god has made man in a unique way. n unlike any of the animals we have a conscience

God has made man in a unique way.God has made man in a unique way.

Unlike any of the animals we have a Unlike any of the animals we have a conscience.conscience.



Our ability to be ashamed is a powerful tool Our ability to be ashamed is a powerful tool in the Lord’s hand.in the Lord’s hand.



Our ability to be ashamed is a powerful tool Our ability to be ashamed is a powerful tool in the Lord’s hand.in the Lord’s hand.

ShameShame - “A painful emotion caused by - “A painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety which appears in the impropriety which appears in the countenance by blushing.”countenance by blushing.”


We do not like to feel shame because it is We do not like to feel shame because it is painful! painful!



It is better to feel the pain of our conscience It is better to feel the pain of our conscience before before an action, that an action, that afterafter an action! an action!



It is better to feel the pain of our conscience It is better to feel the pain of our conscience before before an action, that an action, that afterafter an action! an action!

Our shame is a product of our teaching and Our shame is a product of our teaching and experience, either good or bad! experience, either good or bad! (Rom 6:21-23)(Rom 6:21-23)


Romans 6:21-23Romans 6:21-23 - What fruit did you have - What fruit did you have then in the things of then in the things of which you are now which you are now ashamedashamed? For the end of those things ? For the end of those things isis death. death. 22 But now having been 22 But now having been set free from sinset free from sin, and , and having become slaves of God, you have your having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. 23 For 23 For the wages of sin the wages of sin isis death death, but the gift , but the gift of God of God isis eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.


The gospel of Christ helps us to be ashamed The gospel of Christ helps us to be ashamed when we should.when we should.



Still the Christian must protect the Still the Christian must protect the conscience.conscience.




Why we need a study of shame.Why we need a study of shame.




Why we need a study of shame.Why we need a study of shame. The concept of shame is rapidly being lost.The concept of shame is rapidly being lost.




Why we need a study of shame.Why we need a study of shame. The concept of shame is rapidly being lost.The concept of shame is rapidly being lost. Even the world acknowledges a place for it: Even the world acknowledges a place for it:

“You ought to be ashamed!”“You ought to be ashamed!”


Sadly there are those who teach us to be Sadly there are those who teach us to be ashamed of good things. ashamed of good things. (Isa 5:20-21)(Isa 5:20-21) (Ex. (Ex. Ridicule of morals on TV talk show.)Ridicule of morals on TV talk show.)


Isaiah 5:20-21Isaiah 5:20-21 - Woe to those who - Woe to those who call evil call evil good, and good evilgood, and good evil; Who put ; Who put darkness for darkness for light, and light for darknesslight, and light for darkness; Who put ; Who put bitter bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitterfor sweet, and sweet for bitter! 21 Woe to ! 21 Woe to those who arethose who are wise in their own eyeswise in their own eyes, And , And prudent in their own sightprudent in their own sight!!


Shame can help us change. Shame can help us change. (1 Cor 6:5)(1 Cor 6:5)


1 Corinthians 6:51 Corinthians 6:5 - - I say this to your I say this to your shameshame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man . Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren?to judge between his brethren?

Why Do Men Feel Shame?Why Do Men Feel Shame?

Because of the Because of the knowledge we have of knowledge we have of right and wrong.right and wrong.



It is very common for new converts to say: It is very common for new converts to say: “I never knew that it was wrong!”“I never knew that it was wrong!”



It is very common for new converts to say: It is very common for new converts to say: “I never knew that it was wrong!”“I never knew that it was wrong!”

Because of a lack of knowledge, they had Because of a lack of knowledge, they had no shame.no shame.


Because of the Because of the knowledge of others.knowledge of others.


Because of the Because of the knowledge of others.knowledge of others. The The knowledge of other people.knowledge of other people.


Many things are not shameful until others Many things are not shameful until others are present or have knowledge.are present or have knowledge.



Women - Clothing, housekeeping.Women - Clothing, housekeeping.



Women - Clothing, housekeeping.Women - Clothing, housekeeping. Men - dirty car, foul-up at work.Men - dirty car, foul-up at work.


The The knowledge of God. (2 Cor 7:9-10)knowledge of God. (2 Cor 7:9-10)


2 Corinthians 7:9-10 2 Corinthians 7:9-10 - Now I rejoice, not - Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. 10 For might suffer loss from us in nothing. 10 For godly sorrow produces repentancegodly sorrow produces repentance leadingleading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death.sorrow of the world produces death.


Example: Someone apologizing to men for Example: Someone apologizing to men for taking God’s name in vain.taking God’s name in vain.


How can we develop a greater knowledge How can we develop a greater knowledge of God’s presence? of God’s presence? (2 Pt 1:5-7)(2 Pt 1:5-7)


2 Peter 1:5-72 Peter 1:5-7 - But also for this very - But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6to faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6to knowledge self-control, to self-control knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance perseverance, to perseverance godlinessgodliness, , 7to godliness brotherly kindness, and to 7to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love.brotherly kindness love.

Why Do Some Men Why Do Some Men notnot Feel Shame? Feel Shame?

Why do some men not feel shame?Why do some men not feel shame?


Why do some men not feel shame?Why do some men not feel shame? By continued wrongdoing the conscience is By continued wrongdoing the conscience is

destroyed. destroyed. (Zeph 3:5)(Zeph 3:5)


Zephaniah 3:5 Zephaniah 3:5 - The Lord - The Lord isis righteous in righteous in her midst, He will do no unrighteousness. her midst, He will do no unrighteousness. Every morning He brings His justice to Every morning He brings His justice to light; He never fails, But light; He never fails, But the unjust knows the unjust knows no shameno shame..


By sinking deeper into sin. By sinking deeper into sin. (1 Tim 4:2; Eph 4:19)(1 Tim 4:2; Eph 4:19)


1 Timothy 4:21 Timothy 4:2 - speaking lies in hypocrisy, - speaking lies in hypocrisy, having having their own conscience seared with a their own conscience seared with a hot ironhot iron, ,


Ephesians 4:19Ephesians 4:19 - who, - who, being past feelingbeing past feeling, , have given themselves over to lewdness, to have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.work all uncleanness with greediness.


Do you remember the first time that:Do you remember the first time that:


Do you remember the first time that:Do you remember the first time that: You had a social drink?You had a social drink?


Do you remember the first time that:Do you remember the first time that: You had a social drink?You had a social drink? Smoked the first cigarette?Smoked the first cigarette?


Told a lie?Told a lie?


Told a lie?Told a lie? Engaged in immorality? Ex. ShopliftingEngaged in immorality? Ex. Shoplifting


Told a lie?Told a lie? Engaged in immorality? Ex. ShopliftingEngaged in immorality? Ex. Shoplifting Have you ever asked of someone: “How did Have you ever asked of someone: “How did

he/she get like that?”he/she get like that?”


Told a lie?Told a lie? Engaged in immorality? Ex. ShopliftingEngaged in immorality? Ex. Shoplifting Have you ever asked of someone: “How did Have you ever asked of someone: “How did

he/she get like that?”he/she get like that?” The conscience is like an alarm clock. How The conscience is like an alarm clock. How

many no longer hear it? Shame is valuable!many no longer hear it? Shame is valuable!

Things in which we should be ashamedThings in which we should be ashamed..

A Lack of knowledge of God’s word. A Lack of knowledge of God’s word. (2 Tim 2:15)(2 Tim 2:15)


2 Timothy 2:152 Timothy 2:15 - Be diligent to present - Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashameddoes not need to be ashamed, rightly , rightly dividing the word of truth.dividing the word of truth.


Can you give book, chapter, and verse for Can you give book, chapter, and verse for the plan of salvation?the plan of salvation?


Can you give book, chapter, and verse for Can you give book, chapter, and verse for the plan of salvation?the plan of salvation?

Example: Some tests I have given. Example: Some tests I have given. (1 Cor 6:5)(1 Cor 6:5)


1 Corinthians 6:51 Corinthians 6:5 - I say this to your - I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man is not a wise man among you, not even oneamong you, not even one, who will be able , who will be able to judge between his brethren?to judge between his brethren?


To dress immodestly To dress immodestly (1 Tim 2:9)(1 Tim 2:9)


1 Timothy 2:91 Timothy 2:9 - in like manner also, that - in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with apparel, with proprietypropriety and and moderationmoderation, not , not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,clothing,


You can overdress or under dress.You can overdress or under dress.


You can overdress or under dress.You can overdress or under dress. Sad to see a couple who moved and started Sad to see a couple who moved and started

attending a liberal church. A very attending a liberal church. A very common aspect of liberalism is a complete common aspect of liberalism is a complete neglect of modesty.neglect of modesty.


You can overdress or under dress.You can overdress or under dress. Sad to see a couple who moved and started Sad to see a couple who moved and started

attending a liberal church. A very attending a liberal church. A very common aspect of liberalism is a complete common aspect of liberalism is a complete neglect of modesty.neglect of modesty.

What is God’s standard for clothing? Are What is God’s standard for clothing? Are you concerning about what you wear?you concerning about what you wear?


To speak of certain sins. To speak of certain sins. (Eph 5:3, 12)(Eph 5:3, 12)


Ephesians 5:12Ephesians 5:12 - For it is - For it is shameful even to shameful even to speak of those thingsspeak of those things which are done by which are done by them in secret.them in secret.


Ephesians 5:3Ephesians 5:3 - But fornication and all - But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even let it not even be named among yoube named among you, as is , as is fitting for saintsfitting for saints;;


Do you tell dirty jokes?Do you tell dirty jokes?


Do you tell dirty jokes?Do you tell dirty jokes? What do you watch? Example: Movie in What do you watch? Example: Movie in

1973.1973.


Should Christians ever watch an R rated Should Christians ever watch an R rated movie? Should we show them to our movie? Should we show them to our children and their guests? children and their guests?



Brethren there is very little good that comes Brethren there is very little good that comes from Hollywood. Watch your sense of from Hollywood. Watch your sense of shame!shame!



Brethren there is very little good that comes Brethren there is very little good that comes from Hollywood. Watch your sense of shame!from Hollywood. Watch your sense of shame!

Is it all just a matter of “degree” dictated by Is it all just a matter of “degree” dictated by culture or is there a principle of God that must culture or is there a principle of God that must not be compromised?not be compromised?


Women speaking in the church. Women speaking in the church. (1 Cor 14:35)(1 Cor 14:35)


1 Corinthians 14:351 Corinthians 14:35 - And if they want to - And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is husbands at home; for it is shameful for shameful for women to speak in churchwomen to speak in church..


This is a shame because of God’s standard! This is a shame because of God’s standard! (1 Cor 14:37)(1 Cor 14:37)


1 Corinthians 14:371 Corinthians 14:37 - If anyone thinks - If anyone thinks himself to be a prophet or spiritual, let him himself to be a prophet or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things which I write acknowledge that the things which I write to you are to you are the commandments of the Lordthe commandments of the Lord..


Many religions practice that which is Many religions practice that which is shameful.shameful.


Many religions practice that which is Many religions practice that which is shameful.shameful.

A man to have long hair and a woman to A man to have long hair and a woman to have short hair. have short hair. (1 Cor 11:15, 5-6)(1 Cor 11:15, 5-6)


1 Corinthians 11:151 Corinthians 11:15 - But if a woman has - But if a woman has long hairlong hair, it is a glory to her; for , it is a glory to her; for herher hair is hair is given to her for a coveringgiven to her for a covering. .


1 Corinthians 11:5-61 Corinthians 11:5-6 - But every woman - But every woman who prays or prophesies with who prays or prophesies with herher head head uncovered dishonors her head, for that is uncovered dishonors her head, for that is one and one and the same as if her head were the same as if her head were shavedshaved. 6 For if a woman is not covered, let . 6 For if a woman is not covered, let her also be shorn. But her also be shorn. But if it is shameful for a if it is shameful for a woman to be shorn or shavedwoman to be shorn or shaved, let her be , let her be covered.covered.


To place our trust in things that fail. To place our trust in things that fail. (Isa 30:3; 1 Cor 1:27)(Isa 30:3; 1 Cor 1:27)


Isaiah 30:3Isaiah 30:3 - Therefore - Therefore the strength of the strength of Pharaoh Pharaoh Shall be your shameShall be your shame, And trust , And trust in the shadow of Egypt in the shadow of Egypt Shall be Shall be youryour humiliationhumiliation..


1 Corinthians 1:271 Corinthians 1:27 - But God has chosen - But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put the foolish things of the world to put to to shame the wiseshame the wise, and God has chosen the , and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to weak things of the world to put to shame shame the things which are mightythe things which are mighty;;


False Religion. False Religion. (Jer 10:14; 51:17; Hosea 9:10)(Jer 10:14; 51:17; Hosea 9:10)


Jeremiah 10:14Jeremiah 10:14 - Everyone is dull-hearted, - Everyone is dull-hearted, without knowledge; Every metalsmith is without knowledge; Every metalsmith is put put to shame by an imageto shame by an image; For his molded ; For his molded image image isis falsehood, falsehood, And And there isthere is no no breath in them.breath in them.


Jeremiah 51:17Jeremiah 51:17 - Everyone is - Everyone is dull-hearteddull-hearted, , without knowledgewithout knowledge; Every metalsmith is ; Every metalsmith is put put to shame by the carved imageto shame by the carved image; ; For his For his molded image molded image isis falsehood, And falsehood, And there isthere is no no breath in them.breath in them.


Hosea 9:10Hosea 9:10 - “I found Israel Like grapes in - “I found Israel Like grapes in the wilderness; I saw your fathers As the the wilderness; I saw your fathers As the firstfruits on the fig tree in its first season. firstfruits on the fig tree in its first season. ButBut they went to Baal Peor, And they went to Baal Peor, And separated separated themselves themselves to thatto that shame shame; They became an ; They became an abomination like the thing they loved.abomination like the thing they loved.

How to maintain your sense of shame.How to maintain your sense of shame.

Maintain and gain knowledge from God’s Maintain and gain knowledge from God’s word. word. (Col 1:9-10)(Col 1:9-10)


Colossians 1:9-10Colossians 1:9-10 - For this reason we also, - For this reason we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be for you, and to ask that you may be filled with filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understandingspiritual understanding; 10 that you may ; 10 that you may walk walk worthy of the Lordworthy of the Lord, fully pleasing , fully pleasing Him,Him, being being fruitful in every good work and increasing in fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God;the knowledge of God;


1 Corinthians 15:331 Corinthians 15:33 - Do not be deceived: - Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”“Evil company corrupts good habits.”


““I will not be affected by going to I will not be affected by going to __________ with my friends.”__________ with my friends.”


““I will not be affected by going to I will not be affected by going to __________ with my friends.”__________ with my friends.”

What restraints are lost by wrong What restraints are lost by wrong associations?.associations?.


By maintaining a good reputation. By maintaining a good reputation. (Ruth 3:11)(Ruth 3:11)


Ruth 3:11Ruth 3:11 - And now, my daughter, do not - And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, fear. I will do for you all that you request, for for all the people of my town know that you all the people of my town know that you areare a virtuous woman a virtuous woman..


By not being ashamed of good things.By not being ashamed of good things.


The gospel. The gospel. (Rom 1:16)(Rom 1:16)


Romans 1:16Romans 1:16 - For - For I am not ashamed of the I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christgospel of Christ, for it is the power of God , for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes, for to salvation for everyone who believes, for the Jew first and also for the Greek.the Jew first and also for the Greek.


Faithful Christians. Faithful Christians. (2 Tim 1:8)(2 Tim 1:8)


2 Timothy 1:82 Timothy 1:8 - Therefore - Therefore do not be do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lordashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor , nor of of me His prisonerme His prisoner, but share with me in the , but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God,power of God,


Example: A joke of a new convert.Example: A joke of a new convert.


Example: A joke of a new convert.Example: A joke of a new convert. Some do not want to be seen with there Some do not want to be seen with there

“lowly” brethren.“lowly” brethren.


To suffer as a Christian To suffer as a Christian (2 Tim 1:12; 1 Peter 4:16)(2 Tim 1:12; 1 Peter 4:16)


2 Timothy 1:122 Timothy 1:12 - For this reason I also - For this reason I also suffer these things; nevertheless suffer these things; nevertheless I am not I am not ashamedashamed, for , for I know whom I have believedI know whom I have believed and am persuaded that and am persuaded that He is able to keep He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that what I have committed to Him until that DayDay..


1 Peter 4:161 Peter 4:16 - Yet if - Yet if anyone suffersanyone suffers as a as a Christian, Christian, let him not be ashamedlet him not be ashamed, but let , but let him glorify God in this matter.him glorify God in this matter.


Of Christ and His will. Of Christ and His will. (Luke 9:26)(Luke 9:26)


Luke 9:26Luke 9:26 - For whoever is - For whoever is ashamed of Me ashamed of Me and My wordsand My words, of him the Son of Man will , of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His be ashamed when He comes in His ownown glory, and glory, and in Hisin His Father’s, and of the holy Father’s, and of the holy angels.angels.


God will never let you be put to shame, if God will never let you be put to shame, if you stand by His word.you stand by His word.

(Joel 2:26-27; Rom 9:33; 10:11; 1 Pet 2:6)(Joel 2:26-27; Rom 9:33; 10:11; 1 Pet 2:6)


Joel 2:26-27 Joel 2:26-27 - You shall eat in plenty and - You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I amam in the midst of Israel: I in the midst of Israel: I amam the Lord your the Lord your God And there is no other. God And there is no other. My people shall My people shall never be put to shamenever be put to shame..


Romans 9:33Romans 9:33 - As it is written: - As it is written: “Behold, I “Behold, I lay in Zion a stumbling stone and rock of lay in Zion a stumbling stone and rock of offense, offense, AndAnd whoever believes on Him whoever believes on Him will not be put to shamewill not be put to shame.”.”


Romans 10:11Romans 10:11 - For the Scripture says, - For the Scripture says, ““Whoever believes on Him will not be put Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shameto shame.”.”


1 Peter 2:61 Peter 2:6 - Therefore it is also contained - Therefore it is also contained in the Scripture, in the Scripture, “Behold, I lay in Zion A “Behold, I lay in Zion A chief cornerstone, elect, precious, And chief cornerstone, elect, precious, And he he who believes on Him will by no means be who believes on Him will by no means be put to shameput to shame.”.”

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