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Rising UP -

BeatDepression

...with NLP!

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Rising UP - Beat Depression With NLP

Our whole approach to problems by medicalising them often

makes them seem worse than they really are, as one of Matthew

Wingett's clients discovered over a chat and a hot chocolate...

Recently, a woman came to me who had just been diagnosed with

"moderate depression" by her GP, who the day before had

prescribed her Seroxat. She had not yet started the treatment, and

we had arranged a meeting on the very day she was due to start.

Because it was a preliminary meeting and I wanted to keep it light

and fun, we agreed to meet in a local caf in my hometown ofSouthsea. It was a bright, crisp winter morning, and sunlight was

flooding in through the windows into this large, empty room at the

top of the building, where we sat facing each other over two

steaming cups of hot chocolate.

She was pretty low in herself. Her long-time boyfriend had left her,

he had got a new girlfriend, she was "on the shelf", her whole life

was going to be "one long sequence of rejections" and blah, blah,blah. I could see that she was in genuine distress. Her skin was

pale, her eyes were sunken and she had a lot of tension across

her face, while her movements were awkward and self-conscious.

The standard depression test her GP had given her had come out

somewhere in the middle between no depression and serious

depression. The thing is, my view is that if you catch almost

anyone on a bad day and do exactly that test on them, then most

of them are going to come out as "having moderate depression".

In reality, it wasn't the depth of her "depression" that was

necessarily the bad thing for this woman, it was that she had

experienced a series of bad days for months on end - and each

one had reinforced her feeling that it was never going to end -

which of course made her feel worse.

But hey, one day at a time!

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...if you catch almost anyone on a bad day anddo exactly that test on them, then most of them

are going to come out as "having moderatedepression"...

I reckoned that if she was taught how to focus on having one good

day for a change, that would be enough to pull her out of the rut

she was in.

So, over the hot chocolate I did all the things that we were taughtto do on Richard Bandler's NLP Practitioner course. I reframed

her relationships with this guy, I anchored laughter, I got her

thinking about her future in a better way, we played with the

submodalities of her pictures and sounds.

Why did I do it there and then? Well, firstly, because after

assessing her, I believed I could. I reckoned she wasn't as bad as

she thought she was, and that actually being labelled "moderately

depressed" was now a contributory factor to keeping her in that

very long day from hell she had been enduring.

But also because she was about to start on a course of anti-

depressants and I wanted her to experience this result as quickly

as possible so that she would know that she could get benefits

from just thinking differently, rather than having to run to the

pharmacy every time she felt blue.

Half an hour later a giggling, fun-loving woman was staring across

the table at me. It had been easy because she was extremely fast

at learning to think in new ways, and she was really desperate to

make a change. It was quiet in that top room, and with no-one

else around I had even popped her into a hypnotic trance - going

for the hand levitation and visualisation - which would have been a

peculiar sight if the waitress had wandred up at that point!

When we stepped outside into the sunshine, I could see that herskin tone had changed. She was really laughing with me, and full



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of optimism about what was going to happen next, rather than

grieving for what had gone.

I asked her to keep me posted over the next few days how she

was doing.

A week later, she called to let me know that she had gone back to

the doctor and told him that she now felt much better, and that she

didn't really feel that she needed to be on drugs. Bearing in mind

at this point that the effect of the Seroxat wouldn't have been felt

until 3 weeks into the course, it seemed a perfectly reasonable

assertion to make to him to say that she was now fine.

...I was chatting with my GP recently, and hetold me that he is allowed only 7 minutes with

each patient...

The GP took a more conservative line, which is understandable.

He didn't want someone who had been quite low just a weekbefore suddenly coming off medication and maybe relapsing into

their old patterns a week later. He insisted she stay on the Seroxat

for 6 months. She did as she was told.

It is not for me to intervene with the decisions of the medical

establishment. But I am critical of the initial approach her GP took

to simply reach for the prescription pad straight away. Again, it's

not his fault. I was chatting with my GP recently, and he told me

that he is allowed only 7 minutes with each patient. That is

probably just long enough to say hello, print out a depression form,

have the patient fill it in, then print out a prescription.

It's all done in the name of efficiency. I believe it's a false

efficiency. Because without the tools to start thinking more usefully,

the next time she felt a bit low, she would have been straight back

to see him. In fact, for some patients those seven minutes with the

GP are part of the payout of the illness.



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By taking some time with her, and showing her that the bad day

she had been having wasn't necessarily going to last much longer,

and that good days were to come, I am fairly confident that she

won't need to build a sense of reliance on her GP for her mental

well-being. She'll get it from the place we all do: from our

interactions with our friends, with our loved ones and with the

adventures that we have in our lives.

I wonder, how many millions of pills are prescribed every year

because the box-ticking ethos of the current medical culture means

that, as Richard Bandler puts it in his seminars, the doctor "treats

the symptom, not the patient"?

Sometimes, the right words are really all it takes. Serious-

soundingterms and beliefs like: "I've got moderate depression"

just vanish, as you realise the past is behind you, a bright future is

in front of you, and the present is right now in your head - waiting

to be enjoyed.

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FURTHER INFO ON NLP

BOOKS

Richard Bandler:

The Secrets of Being Happy

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/secrets-being-happy

Get The Life You Want

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/getthelife-youwant

Make Your Life Great

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/make-yourlife-great

The Adventures of Anybody - a hypnotic fairytale

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/adventures-anybody

An Insider's Guide To Sub-Modalities

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/insiders-guide-submodalities

Time For A Change

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/time-change

Conversations With Richard Bandler

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/conversations

Richard Bandler and John La Valle:

Persuasion Engineering

http://thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-nengineering

Richard Bandler And Garner Thomson:

Magic In Practice - how to use NLP in a medical context

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/gartner-thompson/magic-practice

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/secrets-being-happyhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/getthelife-youwanthttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/make-yourlife-greathttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/adventures-anybodyhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/insiders-guide-submodalitieshttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/insiders-guide-submodalitieshttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/time-changehttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/conversationshttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-nengineeringhttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-nengineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/gartner-thompson/magic-practicehttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/secrets-being-happyhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/getthelife-youwanthttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/make-yourlife-greathttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/adventures-anybodyhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/insiders-guide-submodalitieshttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/insiders-guide-submodalitieshttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/time-changehttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/conversationshttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-nengineeringhttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-nengineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/gartner-thompson/magic-practice


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Richard Bandler and John Grinder:

Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H Erickson MD: Volume I

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v1

Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H Erickson MD: Volume II

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v2

The Structure of Magic Vol I and The Structure of Magic, Vol II:A Book About Communication and Change

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/pack/book/structure-magic-v1/v2

DVDs

Introduction To NLP - an evening with Richard Bandler

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/intro-nlp

Face to Face With Richard Bandler

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/facetoface

Banishing Phobias, The Bandler Way

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/banishing-phobias

The Secrets of Success with Richard Bandler, Christopher Ellison, IwanThomas, Andrew Morris and Aldo Zilli

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/secret-success/box-set

The Bandler Effect

http://thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/bandler-effect

The Class of A Master

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/class-ofa-master

Persuasion Engineering (with John La Valle)

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-engineering

http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v1http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v1http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/pack/book/structure-magic-v1/v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/intro-nlphttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/facetofacehttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/banishing-phobiashttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/secret-success/box-sethttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/bandler-effecthttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/class-ofa-masterhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-engineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-engineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-engineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/john-lavalle/persuasion-engineeringhttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v1http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v1http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/book/richard-bandler/john-grinder/patterns-hypnotechno-v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/pack/book/structure-magic-v1/v2http://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/intro-nlphttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/facetofacehttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/banishing-phobiashttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/secret-success/box-sethttp://thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/bandler-effecthttp://www.thebestyoucanbe.org/dvd/richard-bandler/class-ofa-master

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