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ANU MEHTA presents: The Healing Journey: Choices and Solutions

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ANU MEHTA presents:The Healing Journey: Choices and Solutions after abuse

MOVIE: UNHEARD SCREAM

I could see the broken soul,The tears in her eyes,The fear in her heart,She wanted to trust, She wanted to believe,She wanted to live,But she had trusted earlier,and paid heavily for the trust she had laid in people she loved,She deserved to live and really live,Not die everyday,She had dared trust and paid heavily. 

She held her moms hand and asked her,Where did I go wrong?Did I do something wrong?Mom promptly put a finger on her daughter’s lips,And said SHHHHHHHHHHHH…Don’t say anything to anyone,People don’t want to hear you, You will become a part of newspaper clippings only,You need to live.

If you tell people what happened,They will make you feel ashamed,They will call you a brave heart,And they will fight their abuse through you,They will kill you with words, looks and fear. 

LIVE, MY CHILD, BUT BE SILENT TODAY, TOMORROWand FOREVER,That’s the only way to live,That’s is the only way to live.I have also lived in hiding,I also went through what you went through in silence,For people are still not ready to dealwith broken souls.

I wanted to be understood, not ridiculed,I wanted to be loved, not called a brave heart,I wanted to belong, not be condoned,Today I give you my silence to protect you,In silence we understand each other perfectly,Our souls belong to the souls of the children of silence.

Anu Mehta

What is abuse?AB + USEAB = About BEING USED

TYPES OF ABUSE• Physical abuse• Emotional abuse• Verbal Abuse• Economic Abuse• Mental Abuse• Sexual Abuse• Self abuse

WHO CAN BE ABUSED?

ANYONEBOY /GIRL

Is it really about

sex?

ARE WE AWARE THAT WE ARE ABUSING?

NO

ABUSE HAS BECOME PART OF OUR SYSTEM• In the name of discipline• In the name of love• In the name of trust

DisciplinePower assertion:“Spare the rod and spoil the Child.”Love withdrawal: threatening to with -

hold loveVerbal abuse: calling names - “I WISH YOU HAD NEVER BEEN BORN.”

WHO IS AN ABUSER?

ANYONE

Sexual abuse-Some one you trust

The abuser may be a:

fatherstepfathersentimental partner

of the mothermother or the baby sitter

WHY ABUSE CONTINUES• Fear of rejection• Fear of isolation• Fear of shame• Fear of what will people say• Fear of a tarnished image• Fear of being alone

THINKING POINTS“Is it a coincidence that less than 100 years ago girls married at the age of 12 years and

today girls less then 12 years are getting abducted, raped and sold for flesh trade?

Have things really changed?”

Anu MehtaMETA-Health Mater trainer

Anumehta.co.in

I was only six years old at that time.

Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun, not living anightmare in the darkness of the soul.”

Abuse only ended when I was 11 years old

My abuser was old enough to be my grandfather. He was my fathers uncle.

My father was in between jobs

MY MOM WAS PREGNANT

I was separated from my parents

My abuse started when I went back to visit my family

Life became a question mark

Why did my mother not choose to see anything?Am I not important?Its happening in front of them, do they approve of it?Should I tell them anything?Am I a bad girl?Did I do something wrong?

Don’t tell your husband. He will throw you outof the house.

I BROKE MY SILENCEBUT

TODAY I am fearless

becauseI am honest.

No, its not easy to forget or forgive

Family Patterns

Pattern repeated again in the next generation and inolder generation beforeThese are incompletestories that nature tries to complete by repeating the pattern

“Abuse is a ‘huge silent killer’. It is a precursor

to many health issues e.g. bipolar disorder,

Parkinson's disease, polycystic ovaries, obesity, thyroid, endometriosis, pimples, infertility, skin issues,

and the list goes on.”

Anu MehtaMETA-health Master trainer

Anumehta.co.in

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WHY - Why do you want the change?

HOW - How will you take responsibility?

WHAT - What will you do?

ACTIONWhat action will you take?Emotional Freedom TechniquesAdvanced Clearing Energetic

Awareness :

What is abuse?Who can be abused?How does an abuser look and behave?How does a victim behave?How can we make her/him safe?Who can she/he seek help from?

Acceptance:Acceptance means taking responsibility to tackle a problem.

This comprises of making:

ChoicesChangesChances

Victim has to know what responsibility to take:

Unanswered can create conflict

Why he/she got abused?What was her/his fault? What made him/her create this story in their life? Am I a bad child? Do I deserve punishment? Or was it past life karma?

IF I KNOW THE WHY?

I can take responsibility

Action: means the process of doing something, typically to achieve an AIM, which needs

CourageCompassionConnection

I am not a victim

It wasn’t m

y fault

I can trust

I am em

powered

I am supported

I will alw

ays be safe

“So many unheard screams, in silence screams spoke louder than

words could ever speak. Today together let us take a pledge to

speak up so that this never happens again.

Break your silence;and save the child in you.”

Anu MehtaMETA-health Master trainer

Anumehta.co.in

“Everyone has the right to be treated like a

human being.”Anu Mehta

META-health Master trainerAnumehta.co.in