boundaries

feelings

Boundaries are...like fences that help control behavior...where we must stop and change course...what belongs to me and what belongs to you

Goal of boundary setting is a large part of maturing—to become more like Jesus—to have a character structure...that can set limits on self and others

Boundaries define...How I choose to feel as opposed to how

others want me to feel.How I choose to behave verses how others

want me to behaveMy personal valuesYour values of belief systemMy limits, saying NO to abusers or those

who would take advantage of meThe responsibility I have for meeting my

needs

Healthyboundaries?

Intentionally setting a boundaryPerequisitesExamine my motives and goalsPick a specific place to present boundaryAnticipate other person reactionsPractice role-playing presenting boundary

with safe personBe clear/concise in communicating boundaryAsk for complianceGive recipient chance to process requestInitiate consequence if no compliance

Resistanceto

boundaries