flourishing in life as a lawyer
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Presented by Loriann E. FuhrerCBA Barrister Leadership Program
January 8, 2015
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Annie Dillard
How we spendour days is, ofcourse, how wespend our lives.
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Do Things You LOVEWith People You LOVE
For Reasons That MATTER
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What is
GOAL: To Measure + Build Human Flourishing
+ Well-being is a set of skills
“Happiness is commonly mistaken for passively experienced pleasureor leisure. That conception of happiness is good only as far as it goes.The only worthy object of all our efforts is a flourishing life.
True happiness is a verb. It’s the ongoing dynamic performance ofworthy deeds. The flourishing life, whose foundation is virtuousintention, is something we continually improvise….”
From The Art of Living: The Classical Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness,by Epictetus (interpreted by Sharon Lebell)
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What is
+ Martin Seligman, U.Penn., Positive Psychology
+ 2002, Authentic Happiness
+ 2011, Flourish: A Visionary new Understanding of Happinessand Well-Being
GOAL: To Measure + Build Human Flourishing
+ Well-being is a set of skills
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Practical Reasons to Care
Happy people:
+ Live longer (4-10 years longer)
+ Earn more income
+ Are more likely to be promoted
+ Are more productive
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Practical Reasons to Care
The Good News
40% of our capacity for happinessis within our power to change!
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Kindness Exercise
+ Doing a kindness produces thesingle most reliable momentaryincrease in well-being.
+ Exercise: Find one whollyunexpected kind thing to dotoday and just do it.
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The Role of Gratitude
+ Strong correlation betweengratitude and subjectivewell-being
+ Physical benefits includeimproved immune system andbetter sleeping patterns
+ Men are less likely to feel andexpress gratitude than women
+ Gratitude is a practice
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William Butler Yeats
Happiness isneither virtue norpleasure nor thisthing nor that, butsimply growth.
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+ Free strengths survey atauthentichappiness.org
+ Find, Use, Increase
+ Tom Rath, StrengthsFinder 2.0(Gallup)
+ Brene Brown, The Gifts ofImperfection: Let Go of WhoYou Think You’re Supposed toBe and Embrace Who You Are
Signature
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Write down
things that wentwell each day
for a week
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The Value of Service
+ Happiness is not selfishHappier people are more likely to help other people
+ One of the best ways to increaseyour own happiness is to helpmake someone else happy*
+ One of the best ways to makeother people happy is to behappy yourself
*Fortunately, we’re in a service industry.
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Being TheGreat Lawyer
You Are
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Knowing + Using Your Strengths
Finding Flow/Engagement
Valuing + Cultivating Relationships
Having Passion that Comes from Meaning
Achievement = Skill x Effort
Skill is built through effort.
10,000 hours to mastery (quantity + quality)
D. Goleman, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence
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+ Fixed mindset: assumes our character, intelligenceand creative ability are static and success is anaffirmation of those inherent qualities
+ Growth mindset: thrives on challenge and seesfailure not as evidence of unintelligence but as aspringboard for growth
+ “This is the mindset that allows people to thriveduring some of the most challenging times intheir lives.”
Make Mistakes!Carol Dweck, Mindset:
The New Psychology of Success
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Good judgment comesfrom experience
Experience comes frombad judgment
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Practice Good Habits+ Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and The 8th Habit
+ David Allen, Getting Things Done
Develop Written Life Plans +Mission/Values Statements
What can I be the best in the world at?Jim Collins, From Good to Great
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meditate sleep
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NEVER STOP LEARNING!
Focus on Your Customer
Be a Student of Business + Industry
Be a Student of Life + People
Some Business + Industry Books To ReadDavid Maister, The Trusted AdvisorSeth Godin, TribesMalcolm Gladwell, The Tipping PointSheryl Sandberg, Lean In
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Favorite (TED) Talks
Ken Robinson: “How schools kill creativity”
Elizabeth Gilbert: “Your elusive creative genius”
Susan Cain: “The power of introverts”
Brene Brown: “The power of vulnerability”
Simon Sinek: “How great leaders inspire action”
Bryan Stevenson: “We need to talk about an injustice”
Jane McGonigal: “The game that can give you 10 extrayears of life”
Steve Jobs: “How to live before you die”
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InterestingBlogs/Podcasts/People
Maria Popova: Brainpickings.org
Artie Isaac: Net Cotton Content blog at youngisaac.typepad.com
Seth Godin: sethgodin.com, sethgodin.typepad.com
Tim Ferriss: timferriss.com, fourhourworkweek.com
Gary Vaynerchuk: garyvaynerchuk.com, #AskGaryVee
Terry Gross: Fresh Air, npr.org
Harvard Business Review: hbr.org
Eric Barker: Barking Up The Wrong Tree, bakadesuyo.com
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What if
“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what Iam about to do today?”
“Whenever the answer has been ‘no’ for too many days in a row, Iknow I need to change something.”
STEVE JOBS,Stanford Commencement Speech
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Seneca, “On the Shortness of Life”
It is not that we have a shorttime to live, but that we wastea lot of it. Life is long enough,and a sufficiently generousamount has been given to usfor the highest achievementsif it were all well invested.
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Holstee Manifesto(holstee.com)
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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true tomyself, not the life others expected of me1
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.2
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.3
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.4
I wish that I had let myself be happier.5
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+ Martin Seligman, Flourish, AuthenticHappiness, authentichappiness.org
+ Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project,Gretchenrubin.com
+ Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage,goodthinkinc.com
+ Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis
+ Daniel Gilbert, Stumbling On Happiness
+ Douglas Smith, In Pursuit of Happiness
+ Leo Babauta, zenhabits.net
Further Reading on Happiness
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