It might be somewhat disconcerting to admit that despite how capable and successful you have been up till the present moment, that you now find yourself embroiled in conflict. You are definitely not feeling corporate support. It's almost bizarre, but you feel their pressure, as if you have somehow slipped out of favor and are no longer seen as the high performer you've always been. In order to recover from this malady, you must face the very realization that you are now working with a Psychologist or an Executive coach, not something that you ever imagined for yourself, not even in your wildest dreams. Take heart. There are stages that even you may travel along your way. What , when, why? How did this happen? Here's what we can do, since I do not have the answers to these questions either. I can tell you that I've been down this road, at least once or twice before. Here are a few points or stages that can start us off. Your "leadership," by the way, will be a foundational consideration here. You know that you've been loyal for a decade now, yet "are you the only one who remembers?" You feel bewildered. Corporate politics is something you really should consider. Despite your outstanding technical expertise, you're potentially having a somewhat negative personal impact on your colleagues, one that you're not aware of. Of course you're feeling angry about the whole thing. Anger can be very challenging to cope with because it is what is referred to as a secondary emotion. It's one that derives from frustration, and worse yet, it prevents you from locating the requisite insight that you need to get you out of this debacle. You think that you know who has been responsible for causing you all these issues. This knowledge just adds to the implausibility of the situation because you've actually gone out of your way to help this person's career, and so you think "this is how they repay my efforsts?" You simply cannot believe what is happening. It's as if this individual is trying to cause problems for you, rather than thank you for everything you've done for them. Perception causes all of us to move into flows of either strength and power or into flows of errors, poor decision making and problems. Communication is almost always a part of most problems and so needs to be part of your solution, too. Good leadership is always concerned about how its communication impacts upon others. Is what you're saying having a subjectively positive impact or is the impact negative? What is the impact of what you're not saying? Communication is the purview of leadership. Political issues, such as conflict with others isn't uncommon, but what surprises you is that key people that you thought were your friends don't seem to have your back. Personal relationships within the corporate context can be tricky. People must consider the costs and benefits of aligning themselves with you. They must think in terms that are context specific and situational. An alignment with you may be a smart strategical move one time and at another, a critical mistake. As I've noted else where, when even your spouse notices and tries to talk to you about your moods, you can rest assured that you've got a problem that needs your undivided attention. Trust in that realization. Trust and have faith, that this is a benevolent force that is urging you to change, to become more sensitive toward others. Ultimately, you realize that you're going to have to rebuild trust and respect with others, that is, if you desire to remain in your position and in the organization. The changes that you make, the sensitivity that you start cultivating for others, will go a long way towards rekindling trust and establishing a mutual respect. So you find yourself considering the unthinkable - "Do I still belong here?" It has been said that our career is our path - the hero's journey - that which we must traverse for us to grow, to evolve, to become all that we can become, and to experience ultimate feelings of success. If you've been following some of my other communications, you know where I'm going with this. My bottom line is to focus on your leadership style! Things always happen for a reason, regardless of whether we are aware of the reasons or not. Times that we are able to really embrace our power and responsibility, are times when we give life to our best, what I like to refer to as our "inner leadership legends." The best, most competitive attitude that you can muster, might be along the lines of "I'm glad that these things have happened to me." Remember, that our actions and behaviors tend to follow and reflect our inner thoughts, beliefs and expectations. So take heart, as it is with these or similar types of thoughts, that we are led into the experiences of our "inner leadership legends."
You’re a High Performer
Your career has been all about capitalizing uponYour strengths…
You’ve Always Been
Capable & Successful!
Is all about capitalizing upon…
Personal & work-relatedproblems can negatively affect work productivity
Fuzzy thinking, grasping for words, cause carelessness, alter attitude & behavior,
increase personal risk.
But now, you’re embroiled in
CONFLICT!
Personal & work-relatedproblems can negatively affect work productivity
Fuzzy thinking, grasping for words, cause carelessness, alter attitude & behavior,
increase personal risk.
Not feeling corporate support?
Personal & work-relatedproblems can negatively affect work productivity
Fuzzy thinking, grasping for words, cause carelessness, alter attitude & behavior,
increase personal risk.
Too much corporate pressure?
Strengths-based assessments will assist already successful
people to maintain their competitive edge
What is Executive Leadership Coaching?
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Take heart, there are
stages of coaching process
Carefully Consider the following
Leadership Legends Coaching
Richard Anton
It might be somewhat disconcerting to admit that despite how capable and successful you have been up till the present moment, that you now find yourself embroiled in conflict. You are definitely not feeling corporate support. It's almost bizarre, but you feel their pressure, as if you have somehow slipped out of favor and are no longer seen as the high performer you've always been. In order to recover from this malady, you must face the very realization that you are now working with a Psychologist or an Executive coach, not something that you ever imagined for yourself, not even in your wildest dreams. Take heart. There are stages that even you may travel along your way. What , when, why? How did this happen? Here's what we can do, since I do not have the answers to these questions either. I can tell you that I've been down this road, at least once or twice before. Here are a few points or stages that can start us off. Your "leadership," by the way, will be a foundational consideration here. You know that you've been loyal for a decade now, yet "are you the only one who remembers?" You feel bewildered. Corporate politics is something you really should consider. Despite your outstanding technical expertise, you're potentially having a somewhat negative personal impact on your colleagues, one that you're not aware of. Of course you're feeling angry about the whole thing. Anger can be very challenging to cope with because it is what is referred to as a secondary emotion. It's one that derives from frustration, and worse yet, it prevents you from locating the requisite insight that you need to get you out of this debacle. You think that you know who has been responsible for causing you all these issues. This knowledge just adds to the implausibility of the situation because you've actually gone out of your way to help this person's career, and so you think "this is how they repay my efforsts?" You simply cannot believe what is happening. It's as if this individual is trying to cause problems for you, rather than thank you for everything you've done for them. Perception causes all of us to move into flows of either strength and power or into flows of errors, poor decision making and problems. Communication is almost always a part of most problems and so needs to be part of your solution, too. Good leadership is always concerned about how its communication impacts upon others. Is what you're saying having a subjectively positive impact or is the impact negative? What is the impact of what you're not saying? Communication is the purview of leadership. Political issues, such as conflict with others isn't uncommon, but what surprises you is that key people that you thought were your friends don't seem to have your back. Personal relationships within the corporate context can be tricky. People must consider the costs and benefits of aligning themselves with you. They must think in terms that are context specific and situational. An alignment with you may be a smart strategical move one time and at another, a critical mistake. As I've noted else where, when even your spouse notices and tries to talk to you about your moods, you can rest assured that you've got a problem that needs your undivided attention. Trust in that realization. Trust and have faith, that this is a benevolent force that is urging you to change, to become more sensitive toward others. Ultimately, you realize that you're going to have to rebuild trust and respect with others, that is, if you desire to remain in your position and in the organization. The changes that you make, the sensitivity that you start cultivating for others, will go a long way towards rekindling trust and establishing a mutual respect. So you find yourself considering the unthinkable - "Do I still belong here?" It has been said that our career is our path - the hero's journey - that which we must traverse for us to grow, to evolve, to become all that we can become, and to experience ultimate feelings of success. If you've been following some of my other communications, you know where I'm going with this. My bottom line is to focus on your leadership style! Things always happen for a reason, regardless of whether we are aware of the reasons or not. Times that we are able to really embrace our power and responsibility, are times when we give life to our best, what I like to refer to as our "inner leadership legends." The best, most competitive attitude that you can muster, might be along the lines of "I'm glad that these things have happened to me." Remember, that our actions and behaviors tend to follow and reflect our inner thoughts, beliefs and expectations. So take heart, as it is with these or similar types of thoughts, that we are led into the experiences of our "inner leadership legends."
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
You’ve been loyal
Does anyone else remember?
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
You feel bewildered
You should consider office politics
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
You should consider…..
Office politics
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Of course you’re angry
Office politics
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
You think you know the instigator
Office politics
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Your perceptions can cause
poor decisions
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Leadership is always concerned
with it’s communication impact
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
So should you, after all
Leadership is about influence
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Supporting you may be smart today
& a critical mistake tomorrow
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
When even your spouse notices
your mood may require your undivided attention
When you meet with your Executive Coach, he will:
Greet you,set you at ease,listen, support & encourage you. Get to know you, your goalsand aspirations
Reflect upon the question…..
Do I stay or leave the organization?
Either way, you know you have to
rebuild trust & mutual respect
Consider the unthinkable
Do I still belong here?
This is your journey
The Hero’s journey
Give life to your best
Create your own Leadership Legend
An Executive Coach is accessed primarily by self-referral
Referral to an Executive Coach
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