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Juan M Campos
Mrs. Lillian Romero
Psychology 2314-104
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Marriage, Cohabitation and Successful Relationships
Marriage is ultimately an agreement between two people. However, marriage is more
than a mere contract; marriage is a social institution that binds two people who desire to share
their life together. Today, the point of view of marriage has changed for most, and today
marriage is not as important as it once was. Now, cohabitation is becoming more accepted
worldwide. Cohabitation is no longer seen as taboo between two people. Today its becoming
more acceptable to just live together with someone of either sex. However, whether a couples
decision is to cohabitate or get married, the couple must consider both the positive and negative
consequences of their decision. Since the relationship between individuals in a couple become
less religious and the relationship becomes secular and contractual, it becomes increasingly
difficult to determine what model, marriage or cohabitation or both, is ultimately more
successful in the end.
Cohabitation is defined as a couple living together who is not married. Since
cohabitation depends on a not married couple, then the question of what is marriage becomes
important when discussing cohabitation. So, what exactly is marriage? The definition of
marriage has changed, so the definition depends on the time and location in question. In the past,
marriage was an exchange of property, because women were property as were acquired for the
benefit of the husband. Even today in some parts of the world marriage is an exchange of
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property and so arranged when the couple is very young. As the centuries passed marriage
became more a partnership between individuals. In the 1500 and 1600 even though the marriage
ceremony was available, marriage was largely unregulated and the majority of marriages were
informal or common law marriages (Koegel 11). These marriages only required an exchange
of consent followed by consummation to be recognized by most (Outwaith2). So in many ways
Renaissance marriage is similar to todays cohabitation, however marriage then and now
involves a higher level of commitment than cohabitation. Today the government regulates
marriage. In exchange for complying with the laws of marriage, couples are given various
rights and benefits. Politicians today debate the nature of marriage, so the future definition of
cohabitation and marriage could change once again (Paul).
One reason that marriage and cohabitation laws changed is societies point of view
regarding cohabitation and marriage changed. In the past, cohabitation was considered taboo and
people who cohabitated considered sinful. Laws were placed to prevent cohabitants who
expressed a marriage like commitment to each other. Even today there are still people who hold
a negative view of cohabitation. Laws are still on the books for Florida, Michigan, Mississippi,
North Carolina, North Dakota, Virginia and West Virginia that ban cohabitation outright, though
today such laws are rarely enforced (Fields).The high point for marriage as an institution was
between the 1950s through the 1970s (Festy 1980) and marriage has been declining ever
since. Even though today there are some areas where cohabitation is viewed negatively by law,
the general trend today allows more cohabitation and less marriage. For instance, the Social
Research on Population Studies Center published statistics that show a rise in cohabitation
couples with an accompanying decrease in marriage. The U.S. Census of 2000 found almost
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five and one half million couples in the United States. (US Census 5).Yet cohabitation or
marriage sometimes fails to express commitment level of a loving couple.
Since cohabitation isnt a substitute for marriage, and also to help express the varying
commitment levels today there are alternatives to marriage and cohabitation. These alternatives
include arrangements such as domestic partnerships, civil unions and common law marriages.
These types of unions put a whole different spin on the relationships of couples, especially
between couples that are unable to marry. A disadvantage of these alternative types of unions is
they are not universally recognized. However,Texas is one of the few states that allow informal
or common-law marriage (Texas 2.401). Some couples have not choice but to follow these
types of alternative unions. Gay couples who desire a higher level of commitment than
cohabitation form domestic partnerships, registered partnerships or civil unions in states that do
not yet recognized gay marriage. No matter what form of social union a couple takes, whether
its cohabitation, civil union, common law marriage or formal marriage, all couples have their
reasons, whether economic or social, for choosing the form of their relationship.
Ultimately the couples underlying reason to be together influences the type of form their
union will take. People who wish to maintain individuality or establish their own credit or
financial arrangements choose cohabitation. Individual who are unsure if their partner is
compatible, or unsure about the commitment marriage is right for them will choose cohabitation
over marriage. Just as some couplescohabitate because they dont want to marry, some couples
that want to marry choose cohabitation for a time, usually to save money for the actual wedding.
Even elderly couples can choose cohabitation as a way to save a pension from a deceased spouse
that will surely be lost if the couple chose marriage. However Kelly Harris in a personal
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interview said that couples decide to cohabitation because they love each other since marriage
and its commitment is always the ultimate goal. (Harris).
The ethnic and socio-economic background of the individuals also has influence on a
couplesdecision to cohabitate or get married. In the United States, some studies show that
Latinos had a 59% rise in cohabitation in recent years, followed by African American with a
54% increase. Lastly, the Anglos had the lowest increase of 35%, but that is still an increase. (US
Census 12). In Europe the latitude of a couple has influences on cohabitation practices IN the
northern and Scandinavian countries cohabitation is quite common. In the middle countries like
Britain and the Netherlandscohabitation is chosen less. If the couple lives in southern Europe
such as Italy cohabitation is relatively rare (Manning 989).
Couples in good relationships usually want their relationships to last. Does cohabitation
offer the same longevity in relationships as marriage? Since cohabitation is considered having a
lesser commitment than marriage a couple that lives together should break up sooner than a
couple that is married. However there are a percentage of couples that started out as cohabitation
but ultimately do get married. The countries of northern Europe, who had a high rate of
cohabitation, have a low rate cohabitating couples getting married (Finland). In the United
States couples tend to view relationships very black and white terms, so Americans tend to either
end the relationship completely, or get married. Very few American couples maintain a long-
termrelationship through cohabitation (Johnson).
Children always affect the dynamics of a relationship and in Latin countries it is no
different. In opposition to most of Latin America, the rural areas are dominated by cohabitation.
For instance El Salvador has a 61.7% cohabitation rate in people living in the countryside. The
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children of these unions are consideredillegitimate since most Latin nations are also extremely
Catholic. In following the church these countries offer no protection to partners in cohabitation,
and mostly its the women who suffer. If the union ends these women are left with nothing to
support herself and her child, and the mother must look for alternative ways of supporting herself
and her baby. Unfortunately government help for these womenis lacking since Latin
governmentsgenerally dont recognizeunions not sanctioned by the Church. (Pinzon).
So are married people happier and cohabitants? Which form of relationship is the most
successful? Since marriage is becoming more secular with divorces granted easily,and some
couples living together become more committed since there are no other sociallyacceptableoutlet
for them, it does become difficult to tell which one is better since both, marriage and
cohabitation are looking more alike. Both marriage and cohabitation require working together
and sharing with a high level of commitment, with marriage currently having a higher
commitment than cohabitation. However any relationship will always require commitment,
love and the consent of both parties to remain together and be successful, no matter what form
those relationships may take now or in the future.
In the end it is not up to any government or scientificstudies to say what model of
commitment is more success full marriage or cohabitation. That answer belongs to people who
are living in any type of relationship. Everyone have their own definition of what a success full
relationship is. There for cohabitation and marriage areeither good or bad it is neutral grounds for
two adults to figure out their future as a marriage or cohabitate couples.
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