Get out of your own way!

Ms.Shyleswari M RaoCoach, Leadership Facilitator

Ved Vyas Inner Space

Denial

When you refuse to accept the truth or reality sometimes used by victims of trauma or disaster

Repression

Its simply forgetting something unpleasant

It can be temporarily beneficial and if you don’t come to termsit may come back to haunt you

Regression

Reverting to an older, less mature way of handing stress and feelings

Projection

Attributing your unacceptable thoughts to someone else or some thing else.

Splitting

Everything in this world is seen

as good or bad with nothing at

all in between.

http://www.claybennett.com/pages/split.html

Isolation of Affect

Avoid painful thought or feeling by objectifying and emotionally detaching oneself from the feeling

Displacement

Channeling a feeling or thought from it’s actual source to something or someone else.

https://www.psychologistworld.com/freud/defence-mechanisms-list.php

Rationalisation

Justifying one’s behaviour and motivations by substituting good acceptable reasons

http://education.francetv.fr/matiere/economie/premiere/article/sociologie-de-la-modernite-selon-max-weber

Altruism

Handling your own pain by

helping others

http://www.newbridgerecovery.com/the-benefits-of-altruism/

Humour

Focusing on funny aspects of a painful situation

http://www.keepcalm-o-matic.co.uk/p/hahaha-haha-ha-haha-hahaha/

Sublimation

Redirecting unacceptable

instinctual drives into personally

and social acceptable channels.

Suppression

An effort to hide and control unacceptable feelings

http://www.spring.org.uk/2011/10/8-ironic-effects-of-thought-suppression.php

Undoing

Reversing your thoughts or feeling by doing an action that signifies the opposite of your feeling

http://shamanicspiritualhealing.com/art-of-undoing-in-7-lessons/

Introjection

When the individual introjects all the pain or feelings to oneself.

http://images.digopaul.com/wp-content/uploads/related_images/2015/09/08/introjection_2.jpg

Passive aggression

Deals with conflict or stressers by indirectly expressing aggression to others

http://www.relationship-counselling-directory.com/sites/default/files/who%20says%20I'm%20angry.jpg

Defensiveness is always based on Fear

ALWAYS

ALWAYS

ALWAYS

Reflect• You become emotionally charged, imbalanced ,

in response to triggers • You are emotionally hijacked • Is it a reaction to an event that was long over • Is it an over reaction • Are you taking it personally

• Remaining non-defensive is the single most important thing you can do in a situation of conflict .

• We can get into trouble because when I get defensive I become rigid and controlled , I lose my creativity

• I am a lousy problem solver

• By exploring deeply and carefully enough, it is possible to learn more about our unresolved feelings and triggers. It requires that I create an atmosphere that helps me overcome mine and others reaction

• The answer then to face my fears .

Happy 2017

12 new chapters, 365 new chances.

Thank you Shyleswari

www.vedvyasinnerspace.com