facing the challenges of raising young children
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FACING THE CHALLENGESFACING THE CHALLENGES
OF RAISING YOUNGOF RAISING YOUNGCHILDRENCHILDRENLizamarie Campoamor-
OlegarioU.P. College of Education
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MEDIAMEDIA
Challenge No. 1
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MediaMedia
Hours of television
Brain development on in children
Too much media has impact on: attention span
language abilities
cognitive ability
Creativity intrinsic motivation
social skills
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MediaMedia
Television violence
Can become hard-hearted
Can become frightened, worried, orsuspicious
Can be more aggressive on the
playground and in the classroom.
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Guiding Child in TV ViewingGuiding Child in TV Viewing
Be a good role model
Plan to view specific programs
Make sure they have some physicalactivity
Make sure TV does not substitute for
other more appropriate activities Balance reading and TV
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Guiding Child in TV ViewingGuiding Child in TV Viewing
Participate in childs viewing
Explaining situations that are confusing
Asking feelings or responses to theprogram
Helping analyze the commercials
Discussing difference between fantasy
and reality
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COMMERCIALISMCOMMERCIALISM
Challenge No. 2
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CommercialismCommercialism
Emphasis on monetary profit, self-
gratification and material comfort
Due to absence of parents andabandonment
Results to
No experience of hard work, sacrifice,patience, the virtue of waiting, etc.
Lack discipline and character
Low self-esteem
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MaterialismMaterialism--related Behaviors/related Behaviors/
DataData
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Good Reasons Not to SaturateGood Reasons Not to Saturate
the Child with Excessivethe Child with Excessive
MaterialismMaterialism Children who are given whatever they
want rarely develop a sense of
appreciation for anything that they
receive
Child who is given too much is actually
cheated out of the experience of
pleasure
delayed gratification
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Keeping Child from BeingKeeping Child from Being
Materialistic
Materialistic
Reinforce the fact that he is a worthy
individual, both during his successes
and his failures
Focus on the childs self-esteem
Balance work and family
Quality time
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OVERPROTECTIVENESSOVERPROTECTIVENESS
Challenge No. 3
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Are You OverAre You Over--protective?protective?
Imploring child to eat dinner every night
Constantly warning of dangers such asfalling which are a normal risk in
children's games Constantly reminding your child to do
what is a reasonable responsibility of hisage Indicates that you lack confidence in him and
thus undermine his security
Providing everything for the child
Doing everything for the child
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OverOver--protectivenessprotectiveness
Clip children's wings and hinder them
from soaring high
They will still need to face life on theirown
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Avoiding OverAvoiding Over--
protectivenessprotectiveness Help your child simultaneously grow
and yet stay secure in your
unconditional love.
As your child develops, make him
secure by constantly letting him know
that you are interested in him as a
person, and that you want him and lovehim.
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Dont Talk to StrangersDont Talk to Strangers
Parents themselves violate this rule allthe time
Who exactly is a stranger? Are
Most strangers would help your child ifshe were lost, hurt, or in trouble
Most people who prey on children are notstrangers but people your child knows
and trusts Children under the age of 10 can easily
fall victim to the wily ways of predators
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Dont Talk to StrangersDont Talk to Strangers
You're burdening your child with
keeping herself safe.
Children over age 10 can considermore than one factor at a time.
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Emotionally literate students have
mastered the emotional abilities that
inoculate them against the turmoil and
pressures they are about to face
during life transitions"
(Daniel Goleman, 1995).
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PERFECTIONISMPERFECTIONISM
Challenge No. 4
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Typical Perfectionist ParentsTypical Perfectionist Parents
Being more concerned about what
other people will think of them than
about what is truly right
Unable to freely give oneself
emotionally
Scolding their child for shouting or
singing in the house, or for returning
dirty after playing outdoors
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Typical Perfectionist ParentsTypical Perfectionist Parents
Really saying that what the child does
naturally is not suitable behavior.
Mistakes are unacceptable
Excessive praise or demands
Parental love being conditional upon
the child`s exemplary achievement
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Extreme PerfectionismExtreme Perfectionism
Linked toLinked to Performance and social anxiety Eating disorders
Migraine headaches Obsessive-compulsive disorder
Depression
Suicide
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Dealing with PerfectionismDealing with Perfectionism
Avoid comparing
Involve child in setting realistic
standards Make mistakes okay
Encourage rather than praise
Theres a great difference betweenperfectionism and excellence
Decrease emphasis on winning
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OBESITYOBESITY
Challenge No. 5
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Contribution of ChangingContribution of Changing
Society to ObesitySociety to Obesity
More food is prepared away from
home
Energy-dense foods and drinks aremore readily available
Portion sizes of energy-dense foods
have increased
Marketing of energy-dense foods and
drinks has increased
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Contribution of ChangingContribution of Changing
Society to ObesitySociety to Obesity
The use of private transport has
increased
The number of two-income families hasincreased
The time spent in paid employment has
increased
The role of physical education in the
school curriculum has reduced
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Causes of ObesityCauses of Obesity
unhealthy food choices
lack of physical activity
family eating habits.
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Health Problems AssociatedHealth Problems Associated
with Obesitywith Obesity
Type 2 diabetes
Eating disorders such as bulimia
Orthopaedic disorders Liver problems
Respiratory disorders, such as blocked
airways and restrictions in the chest wall
Sleep apnoea
Cardiomyopathy
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Social ProblemsSocial Problems
Teased by their peers
Low self-esteem
May impact on other aspects of theirlives such as the development of
friendships and competency at school.
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Curtailing ObesityCurtailing Obesity
Limit TV viewing and
time on the computer
Encourage participation in physicalactivity and sports
Curtail visits to fast-food restaurants
Provide nutritious, well-balanced, low-calorie, and low-fat meals
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Curtailing ObesityCurtailing Obesity
Limit the availability of high-fat andhigh-sugar snacks in your home
Encourage children's autonomy in self-regulation of food intake
Work with schools 'to decrease theavailability of foods and beverages
with little nutritional value Promote regular 'physical education
programs
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BULLIESBULLIES
Challenge No. 6
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Forms of BullyingForms of Bullying
Physical
Emotional
Cyber
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How to Deal with BullyingHow to Deal with Bullying
Help build self-confidence
Develop mindfulness of body language
Develop conflict resolution skills Teach your child to become a good
decision maker as well as an
independent thinker will equip them with the tools when beingpressured by their peers
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DRUGS AND SEXDRUGS AND SEX
Challenge No. 7
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Drug and SexDrug and Sex
The best time to talk to kids about drugs andsex is when theyre between the ages of 6 and12
Explain your fears about early sex and druguse
Give examples of people whose life changedfor the worse because of early sexual activityor drug use.
When watching a TV program or video with astoryline featuring sex and drugs, offer youropinion and feelings on the subject.
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WHEN KIDS DO NOT WANTWHEN KIDS DO NOT WANTTO STUDYTO STUDY
Challenge No. 8
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What to DoWhat to Do
Provide an environment that allowschildren to freely explore and to see theeffect of their actions
Allow children ample time when workingto allow for persistence
Resist the natural urge to "help
Clearly define limits
Working together on an activity This lets you observe, model, and encourage
your child.
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What to DoWhat to Do
Provide situations that give children anacceptable challenge
Give children opportunities to evaluate
their own accomplishments. Rather than stating that you think they have
done a good job, ask them what they think oftheir work.
Do not use excessive rewards. Praise and rewards should be based upon
children's effort and persistence, rather thanon the actual accomplishment
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Parents of SuccessfulParents of Successful
ChildrenChildren Have realistic beliefs about theirchildren
Have high expectations
Are authoritative parents
Talk to, listen to, and read to theirchildren
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WHEN YOU TWO DONT GETWHEN YOU TWO DONT GETALONG TOGETHERALONG TOGETHER
Challenge No. 9
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Childrens Response toChildrens Response to
Constant FightingConstant Fighting
They are afraid
They take their anger out on other adults,such as teachers, and have behavior
problems in school. They feel guilty about siding with one parent.
They mistreat their brothers and sisters.
They lose respect for their parents authority
and stop listening to them. They become depressed and occupied with
thoughts of running away or suicide.
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Parents Who ConstantlyParents Who Constantly
BickerBicker Tend to become overly critical of theirchildrens behavior.
Take their frustration out on the kids,creating an even more hostile and
tense atmosphere.
Occasional argument is normal;
constant fighting is not
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WHAT IS PARENTING?WHAT IS PARENTING?
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Two Basic IngredientsTwo Basic Ingredients
Love
Structure
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Parenting StylesParenting Styles
High
Love
Low
Love
High
Structure
Authoritative Authoritarian
LowStructure
Permissive Neglectful
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Models for ParentingModels for Parenting
"Rules of traffic
"Fine gardening
"Reward and punishment "Taking Children Seriously"
"Parenting For Everyone"
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Thank you for listening!Thank you for listening!
Any questions?