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There are several reasons more families choose Haller Funeral Home & Crematory each year. Our reputation of compassion and genuine care for each family in need is very evident.
The services we provide are as unique as the individual we are honoring. Services offered by our firm are personalized, not “cookie cutter”. Our services are not rushed, and only the family decides when and what type of services will be held.
Our wide range of service offerings, including traditional and cremation services, and large selection of merchandise, including monuments, allow us to serve all families, no matter their budget, religious orientation, or funeral service preference.
We now offer Ross County’s only on site crematory, affording you the reassurance that your loved one never leaves our care.
Please feel free to contact any one of our five licensed funeral directors if we can be of further assistance.
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COnTenTs...Page 1 There Is A DifferencePage 2 Our StoryPage 3 Our StaffPage 6 Planning A FuneralPage 7 Pre-PlanningPage 8 Why Pre-Plan?Page 9 How Would A Pre-Need Help?Page 10 What Is A Funeral?Page 12 Funeral ArrangementsPage 13 The Importance of Funeral RitualsPage 14 Funeral MisconceptionsPage 15 Life & Trust InsurancePage 16 Frequently Asked QuestionsPage 17 Practical Information For Your SurvivorsPage 18 Grief SupportPage 19 Expressions of SympathyPage 20 What To Do First - A ChecklistPage 22 To My Loved Ones
The Haller Funeral Home was established in 1971 by Benney and Margaret “Peg” Haller. They purchased the former Heiby Memorial Home on South Paint Street. It was a beautiful historic home built in 1863. Benney and Peg raised their four children in the living quarters above the business.
Due to continued growth of the business and a strong desire to better serve the community, Benney and Peg built what is now the current site of Haller Funeral Home.
Benney and Peg are pleased to be working with their two sons, who are both licensed funeral directors and embalmers.
The company has received numerous awards for excellence in service over the years, including the US Small Business Administration’s Administrator’s Award for Excellence. This honor was presented to the family in Washington DC.
The Haller family is proud to be able to offer the families they serve a newly expanded facility that boasts nearly 8000 sq. ft., all on one level, with over 140 parking spaces surrounding the facility. The interior of the building is trimmed in native Ross Co. walnut, oak, and maple and decorated with works of art created by local artists.
This exceptional facility is one way the Haller family is able to give back to the community that has supported them so graciously over the past 40 years.
Our FacilitiesFacilities at Haller Funeral Home were thoughtfully designed by Benney and Peg Haller for the comfort and convenience of the families we serve.
All entrances and restrooms are handicap accessible. The entryways are covered for inclimate weather. There are no steps or narrow doorways. We have five versatile chapel areas which can accommodate small intimate family gatherings or crowds of over 300 people, all in one room.
We think you’ll find our facility not only beautiful and spacious, but comfortable and warm as well. We encourage you to stop by for a tour.
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Benney HallerCo-Founder
Benney is a 1966 graduate of Cincinnati College of Mortuary Science. He is a licensed Funeral Director and Embalmer. Along with his wife, Margaret “Peg”, they enjoy their four children, and seven grandchildren. Benney has also been known to enjoy an occasional round of golf. Benney has served on many committees and boards in the local community. He is a Paul Harris Fellow, Past-President of Chillicothe Jaycees, was named the Ross Co. Chamber of Commerce Entrepreneur of the Year, and Mercator Man of the Year for outstanding achievement.
Margaret HallerCo-Founder
Margaret “Peg” Haller has been a licensed Funeral Director since 1978. She was the first licensed female Funeral Director in Ross County. She is a 1961 graduate of St. Joseph Academy, and a 1965 graduate of the College of St. Mary of the Springs. Along with her husband, Benney, she enjoys spending time with her four children, and seven grandchildren. When not spending time with the grandkids, she enjoys traveling, playing golf and bowling. She is a Past-President of Junior Civic League and served on numerous civic organizations and church committees.
Staff members of Haller Funeral Home & Crematory are caring and experienced professionals who understand that each family is unique and has personal requests and traditions. These requests and traditions are of utmost importance to our staff of licensed funeral directors.
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Michael HallerCo-Owner
Michael is a 1985 graduate of Bishop Flaget High School, a 1989 graduate of Ohio Dominican University, and a 1990 graduate of Cincinnati College of Mortuary Science. He is a licensed Funeral Director, Embalmer and Certified Crematory Operator. He and his wife, Carol, enjoy their four children. Michael is very active in the local community, serving on many boards and committees, including St. Mary Church, as Chairman of the Board of Kingston National Bank, Past-Chairman of the Board of the Adena Health System, and the Adena Health Foundation. He is a Past Master of Scioto Lodge 6 F & AM, and Past President of the Chillicothe Noon Rotary Club, Ross Co. Shrine Club and the Ross Co. Golf Association. He was recently named the Chillicothe Jaycees Chillicothe Citizen of the Year.
Matthew HallerCo-Owner
Matthew is a 1991 graduate of Chillicothe High School, 1996 graduate of Miami University, and 1997 graduate of Cincinnnati College of Mortuary Science. Matthew is a licensed Funeral Director, Embalmer, and a Certified Crematory Operator. He and his wife Jill have a daughter and a son. Matthew enjoys playing golf and spending time with his family. He has served on the Board of Directors of the Gates Foundation, the Board of Directors of the Community Improvement Corporation, a former member of the Chillicothe-Ross Chamber of Commerce Board of Directors, former President of the Bishop Flaget School Advisory Board, Adena Health -Foundation Board and Financial Advisory Board, is a member of Scioto Lodge 6, F & AM, the Ross Co. Shrine and a member of the Knights of Columbus, Council 1071.
sarah KidwellFuneral Director/Embalmer/Cert. Crematory Operator
Sarah (Jenkins) Kidwell is a graduate of Huntington High School, class of 2008. In May of 2010, she graduated from the Ohio University-Chillicothe, and received her Associates of Science degree. She went on to the Cincinnati College of Mortuary Science, and graduated in December 2011, with a Bachelors of Mortuary Science degree.
Sarah is a licensed Embalmer, Funeral Director, and a Certified Crematory Operator.
Along with her husband Matt, they enjoy taking cruises and traveling together. In her spare time, Sarah is an avid gardener and loves to crochet.
Benjamin HallerAssociate
Benjamin Haller, son of Michael and Carol Haller, is the third generation of the Haller family to work in the family business. Ben is currently attending Ohio State University. Ben is a HUGE fan of all OSU sports, the Cincinnati Reds, and works part-time for the funeral home.
Leonard gentil iiiAssociate
Leonard Gentil has been with Haller Funeral Home since 1991. In addition to assisting with funeral services, operating the crematory, setting monuments, and transportation, Leonard handles all the building and vehicle maintenance.
Leonard enjoys building and restoring cars and trucks. He and his wife Melveena also enjoy camping.
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roger WebbAssociate
Roger is graduate of Chillicothe High School and has lived in the Chillicothe area his entire life. He has two children and four grandchildren. He retired from Columbia Gas as a Supervisor following 30 years of service. Along with his wife, Cheryl, he enjoys traveling.
Dale ThompsonAssociate
Dale is a graduate of Chillicothe High School, where he was a star basketball player. He retired from UPS after working for 25 years. He and his wife, Faith, have a son Aaron. He enjoys playing golf and spending time with his family.
Joel WebbAssociate
Joel is a Chillicothe native. He and his wife Carla have two children. Joel works full time for First Capital Enterprises as a Vocational Trainer. Joel enjoys softball and bowling, watching his children play sports, and spending time with his family.
nik WenzelAssociate
Nik is a Chillicothe native and a graduate of Catholic Central. He and his wife, Martha, have two daughters, five grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren.
He retired from UPS following 32.5 years of service.
At one time, he enjoyed water skiing and snow skiing, but now enjoys spending time with his grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
Bryon CoxAssociate
Bryon is a Chillicothe native. He and is wife Heather have two children. Bryon is also a Chillicothe Firefighter and avid Bengals fan.
He enjoys spending time with his children and playing golf.
ryan MichaelAssociate
Ryan is an 2005 Unioto High School graduate. He is a veteran of the US Army and is a firefighter with the atomic plant in Piketon.
alan gossmanAssociate
Alan is a Chillicothe Firefighter. He and his wife Karen have two children. They enjoy watching their children participate in extra circular activities.
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Most of us are not prepared to plan and carry out a funeral ceremony for someone we love. And so much of the information available on this critically important subject fails to focus on what is most important: having a personalized, meaningful funeral that helps families and friends begin the healing process of mourning after the death of someone we love.
We want to help you and play a critical role in planning and carrying out a meaningful funeral or memorial service. Our licensed funeral directors are intimately familiar with the funeral planning process, key decisions a grieving family must make, and necessary legal documentation that is required during this difficult time. Our funeral professionals can handle all of the details and help you create a unique service that fits your needs and values.
Funeral ceremonies make a significant difference in how families channel their grief toward health and healing. During the funeral, the community comes together and responds to the reality that someone has died, and also to the reality that those remaining will need support, compassion, love, hope, and understanding. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who has died and to explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
The remembering, reflecting and choices that take place in the planning and conducting of the funeral service are often an important part of the process of grief and mourning. And ultimately, this process of contemplation and discovery creates a memorable and moving funeral experience for all who attend.
The following list of information will be needed when funeral arrangements are made:• Full Name of Deceased• Date of Birth• Place of Birth• Social Security Number• Father’s Name• Mother’s Maiden Name• Last or Usual Occupation• Education Level• Name of Minister Officiating at Funeral• Cemetery Information- if available• Veteran Information - if available• Meaningful Funerals
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We plan ahead for many possible occurrences: education, children, weddings, and retirement to name a few. Many people neglect to plan funerals, as it forces us to consider our own mortality. However, pre-planning a funeral will make your wishes clear to your family, and will ease the burden that accompanies making funeral arrangements during a highly emotional time.
The idea behind planning ahead is simple. One day, a great deal of vital information about you or a loved one will be needed by your family and anyone whose responsibility it is to assist them. Those who plan ahead can be assured that, not only will their personal wishes be fulfilled, but other unnecessary difficulties will be avoided.
Both you and your loved ones can benefit when funeral arrangements are made well ahead of need. It can be beneficial to include your immediate family in those plans, ensuring those left behind are aware of your wishes and able to plan a meaningful funeral that will help them begin their mourning. By discussing plans in advance, you can take all the time necessary to make decisions about cremation or burial, type of ceremony and other funeral elements.
You may want to discuss your thoughts and decisions with your family and a funeral service professional. This funeral guide can be used to capture your wishes and biographical information in advance. Upon completion, simply store it in a safe place with your other important documents.
Most of us plan ahead in life. We plan for our wedding, our children’s education, family vacations, and other significant expected life events. We also plan for the unexpected events of life by purchasing home, auto and medical insurance.
Understanding the benefits of pre-planning has prompted many to take the step to plan their own arrangements.
We at Haller Funeral Home are always available to help in pre-planning. Call us whenever you feel we may be of assistance. We also provide an online pre-planning from that you can use if you feel more comfortable sending us information in that manner.
Visit us online at www.hallerfuneralhome.com for our online pre-planning form.
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Peace of MindPre-planning takes the burden of making important decisions off your loved ones during a difficult time.
Financial AssurancePre-payment of your funeral through our Funeral Home will render the costs associated with your final expenses inflation proof.
LongevityPre-planning your funeral will make certain that your choices are respected and carried out, without leaving your family to wonder what your wishes might have been.
You also have the option of paying for your funeral in advance.
There are many different ways to begin the planning ahead conversation. You know your family and how your loved ones might best respond to the topic. For some families, it might be a casual conversation over dinner or another family gathering. For other families, a formal meeting might be better suited.
Regardless of your approach, the conversation is much easier to have when death is not imminent. Bringing up the subject with loved ones earlier in life when they are younger, and most likely healthier, makes the topic easier to discuss and keeps the focus on the celebration of life rather than an impending loss.
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Pre-planning is a loving gift you can make for your family and survivors that provides complete peace of mind to everyone involved.
Why should you make Pre-arrangements for your funeral?• You can plan together as a family, rather than
alone (after the death)• You help spare your loved ones from having to
make difficult decisions• It ensures your wishes are well-documented
and carried out• Ensures all your personal documents are
organized and easy for your survivors to locate• It helps control costs and reduces emotional
overspending• Eliminates the need to enter a casket selection
room at the time of death• You can personalize your plan to reflect your
unique personality
Here are some tips that may help you start the advance planning conversation with your loved ones:Set a time to have the conversation. Schedule it as an appointment with your loved ones, whether you want to share your plans with them or ask them to make their plans to share with you.
Tell your parent or loved one that you want to ensure their final arrangements are done according to their wishes, and you need their help to make that happen.
Ease into the conversation. Questions such as “Have you ever thought about where you would like to be buried?” or “What type of funeral would you like to have?” may open the discussion to more details about your loved one’s wishes.
Take advantage of funeral-related opportunities. Attending the funeral of a friend, family member or colleague or watching a movie or television show with funeral scenes may naturally prompt the discussion with your own loved ones. Talk about what you liked or didn’t like about the services you saw or attended.
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Burial PlansWhen considering final arrangements for yourself or a loved one, one of the first decisions you might make is whether you prefer burial or cremation. This decision often influences other important considerations, such as elements of the funeral service and type of cemetery property.
Memorial or Tribute ServiceAt a memorial or tribute service, a casket or urn is usually not present. Otherwise similar to a funeral or visitation, a memorial service gives family and friends a time to come together in your memory and celebrate your life.
Funeral ServiceA formal or informal ceremony or ritual prior to burial, a funeral service often provides a sense of closure to family and friends. Although your faith or culture may dictate some elements of a funeral service, you may want to personalize other elements of the service. At a funeral service, a casket or urn is present, though you may choose to have the casket open or closed.
Graveside ServiceAs its name implies, a graveside service may be held at the grave site just prior to burial of a casket or urn, and usually consists of final remarks, prayers or memories. The service may occur after or in place of a funeral service.
Regardless of the service or services you choose to include in your funeral plan, you can personalize them in almost any way imaginable. For example, just consider the following questions:
• Where should the funeral be held? At your place of worship? At the funeral home?
• Who should officiate the service?• Will your service adhere to the traditions of
your faith or culture?• Do you want a eulogy, and who should deliver
it?• Would you like an open or closed casket?• What music should be played?• What readings would you like to have?• Is there a special poem you’d like shared with
the guests?• Are there any special photographs or other
memorabilia you would like displayed?
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Visitation, Wake or ViewingHeld the night before or immediately prior to the funeral service, the visitation - also called a wake or a viewing - provides a way for friends and acquaintances to pay respects and offer condolences to your family. As with the funeral service, you may want to decide if you want an open or closed casket should one be present.
Cemetery PropertyIn addition to funeral services and the choice of burial or cremation, cemetery property, or “interment rights,” is another consideration when you’re making final arrangements, either for yourself in advance, or for a loved one.
BurialMost people are familiar with the concept of burial, or “interment,” but may not be aware of the variety of options that are often available. Many cemeteries offer one or more of the following:
• Ground Burial: burial of the casket below ground. A “vault” or “outer burial container” is required at many cemeteries.
• Mausoleum, or Community Mausoleum: a large building that provides above ground entombments.
• Private Family Mausoleum: a small structure that provides above-ground entombment of, on average, two to twelve decedents.
• Companion Crypt: permits two interments or entombments side-by-side.
• Private Family Estate: a small section of a cemetery, usually bordered by gates, shrubbery, or other dividers, that allows for ground burial of several members of the same family.
A few facts about cremation:• Cremation cannot occur until there is a signed
death certificate by a doctor.• There is a 24 hour waiting period before
cremation. This allows time for family to reconsider, if they choose.
• If you choose cremation for your loved one you can still have a service.
• You have numerous options for the final resting place.
• You can place the cremated remains in a special urn to display at home.
• You can bury an urn in a cemetery providing a permanent resting place where family and friends can visit.
• You can place a portion of cremains in an urn and a portion in a columbarium niche, providing a permanent location where you can pay your respects.
• You can scatter the cremains.
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Whether you’re planning for yourself or for a loved one, the funeral service is one of the most important elements of a person’s final arrangements. With the opportunity for great personalization, the funeral service can truly reflect the uniqueness of the life it honors.
There’s no one, right way to plan a funeral service, we believe that each funeral should be as unique and memorable as the life it honors.
When planning your own funeral service in advance, think about the way you want to be remembered. Perhaps you’d like a traditional funeral aligned with certain religious or ethnic customs. Or, a celebration focusing on great memories made with family and friends may be your preference. Maybe it’s a combination of both. You can have one service, or several, to honor your life.
Regardless of whether you or your loved one have opted for burial or for cremation, the funeral or memorial service fills an important role. It can:• Honor, recognize and celebrate the life of
the deceased• Allow friends and family to say their last
good-byes• Provide closure after the loss of a loved one• Allow friends to console the family of the
loved one
MonumentsHaller Funeral Home can offer granite, bronze, and marble quality monuments, memorials, or markers. We also carry columbariums, mausoleums, etc. A wide variety of graphics, emblems, insignias, or custom designs are also available for your selection in order to capture your loved one’s memory. Please ask for further details.
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Pay TributeA funeral service pays special tribute to the person’s life. Among its purposes, it helps us acknowledge the death, remember the life and activate support during this naturally difficult time.
Begin MourningThe funeral service helps survivors face the reality of death, which is the first big step toward taking grief from the inside and allowing us to express it on the outside through mourning.
Receive SupportA funeral gives friends and relatives an opportunity to express the love and respect they feel for someone who was important to them. Often, just seeing how much others care can help a family adjust to their loss.
Express Your FeelingsFor thousands of years, funerals have been a means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts and feelings. It helps us acknowledge that someone we love has died and allows us to say goodbye.
Source: Dr. Alan Wolfet, Ph.D., C.T.
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Rituals are symbolic experiences that help us, together with our families and friends, express our deepest thoughts and feelings about life’s most important events. For example, birthday parties honor the passing of another year in life. Weddings publicly affirm the private love shared by two people.
What do all rituals have in common?• Rituals Unite Us
Typically public events, families, friends, church members, villages, even nations create and enact rituals. It’s a way of providing a support system for common beliefs and values.
• Rituals Help Us Feel at EaseMost rituals follow an established, specific procedure. The details will change, but the general pattern remain recognizable. The predictability of rituals helps participants feel at ease.
• Rituals Help Us Express Our FeelingsThe symbol of ritual provides a means to express our beliefs and feelings when language alone will not do those beliefs and feelings justice.
Wedding rings, christening gowns and gold watches all symbolize important life transitions and commitments. Not just the objects, but the very acts of ritual are symbolic as well.
Like all rituals, the funeral ritual, is a public, traditional and symbolic means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts and feelings about the death of someone loved.
Source: Dr. Alan Wolfet, Ph.D., C.T.
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There are a number of misconceived thoughts about funerals. Here are some that should be considered and addressed when planning a funeral.
• Funerals Make Us Too SadWhen someone we love dies, we need to be sad. Funerals provide us with a safe place in which to embrace our pain.
• Funerals Are InconvenientTaking a few hours out of your week to demonstrate your love for the person who died and your support for survivors is not an inconvenience, but a privilege.
• Funerals and Cremation Are Mutually ExclusiveA funeral (with or without the body present) may be held prior to cremation. Embalmed bodies are often cremated.
• Funerals Are Only For Religious PeopleNon-religious ceremonies are also appropriate and healing.
• Funerals Should Reflect What The Loved One WantedMaybe not... While the wishes of the person who died should be respected, funerals are primarily for the benefit of the living.
• Funerals Are Only For AdultsAnyone old enough to love is old enough to mourn. Children, too, should have the right and the privilege to attend funerals.
Source: Dr. Alan Wolfet, Ph.D., C.T.
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Life Insurance will pay a fixed amount based on the face value of the policy. Generally, the face amount is not the same as the amount of the services, merchandise and cemetery costs selected or required. Unless the pre-need contract is guaranteed, the actual costs may be greater than the policy proceeds at the time of need and additional funds may be needed from the survivors.
Funeral Insurance can be purchased in an amount to pay the costs of the services, merchandise and cemetery costs selected or required. If the prices are guaranteed, the survivors will not be charged more than the contracted amount. Before you purchase funeral insurance, you should know, in writing, exactly how much you will pay over the length of the contract and what will happen if you cannot, or do not, pay the premiums.
Funeral Trusts can be purchased in an amount to pay the costs of the services, merchandise and cemetery costs selected or required. If the prices are guaranteed, the survivors will not be charged more than the contracted amount. Before you buy a funeral trust, you should know: If the prices are guaranteed; the terms of cancellation; if the funds increase in value who will receive any remaining funds after the contract is fulfilled; what happens if the death occurs before the trust is paid in full.
Savings Accounts or Bank-Held Trusts are accounts established by you with the savings in loan or bank, to pay funeral expenses. These are generally not guaranteed cost contracts by the service and merchandise provider. You would need to notify the provider and your family of their existence. You have complete control of your funds.
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Why Do I Need To Plan A Funeral For My Loved One?One of the most important reasons for planning a meaningful funeral is that it helps you and your family focus your thoughts and feelings on something positive. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who died and explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
How Do I Ensure The Funeral Is Personalized?The funeral service you plan should be as special as the life you will be remembering. Here are a few ideas:
• Write a personalized obituary.• Create a column in the guest book for people
to jot down a memory after they sign their name.
• Display personal items and hobby items on a table at the visitation.
• Show a DVD or slide show of the person’s life during the funeral.
• Select flowers that were meaningful to the person who died.
• Use a lot of music, especially if music was meaningful to the person who died or means something to your family.
• Create a personalized grave marker.
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In addition to pre-planning your funeral, completing a personal information form and giving a copy to your estate trustee, spouse and children will give you the peace of mind of knowing they will have all the information they need to properly handle your wishes and the details of your estate.
Don’t put this form in your safety deposit box as these can be sealed until after the funeral.
About CremationCremation is an alternative to earth burial or mausoleum entombment: it does not limit the funeral in any way. Should you choose cremation, you will still have the same options for memorialization that any other family has. Cremation can take place before or after the funeral service. In this section, we’ve answered the most common questions we are asked about cremation. If you require further information, please contact us at any time.
What Is Cremation?Cremation is a process of reducing the body to bone fragments by applying intense heat for a period of two to three hours. The cremated remains, which are commonly referred to as “ashes,” are removed from the cremation chamber. They are then processed into finer fragments and placed in a temporary container. The ashes weigh typically between three and six pounds. An urn maybe selected for the final disposition of the cremated remains.
Can We Place Personal Mementos In The Casket Prior To Cremation?Many personal items may be placed in the casket; however, some items may need to be removed prior to the cremation process. All items left in the casket will be destroyed during the cremation. Your funeral director can advise you on what items may stay and what items must be removed from the casket.
Do We Need To Have A Funeral If We Select Cremation?Cremation does not limit the type of funeral service that maybe chosen. The same options that apply to earth burial are available with cremation. Some of these choices include: casket type, location of the service and visitation, music selection, open casket and the display of personal mementos. Some families elect to have a complete service at the funeral home or place of worship. Others prefer to have a procession to the crematorium, similar to that often done to the cemetery, for an earth burial.
WHaT Can We DO WiTH the Cremated remains?Burial: The cremated remains may be buried in an existing cemetery plot or a new plot may be purchased.
Inurnment: The urn may be placed in a niche in an above ground structure called a columbarium.
Scattering: Cemeteries have scattering areas on their property. Please check local laws for scattering.
Keeping: Many people prefer to have the urn at home with them.
Shipping: You may wish for the cremated remains to be shipped. We can look after these arrangements for you. You may also be permitted to take the cremated remains yourself to another country. Check with us first and we can assist you.
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You’re Not AloneWith our online grief support you’re assured of our commitment to helping you through this difficult time. It doesn’t matter what time of day, or what day of the week you need support, we’re here for you. You can access online counseling services, join in group grief support, or watch our interactive videos, anytime: 24/7. No matter how you feel at this moment, you have our commitment - you’re never alone.
The staff of Haller Funeral Home understand that grief does not end with the funeral. Neither does our care end there. We continue to care for the families we serve and are available to serve them throughout their grieving process and beyond. The grief cycle takes a minimum of 2 - 3 years to work through before a person can comfortably live with the new parameters of their life.
We are all available at anytime to share books, pamphlets or just talk and listen.
Darcie Sims, a Grief Management Specialist, lists the following simple steps to manage your grief:• Acknowledge the loss.• Embrace and own the experience and the loss
whatever you are feeling.• Allow yourself to experience ALL the emotions
of grief.• Find ways to express your anger and pain in
non-destructive ways.• Find supports. Build a support system of
compassionate listeners.• Skip the self-judgment. Let the judgment of
others pass through you without damage.• Forgive yourself for whatever you believe you
have done or not done.• Release the hurts, the anger, the guilt. Be careful
what you release. Once released, you cannot have that hurt, anger or guilt again.
• Work TOWARDS healing.• Practice forgiving yourself for living.• Concentrate on your loved one’s LIFE, not
death.• Discover the person you are NOW.• Begin to release the hurt in search of HOPE.• Never, ever, ever forget your loved one LIVED!
May love be what you remember the most.
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Listen With Your HeartHelping begins with your ability to be an active listener. Your physical presence and desire to listen without judging are critical helping tools. Don’t worry so much about what you will say. Just concentrate on listening to the words that are being shared with you.
Be CompassionateGive your friend permission to express his or her feelings without fear of criticism. Learn from your friend; don’t instruct or set expectations about how he or she should respond. Never say, “I know just how you feel.” You don’t. Think about your helper role as someone who “walks with,” not “behind” or “in front of ” the one who is mourning.
Avoid ClichésWords, particularly clichés, can be extremely painful for a grieving friend. Clichés are trite comments often intended to diminish the loss by providing simple solutions to difficult realities. Comments like, “You are holding up so well,” “Time heals all wounds,” “Think of all you still have to be thankful for” or “Just be happy that he’s out of his pain” are not constructive. Instead, they hurt and make a friend’s journey through grief more difficult.
Offer Practical HelpPreparing food, washing clothes, cleaning the house or answering the telephone are just a few of the practical ways of showing you care.
Understand The Uniqueness Of GriefKeep in mind that your friend’s grief is unique. No one will respond to the death of someone loved in exactly the same way. While it may be possible to talk about similar phases shared by grieving people, everyone is different and shaped by experiences in their own unique lives.
Make ContactYour presence at the funeral is important. As a ritual, the funeral provides an opportunity for you to express your love and concern at this time of need. As you pay tribute to a life that is now passed, you have a chance to support grieving friends and family. At the funeral, a touch of your hand, a look in your eye or even a hug often communicates more than any words could ever say.
Share A Favorite Memory Of The Person Who DiedRelate the special qualities that you valued in him or her. These words will often be a loving gift to your grieving friend, words that will be reread and remembered for years. Use the name of the person who has died either in your personal note or when you talk to your friend. Hearing that name can be comforting, and it confirms that you have not forgotten this important person who was so much a part of your friend’s life.
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What to do First - a CheCklistPay For:
Ambulance services, if any
Funeral arrangements, including clergy, florist and transportation
Cemetery and memorialization services
Current and urgent bills (i.e. mortgage, rent, taxes, telephone, etc.)
Meet With Funeral Home Decide Within A Few Hours:
Clothing that the deceased will be buried or cremated in
Whether your loved one is to be buried, cremated or entombed
The Funeral Director will ask if you have made any arrangements with a cemetery or crematorium. If you have not done this, you will need to visit the cemetery.
Service details - would you like a visitation period, formal service, a reception?
Whether a member of the clergy will be engaged for the service
Pallbearers, music, pictures, flowers, scripture or other readings
Casket selection
If you would like a charity to receive donations in lieu of flowers
Notify These People As Soon As Possible:
The funeral home to arrange for the transfer of the deceased (usually this can be done within 1-2 hours although it may take longer to obtain a release from the hospital) and set an appointment with you to make further arrangements
Relatives, executor/executrix and friends
Employers (the employer of the deceased and relatives who will need time off)
Insurance agents (life, health and accident)
Religious, fraternal, civic and veterans organizations and unions, if applicable
Lawyer and accountant
Secure The Vital Statistics Of Deceased:
Full legal name - other names must be identified by “also known as” (AKA)
Home address and telephone number
Name of business or employer’s name, address and telephone number
Industry and occupation
Military service serial number
Date and place of birth
Citizenship
Father’s name and birthplace
Mother’s name, maiden name & birthplace
Locate the will
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If Casket Burial:• Would you like other members of the family
to be with your loved one in the future? This determines the size of the lot.
• What type of memorial do you prefer (a marker set flush with the ground or an upright memorial)?
• Would you like to protect your loved one’s casket with a concrete vault
• What type of presentation would you prefer for the burial service e.g. a tent canopy, chairs, mats leading to the grave etc.?
If Casket Entombment:• Would you like other members of the family
to be with your loved one in the future? This determines the size of the crypt.
• What type of memorial package would you prefer?
If Cremation:• Would you like to use our chapel for a short
service prior to the cremation?
• What type of urn would you prefer (Metal, wood, marble, ceramic, etc.)?
• What type of final resting place would you prefer for your loved one (choice of burial, above ground niches or scattering of cremated remains)?
• Would you like other members of the family to be with your loved one in the future? This determines the size of the resting place.
Decisions To Be Made Regarding Burial Of An Urn:• What type of memorial do you prefer (bronze
or granite marker set flush with the ground or an upright memorial)?
• Would you like to protect your loved one’s urn with a concrete vault?
Decisions To Be Made Regarding Above Ground Niches:• Would you like the niche to be inside a
building or outside?
• What type of material would you like the niche to be constructed from? Granite or bronze are choices for outdoor niches and marble or glass are choices for indoor.
Decisions To Be Made Regarding Scattering:• Would you like to be present for the
scattering?
• Would you like a memorial to be placed in the area?
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TO MY LOveD Ones:
firsT PersOn TO Be nOTifieD UPOn MY DeaTH:
Name: ...............................................................................................................................................................................
Address: ...........................................................................................................................................................................
Telephone: .......................................................................................................................................................................
Relationship: ....................................................................................................................................................................
Signature ..................................................................................................
Witness.....................................................................................................
Date: .........................................................
Date: .........................................................
I wanted to spare you as much anxiety, doubt and confusion as possible at the time of my death, so in this booklet I have suggested some arrangements in advance.
This booklet includes vital statistics, funeral service guidelines and cemetery requests, which are all important to the funeral director while assisting you to plan the details of my service.
The booklet also includes more personal material for eulogies, obituaries and other remembrances.
Please accept these arrangements in the spirit in which they are given; with love, hoping to give you comfort and help you to remember the times we shared.
Notes:
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Name: ...............................................................................................................................................................................
Address: ...........................................................................................................................................................................
City: ..................................................................................................................................................................................
State: ..................................................................Zip Code: .............................................................................................
Social Security Number: ................................................................................................................................................
Date of Birth: ...................................................................................................................................................................
Gender: ............................................................................................................................................................................
Place of Birth: ..................................................................................................................................................................
Occupation: .....................................................................................................................................................................
Employer: ........................................................................................................................................................................
Business/Industry: ..........................................................................................................................................................
Military Service:..............................................................................................................................................................
Marital Status: .................................................................................................................................................................
Maiden Name: .................................................................................................................................................................
Name of Spouse: .............................................................................................................................................................
Father’s Name: .................................................................................................................................................................
His Place of Birth: ...........................................................................................................................................................
Mother’s Name: ...............................................................................................................................................................
Her Place of Birth: ..........................................................................................................................................................
viTaL sTaTisTiCs aBOUT Me:
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Place of Worship / Address of Place of Worship ....................................................................................................
Other / Address of other location: ...........................................................................................................................
Clergy or Officiant: ...........................................................................................or Funeral Home to Recommend
Name: ...............................................................................................................................................................................
Contact Information: .....................................................................................................................................................
Personal Items:
Eyeglasses: Remove Leave On
Jewelry: Remove Leave On
Clothing: Purchase at the time Selected
Musical Tributes: ............................................................................................................................................................
Soloist: ..............................................................................................................................................................................
Organist/Pianist: .............................................................................................................................................................
Congregational Hymns: .................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Favorite Genre or Artist:................................................................................................................................................
Community Organizations or Clubs that may participate: ......................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
MY PreferenCes fOr THe serviCe:
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infOrMaTiOn fOr neWsPaPers - a guideline:Place of Death: ................................................................................................................................................................
Date of Death: .................................................................................................................................................................
Spouse, widow or widower of: ......................................................................................................................................
Married for number of years: ........................................................................................................................................
Children, their spouses and their places of residence:
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Grandchildren, their spouses and their places of residence:
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Siblings, their spouses and their places of residence:
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Education: ........................................................................................................................................................................
Clubs and Lodges: ..........................................................................................................................................................
Military Service:..............................................................................................................................................................
Special Interests, hobbies and pets, etc: .......................................................................................................................
Memorial Donations: .....................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
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CeMeTerY insTrUCTiOns: Name of Cemetery: ........................................................................................................................................................
Address: ...........................................................................................................................................................................
City: ..................................................................................................................................................................................
State: .................................................................................................................................................................................
Property, crypt or niche owned?
If yes, specify location written on cemetery purchase agreement:
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Final resting place: Earth Burial Mausoleum
Interment following Cremation Other
Marker or Monument: ...................................................................................................................................................
Purchased: Yes No
Monument company name: ..........................................................................................................................................
If no, inscription instructions: ......................................................................................................................................
Reception location: Reception Room Place of Worship Other
Reception to follow Cemetery
Reception to follow Service
Notes:
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a PersOnaL Life revieW fOr THe fUneraL anD eULOgY:I would like the following religious beliefs expressed:...............................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Favorite poem, verse or scripture: ................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Some significant accomplishments in my life: ............................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
One of my fondest memories: .......................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
One of the greatest inspirations in my life: .................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
If I could live my life over again, I would change: ......................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Favorite places: ................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Favorite color, flower, food, etc: ....................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
I want my family to remember me for: ........................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
A message to my family and friends: ...........................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
Special notes: ...................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
...........................................................................................................................................................................................
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MY SPOUSE
MY GRANDMOTHER
MY GRANDFATHER
MY GRANDMOTHER
MY GRANDFATHER
MY MOTHER MY FATHER
MY CHILD
MY CHILD
MY CHILD
MY GRANDCHILD
MY GRANDCHILD
MY GRANDCHILD
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