friend requests
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This slideshow aligns with the YouTube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGNjfiubPKQ This webinar has been developed by the Academy Technology Seminar 3 students of Palisades High school (11th grade). Guided by Mr. Robert Reilly (teacher) and Mrs. Karen Hornberger (librarian). The topic was the issues that accompany friend requests. This specific webinar was produced for the 4th, 5th, and 6th grade levels; the 11th grade students felt that the primary age group could use the guidance.TRANSCRIPT
FRIEND REQUESTS
Barry Weaver, Jessica Shafer, Dan Finney,
Daniella Ellis, Dylan Rodd
AND Will Lyons
FRIEND REQUEST
WHAT IS IT? A friend, in real life, is someone you are close with and comfortable around.
An online friend, however, is person added to your list of friends on a social
networking website.
For example, on Facebook, you can select a user and click "Add as Friend" to
send a friend request to that user. When the user receives your friend request,
he or she may choose to accept or decline the invitation. If the user accepts
your request, he or she will be added to your list of friends. Likewise, you will
be added to that user's list of friends as the same time. Xbox Live, as well as
other organizations include similar features.
Once you become friends with a user, that person will be able to access your
profile with the additional viewing rights. This means he or she may be able to
view more of your profile and post comments on the "wall" of your profile
page. (definition adapted from: http://www.techterms.com/definition/friend).
ACCEPTING FRIENDS
Online friends can be a great way to:
Connect with friends when you can’t get together in
person
Strengthen friendships through shared interests
Build a group of online friends who are safe and fun to
interact with
ACCEPTING FRIENDS
Is chatting while gaming the same as a friend request?
Image taken from google images
THE GOOD AND THE BAD
Online friendships can be great, but they can also be
dangerous.
Chatting with or friending strangers can put you at risk to
be contacted by an online predator (a person who intends
to harm another person by first contacting them online).
CHATTING DURING GAMING
You may think chatting to strategize during gaming is
harmless, but it can be dangerous, too.
Predators will listen carefully to anything you say. You
may only give tiny bits of information, but a predator can
actually be very good at piecing information together with
intent to harm you.
ACCEPTING EVERYONE
Do you accept anyone who requests you?
When do you draw the line of who to accept and who
not to?
- Do you know them or just know their name?
- If you don’t know them, just hit “ignore” or
“decline” and do not even ask them who they
are.
AVATARS
An Avatar is either a graphic image to represent a person or a screen
name that is completely different from the person’s name. Avatars are a
smart way to keep your identity private when gaming or publicly posting.
If a friend request comes from an Avatar account, you can
- Ask your friends if they know who the person is
If you use an Avatar account, you can
- tell your friends in person what your account name is
- attach a message telling them who you are
ACCEPTING FRIENDS
Do you know the person in person?
-Outside of the social network you are using.
-Does your friendship just stay in school?
Would they come to your house?
-Would you care to spend time with them outside of school?
ACCEPTING FRIENDS
Just because you have mutual friends, do you accept them?
Image taken from google images
ACCEPTING THE WRONG PEOPLE
Over the summer my sister was involved in a chat room using my
phone. She was talking to this guy and somehow this guy had gotten all
of my information through Facebook because I had Facebook connected
through my phone. Later that night I received a friend request from this
guy and I accepted him because I had a few mutual friends. The next
day I had 5 or 6 messages from him stating all of my information. He
started calling me inappropriate names and asked how far my home
town was from his location. He also asked how I was doing in school
and stated my school by name. I was scared. I had to delete my
Facebook then, I ended making up a new one.
SOMETHING TO SERIOUSLY CONSIDER
You may think that just because someone goes to your school
that you are safe. It has happened that people have accepted
friends with a person that they knew from school who
downloaded photos and used them in inappropriate ways.
Imagine seeing yourself in a place where you actually
weren’t, or on a body that is not yours, or even seeing your
personal photo for sale! You may think someone is harmless
just because you do know who they are, but you have to think
about how well you know them and trust them.
WHAT TO DO?
If someone that you trusted turns out to be untrustworthy,
do not be embarrassed. It is more important that if
something is going wrong that you tell at least two adults.
In certain circumstances, the adults may need to call the
police.
Do not perform pranks on your friends online. Pranks
often go wrong and you may find yourself in big trouble
with adults and possibly the police.
DO YOU REALLY KNOW THE PERSON?
Do you actually know the person?
- What is their personality like?
- Where are they from?
-Can you trust them with your photos, and
your personal information?
ASK YOURSELF…
Do you really know all of your friends?
Do you have a limit on how many friends you should
have?
Have you talked to every one of your friends in the
past 6 months?
IF A FRIEND IS NOT BEING A FRIEND
If you have a friend who is not being nice to you online, you have a few
choices. You can:
-Take a break by ignoring them
-Tell a trusted adult
-Temporarily block them
-Un-friend them
Please realize that friending and un-friending should not be taken lightly.
It hurts another person’s feelings. Try to only un-friend someone if they
are a person who doesn’t make you happy to be around them a lot of the
time. It is important to surround yourself in life and online with people
who make you feel good about yourself and are comfortable to be around.
DR. NICOLE YETTER
DR. NICOLE YETTER
Dr. Nicole Yetter is extremely passionate about creating a safe and
respectful working/learning environment for all! She received her
Bachelor’s Degree in Rehabilitation Services Education and a Minor
in Psychology from The Pennsylvania State University. She obtained
her Master's Degree in Guidance K-12 from the State University of
West Georgia. Recently, she earned her Doctorate in Education from
Grand Canyon University. Dr. Yetter's dissertation reviewed the
effect of implementing classroom meetings on student performance
indicators including; academic performance, attendance,
documented discipline, and bullying behaviors.
DR. NICOLE YETTER, CONT.
Dr. Yetter is also a Certified Olweus Trainer and has her AAC II (Associate
Addictions Counselor). Over the past 16 years, Dr. Yetter has worked with
and spoken to thousands of students, educators, parents, and community
members on an array of topics. These included; Substance Abuse, Grief &
Loss, Decision Making, Empathy, Bullying, Internet Safety, and other related
topics. Most recently, she was a featured presenter at the 2012 National
Conference on Bullying in Orlando, Florida. Dr. Yetter also acts as an
Educational Consultant for various School Districts across the country, the
PA Bullying Prevention Support Plan Workgroup, and The CyberBully
Hotline, just to name a few. She currently resides in suburban Philadelphia
with her husband and children where she is employed at a large suburban
high school as a Guidance Counselor and Safe Schools Coach.
RESOURCES
Article:How Internet Predators Select Their Victims: http://
www.safer-internet.net/how-internet-predators-select-their-victims.html
Xbox Live Privacy Settings: http://support.xbox.com/en-US/xbox-live/online-
privacy-and-safety/online-safety
Facebook Privacy Settings: http://www.facebook.com/help/privacy
Facebook Friend Requests – Is “Not Now” a Safe, Polite Option or a
Privacy Problem? http://topsecretsurfer.wordpress.com/2011/08/18/facebook-
friend-requests-is-not-now-a-safe-polite-option-or-a-privacy-problem/
CREDITS
A HUGE thank you to:
Kurt Schollin, from Bucks County Intermediate Unit, for guiding Palisades
High School students through Elluminate webinar software.
Dr. Nicole Yetter, for generously volunteering her time and expertise on cyber-
safety.
Janice Conger and her 4th Grade students at Arrowhead Elementary, for being
wonderful participants.
Joel Filling and all of the 6th graders who filled out our student surveys.
Jaime Guthier and the Academy teachers who made this a truly
interdisciplinary project.
Palisades High School and School District Administrators for supporting our
webinar.
CREDITS
Teachers involved in this lesson:Rob Reilly, Academy Teacher, Palisades High SchoolKaren Hornberger, Library Media Specialist, Palisades High School