From Time Confetti To

Time Serenity

The Good Life

Play

Source: Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development

Busyness as a Badge of Honor

Play Makes Us Human

The A Ha! Moment

Women. Don’t. Play.

Play anyway

Time is Power

Time Confetti

Contaminated Time

High Anxiety

31

%

World Health Organization

Nigeria

6.5%

A Little Stress is Good

Too Much Stress Shrinks Our

Brains

Ansell, Rando, Tuitt, Guarnaccia,

Sinha, Biological Psychiatry, 2012

Mindfulness Stretches Them

Holzel, Carmody, Vangel, Congleton, Yeramsetti, Gard, Lazar, Psychiatry

Research: Neuroimaging, 2011

Work

The Ideal Worker?

Source: U.S. Bureau

of Labor Statistics

Long Hours Rewarded

Claudia Goldin, American Economic Review

The Tiara Syndrome

10,000 Hours

Ericsson, Krampe, Tesch-Romer, Psychological

Review, 1993

The Power of the Pulse

The New Ideal Worker

The Pentagon can do it. Why can’t we?

Sludge Eradication

Let My People Go Surfing

Love

The Ideal Mother

Twice the Housework & Childcare

The College Gender Gap

Women in Senior Management

0

5

10

15

20

25

30

35

40

45

50

Unconscious Bias

No Automatic Bias

Male = Family

Female =

Source: Project Implicit

Male = Career

Female = Family

Can A Domestic Traditionalist Be an

Organizational Egalitarian? … NO

Desai, Chugh, Brief, 2012

Should Preschool Moms Work?

Men

10.5 10.7 12.7

28.4 30.9 39.1

61.1 58.4 48.3

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

80%

90%

100%

1988 1994 2002

Full Time Part Time Stay Home

Should Preschool Moms Work?

Women

11 12.3 15.2

38.9 35.8

42.8

50.2 51.9

42

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

80%

90%

100%

1988 1994 2002

Full Time Part Time Stay Home

Mothers in the Workforce

0

10

20

30

40

50

60

70

80

90

1955 1965 1975 1980 1985 1990 1995 2000 2004 2010

Under 18 School Age Under 6

Breadwinner Mothers

Center for American Progress

The Flexibility Stigma

The Maternal Wall

.96 $1.00 .93

$1.00

.76

$1.00

Unmarried Women

Unmarried Men Childless Women's Pay

Childless Men's Pay

Mother's Pay Father's Pay

Michelle J. Budig, U Mass Amherst

Who Gets Tenure?

Married Men with Children

70%

Married Men - No Children

15%

Single Men with Children

4% Single Men - No Children

11%

Men

Married Women with

Children 44%

Married Women - No

Children 19%

Single Women with Children

11%

Single Women - No Children

26%

Women

Mary Ann Mason, “Do Babies Matter?”

Media Gender Gap

22 20

36 27

78 80

64 73

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

80%

90%

100%

Subjects Experts Journalists Top Managers

Women Men

Gender Neutral Policies

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

80%

% S

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by

Wo

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ACS

AGU

AMS

ASA

MAA

SfN

SIAM

American Women in Science,

2014

Paid Parental Leave

U.S. Fertility

0

0.5

1

1.5

2

2.5

3

No High School or GED

High School or GED

Some College B.S. or higher

Men

Women

National Center for Health Statistics, 2012

Start Small

“Project Dad”

Moms Carrying the Load

Arnalds, Eydal, Gislason, 2013

70% Equally Shared Care

The Myth of AWOL Parents

Parent Time with Children

0

2

4

6

8

10

12

14

1965 1975 1985 1995 2000

Married Fathers Married Mothers Single Mohters

The Cult of Intensive Motherhood

“End the Mommy Wars”

What children really need

The Third Shift

Really?

The Lesson of the Twinkie

The Relationship Equation

A + B = C

A’ + B = C’

Time Serenity

Multi-tasking Makes Us Stupid

Beauty in the Ordinary Moment

Minister of Gender Equality

Finding Time for

Work, Love & Play

1. Pause. Disrupt the busyness

2. Be aware of the Pressure of cultural ideals. Uncover Make unconscious bias conscious.

3. Set your own Priorities. Create a Network of Support

4. Mind the Gap. Plan Do Review

5. Flip the To Do List. Joy First. Stuff later

6. Set Common Standards. Share the Load

7. Chunk your time. Work in Pulses. Take Breaks

8. More is not more. Find the Sweet Spot

9. Schedule PLAY. You do deserve it

10. Shorten your Time Horizon

Follow Your Internal Compass

Just Start

@BrigidSchulte

BrigidSchulte.com washingtonpost.com/people/brigid-schulte

Self-Efficacy: Jedi Mind Tricks

• Mastery Experiences. The more you do

some things well, the more you’ll build the

confidence to do other things well

• Role models and Mentors

• Positive Feedback. Listen to & believe it

• “Snap Out of It.” Interrupt negative & self-

defeating pattern of thought

Redefine Good Work • Culture trumps policy

• Leaders set culture

• Make Conscious unconscious bias

• Gender Neutral hiring, firing, promoting, reviewing

• Sponsors, Mentors & Role Models

• Control & Predict workflow

• Define Mission. Clarify Expectations.

• Metrics. How much is enough? When is it good enough? How do you know?

• Communicate

• Reward Performance, not hours and face time

• Flexibility for all

• Embrace the Power of the Pulse

• Invest in Authentic workers. Not ideal workers

• Rethink Career Trajectories

• Reimagine Gender Roles

• Recapture Leisure. Take Breaks. Unplug. Go on Vacation

Family Policy for the 21st century

• Bring back the 40 hour work week!

• Fair Pay

• Good part-time work with benefits

• Paid family leave, sick days, time off

• The “Father Quota:” promote solo leave for men

• Affordable, high quality child care

• Flexible work for all

• Redefine career success

• Tax & Social Security policies that support diverse family structures

• Factor “invisible labor” of caretaking into GDP

• Portable health care