Guiding Healthy Behavior

ParentingMrs. Cason

Positive Behavior & Guidance

•Acceptable, healthy, and satisfying behavior for child and those around them.

•Directing, supervising, and influencing behavior

Guidance•Self-control- ability to govern own actions, impulses and desires

•Discipline- Process of intentionally teaching and training a child to behave in appropriate ways

•Punishment- Being subject to a penalty for something a person has done wrong

How to Learn•Direct Teaching- deliberately instructing

how to do something•Imitation- intentionally copying the

behavior of others•Identification- unconsciously adopting

behavior patterns of people they like or admire

•Trial & Error- choosing behavior through process of testing

Reinforcement•Response to a behavior that encourages or discourages a person to use the behavior again– Positive reinforcement- reward (more likely

to repeat behavior) i.e. praise, encouragement

– Negative reinforcement- punishment (Less likely to repeat behavior)i.e. negative consequences, disapproval

Parenting Styles•Authoritarian- value obedience,

use punishment to correct behavior, rule by authority– Parents have all the power– Offer little to no explanations– Don’t teach children to make their own

decisions– Children obey out of fear– Children more likely to misbehave when

parents away from them

Parenting Styles•Permissive- allows children almost

complete freedom in regulating their own behavior– Few rules established– Want children to be happy– Do not learn appropriate v.

inappropriate behavior– Children more likely to be self-centered

and uncooperative– Struggle with authority when older

Parenting Styles•Authoritative- Provides freedom

within limits– Parents establish rules, but explain meanings

and reasons for existence – Rules provide a sense of security, stability, and

consistency– Children encouraged to ask questions and

provide answers– Children held accountable for their choices– Use positive reinforcement– Preferred parenting style

Effective Discipline• Set Reasonable Limits

– Keep children safe, help learn appropriate behavior, are explained clearly to children

• Use Positive Reinforcement• Be Consistent

– Helps children learn what they can and can’t do

– Parents need to be on the same page and enforce every time otherwise it’s confusing for the child

Misbehaving• Parents must handle the situation,

but separate the action from the child

• Reasons for misbehavior– To get attention– To be lovedConsequences– Natural – Logical

Sibling Relationships•Birth order influences– Firstborns- more independent, self-

confident, grow up quicker, higher expectations from parents

– Middle child- good, all-around, parents less strict and less demanding, calm, even-tempered

– Youngest- want lots of attention, more pampered, less dependent

Parents Role in Sibling

Relationships• Parents should not make comparisons, nor show differences

• Parents should recognize each child’s ability, realize differences without expressing them,

Developing Responsibility•Accepting and meeting

obligations without reminder or direction

•Ongoing process–Recognize appropriate actions–Reliability and accountability–Increased responsibility

Developing Responsibility• Volunteer Work

– Groups or as individuals, learn valuable lessons, fulfilling experiences

• Allowances– Learn about finances, value of money,

discuss the amount before, frequency• Part-Time Jobs

– Learn how to balance, limit the amount of hours, monitor behavior and school performance, help with finances at home

Media Influences•Television

•Music•Internet

•Gender•Sexuality