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Find your Shameless Spark!
Denise R. Jacobs Inspiring Women LIVE! Bristol, UK 24 September 2014
Bust Blocks to Shameless Self-Promotion
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@denisejacobs
@iwomenlive #iwomenlive
#shameless-spark
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Let me tell you a story
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Of how I went from this…
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To this…
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To this (!)…
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And this…
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And THIS!
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SQUEEEEEE!!!!!
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February/March
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Upon finishing my first book…
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I had an epiphany
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It’s all about this!
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My book is on web design/development
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Wanted to speak at web design conferences
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Who I was – vs -- Who I wanted to become Photos: Denise Jacobs & http://www.flickr.com/photos/jcornelius/6276948549/
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Getting work as a web designer
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I practiced Shameful Self-Promotion
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So what changed?
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This.
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“Happiness is not just a mood—it’s a work ethic…..Happiness is actually the precursor to success.” Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work
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Found the key and opened up
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So, let’s bust through the blocks
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Internalized criticisms + fears
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= The evil voices in your head
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aka The Inner Critic
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The “troll under the bridge”
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Mass hypnosis
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Part of your social eco-system
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“Obsessing about preventing bad things from happening also prevents good things from happening, or sometimes prevents anything from happening at all.” Scott Berkun, The Year Without Pants
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Physical evidence of fear
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Internal manisfestations of Fear
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“OMG, I’m SO busy!”
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“I should have done more by now…”
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“I don’t know enough”
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“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”
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vs. “NAILED IT!”
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Impostor Syndrome Paradox
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“It needs to be PERFECT”
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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”
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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”
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“I will do it tomorrow!”
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Feed each other
Illustration: Denise Jacobs
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“I’m afraid to take the plunge”
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“What if I fail?”
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F.E.A.R. =
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“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth
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Banish Your Inner Critic!
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Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to
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Realize it doesn’t have to be prefect
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“She could never go back and make some of the details pretty. All she could do is move forward and make the whole more beautiful.” - Terri St. Cloud
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Perfection ≠ Excellence
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Remember humble beginnings
Twitter, circa 2006
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Reframe #FAIL
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Question “Them”!
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Recognize & support your spark
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From Spark to Flame: How to be on Fire
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“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” - Steve Jobs, 2005 Stanford Commencement speech
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Focus on being “Self-ful”
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Self-ful-ness: Caring for your own welfare so that you are able to care for the welfare of others.
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The Oxygen Mask Theory
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Leads to selflessness
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Share of your gifts
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Remember it’s about this, and
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Recognize your brilliance
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DO NOT focus on your weaknesses
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You will only improve 10-15 %
(and it will be painful) Tom Rath, Strengths Finder 2.0
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Be BOLD
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Propose Yourself
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How I got my book deal (in 2 slides)
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Reach out
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Yes!
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Value yourself
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WWWGD?
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Learn from them
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Also
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Because it’s magic
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Leads to this
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FOWD site March 26, 2010
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FOWD site April 15, 2010
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Listen
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No, really listen
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Pair up
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Many hands make light work
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Play!
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Enjoy + Good at + Feeling Empowered
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= Empowered Play
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Start reaching for opportunities
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But even better, you’ll also start to
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People will seek you out
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Great advice
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And keep remembering that it’s all about
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You’ll light your shameless spark
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And stop feeling like this
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But instead, enter into a special pact
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Photo by Derek Kearney
This significant shift
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Has created AMAZING things for me
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Because I am now joyfully shameless!
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My main regret?
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That I waited so long
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What you want wants YOU
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So that you will
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“Have the courage to follow your heart and intution. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs
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Truth.
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To find your shameless spark!
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And use it to light up your self-promotion
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And change lives for the better
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Thank You!
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