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Memorials ............................ 9

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October 2017 Sivan-Tammuz 5778 Volume 11, Issue 4

Beth Am Shalom - A Reform Jewish Congregation A New Beginning . . . to an Old Tradition

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The Shofar

What’s Inside:

Rabbi’s Message: What is Mussar ?

With the Yamim Nora-im (Days of Awe) just behind us, and the joyous festival of Sukkot just ahead, we praise God who accepts sincere prayer for t’shuvah (repentance) and forgives us. We begin the new year with hope and confidence. We may have made promises to ourselves and others or set new goals toward personal improvement. What can help us working on these promises and goals? Mussar. Meaning “instruction,” Mussar is a treasury of Jewish teachings and spiritual practices developed over centuries to help us elevate our character. Author and Mussar teacher, Alan Morinis explains that it is a “… path of spritual self-development. It means working on yourself, but not for the sake of yourself.” The goal, Morinis continues, is to dedicate yourself “… to be of service and to hold the needs of the other in your heart even as you work on yourself….” I began talking about Mussar on Rosh Hashanah. Now, I invite you to join me and others as we begin our study and practice of Mussar at our Neshamah Nosh sessions on Sunday mornings. At each session, we will delve into another “soul-trait” (like humility and patience). Our classes will be real group learning. As I began my learning this summer, I soon realized that I am not qualified to lecture on Mussar; I am a novice, but I can learn with you—and I look forward to it. In this way, we can nourish and fortify the promises, inspiration and progress we have felt since the High Holy Days. I hope you will join our Mussar discussion group. Here is the title of the book I MORE than strongly urge you to acquire and the dates for these discussion groups: Everyday Holiness, by Alan Morinis. Published by Trumpeter, 2008. When: Sundays: 10/22, 11/12, 12/10, 1/28/18, 2/25, 3/11 & 4/22 What time: 10:00 for bagels and schmooze / 10:15 we begin! Where: Our Beit Midrash / Library. Rabbi Steve

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Wednesday, October 4 6:00PM Pot Luck Dinner 7:00PM Erev Sukkot Service Friday, October 6 7:00PM Erev Shabbat Service Saturday, October 7 10:00AM Shabbat Service Bar Mitzvah of Barrett Garcia Bar Mitzvah of Ethan Garcia Wednesday, October 11 7:00PM Shemini Atzeret-Somchat Torah Service Friday, October 13 7:30 PM Erev Shabbat Service Shabbat Bereshit Deuteronomy 7:12-11:25

We are collecting food for the pantry at

Jesus is Lord Fellowship in Lakewood

Please use the bins in the foyer

EVENTS THIS MONTH * * *

Friday, October 27 6:00PM Dinner honoring Diane & Dick Gaines

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Friday, October 20 7:30 PM Erev Shabbat Service Anniversaries Shabbat Noach Genesis 6:9-11:32 Friday, October 27 6:00PM Dinner honoring Diane & Dick Gaines 7:30PM Erev Shabbat Service honoring Diane & Dick Gaines Shabbat Lech Lecha Genesis 12:1-17:27

WORSHIP SERVICES

BINGO NEEDS YOUR HELP To Volunteer for Help with working BINGO the GAME

Contact: Richard Eisenstein @ 908-278-8419

To Volunteer for Help with

working the kitchen for BINGO Contact: Melanie Giudice @ 732-688-6945

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Presidents Appeal September 2017 It is my privilege and honor to give my High Holy Day speech to you, and of course, my wish is for all to have a sweet, happy and healthy 5778. Whether you are members here or guests, we are so pleased you are able to join us today to celebrate both Shabbat and Yom Kippur… a double mitzvah. I have a story to share that relates to the Torah portion… A restaurant owner was so sure that his bartender was the strongest man around, that he was offering a standing $1800 bet. The bartender would squeeze a lemon until all the juice ran into a glass. Anyone who could squeeze even ONE more drop of juice would win the money. Many people had tried over time; weight lifters, construction workers, karate instructors, but nobody could do it. One day, this scrawny little Jewish guy came into the restaurant, and said in a meek and squeaky voice, “I’d like to try.” After the laughter had died down, the bartender said, “OK”, grabbed a lemon and squeezed away. Then he handed the wrinkled remains of the rind to the Jewish fellow. The crowd’s laughter turned to total silence as the man clenched his fist around the lemon and 6 drops fell into the glass. As the crowd cheered, the bartender asked the little Jewish man, “ What do you do for a living?” With a gleam in his eye, he replied, “ I work for the Jewish National Fund.” This may be funny, at the expense of our good friends at the Jewish National Fund, but WE do not have to feel “squeezed” when asked to give of our resources or ourselves – consider it a gentle hug. As President, I’ve seen and am awed by the many ways in which members of our congregation, who feel passionately about this community, continue giving so generously of themselves. I can start with the Executive Board and Board of Trustees who are all involved with various committees and contribute countless hours to keep the building and events, up and running. There are those involved with our fundraising, whether on a weekly basis or involved with creating new and exciting events who continue to need more workers to get these accomplished. I know Bingo, our biggest regular fundraiser is in need of more volunteers. We have the Women of BAS, a newly energized arm of the temple. Adult Education has been reenergized as well. There are so many new things to offer you…. As you sit here, ask yourselves, what role might I play? What are the gifts that I can bring to this community? How can I fulfill the commandment of Tzedakah-of righteous giving? One way is to support our annual appeal. Please take your pledge card and consider an amount that feels right for YOU. Whatever it is, please commit to SOMETHING. Dues have remained the same; Religious school tuition has remained the same. However, our bills continue to rise. Giving is an affirmation of the importance not only of this congregation, but the Reform Jewish community at large. Thank you and Shalom Arlene Gaona President

PRESIDENT'S MESSAGE

BAS Religious School is off to another great year. Students were welcomed back by Our Principal, Rabbi Gold and the teachers who have spent many successful years teaching our children on Sunday, September 10. Our first fundraiser, Cookie Dough, was launched by Melanie Giudice, and we expect to please everyone’s sweet tooth while we raise needed funds for our Religious School. Rabbi Gold has planned events for our students in the Sukkah built by temple members. We are looking forward to eating and learning in the sukkah. Please join us on Wednesday October 4th for a Pot Luck Erev Sukkot dinner at 6:00PM followed by Erev Sukkot Service at 7:00PM

Senior Youth Group The October meeting will be 6:30, Oct. 24th in Mrs. Zirin's classroom. Snacks will be served. Bring your dues check for $18 and a non-perishable canned food item. November19th in the afternoon Knockerball & More at Eatontown Mall. More information will follow but save the date. It is an awesome, fun place. Our meeting on the 26th of Oct. was attended by 5 and we look forward to more attendees at the next meeting so we can hold elections and get more input as to things group would like to do. I have some great ideas and want to get your comments on them before going forward. Connie A. Zirin [email protected]

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On Sunday, September 17, at least 50 women gathered for a breakfast of bagels, lox, muffins, and salads and to build a new organization called

The Women of Beth Am Shalom.

Based on the premise that women need women at all stages of our lives, the group hopes to appeal to the interests and needs of the 21st century woman and offer a

sense of community and friendship while remaining a service arm of temple. As one of our newest members wrote, “Women are nurturers and born leaders, they have

much influence on family.” In this case I will consider all members of Temple as “the family,” as my family.

Together, there is so much good that we can do. Our goal is to have quarterly

events, all related to our Jewish heritage and to being women, respecting all of the roles that we play. But for now there is much work to be done and we are looking for

volunteers. We MUST revise that Sisterhood constitution and create a document applicable to our organization. Do we want to be a member of the WRJ, Women of

Reform Judaism? Can you help to plan an event?

Please call me at home, (732) 505-8204. Step up and take a leadership role to improve our community for all its members.

We are hoping for 100% membership in the Women of BAS. If you have not already joined The Women of BAS, please consider completing the membership applications that will be mailed out later this month. Together let’s make this the best year ever.

Fran, Shelly and I wish each of you a good year. May 5778 be a healthy, happy and

successful year for all of us.

September 17 - regular Meeting September 24- Building the Sukkah and Barbeque

October 15 Meeting- Q & A with State Senator Robert Singer November 11- Annual Dinner/Dance

November 19- Financial Planning for Seniors- Jesse Kovacs, Kovacs Financial Planning

ALL MEETINGS START WITH BREAKFAST AT 9:45 am, MEETING CALLED TO ORDER AT 10 AM

CONGRGATION IS WELCOME. PLEASE RSVP THE

TEMPLE OFFICE (732) 363-2800


WOMEN of BAS

MEN’S CLUB


TZEDAKAH

YAHRZEIT FUND Cynthia , Alan & Samantha Zbik in loving memory of Samuel Zbik Estelle & James Vester in loving memory of Charles Vester Art & Rhoda Pedowitz in loving memory of Isadore Pedowitz Art & Rhoda Pedowitz in loving memory of Albert Pedowitz Sonya Wallace in loving memory of Leslie Wallace The Francis Family in memory of Maggie Weiss Sonya Wallace in loving of Belle Wallace Sonya Wallace in loving memory of Jack Frank Hannah Greenstein in loving memory of Jack Greenstein Marilyn & Jack Sabo in loving memory of Gitel Budman William Freiman in loving memory of Helen Smith Shelly & Dennis Newman in loving memory of Frieda Berenter Judy Lefsky in loving memory of Martin Lefsky Irwin & Carol Young in loving memory of Jesse Young Les & Susan Kostick in loving memory of Soloman Kostick Sandy Yaskulka in loving memory of Ruth Schwartz Dr. & Mrs. Joseph Gluck in loving memory of Samuel Gluck

Howard & Lois Geschwind in loving memory of Marcus Geschwind Reuben & Iris Baumgarten in loving memory Sonia Baumgarten Louise & Herb Wechter in loving ofmemory of Louis Wechter Louise & Herb Wechter in loving of memory of Shirley Wechter Helen Koslow , in loving memory of Milton Koslow Diane & Dick Gaines in loving memory of Aaron Gaines Diane & Dick Gaines in loving memory of Ginny Gaines Diane & Dick Gaines in loving memory of Linda Reynolds Barry & Gina Klein in loving memory of Philip Klein Barbara & Max Schloff in memory of Dotty Myers Arnold & Phyllis Schlisserman in loving memory of Philip Schlisserman Phyllis & Arnold Schlisserman in loving memory of Abraham Maltzman Anita & Sheldon Franklin in loving memory of Jeannette Franklin Fran Gimpel in loving memory of Rose Davis Fern Frankenberg in loving memory of Fred Frankenberg Fern Frankenberg in loving memory of Emmy Frankenberg Rose & Shelly Fialkoff in loving memory of Adolph Fialkoff Hannah Greenstein in loving memory of Emmy Frankenberg Lois & Howard Geschwind in loving memory of Rose Geschwind Rubin

Lois & Howard Geschwind in loving memory of Rebbeca Chusid Florence Galloway Markowitz in loving memory of Milton Markowitz David & Yvette Atkins in loving memory of Jacob Mintz Estelle & James Vester in loving memory of Belle Wasserman CEMETERY FUND Lynn & Steven Kaban in memory of Judy Eisak ONEG FUND Diane & Dick Gaines in honor of their anniversary Carl, Tama, Debra, Eric & Jeffrey Nelson in memory of Morris Topf Holli & John Klapouchy in honor of their anniversay YOUTH GROUP FUND CANTORS MUSIC FUND RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND Howard Harris, Thank you for your support MERRILL POLLINGER SCHOLARSHIP FUND Pam & Morris Ligorski in memory Carol Krantz Barbara & Max Schloff , Mazel Tov to Pam & Morris Ligorski on the occasion of Sarah’s wedding. RELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND Shelly & Dennis Newman in honor of the Marriage of Sarah Ligorski to Mike Pam & Morris Ligorski in memory of Judy Eisak

GENERAL FUND Fischel Myers in honor of the Marriage of Sarah Ligorski to Mike Fischel Myers in memory of Carol Krantz Rhoda & Art Pedowitz in honor of the marriage of Sarah Ligorski to Michael Sondra & Joe Ranoff in memory of Judy Eisak Fern Frankenberg in memory of Judy Eisak Religious School Fund Lois Pollinger on the occasion of The marriage of Sarah Ligorski to Michael Ossatin


TZEDAKAH cont'd

REFUAH SHLEIMA

Delores Ackerman

Lillian Bauman Lucille Berger

Wayne Birkenthal Bella Blankfield Michele Braff

Brandon Bravo Lynn Schnitzer Cardinale

Barbara Chester B.J. Christian Elliot Cohen

Dan Cummings Claire Drapkin Brooke Ducey

Dov Eisak Marcia Eisenstein Richard Eisenstein

Sylvai Finkel Pearl Epstein

Trish Frankenberg George Frazer

Charlotte Freedman Edna Friedman

Steven Friedeman

Shawn Friedman Lane Galloway

Jonathan Geltzeiler Marilyn Gilbert Linda Gillick

Michael Gillick Mark Kaban Steven Katz Tyler Keats

Richard Koch Lauren Leonard

Rose Levine Logan Maarberg Truday Maarberg

Sheldon Mead Linda Millet

Marie Morgadonna Ava Nebbia

Lester Kostick Michael Neil Lynn Palin

Herbert Parker Flora (Cookie) Pisano

Carol Raiten Joseph Ranoff

Beverly Rosenzweig

Myrna Sachs Donald Sapara

Paul Sayah Marilyn Siegel

Linda Silverstein Katana Sprigley

Donna Strassman Wallace Strauss David Tolchin Manny Topal David Vienick

Alexandra Warren Michelle Watkison

Lillian Wolf Nancy Yaeger

2017 - 2018

CIRCLE OF FRIENDS

Lucille & Seymour Berger Colonel & Mrs. W.D. Freiman

Rose & Wayne Friedland Lois & Howard Geschwind

Ben Goldberg Judy Lefsky

Denise & Robert Mako Cynthia Vona Zbik, Alan Zbik &

Samantha Zbik

SUSTAINING MEMBERS

Dennis & Shelly Newman Rose & Wayne Friedland Pam & Morris Ligorski Marilyn & Jack Sabo

Rada Shakov Phyllis and Arnold Schlisserman

2017 – 2018

JCASE

Dennis & Shelly Newman In memory of Jessica Cohen

Rada Shakov

YEDIDAY

Donald Fink & Claire Aschner Lucille & Seymour Berger Dennis & Shelly Newman

Barbara & Max Schloff Lawrence & Emilia Selinger

Rada Shakov Cynthia Vona Zbik, Alan Zbik &

Samantha Zbik

YAHRZEITS

October 6

Stuart Eskind Robert Fein Rebecca Hill

Seymour Litman Merrill Pollinger Maggie Weiss

October 13

Rebecca Chusid

Barbara Cornblatt Harry Parker

Avrahom Schwartz Ruth Schwartz Max Strauss

October 20

Aaron Blenner

Emmy Frankenberg Aaron Gaines

Michelle Reva Kaplan Barry Levine Tillie Lifschitz David Litman Bertha Ritzer

Abraham Rosenberg Abraham Schank Ronald Wishnick

October 27

Daniel Cubicciotti Rose Davis

Max Fleischman Molly Friedland Virginia Gaines

Rose Levine Steve Philo

Ethel Pogarsky Linda Reynolds Milton Silber

When observing a Yahrzeit, please check the Kaddish list to be sure your loved one’s name is included. If omitted, please inform Rabbi Gold so he can add it to the list. The Kaddish list is displayed on the Yahrzeit Wall.


MEMORIALS

Beth Olam Cemetery

Located at 1235 Highway 70 in Lakewood

A perpetual care memorial park with ground level grave markers only.

For information and availability, contact: Art Pedowitz – (732)657-6252 or Temple Office – (732)363-2800

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Toms River Jewish Cemetery

Whitty Road, Toms River

Section One reserved for Jewish decedents, with traditional upright grave markers. Section Two reserved for non-Jewish

decedents, with ground level grave markers only.

Section Three reserved for Jewish decedents, with ground level grave markers only.

For information and availability, contact: David Sosis – (732)244-4212 or Temple Office – (732)363-2800

The Rabbi, Officers and Members of the Congregation extend their

heartfelt sympathy to,

Yaacov Eisak

On the Loss of Judy Eisak

When Tragedy Strikes Tragedy often comes suddenly and unannounced, therefore, it is wise to plan for the eventuality when death touches us. We want to be there for you, and accordingly, we have prepared this emergency guideline, which we hope you will save:

1. If a loved one becomes seriously ill and is taken to the hospital, please call Rabbi Gold at his temple office.

2. If the situation is grave, do not hesitate to call Rabbi Gold at his home: (848)222-4912.

3. If the Rabbi is unavailable, we do have contingency plans. Please call a Temple Officer or Committee Chairperson listed below:

Arlene Gaona ....................... (732)567-8179 Melanie Giudice .................... (732)688-6945 Mike Krasner ..................... (370)370-5729 Cemetery Committee: Art Pedowitz ....................... (732)657-6252 David Sosis.......................... (732)244-4212

Memorializing Our Loved Ones

Temple has different ways for you to keep

alive the memory of your loved ones.

STONE “HONOR WALL” Large Tile.........................$10,000 Medium Tile..........................5000 Small Tile.............................2500

BRASS PLAQUES

Large Plaque.......................$1250 Sanctuary Seat ......................500

Honorial/Memorial ....................250

BRONZE YAHRZEIT PLAQUES.....$250

PATIO PAVER .............................150

TREE OF LIFE LEAF......................125

EXTERIOR TREE MEMORIALS.......500

Please contact the Temple Office:

( 732)363-2800 or [email protected]


Trees in Israel

Beth Am Shalom is now selling trees in Israel through the Jewish National Fund.

Do you have a simcha such as births, birthdays, engagements, weddings,

bar/bat mitzvahs or anniversaries that you wish to honor, and/or a death that you want to memorialize?

The cost is $18.00 per tree.

You can purchase individual trees, a ring of trees (3),

a circle of trees (5), or an orchard of trees (10).

Please contact Fran Gimpel , 732-657-7120

and give her the name of the honoree or decedent, and the name and address where to send the acknowledgement.

(Donations to this program will be listed on the Tzedakh Page)

MAKING A DONATION IS EASY

In an effort to make it easier for you to help make the office run more efficiently, we request that the form below be used when making a donation. Please fill it out and mail or drop it off at Temple, along

with your check. Thank you for your cooperation. (The minimum donation for an acknowledgement card to be sent is $10.00)

Funds to which donations can be made are: Rabbi Stanley & Myra Yedwab Adult Academy of Judaism, Merrill Pollinger Scholarship Fund, Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund, Cantor’s Discretionary/Music Fund, Building Fund, General Fund, Oneg Shabbat, Religious School, Cemetery Beautification Fund, Honorial/Memorial, Yahrzeit,

Jr. or Sr. Youth Group, Prayer Book*

*Please note: while lesser donations are welcome, the cost of a Prayer Book is now $35.00 & large print is $45.00

Please accept the following donation(s) to the fund indicated below: From:______________________________ Address:____________________________

Please send acknowledgment card to: Please send acknowledgment card to: In memory of/in honor of/on the occasion of: In memory of/in honor of/on the occasion of: Fund: _____________________ $______ Fund: __________________ $_______


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CEMETERY COMMITTEE Dear Friends, We at Beth Am Shalom are writing you today in regards to our cemeteries, Beth Olam Memorial Park in Lakewood and Toms River Jewish Cemetery in Toms River. As you are well aware, Beth Olam Memorial Park is in dire need of restoration and beautification. Though much has been done to try and maintain this cemetery, it just hasn’t been enough with the limited funds we have. It has been decided that those of us with loved ones buried there deserve a more serene environment. With this in mind, our cemetery committee has moved forward with a more aggressive plan to rejuvenate the grounds:

1.Grave Stones that have sunk below grade level are being raised to ground level. 2.Starting in late September, a fertilization & seeding program will be started. 3.Irrigation system has been fixed and watering times adjusted to meet needs.

The above courses of action are quite costly and will soon deplete our cemetery fund. In order for us to continue to upkeep our cemeteries and maintain the need of our dearly departed…WE NEED YOUR HELP!!! Funds are sorely lacking and the cemetery Committee is asking for your help in accomplishing our goals. We are asking for donations to be made to the cemetery fund, in multiples of $18, chai! These donations can be made on a monthly basis or in one larger amount to be specified to the cemetery fund. It is up to you and up to us to make the cemetery a place to be proud of. Thank you for your generosity.


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Religious School Calendar

MONTH CLOSED SPECIAL EVENTS

September 4,21 Fri.,8th: 6:00 Pot Luck 7:00 Family Service 1st Sun. Session: 10th, Grades K-6 1st Tues Session: 12th, Grades 3-9 5:30 Mandatory Parents’ Meeting Sun. 17th: Grade 3 Book Ceremony

October 8 Fri., 6th: 6:00 Pot Luck 7:00 Family Service & Consecration Sun, 1st:Sukkah Program Grades K-5 Tue. 3rd: Sukkah Program Grades 6-9

November 20 Fri, 3rd: Pot Luck & Family Service / Gr. 7 & 8 Tues. 14th, Kristallnacht Program

December 24,26,31 Fri., 1st: Pot Luck & Family Service, Gr. 5&6 Sun. 10th, Class Parties for K-2 Tues. 12th, Class Parties 3-9

January 14 Fri., 5th: Family Service

February 18 Fri. 2nd: Family Service Wed.28th, Purim Service & Shpiel

March Fri., 2nd: Family Service with Grade 4 Sun. 25th: Model Seder K-3 Tue. 27th: Model Seder 4-9 April 1,3 Fri., 6th: Family Service May Fri., 4th: Pot Luck & Family Service / Gr. 3

Last Sessions: Tuesday, May 1th ** Confirmation: May 18, 2018 Sunday, May 6th * Grades K-3 will be participating in all family services. Although attendance is not mandatory, it is a learning experience, enjoyable for the children, and an honor to be called up to the Bima. Please help your children to have this wonderful experience as often as possible.

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