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Grief and Bereavement Counseling

The unique pain of grief has been recognized and described poignantly in some of

the most ancient texts and oral traditions of world cultures, but it is only in the last 50

years that formal organizations and professions have evolved to address the specific

social, psychological and spiritual needs of those persons who have lost loved ones. As

the field of grief counseling has grown it has also diversified, drawing inspiration from

evolving theories of grieving, while continuing to respond to the needs of various groups

touched by often tragic loss. As it has done so, it has also begun to attract the attention of

social scientists who have evaluated and sometimes criticized the field, raising questions

about its basic assumptions, its social role, and its clinical efficacy. Although present

evidence does not support the conclusion that formal bereavement services are of benefit

to everybody, it seems clear that they are of considerable help to many, and especially

those who stand in greatest need of assistance.

Models of Bereavement Intervention

Some observers distinguish between bereavement support, counseling and therapy

on the basis of who delivers the services and who receives them. Bereavement support

most commonly describes informal mutual support groups for bereaved persons in the

community, such as those offered by many churches or synagogues, as well as those

affiliated with national or international organizations, such as AARPs Widowed Persons

Services, Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) or The Compassionate Friends

groups for parents who have lost children. But this category can also include services

coordinated by health or mental health professionals, such as hospice bereavement care


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or national networks of services like those provided by Cruse throughout the United

Kingdom. In these models support is commonly offered to all bereaved people, or all

bereaved by a certain kind of loss (such as those who have lost children or who have lost

a loved one to murder, suicide or an impaired driver), irrespective of their level of

demonstrated distress or psychological disorder. Support may take many forms, ranging

from simple provision of psychoeducational material or lectures on grief and trauma,

through annual rituals of remembrance, to home visits and support groups led by a

veteran member of the group, typically without professional training. Such support

services have the advantage of minimizing the stigma of bereavement and mobilizing

community resources, especially in the form of the presence, understanding, and practical

counsel of others who have been there through having suffered a similar loss and who

are coping with their circumstance.

In contrast, grief counseling usually denotes services provided or facilitated by a

trained professional, such as a nurse, social worker, counselor or psychologist.

Counseling is more often provided to individuals or families, though group counseling

led by professionals is also common. Grief therapy shares these features, but is usually

distinguished by its assumption that the client or patient is struggling with a problematic

reaction to the loss, such as a diagnosable case of depression or prolonged grief disorder.

For this reason, programs that focus on prevention of future mental health problems, such

as those for children who have lost a parent or sibling, might more appropriately be

termed grief counseling rather than grief therapy,per se. Both forms of services are

provided in a range of settings such as hospitals, clinics and counseling centers, though


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they also are offered by therapists of several disciplines as part of their independent

practice. Gradually there has been a move, especially in the United States, toward

considering grief therapy a specialized form of practice beyond general counseling and

therapy, supported by certification programs such as those organized by the Association

for Death Education and Counseling. In practice, however, distinctions among most

forms of bereavement interventions are inexact and overlapping, in part because many

settings offer services in multiple formats (such as individual or group) by multiple

volunteer or professional support personnel. Generally speaking, professionally

conducted grief therapy is appropriate when community support services are inadequate

to deal with bereaved people who are struggling intensely for prolonged periods because

of personal vulnerabilities, such as a disposition to major depression or acute concerns

about abandonment by another. It also can be indicated when the losses with which

people must deal overwhelm both the bereaved and those who attempt to support them,

such as the premature death of a young person or the murder of a loved one.

Theories of Grief Counseling and Therapy

Judging from published literature on bereavement counseling, it is probably safe

to say that most programs and services place emphasis on certain common factors,

animated by the common assumption that it is good, in Shakespeares phrase, to give

sorrow words in contexts that permit the expression of feelings related to the death of

the loved one and its aftermath. In keeping with the historical primacy of a

psychodynamic perspective with its focus on working through bonds with the deceased

in the service of letting go, and moving on, such therapy provides opportunities to


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review the relationship with the deceased and find symbolic ways to say goodbye with

the respectful witnessing of a caring professional or other bereaved people. However,

grief can be shared and explored in media other than words, as through expressive arts

therapies that use drawing, painting, collage, mask work, sandtrays, music and more to

give symbolic form to emotions and meanings associated with the loss and, especially in

group based programs, seek validation for them. In cognitive-behavioral models of

therapy, both individual and group services also have incorporated an emphasis on

education regarding basic grief and trauma reactions as well as practical coping skills,

such as guidelines for seeking social support from others.

With the advent of contemporary grief theories, bereavement interventions have

begun to diversify to feature processes of adaptive mourning emphasized by the various

approaches. For example, some group programs have been organized around the

presumed stages of grieving, with a series of weekly discussions of such topics as denial,

anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Other therapists facilitate theoretically

important tasks faced by the bereaved, such as acknowledging the reality of the loss,

confronting the pain of grief, and attempting to adjust to a world in which the deceased is

missing. Alternatively, some research based programs have drawn inspiration from

meaning reconstruction models of bereavement, using narrative procedures to promote

retelling of traumatic losses in order to better integrate them into ones life story. Other

therapists help clients oscillate between the dual processes of loss-oriented coping (e.g.,

managing the intrusions of grief, seeking to relocate the relationship to the deceased) and

restoration-oriented coping (e.g., pursuing new activities and investments, taking on new


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results suggest that grief therapy is not a panacea for the pain of loss, and that some

people and families do not benefit greatly from the therapies that have been offered.

Studies comparing the progress of bereaved people who are randomly assigned to

either treatment or no-treatment control groups underscore this conclusion. Although

most people who participate in grief counseling or therapy report high satisfaction with

services and also improve over time, it cannot be assumed that such improvement reflects

the effectiveness of therapy, as they might well have experienced a lessening of distress

as a function of natural processes of healing, their own efforts, or the social support

available in their families or communities. Currently, it remains a matter of controversy

whether grief therapy can at times actually aggravate peoples distress, perhaps by

fostering rumination on their loss or in the case of group interventions overwhelming

them with the negative emotions of others. However, most reviewers of the scientific

literature would agree that the evidence for the general effectiveness of grief therapy

relative to no treatment is surprisingly weak. In many studies of interventions that are

offered to all bereaved people, regardless of whether or not they show serious signs of

depression, anxiety or disabling grief, those who receive treatment do no better than those

who do not. Although resolving the question of why this is so requires more research, it

seems probable that this largely reflects the resilience of the majority of bereaved

persons, whose grief is broadly in a normal range, and who ultimately will adapt well

whether or not they receive formal intervention.

In contrast, those studies that screen the bereaved for distress, that offer services

only to clinically referred or self referred clients, or that concentrate on complicated,


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prolonged, or disordered forms of grieving, are far more consistent in supporting the

usefulness of grief therapy. For example, one important study compared a 16-week

therapy termed complicated grief treatment (CGT) against a more general interpersonal

psychotherapy (IPT) with a large group of bereaved people who met criteria for disabling

grief. Guided by the dual process model of bereavement, therapists in the CGT condition

promoted the dual goals of helping clients both process their loss and seek restoration in a

changed world that required the development of new life goals. Key interventions

included not only psychoeducation about oscillating attention to these two processes, but

also manual-guided therapeutic procedures delivered in three phases. The first of these

was termedRevisiting, in which the client was encouraged to tell and retell the story of

the loss with eyes closed, as the therapist prompted her or him to deeper emotional

engagement with the narrative. Clients were then instructed to listen to an audio

recording of the retelling between sessions to overcome tendencies to cope with the loss

through avoidance. In the next phase ofReconnecting, clients were encouraged to review

primarily positive but also negative memories of the loved one, as the therapist cultivated

a significant continuing bond. This work was continued in imaginal conversations, in

which a renewed connection to the deceased was fostered through two-chair dialogue

with the lost loved one with the support of the therapist. Finally, inRestoration, clients

were encouraged to envision viable life goals for themselves if their grief were not so

intense, and then begin to work towards these. IPT followed its usual procedures by

linking symptoms of grief to interpersonal problems and working toward a realistic view

of the deceased and the development of satisfying relationships. Clients in both


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conditions showed improvement over time. Significantly, however, CGT was shown to

be superior to IPT in reducing symptoms of complicated grief and improving

participants work and social adjustment, although the two treatments yielded comparable

outcomes on measures of depression and anxiety. Other studies also reinforce the

conclusion that specific treatments for complicated or prolonged grief can be effective

over a few months when they help clients think realistically and hopefully about their

situation, develop perspective on their loss, and orient to a changed future. Interestingly,

these therapies tend to share a focus on telling and exploring the story of the loss in

detail, whether in oral or written form, offering support for exposure to its most unsettling

features, and providing opportunities for reconstructing a life plan in the wake of

bereavement. As research on their outcome continues to accumulate, there is reason to

believe that bereavement interventions can play a valuable role in mobilizing support for

survivors, especially in circumstances of traumatic loss, and can mitigate the impact of

prolonged and complicated grief reactions.

Robert A. Neimeyer, Ph.D.

SEE ALSO Bereavement, Grief and Mourning; Homicide; Prolonged Grief Disorder;

Sudden Death; Suicide Counseling and Prevention; Suicide Survivors

FURTHER READINGS

Currier, J. M., Holland, J. M., & Neimeyer, R. A. (2007). The effectiveness of

bereavement interventions with children: A meta-analytic review of controlled


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outcome research.Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology, 36, 253-

259.

Jordan, J. R., & Neimeyer, R. A. (2003). Does grief counseling work?Death Studies, 27,

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Malkinson, R. (2007). Cognitive grief therapy. New York: Norton.

Neimeyer, R. A. (Ed.). (2001).Meaning reconstruction and the experience of loss.

Washington, D. C.: American Psychological Association.

Rogers, E. (2007). The art of grief. New York: Routledge.

Rynearson, E. K. (Ed.). (2006). Violent death. New York: Routledge.

Shear, K., Frank, E., Houch, P. R., & Reynolds, C. F. (2005). Treatment of complicated

grief: A randomized controlled trial.Journal of the American Medical

Association, 293, 2601-2608.

Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (1999). The Dual Process Model of coping with bereavement:

Rationale and description.Death Studies, 23, 197-224.

Worden, J. W. (2002). Grief counseling and grief therapy. New York: Springer.

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