guiding children how do we effectively manage behavior of children
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Guiding ChildrenHow do we effectively manage behavior of children.
GuidanceUsing firmness and understanding to help
children learn how to behave.
Children learn self-discipline when effective guidance is employed.
Guidance promotes security and positive self-esteem
When effective guidance is used, children develop a conscience
How?Be a role model
Give effective directions
Set limits
Provide positive reinforcement
Effective DirectionsBe sure to have child’s attention
Be polite
Use positive statements
Use specific words the child can understand
Begin with an action verb
Give a limited number of directions at a time
Be clear
Give praise and love
Set LimitsDoes the limit allow the child to learn explore,
and grow?
Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?
Does the limit benefit the child, or ist it just for the adult’s convenience?
Positive Reinforcementa response that
encourages a particular behavior
Be specific
Comment on the behavior as soon as possible
Recognize small steps
Help child take pride in their actions
Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child
Use positive reinforcement wisely
Dealing with inappropriate behavior
Questions to ask when dealing with inappropriate behavior
Is the expected behavior appropriate for the developmental age of the child?
Does the child understand the behavior was wrong?
Did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?
Unintentional behaviorThe child had no way of knowing the behavior
was wrong
Did the child have no control over the action
Was the action an accident?
Effective PunishmentReminds children that correct behavior is
important
Teaches there are consequences for poor choices
Avoids blame and criticism
If a rule is broken, young children should be reminded of the rule
Punishment should be in proportion to the misbehavior
Negative Reinforcementa response aimed at
strengthining a desired behavior by removing an
unpleasant trigger
Natural consequences
Logical consequences
Loss of priveledge
Natural ConsequencesChildren suffer from the actual result of their action
Child breaks toy, parents don’t replace it
Don’t lecture
Don’t remedy the situation for the child (defeats the purpose of a consequence)
Logical ConsequencesThe consequence has a connection to the misbehavior
Often used when natural consequences would be inappropriate (damaged property, the natural consequence doesn’t bother child)
Be prepared to follow through
Lack of follow through shows children that they don’t need to take their parents seriously
Loss of PrivilegesBoth natural and logical consequences are not
appropriate (dangerous consequences)
Most effective in children 5 and over
If possible, make privilege connect to misbehavior
Time outA short period of time in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity
A chance to calm down and regain self-control
One minute for each year of the child’s age
Child needs to acknowledge action that resulted in time out.
Poor disciplinary measuresBribing
Promise to behave
Shouting/yelling
Shaming or belittling
Threating to withhold love
Exaggerating consequences.
Bottom lineBe consistent
Clear rules
Helps children know what is expected
Helps children learn trust and confidence
All caregivers should be on the same page