She summed it up like this: “Howwonderful it is to finally just love and care more deeplyand sincerely from the heart, and let the spiritual awak-enings come to you. They come faster once you start togreet all people from the heart and truly live each mo-ment in balance. With each new level of balance therewards seem to increase exponentially!”

The Speed of BalanceAny family, group or business will function “pow-

erfully” when it is made up of self-responsibleindividuals. The same is true of any society, country orthe world. Your heart has the power to take responsibil-ity for manifesting peace and happiness and helping yourchildren do the same. When Christian gets over-ampedin playing, I can sense he’s out of balance. If I don’t re-mind him right then to slow down and get back in hisheart, he can unknowingly step on another child’s feel-ings. To help him remember, I ask him to check his ownheart computer—what is its truth?

Remembering to balance your account causes rapidacceleration. HeartMath shows that 1 sincere heart ef-fort—1 investment in activating heart frequencies—brings a 9 in energy return. A great investment! Asyou come to know the deeper levels of your own heart,you also come to know that life really boils down to aneconomy game. As your assets increase, fulfillment in-creases. As you become more efficient with your mental

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and emotional energies, you realize that you’re winningat the game of life that day, month or year.

In gaining heart balance, you are going back to youroriginal state. If the real purpose of life is to “meet yourMaker,” so to speak, then re-creating and balancing yoursystem would be the means to the end. With “God’s”intelligence, or higher heart logic, wouldn’t the fastestspeed to get back home, reach divinity, be one with thesource, or whatever you want to call it, be balance? Thestraight and narrow path, calculated from your heartcomputer, is balance!

Is it possible that the equation to take you home isfaster than the speed of light? Is it possible that this“faster-than-light” travel (FTL) is actually the speed of bal-ance? As Stanford physicist Nick Herbert, author of thebook Faster Than Light: A Journey Beyond the Einstein Limit*says, “Einstein’s theory does not necessarily rule outfaster-than-light (FTL) travel.” He further says that faster-than-light travel can explain the quantumconnection—“the notion that once two quantum systemshave briefly interacted, they remain in some sense for-ever connected by an instantaneous link....unlimited bydistance.” My experience is that at the speed of light thereis a transition into another dimension where everythingdisappears into energy and there is no space or time. Allconnectedness exists and everything moves as a whole-ness. At that point it’s as if the observer has quantized,

* Nick Herbert, Quantum Reality (Doubleday, 1985), Faster Than Light

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subdivided into small, finite increments of energy. If Godis observing from everywhere, and it is from God’s infi-nite perspective that you are looking, then you might seebalance as a faster form of travel than the speed of light.

Einstein had the ability to imagine himself travel-ing on a beam of light and formulated his now famousequation E=mc2 which basically says that energy andmatter are the same thing. The next step for science is tobecome comfortable with E=mc2 as an equation that canalso prove energy moves “matter.” Let me explain. If “E”is coherent heart energy, and “m” (mass) includes men-tal and emotional frequencies (thought matters), then “E”would have the ability to balance and change “m.” Onlythrough practice can we see how focused heart energy,heart intelligence, can balance external situations andtransform density (life’s hologram) to a degree previouslyunrecognized. This understanding of the speed of balancecould exceed all the previous insights spawned by E=mc2.Now, what would E=(mc2)2 look like? In Einstein me-chanics it could be an incredible explosion that wouldannihilate all matter. But in this wider perspective itmight be an explosion in the heart of light, love andpower, releasing consciousness into a new reality. Itmight be seeing as God sees. This would be reaching pastthe fourth dimensional perception, where energy equalsmatter and the speed of light is at a ceiling, and into thefifth dimension. It would give people the power to cre-ate in harmony and balance with God.

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In the creation frequency there is also future andpast, meaning that it would be possible to understandyour Creator, His/Her intentions and where He/Shecame from. The creation frequency could possibly be thehighest frequency capacity that your DNA cells wouldunfold, a God perspective, a gift of Himself. This wouldbe the unfoldment of the Golden Mean ratio—the un-foldment of Love. Even most religions agree that Love isGod’s particular purpose. Science will prove that love isat the core of the matter through understanding the speedof balance.

You can start now. The Golden Mean ratio unfoldsat the Speed of Balance! This is my experience of howyou access it: Through your heart, do your best to findbalance in each moment. Then go for deeper, more sin-cere love and care. For example, when daily life starts tolook overwhelming, the first rule in my system is to stayin peace. Then I can find my balance and know whataction to take as I follow that flow. I can watch an intri-cate timing of events where everything seems to fall inplace. Since there is no time in reality, balance crunchestime into a flow. Everything gets done. You find you arecreating your own timing with efficient decisions eachmoment. As you do your best to balance, it mathemati-cally activates your next level of awareness, so you canenjoy any ride through life and create your next level offulfillment. Take time to appreciate that. You are creat-ing your own unfoldment, your own spiral of growth.At each step of the way, go back to the heart and balance

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again. Find your peace. Balance takes you to your nextlevel, and your next, and it goes on in a fun adventure.Balance is like exploring the “Rubik’s cube” of life fromthe center point of your heart. Discovering the Speed ofBalance is the next step for science, business and reli-gion—balance just being God’s equation for anaesthetically pleasing integration of all elements. Whenthere is balance, there is harmony.

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The Mind/BrainWhile the heart is more of a spirit, you can view the

head as more of a force. In the head subterminal, the mind/brain is what programs the head and activates its force.Let’s talk about some of the concepts and mechanics ofthe mind/brain. The left side of the brain is associatedwith logic, reason, math, language, verbal ability, read-ing, writing, analysis, linear thinking or serial processing.The right side of the brain is associated with recognitionof faces, patterns, symbols, rhythm, visual images, depthperception, spatial abilities, creativity, synthesis and par-allel (simultaneous) processing. While a balancedintegration of both sides of the brain is ideal, in mostpeople one side tends to operate more than the other. Thisis called dominance.

The most popular current theory of the brain is Dr.Paul MacLean’s triune brain model. This theory says weactually have three brains in one: the reptilian brain, thelimbic system and the neocortex. The triune brain has de-

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veloped through evolution. It began with the primitivefunctions of the reptilian brain. The limbic system addedemotional behaviors, the sense of self, and memory thatcan be found in mammals. The neocortex is found onlyin primates and humans. It is responsible for mental ac-tivity and is much larger in humans now than it was inearlier man. According to MacLean, these three brainsoften strive for dominance and don’t always work har-moniously together.* Many scientists think MacLean’sscientific research on the triune brain will soon becomeoutdated.

The second most popular theory of the brain is theholographic model. It was first formulated by StanfordUniversity neurophysiologist Dr. Karl Pribram.** Accord-ing to this model, the brain creates a coded image. Forexample, it takes whatever frequency signal it sees, likethis page in front of you, and translates that into a three-dimensional image. The coding is similar to what takesplace in a hologram.

The holographic brain model has a common-senseappeal in that it also explains the structure of the uni-verse. Michael Talbot explains in The Holographic Universe,

* MacLean’s work is cited in Peak Learning, by Ronald Gross(Tarcher, 1991)**Pribram describes how the brain uses the same mathematicalprinciples as a hologram to interpret the interference patternscreated in the electrical fields around brain cells. Pribram, K. H.,Brain and Perception: Holonomy and Structure in Figural Processing.Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Publishers, 1991.

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“Our brains mathematically construct objective real-ity by interpreting frequencies that are ultimatelyprojections from another dimension, a deeper orderof existence that is beyond space and time: The brainis a hologram enfolded in a holographic universe.”

As my intuition developed, I directly experiencedthe truth of this—my own firsthand information of theuniverse. Through studying the holographic head/heartrelationship, I learned that the head sees disconnectedsegments while the heart sees the creation of the whole.Hidden within the intelligence of the heart is the powerto comprehend your mind/brain in its completeness.

Scientists at the California Institute of Technologyrecently released information about a new discoverywhich revealed that human brain cells possess crystalsof a highly magnetic mineral. This is the first time sci-ence has proven that magnetism exists in human cells.Animals such as whales and homing pigeons have aninborn sense of direction because of magnetic particleswhich orient them. At the Oak Ridge National Labora-tory in Tennessee, research points to the possibility thatthousands of three-dimensional images could be storedin a single magnetic crystal. According to the research-ers, “By rotating the crystal slightly, a new storageopportunity is created.” The holographic model is theonly known process which can pack and store informa-tion that condensed. Applications based on the Oak Ridgediscoveries point to a time when tremendous amountsof data may be holographically stored in a specially-tai-lored crystal. Magnetic brain crystals are the physical

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counterpart of the holographic heart crystals. The recentOak Ridge findings perfectly describe how I saw the heartcrystals work.

The next step in brain research is to uncover the elec-trical signals that create heart/brain resonance.* In hisbook Vibrational Medicine, Gerber describes scientist ItzhakBentov’s research on heart/brain resonance. He states,

“In Bentov’s model, sonic vibrations which are cre-ated within the deep, hollow, fluid-filled ventriclesof the brain by pulsations transmitted from the heart,cause a mechanical and electrical stimulation of theoverlying nervous tissue.”

It’s interesting to note that the highest concentration ofthe recently-discovered magnetic brain crystals werefound in this same membrane enfolding the brain. It’s pos-sible, Bentov postulates, to produce “a cyclic stimulus loopof electrical activity which reverberates in a circular paththrough the sensory cortex....Once the loop becomes cy-clic and repetitive, the current becomes stronger.”

Doc Childre, in his book Self Empowerment, furtherdescribes this electrical circuit:

“Your heart intuition has the capacity to engage yourmind in producing subtle electrical frequencies whichbring balance to the left and right hemispheres of thebrain. These encoded electrical patterns regulate thebrain chemistry to increase the efficiency, integrity,

*IHM researchers have found that brainwaves entrain to coherentheart rhythms at .1 Hz, creating a state of head/heart entrainmentwhere people report heightened intuitive awareness. McCraty R, TillerWA, and Atkinson M. Head-Heart Entrainment: A Preliminary Sur-vey. Integrating the Science and Art of Energy Medicine. 1995. Boulder,Colorado: ISSSEEM.

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and effectiveness of the brain and its functions. Thebalance of the two brain hemispheres creates one uni-fied electrical signal. This signal then integrates withheart and mind frequencies creating a triangulationof electrical resonance. As these three frequencies buildin resonance, they form an energy field of intelligencethat, for all practical purposes, translates into a thirdbrain (which is electrical in nature, not physical). Thisthird brain is designed to transmit and receive quan-tum intelligence and differentiate it down throughyour physical brain network for practical use in day-to-day life. As the electrical triplicity between the heart,mind and brain builds into a standing wave of reso-nance, it creates a unified field of energy within theindividual human mind that widens your perceptions.This electrical integration progressively activates theunused percentage of the brain potentials that scienceacknowledges is dormant.”

At the Intui-Tech research center (a division of theInstitute of HeartMath), scientific studies are being con-ducted to further approach the validation of heart/brainresonance. Researchers are investigating how the elec-trical activity associated with heart intelligence canenhance brain cells and potentially grow new ones. Ex-periments on how specific tonal and rhythmic patternsaffect psychological patterns in people are coupled withEEG (brain) and EKG (heart) measurements. Plans in-clude further testing of heart frequencies with EKGspectrum analysis along with EKG polygraph equipment.Institute researchers also propose to work with Super-conducting Quantum Interface Device (SQUID)laboratories which use magnetic probes rather than elec-trodes to detect minute fluctuations in magnetic fields.

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Developing the Electrical Third BrainThe physical brain is the material vehicle for trans-

lating superconscious, higher dimensional frequenciesinto human consciousness. The ability of the mind/brainto analyze frequencies and break them down into digitsbuilds the conscious interface between spirit and matter.Your brain mass is an incredibly intricate network ofneurons and cells that link electrical awareness to cellu-lar physiology. Through evolution, higher mammalsgrew new brain cells to unfold the neocortex. Throughthe electrical third brain, you can grow new brain cellsto receive and hold more higher intelligence.

You activate the higher potential of the mind/brainby loving and caring for people and having a curiosityabout “how it all works.” The more you use your heartand head, together, to understand how all the parts re-ally do function, the more of your brain potential youunfold. I studied articles on mind/brain functions, thentook that information to my heart intelligence. I was cu-rious! How could I know if I was using a larger percentageof my brain capacity? How can we as a society developour mind/brain power and maintain balance? What kindof brain research can further intuitive development? Whatwill be the mind/brain template of the future? I askedmy heart computer to enlighten me.

I perceived that it’s possible to consciously developan electrical third brain that operates on a software pack-age which comes totally from the heart. I received a pictureof a paradigm of the future, when all human beings will

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be functioning at this capacity. I could see how concep-tual understanding would become of secondaryconsequence. Through high-speed intuitive understand-ing, we will bypass the conceptual process and havedirect knowing instead.

At the Institute of HeartMath, because of consistentpractice in HeartMath, we’ve noticed that our workdaysaren’t cluttered with a constant need to mentally inven-tory each and every job detail. We’ve found that byfocusing on our priorities—especially loving and caringfor people first—the details have a way of falling intoplace. Many time management programs teach peoplehow to clarify and carry out their priorities. Time man-agement research has proven that when priorities are putfirst, the details become easier to manage. At the Insti-tute, we’ve discovered that when you “walk your talk,”productivity increases dramatically. Business runs moresmoothly with a balance of heart intuition and head ac-tivity. We use intuition first, then consciously slow downthe intuition when we want to use the head to access allthe digits for calculation and analysis. The combinationof the two brings high-speed clarity, resulting in effec-tive action.

While the head seeks to make meaning out of ev-erything, as intuition develops, you no longer require asymbolic representation of each moment. You find thatdwelling on the symbols (pictures or concepts the mind/brain presents you) slows down your direct knowing.Heart management allows you to choose between: a)

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real inner silence, b) intuitive analysis from your heartcomputer or c) digital head analysis. At the Institute,we’ve found that developing this flexibility heightensyour common sense on any issue. It creates a harmoniousflow where the people and the details both get taken careof. HeartMath is a system for peace in action.

Learning when to slow down enough to access men-tal programs, or when to forego such detailed analysis,is a process of finding balance. I found there’s a fine linebetween “being in the moment” and needing to thinkmy way through the meaning of every incoming sensoryfrequency signal. Since I’m sensitive to frequencies, anoverload of sensory input can easily occur if I allow it.When I have a passionate love for whatever I’m doing, Ibypass the need for sensory or mental signals. I intuitivelyget the job done without all the painstaking digits.

In my investigations, I wanted to understand theactual process the heart uses to reach intuitive decisions.While focusing on my heart, I directed my head to breakdown the digits so I could study them one frame at atime and see each angle. Here’s a good analogy for whatI discovered: Imagine someone sitting in a forest andadmiring the majesty of all the trees, then narrowing theirfocus to one tree limb, the beauty of its bark and the tex-tures of the leaves. Both perspectives have value. But ifyou get overly focused on a tree limb, you block aware-ness of the whole picture. A balance of the twoperspectives provides the widest understanding. The

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heart sees the overview, then scans the digits stored inthe mind/brain to arrive at the best intuitive solution.

The information received by intuition, transmittedthrough your superconscious third brain, is not con-stricted by words nor conditioned by time. Sheets ofinformation can pass in seconds. The Intui-Tech processeventually enables you to obtain instantaneous informa-tion on any subject. Perhaps memory will not be asimportant in the brain template of the future. If you canaccess any frequency you want, you don’t need to storeit in memory.

Superconscious AwarenessThe superconscious is man’s link to spirit. The

superconscious makes possible the necessary insight toplan and care for the needs of others and yourself. Theheart intelligence would have the awareness to create “acreature with a concern for all living things,” as Dr. PaulMacLean states. He describes the neocortex as the physi-cal vehicle for this type of awareness and goes on to say,“Nature added something to the neocortex that for thefirst time brings a heart and a sense of compassion intothe world.... As human beings, we seem to be acquiringthe mental stuff of which angels are made. Perhaps it istime to take a fresh look at ourselves and try acting ac-cordingly.” The superconscious holds the electricalpattern of the human brain template, the plan of our evo-lution from beginning to end. Through the electrical thirdbrain, we can develop the neocortex to its full capacity.

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The Holographic BrainPhysicist David Bohm, a protegé of Einstein’s and

one of the world’s most respected quantum physicists,is one of the main proponents of the holographic braintheory. He says that, “Everything in the universe is partof a continuum.” As I’ve watched the cinematographyof past, present and future events in the holographic heartcrystals—whatever the meaning of all the symbol andcodes in the holographic patterns—I’ve seen that spirit isa process of continuous evolution. Reincarnation couldmean living in other spheres in other universes—not juston earth. Packed with all the information from manyuniverses, imagine what your mind/brain would be like!What would our reality be if our brain was occupied withthis information, rather than all our day-to-day problemsand memories? It’s possible that in the future we’ll bebetter able to train the mind in one-pointedness and con-centration, guided by heart intelligence.

I’ve found that the deeper and more sincere mythought, the steadier my contact and the more affinity Ihave with whatever I focus on. For example, if I say theword “happy” from the head, I receive information frommemory of that particular thought vibration—happy. Iremember times when I was happy or friends werehappy. But, if I want to learn something new, I feel“happy” and sincerely set up a thought vibration fromthe heart. I hold that frequency and draw in knowledgethat is new to me. I feel “happy” in a childlike way. Real

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happiness comes when you live in the heart. You’re inthe moment and happiness just happens.

Future PotentialsLife is expressed in the form of radiations, vibra-

tions and the weaving of energies. So, why wouldn’t yoube able to grow back your arm if you lost it, just like thestarfish does? Lizards and earthworms also have an in-nate ability to grow back severed body parts. Throughunderstanding the laws of frequencies, specialists in ho-lographic medicine will be able to isolate radiations thatanimals use for regenerating physical cells.

Bees seem to have a wireless receiver (possibly car-ried in their antennae) that can isolate a particularradiation to lead them to their hive miles away. The hom-ing pigeon has an innate ability and directive to fly homeover great distances. It first circles around to get its bear-ings lined up with the earth’s magnetic field. Then it fliesto its destination by the most direct route possible. How-ever, if you put a radio transmitter in the brain of thehoming pigeon, it no longer can find its way—provingit’s following a frequency with which the radio trans-mission interferes.

When you think about it, a large percentage of birdsand animals have homing devices of some type. How domigrating birds know to fly back to their first home, of-ten from thousands of miles? Why do hoards of migratingswallows return to San Juan Capistrano on almost thesame day each year? We read newspaper stories of dogs

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and cats that have been separated from their owners, yetfind their way back home over many months and hun-dreds of miles.

Researchers suggest that since the human nervoussystem is so much larger and more complex than that ofsmaller animals, we should be able to sense what theydo, but our thoughts and emotions interfere. As humansbecome more radiationally sensitive, we will be able to learnmore from the environment around us. The starfish’sability to grow back an arm would be a gift to humanityas we learn to become “atmospherically sensitive” to thatparticular frequency. The dolphin’s sonar ability wouldbe another frequency gift that could teach us to commu-nicate through sonics. Using the same principle, it wouldalso be possible to draw certain vibrations from a plantfor nourishment. Or how about nourishment from acloud? Each of these latent abilities is an isolated fre-quency within the spectrum of superconsciousness.

As humanity develops the power of the electricalthird brain, the words we utter will automatically havemore potency and electromagnetic influence. In the fu-ture, thought reading and telepathic communication willbecome widespread gifts, the result of simply isolatingthose particular frequencies. Our use of words mightdecrease—or at least become more economical. A bal-ance between telepathy and word communication wouldseem the most efficient way to relate, involving a combi-nation of word communication and deep listening towhat another’s heart and mind are trying to say.

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The next step for mind/brain research is heart/mind/brain research. This involves investigating the frequen-cies of love. What happens when people radiate moresincere feelings of love? How can we electrically mea-sure the radiations of love? What effect does love haveon brain cell regeneration? As you become more sensi-tive to frequencies and understand their potentials,remember that the power to do so is found in the heart.It’s love and care in action that signal the Creator to re-lease new gifts of the spirit. The power of love opens widethe door of intuition. As you practice heart management,you’ll be able to understand more frequencies. However,without the foundation of heart development, you’ll keepgetting “out of phase.” To orchestrate the mind and in-tuition in a harmonious interchange requires asuperconscious overview. As the Doc says: “Balancingthe brain hemispheres with the heart activates both itscreative and linear functions, creating a joint adventureof efficiency and effectiveness.”

Fifth dimensional understandings of the laws of fre-quencies will bring many conveniences to our world.They will be mental/emotional conveniences to start withto improve the quality of our inner lives and release stress.Mental/emotional balance is required to bring fifth di-mensional frequencies into density. They only manifestwhen qualified by love and care. As you love and caremore, you can benefit from the rewards of heart intu-ition long before science will be able to fully verify it.

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FulfillmentIt is my hope that in your journey through this book,

you’ve gained more understanding of what is hidden inthe heart or even experienced a feeling of your own heartpower. At least, maybe, you have more insight into themath of the real potency you have inside. What a mag-nificent force within that can facilitate change, eliminatestress and empower us to live our lives to our fullest po-tential! The only secret for uncovering this power islearning to live from the heart. If I hadn’t experienced,and practiced and practiced, I would never have beenable to express how dynamically the heart power toolswork. Still, to this day, I use the tools to sharpen my skills.The biggest difference now is it doesn’t take so long toadjust my frequency and stress is easily released. I re-member the adjustments I make, then if a similar stressarises I know what to do. I can see the math a bit quicker,and don’t have so many mind-sets about “knowing what

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I know” on any subject. I still practice listening moredeeply to my friends.

Life isn’t perfect, but 90% of the time life’s great—and the other 10% of the time life’s good. I constantlyremind myself to tune in with divinity, my heart intelli-gence. I sincerely ask questions like, “How would Godlook at all this?” and “What would God do?” That’s thebest I know to do—sincerely ask my own heart intelli-gence. When I want to know what the future has in store,I remember my ten-year-old’s simple way of looking atthings. He would say, “Mom, are you in your heart? Itdoesn’t look like it to me. You need to get back in yourheart.” Life in the heart is fun and adventurous. Life outof the heart is not much fun. So adjust and go back to theheart.

A quality life is not about whether you are into busi-ness, sports or education, whether you’re an artist, lawyeror a blue collar worker. Simply said: Either you are lovingpeople or you are not loving people—in the heart or out of theheart. Isn’t that the real question to ask ourselves, espe-cially if we hold religious beliefs? With that question inmind, it’s obvious that true Christianity has never beenfully practiced by society. When people journey to the“Christ within” and practice loving, that’s when we’llhave the chance to appreciate the heart’s value andbeauty. This would be the real meaning of Christianity.

There are signs of hope, even amidst the stress anddistortion in the world. The iron curtain was an impos-

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ing barrier. It’s come down. Yes, some ethnic groups arestill squabbling over the spoils of victory. But they arealso releasing the pent-up frustrations of many years andwill eventually understand each other. A fence camedown when two influential rival gangs saw each otheras brothers instead of archenemies. A fence came downbetween science and religion with the new discoveriesshowing intelligent order at the beginning of creation. Inthe future, I do see people taking all their fences down.

Within the template of the future would be a “WorldUnderstanding” based on truth being validated by one’sown heart. The foundation, the bottom line, the basis ofthis understanding would be “love.” It will be a comingtogether of science and religion in the holographic heart.If you were to ask a man or woman of the future, “Whatis religion?”—they would look at you dumbfounded andsay, “Why everything!” There wouldn’t be the separa-tion of religion and education, religion and science,or—you name it. Religion wouldn’t be something youjust did on Sunday because you go to church. Nor wouldit be blindly clinging to tradition in the name of trying tokeep core values alive. It would be unnatural, absurd andimpractical for religion, science, math and education notto join together for the betterment of all.

“World Understanding” would be an aspect of thehidden power of the heart, an inner power that’s avail-able to everyone, a power that can change your life andcreate a new future for humanity. A recent Gallup poll

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found that while most Americans believe in God, only10% have “transforming faith,” meaning that it makes adiscernible difference in their lives. This gap betweenbelief and transforming faith can be closed by the powerof heart intelligence. The Institute of HeartMath is basedon the “math” of the heart—the natural laws of the headand heart that work no differently than 2+2=4. A lot ofwhat you’ve read in this book you already knew in yourheart. HeartMath simply organizes and interlocks yourown common sense in a step-by-step way that gives youthe power to act on what your heart tells you.

Practice having more efficiency with your vital en-ergy. Practice seeing the difference between your headand your heart. Practice using the power tools in the traf-fic jams of life. This common-sense practice leads toself-management and self-empowerment. Then your ful-fillment finds you. If you made a sincere effort to followyour heart directives every day, you’d magnetize trans-formation and all the fun “add-ons” in life. In his bookSelf Empowerment, the Doc states,

“People don’t have time. It’s survival and ambitionthat are robbing the spirit of people’s lives—themind pursuits. The highest ambition and pursuit isto get heart management. Then you get the add-ons,right timing and all the conveniences. It’s just street-sense. Enjoy Life.”

Add-ons are those extras in life that make it fun.They are the unexpected benefits that life brings you—in ways better than you would have imagined. They are

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what your deepest heart would enjoy. Add-ons accumu-late in proportion to your ability to go to your core heartand make peace with yourself and life. Then life will makepeace with you. By going for a more sincere, deeper loveand care for every person, you magnetize the conve-niences and add-ons from life.

The revival of real family values through the heartis quietly beginning to happen. The Gallup poll revealedthat one-third of Americans now participate in a varietyof small, shared-interest groups, 60% church related.“That’s quite a phenomenal finding,” George Gallupcommented. “It’s very important in our fragmented so-ciety.” In such small, intimate groups, people “are findingthemselves, finding others and finding God.” He saidthat those with transforming faith were found to share anumber of positive attributes, including greater tolerance,happiness, social concern and charitable leanings. Ac-cording to Gallup, “We’ve all heard stories of people ofdeep faith rising above circumstances to heroic altruism.Here we have full-scale statistical evidence of it.”

As you practice loving each person you meet, youwill perceive at deeper levels that earth is all one family,a global family living in one back yard. The first step ofthe mathematical equation for fulfillment, one that any-one can do and understand, is to just love the people.The more people in this stressful world that can buildthis foundation and take Step 1, the better chance hu-manity has.

Our forefathers founded our nation on certain truths

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they considered to be self-evident: That all men are cre-ated equal, that they are endowed by their Creator withcertain inalienable rights. That among these are life, lib-erty and the pursuit of happiness. Only a foundation ofloving the people can bring this to fulfillment. “WorldUnderstanding” is the hope of the future—the hope ofyour next moment. It is the hope of Spirit. It doesn’t mat-ter if you believe in anything, if you don’t think there islife after death, or if your views about the universe aredifferent from what I’ve said. The only thing that trulymatters is that you love your fellow beings—the wholehuman race. What would be the first amendment of theconstitution of the future, one that would unite religion,science, government, medicine, education? Love People!When all is said and done, what’s left is the heart.

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1:9 ratio 105, 203, 27124 hour rule 45–46

add-ons 292addiction 38, 112, 142, 144, 150, 267

aging 46, 47, 52, 56, 58AIDS 194, 246alcohol 71, 143, 267Alzheimer’s disease 52American Heart Association 138American Institute of Stress 52American Journal of Psychiatry 16Anderson, George 254anger 136, 225

and heart function 51, 138expressing 95repressed 138

anxiety 66, 158appreciation 178, 231–236assessments 126–129, 223assets and deficits 33, 265astral world 256–257attachment 46, 66, 71, 147, 154awareness 81, 154, 171

development of 77superconscious 284–285

Bach, Richard 178balance 2, 33, 73, 128, 134, 155, 158, 236, 283

mental/emotional 288spiritual 268

balance sheet 33, 264–266Barker, Joel 76being in the moment 283Bentov, Itzhak 279Bhagavad Gita 10bible 10, 29, 74, 94, 97, 161, 164, 168, 171, 204, 205-206, 208,

226, 262Big Bang 159–163, 204bioenergetic field 181

IndexBircher-Benner 21Blake, William 179blame 138, 140–141, 230blueprint 28, 57, 74, 171, 207

physical 22soul’s 19

Bohm, David 285box-ins 154Bradshaw, John 38–39brain

holographic 277–278left and right 276, 279third 280

brain/mind/intellect 35–36broken heart 63, 67–69Buddha 9burn out 59, 241Byrd, Randolph 94

California Institute of Technol-ogy 278

cancer 52can’t wait attitude 70–71care 66, 79, 84–85, 237–245ceiling, awareness 72–73, 77cellular level 45–46change 58charisma 134, 157Childre, Doc 60, 104, 127, 133, 227, 234, 238, 270, 288, 292children 11, 77, 142, 154, 157, 212–216choice 5, 26-27, 41, 65, 139, 166,

67, 175, 178, 185, 200, 202, 266cholesterol 52, 139Christ 9, 27, 80, 125, 168, 185, 195, 204, 205–206, 208, 226

Christ-self 203, 241, 290Christianity 290church 27–28, 291, 293Closer to the Light: Learning from the

Near Death 248codependency 140

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coherence 189common sense 72, 179, 283communication 5, 95–96, 121–

125, 218telepathic 250with deceased 254–257

community 34, 55compassion 79, 143, 147, 152, 153, 242

confidence 133Cosmic Background Explorer 160courage 124crash 39, 56–57creation 178–179, 199, 202Creationist theory 161–162creative resistance energy 58Creator 185, 207–208, 274, 294crisis 11, 40, 55, 68crystallization 46–49CUT-THRU 193

Darwinian theory 161–163death 46, 77, 142, 246–262deep heart listening 121–125, 217–

223despair 143, 150dieting 78dimension

fifth 81–82fourth 78–80second 80third 76–77

dimensional shift 75–76direct perception 90disasters 171discovery 151disease 46, 58, 138divorce 11, 213–215DNA 22, 74, 183, 199–200, 205–

206, 274DNA blueprint 74, 169, 180–

181, 200–204, 217–218, 253DNA programming 182-186DNA research 159Dossey M.D., Larry 94dreams 177, 251–253drugs 11, 71, 214

Dumitrescu, Dr. I 180dysfunctional behavior 140–142

E=mc2 14earth 197, 206, 208, 244–245, 293education 37Einstein 3, 14–15, 75, 77–78, 262emotional pulls 266–267emotionalism 69–71emotions 65

neutralizing 108supression 138

energy accumulators 52, 93, 134energy centers 203energy efficiency 81, 244energy expenditures 51, 263energy management 199enthusiasm 155–158environment 243environmental movement 58, 241evil 136evolution 47, 89–90, 161-

163, 176, 200, 232, 285expectations 66, 71

failure, fear of 88falling in love 146family, dysfunctional 141family frequency 208family values 208–209, 211–

216, 293faster-than-light (FTL) travel 272–

273fear 25–26, 36, 131–132, 136–139fifth dimension 81filmstrips, holographic 167, 172–

174, 177forgiveness 68, 79fountain of youth 65fourth dimension 78–80freedom 82, 229–230, 231FREEZE-FRAME 106-110, 132, 151,

173, 229, 242, 244, 252, 267frequencies 4, 5

brain 4fifth dimensional 288head 29–30, 35, 44, 53

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heart 24, 29–30mind 25

frequency, family 207-209frequency band 3fulfillment 2, 73, 96, 98–101,

134, 150, 158, 236, 293future, the 167–168, 170–173, 291

Gallup, George 293gangs 215, 291Gerber M.D., Richard 180, 279gifts, life’s 155Gingerich, Owen 161global change 244–245God 8, 14, 74, 82, 89–90, 139,

144, 146, 153, 155, 159–162,171, 178, 184, 205, 218, 290, 293

God consciousness 185Golden Mean 183, 189, 191, 274–

275good and bad 77, 81Greyson, Dr. Bruce 16grief 142–144, 145–146, 254

hate 225Hawking, Steven 160head 17, 35–47, 219

as force 276as subterminal 18, 276management 37–41

head chatter 115, 241head frequencies 29–30, 35, 44, 53head processors 37, 39–41, 132, 202head programs 116head/heart relationship 278Healing The Shame That Binds You 38heart 294

as spirit 276as the hub 89broken 67–69disease 138holographic 170–173, 172inner 22mainframe 18–19, 20physical 21–22

heart computer 16–20, 200, 242,263, 265

heart crystals 19, 199, 203, 204, 285heart directives 82, 114, 170, 292heart empowerment 32, 90heart frequencies 24, 29–30

higher 65–66lower 66–67, 241primary core 65, 74, 92, 204

heart intelligence 17, 27, 57, 144, 175, 190Heart Lock-In 102–105, 172, 232,

257heart management 73, 282, 288, 292heart power 2, 73, 133–134, 149,

204heart power tools 92–98, 102–

120, 232heart talk 125Heart Zones 104heart/brain resonance 279heart/mind/brain 178, 288HeartMath 7, 97, 190, 271, 282, 283, 292heaven 255hell 142, 143Herbert, Nick 272hidden power of the heart 1, 8,

10, 36, 49, 61, 73, 152, 185, 196, 291higher self 209Hocrein, C. 21Holodeck 107holodome 176hologram

future as a 167hologramatic biology 185, 218holograms 176holographic awareness 195, 197holographic brain 277–278, 285–

286holographic filmstrips 167, 172-

174, 177holographic heart 178, 260, 291holographic medicine 194, 286holographic movie 107, 177holographic reality 222, 245holographic universe 255, 278

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Holographic Universe, The 169, 277holography 175, 180–181hololeap 170–174hope 144hormones

negative 56, 137, 139, 149hostility 138How to Book of Teen Self Discovery

127, 234

I’m Dysfunctional, You’re Dysfunc-tional 100

imagination 14–15immune system 65, 137, 149, 190,

237Industry Week 60inertia, human 88inner child 130, 209, 211inner family 209inner security 72, 133–134, 149inner silence 43, 283insecurity 25–26, 43, 131–132, 175Institute of Advanced Psychological

Studies 50Institute of HeartMath 7, 13, 54, 101, 280, 282, 292

Institute of Psychiatry 52International Association for Near-

Death Studies 248intimacy 71–72Intui-Technology 105, 190, 280, 284intuition 12, 97, 105–106, 109,

116, 118–120, 218–219, 233,241, 282–284

Ironson, Dr. Gail 51

Journal of Neuroscience 52judgment day 258judgments 36, 126–132just love the people 65, 74, 96, 206

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karma 259King, Rodney verdict 34kingdom of heaven 165knowing what you know 47, 127,

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Lawrence Berkeley Laboratory 160leadership qualities 134leaps, intraholographic 176left-hand turn 200, 259Life after Life 247life geometries 28Lighten Up: Survival Skills for People

Under Press 59listening, elements of 223loop

thought 38–39, 42, 110–111,151

Los Angeles riots 34, 216love 9, 20, 79, 93–96, 147, 153,

158, 185, 196, 202, 205–207,288

and attachment 98and healing 94biblical description 97unconditional 84

love whatever comes yourway 99, 155

loving yourself 99–100Loye, Dr. David 169–170

MacLean, Paul 276–277, 284magnetics, law of 231magnetism, brain 278Marin County Community Mental

Health Center 214marriage 11, 71–72, 95Martin, Joel 254mass consciousness 5, 86McClelland, David 237meditation 12, 269–270Metcalf, C.W. 59mind 17, 58

as subterminal 21mind chatter 103mind tapes 142mind-sets 46–49, 80, 83, 147, 154,

221mind/brain 276–286, 281Mohammed 9, 82money 3, 75

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Moody, Raymond 247Morse, Melvin 248Moses 9Mother Theresa 135mourning 254murder 226music 104

NASA 160Nature 171near-death experiences 15–16,

247–249neocortex 281, 284neutral, putting mind in 39–40Newton 259Newtonian physics 76–77nightmares 252–253No I.D. 220Nutrition Plan for High Blood

Pressure Problems 21

Oak Ridge National Laboratory 278One 178one liner thoughts 115, 117–118oops, no big deal 110, 132other side 249, 254–258overcare 66–67, 84–85, 240–244

pain 56, 138, 142, 147, 234paradigm shift 85–87parallel lives 261–262parenting 30, 53, 211, 232–233,

241passion 83, 202, 268past lives 260–262peace 40, 61–62, 79, 96, 158Pearce, Joseph Chilton 73perception 130, 139, 144, 154Perry, Paul 248personal magnetism 134perspective 4, 39, 41, 46, 47, 75, 81, 87, 139, 154, 170, 179,

235, 241, 283Phantom Leaf Effect 180poltergeist phenomena 256–257poor-me attitude 70, 149, 166

positive stress 58positive thought 78, 112power 3prayer 12, 28, 218precognition 168–169, 169Pribram, Dr. Karl 277

quantum physics 77, 170, 259–260quantum reality 78

radio stationindividual’s 30, 65, 106

recovery 41, 78, 144–145, 150–152regeneration 65, 93, 288reincarnation 285relationships 71, 88, 129, 138, 148, 232religion 8-9, 13, 27, 72–73, 101,

160–162, 207, 290, 291repression, emotional 68resentment 36, 131–132, 224–226responsibility 139-141, 166right-hand turn 200–201Ring, Dr. Kenneth 16, 248

salivary IgA 237second dimension 80security 6, 43, 62, 103, 131, 253Self Empowerment 60, 174, 279, 292self-adjustment 132self-beating 111, 141self-care 238self-empowerment 6, 27, 35, 82, 124, 125, 139, 210, 234

self-esteem 27, 133–134, 150, 202self-help 26, 165–166, 207self-judgment 36, 99–

100, 111, 131, 141, 143self-management 58, 83self-pity 145self-protection 64, 139, 142, 143self-responsibility 148, 271self-victimization 68sentiment 24–25, 66, 241Shedler, Jonathon 50sidejunk 252

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sin 259sincerity 96, 108, 203, 236sleep 251–253Smoot, George 160social change 58society 53, 61, 72, 140soul 249speaking your truth 121–125speed of balance 271, 274speed of light 272–274Spirit 294spirit 3, 12, 85, 94, 134, 158, 192, 238, 284, 285, 292

Star Trek: The Next Generation 48, 107still, small voice 12, 27–28stimulation 268streetsense 179, 292stress 39, 189, 242–244

as a fun challenge 58as leading cause of death 52definition 54–55global 59, 131positive 58untransformed opportunities 82work-related 23–24, 30, 36–37,

55–56, 59–60stress epidemic 57stress relief 53stress tolerance 52–53, 56subconscious 224suicide 57, 213, 241superconscious 284–285surrender 153–158sympathy 66, 136, 148

Talbot, Michael 169, 196, 277teacher, inner 153teenagers 11telepathy 287Theory of Relativity 14third brain 280–281third dimension 76–77Thomas Aquinas, St. 185thought patterns 47, 110–111thoughts 37

as frequencies 4justified 115

one-liner 115, 117whisper 115, 118–120

time 259-260time management 282Total Quality 76

unconditional love 84unconscious 45–46, 103understanding 25, 26, 44, 165, 234, 266universe 160, 169, 192, 211, 278

Vibrational Medicine 180, 279victims 140–142, 148vulnerability 64, 124

whisper thoughts 115, 118–120will

God’s 82inner 82

wisdom 219, 227word cages 94, 238World Understanding 291–292,

294worry 36, 66

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