MENTORING PROGRAMME

• The context of mentoring within Ex-Military Foundation • Roles & building relationships in mentoring • Ways of working with your mentee • Building successful relationships • Goal setting • Phases in mentoring relationships • Different communications styles & when they may be used • The challenges within mentoring • What support is available • The next steps

WELCOME.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou

WHAT IS MENTORING?

FORMS OF MENTORING.“We’re committed to making sure we provide those leaving the military with the support structure they deserve’

“Mentoring allows the transfer of knowledge from one ‘generation’ to another and the best ones build a sustainable professional relationship and network in to the future.”

STRUCTURED- Tied to business & personal objectives- Goals established- Results measured

- Matching based on compatibility- Support for mentoring provided- Time bound

UNSTRUCTURED- Not directly linked to business objectives- Goals are unspecified- Results not measured

- Matching based on chemistry- No support for mentoring programme- Not Time bound

SUPPORT IN THE WORKPLACE

| Mentors help Mentees set career goals and start taking steps to realise them.

| Mentors introduce mentees people to professional resources and organisations they may not know.

| Mentors can help their mentees learn how to seek and keep jobs

WHY MENTORING?

ROLES IN MENTORING. ROLE OF MENTOR.

Role Model

Champion/ Cheerleader

Lifestyle/ Image

Makeovers

Listener/ Supporter/ Confidante

Sounding Board

Resource Person

Strategist

Coach/ Advisor/ Guide

MENTOR ROLES

- Model -- Inform -

- Confirm -- Prescribe -

- Coach -- Question -

- Affirm -- Inspire -- Clarify -- Advise -

- Listen -- Safe Harbour -

- Probe -

- Respect -- Guide -SUPPORTING

COUNSELLING EMPOWERING

TEACHING

SPONSORING

- Door Opener -- Referral -- Agent -

- Challenge -- Encourage -

FACILITATES THEDEVELOPMENT OF

ANOTHER BY…

BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL MENTORING RELATIONSHIP.

SUCCESS FACTORS.

2 KEY FACTORS- Mutual commitment, trust and respect - Appropriate quality of mentoring and investment of time

Openness Access

Consistency

Independence Credibility

Confidentiality

TIME

PRACTICAL TIPS. WAYS OF WORKING.• Agree together your expectations and document these in a mentoring agreement - Frequency & format of meetings

- Desired outcomes - What you will and will not do

• Create a Positive Environment - Ask questions

- Be open and honest with each other - Agree how or if a mentee’s manager needs to be informed of anything

• Explore mentee’s goals and/or any associated issues together

• Use past experience to learn – yours and theirs

• Make sure you understand the goal/issue

• One to ones

• Observation

• Role play

• Role modelling

• Empty chair

GOAL SETTING. PHASES IN MENTORING.

STAGE 2Building the Relationship

Know what working onRisks & strategies considered

Actions established

STAGE 3Achieving Mastery and Confidence

Goals are being achieved, happy with strategies You are gaining confidence

Review the relationship or goal

STAGE 4Moving On

Both agree objectives met. Find no specific issues to discussLess of a need to meet up and both agree to move

on/change to more informal relationship

GOALS SHOULD ALWAYS BE...

SpecificMeasurableAchievableRealisticTime based

STAGE 1Creating the Relationship

Clarify roles & expectationsPurpose of relationship

COMMUNICATION STYLES….

STAGE 2Building the Relationship

Directive & Co Directed

STAGE 3Achieving Mastery and Confidence

Consulting & Self Directed

STAGE 4Moving On

Consulting & Self Directed

STAGE 1Creating the Relationship

Directive

CHALLENGES.• Keeping appointments

• Meeting too frequently

• Unrealistic expectations

• Overdependence

• Manipulation

• Resentment from others

• Ineffective mentoring pairs

LIFEWORKS.Ex-Military Foundation partners with the RBli’s LifeWorks Programme. This is a FULLY FUNDED 5 day course which equips ex-Armed Forces personnel with the tools to get into and maintain a civilian job that is appropriate for them. The course is available to anyone who has been in the Armed Forces, regardless of when and how long they served for and runs at various locations across the UK and at RBLI’s Training Centre in Aylesford, Kent

The transition to civilian life can be a challenging process for all Armed Forces leavers, and even more so for those medically retired due to injury, health condition or disability. With this in mind the Lifeworks programme was created as an innovative series of courses designed to build on existing skills for employment beyond the Armed Forces.

The core of LifeWorks is a comprehensive assessment of your background, skills and ambitions. By identifying and developing your transferable abilities, LifeWorks builds you an individual action plan and provides ongoing guidance to progress towards your goals.

Understanding the commitments that we all experience during times of change, RBLI have structured the courses to give the maximum level of flexibility. LifeWorks can be provided over the phone, face to face on an individual basis or as part of a LifeWorks course.

LEARN HOW TO: • Write a winning CV • Search, find & apply for jobs • Be successful at interview

ALSO PROVIDED IS: • Work with your coach to develop your personal

action plan. • Receive our ‘Toolkit’ – your own manual of

information material to refer back to once you go home.

• Receive ongoing support through our telephone helpline for as long as you need it.

THE COURSE.

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