healthful friendships
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Healthful Friendships. What is a healthful friendship?. • A balanced relationship that promotes mutual respect and healthful behavior Improves the quality of life • Friends… take a personal interest in each other support each other encourage each other - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
HEALTHFU
L FRIENDSHIPS
WHAT IS A HEALTHFUL FRIENDSHIP?• A balanced relationship that promotes mutual respect and healthful behavior Improves the quality of life• Friends… take a personal interest in each other support each other encourage each other participate in social activities together
“A friend is a gift you giveyourself.”
“To have a friend,you must be a
friend.”
Asking questionsShowing interest in
othersListening carefullyResponding to othersEncouraging othersBeing positiveMaking eye contactSharing ideas/feelingsEncouraging others to
talk
Talking about yourselfAppearing
disinterestedInterruptingChanging the topicBraggingComplainingAvoiding eye contactTalking about othersDominating the
conversation
CONVERSATION KEEPERS/KILLERS
REJECTIONEveryone experiences rejectionRejection: the feeling of being unwelcomed or unwantedHow should you respond? Anger? Bury feelings? Don’t care?
BALANCED FRIENDSHIPSFriendship requires the commitment of 2!Balanced friendship: 2 people give and receive from each other acts
of kindnessEQUAL giving and receiving!!
WAYS TO GIVE AND RECEIVE
G I V I N G
ListeningHelping
celebrate success
Buying special gifts
R E C E I V I N G
ListeningAccepting gifts
or helpExpress
gratitude
ONE-SIDED FRIENDSHIPSOne-sided friendship: a friendship in which one person does most of
the giving and the other person does most of the receivingWhy? People Pleasers Don’t know how to receive from others
• People pleaser: person who constantly seeks the approval of others
– Insecure– Give to be liked and noticed by others
“USERS”People who do most or all of the receivingTake from others to get their needs metLittle interest in meeting the needs of their “friends”The believe they always should come firstWant to be in control of decisionsThey do not know how to become close to others
ENDING FRIENDSHIPSChanging friends is a part of growing up!Why do friendships change? Friends may move away A friend may break confidence Interests changeThere are times when a person needs to be objective about and
decide if a “friend” is a friend Encourages wrong actions contrary to one’s own values
LOCUS OF C
ONTROL
R E S P O N S I BI L
I TY &
DE C I S
I ON M
A K I NG
DEFINITION• The extent to which individuals believe that they can control
events that affect them.• There are two types:
• Internal• External
INTERNAL VS. EXTERNAL
I N T E R N A L
• The person believes they can control their life.
• Outcomes are a result of their own abilities• Hard work leads to
positive outcomes• Every action has its
consequences
E X T E R N A L
• The person believes that their decisions & life are controlled by environmental factors.
• Blame others for the outcomes rather than themselves• Luck• Fate• Powerful others
EXAMPLE• A student did not perform well on a test.• What would be the reaction of a person who has an internal locus of
control?• What would be the reaction of a person who has an external locus of
control?
HOW DOES IT DIFFER FROM PERSON TO PERSON?• Age• Gender (depending on the topic)• Cultures• Stress
TIPS FOR DEVELOPING AN INTERNAL LOCUS OF CONTROL• Set goals for yourself• Develop decision making and problem solving skills• Build self-confidence• Pay attention to your self-talk
“The key for your own personal development is to understand your natural tendency for reaction and then adapt it to the situations you are faced with.”
IMPORTANCE OF SETTING GOALS• Help people focus on particular issues or activities• Due to the fact that a goal is often written, the person will
be reminded that the issue still needs to be addressed and will continue their efforts to accomplish the goal.
• Once the goal is accomplished, the person may feel a sense of satisfaction.
• Promotes confidence and the challenge to attack more complicated and difficult issues.
GUIDELINES TO KEEP IN MIND…• Understand yourself• Have a specific task in mind• Be positive• Be realistic• Have control over the outcome• Challenge yourself!
SIX STEPS IN THE GOAL SETTING PROCESS:• Identify your goal in writing. If it’s not written, it is
just a wish.• Identify any short-term goals or steps necessary to
achieve a long-term goal.• Identify all resources that can assist you in achieving
the goal.• Identify alternative plans and solutions for any
conflicts that may arise.• Continue to improve and refine your plan.• Evaluate. What went well? What could you improve on
when pursuing a similar goal in the future?