Girlfriends Making a Difference…

Accountability Mentoring

Discipleship

Girlfriends Making a Difference…

Accountability Mentoring

Discipleship

www.lifeway.com/women • LifeWay Christian ResourcesCopyright © 2008 Janet Peavyhouse. All rights reserved

• Accountability• Discipleship• Mentoring

“Let us see how we may spur on one another toward

love and good works.”Hebrews 10:24 (NIV)

Ask some questions?????

• How are the women in my church relating to one another?

• How are they connecting?

• Are they building deep long lasting relationships in the body of Christ?

• Is there something in place that we can build on?

Components needed in a good relationship

• Openness

• Helping each other

• Investing time in each other

• Acceptance “warts” and all

• Listen

• Building each other up

• Trust—keep confidences

• Gives and takes advise

• Forgives

• Respects

• Commitment

John 15:9-16 (NIV)

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love. Just

as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this:

Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has on one than this, that he

lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no

longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business…

…Instead, I have called you friends, for everything 27that I learned from Father I have made know to you…

you…go an bear fruit—fruit that will last.”

How will your life reflect your

relationship with Christ? What fruit will you bear?

John 15:9-16 (NIV)

Scripture instruction:• Hebrews 10:24

• Matthew 22:39

• Titus 2:3-5

• Ephesians 4:32

• Galatians 6:10

• Matthew 18:-1-16-17

• Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Girlfriend’s Examination…..

• #1 Accountability

• #2 Mentoring

• #3 Discipleship

“Alike Yet Different”

#1 Accountability defined…

• “walking along side a friend as together you grow in Godliness”- Heart Friends

•Webster’s - Responsible to somebody or for something: equals, answerability, responsibility, and liability…

“Helping women to establish healthy, meaningful and

intimate friendships through small group accountability.”

- Heart Friends

Accountable to who????

• God First

• One Another

Attributes of an Accountable Person

• Transparency• Honesty• Humility• Trustworthy

- Heart Friends

How do I do this…• Close friend/acquaintance• Follow scripture• Live out acceptance• Small group (two and three)• Be flexible• Be confidential• Pray

What Accountability is not…

• Mentoring• Bible study• Fellowship time • Prayer meeting• Gossip session

Format to follow

• Confession• God’s Word• Questions• Prayer

Questions to ask?????

• Are you spending time alone with God?

• Are you in studying the Bible? • Are you praying? • Is your thought life pure? • Have you lied about any of the

previous questions?

#2 Mentoring• Mentor: Wise, loyal advisor, teacher or coach, godly role model, be an example…

• Mentoring: The process or act of advising or teaching—help someone reach a god given potential…

• Webster’s: experienced adviser and supporter: trainer: adviser, counselor, guide, tutor, teacher…

- Brenda Hunter

“Someone who comes alongside, put her arm around you and says

you can do it.”

Who should mentor?

• Reverent in the way they live

• Are not slanders• Not addicted• Teaches what is good

(Titus 2:3-5)

Mentoring options….

• Needs based• Soul Mate• Secret• Discipleship• Young people

Getting Started…

• Form a mentoring committee

• Pray• Determine time frame• Compile profile Sheets• Get started

#3 Discipleship

• Discipling: “one person imparting his life to another in a close relationship.”

• Webster’s: “follower of a person or idea: original follower of Jesus Christ. Follower, believer, supporter, devotee, student, pupil, learner.”

(One-on-One experience)

What are the basicforms of discipleship?

• Spontaneous Discipleship• Academic Discipleship• Progressive Discipleship• Supportive Discipleship

“Every believer begins as a spiritual infant and needs to be nurtured by more mature believers.”

- Waylon Moore

We call this…“One-on-One” Discipleship

Beginning disciples are characterized

sometimes by…

• Erratic lifestyle• Uncertainty about life choices• Lack of basic Christian disciplines

Spiritual babies need a person to person

ministry with a spirit-led disciple in a loving

environment, the local church…

- Acts 2:41-42, 46-47

Paul called himself _______ of those he won

to Christ!

What did Paul and Peter desire for all spiritual

babies?

• 2 Peter 3:18

• Ephesians 4:15

• 1 Corinthians 4:15

Teaching New Baby Christians

• Babies must learn how to eat…

The Word…1 Peter 2:2

Act 17:11Act 20:32

• Babies must learn how to talk…

Prayer… John 16:24

Matthew 21:22 1 John 5:14-15

Teaching New Baby Christians

• Babies must learn how to walk…

Obedience… John 14:22

John 15:10 Hebrews 5:8-9

Teaching New Baby Christians

• Babies must learn how to share…

Witnessing/Testimony…

John 1:3 Acts 1:13

1 Peter 3:15

Teaching New Baby Christians

•Each new spiritual baby needs to loved, fed, protected and trained by a spiritual

parent.

“It takes a disciple to build a disciple.” - Waylon Moore

Disciple Leaders• Loves God deeply

• Are growing their relationship with God

• Want to see other lives transformed

• Are gifted by God for the work they do

• Are patient, kind, and nonjudgmental

• Are committed to doing their best

• Enjoy working with people

• Have a positive attitude

• Are trainable and flexible

Each Different…

Each Meeting a Need…

Each of Value in Building Relationships…

Resources…• Heart Friends by Shirley Moses & Margaret Kennedy• Women Reaching Women by Chris

Adams• Living God’s Word by Waylon Moore• Woman to Woman Mentoring by Janet

Thompson• A Garden Path to Mentoring by Esther

Burroughs• Apples of Gold by Betty Huizenga

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