eve adoption booklet 12.15.12

7/29/2019 Eve Adoption Booklet 12.15.12

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Dear Birthmother,

Ive written this as a kind of letter to you, so that

you might get a sense of who I am and the kind of

parent I plan to be. I know that this might be a

hard time for you, and Im hoping I can be an

option to help.

Ive been looking forward to being someones mom

for as long as I can remember, and Im excited

about doing it through an open adoption. I have a

lot of love to share and open adoption feels right to

me. I would be thrilled if you would consider me tobe your babys mom, and I look forward to hearing

from you!

---Eve

Please contact me through Adoption Consultants Inc.,

1-800-605-4588 www.adoptionconsultantsinc.com

Im Eve!

Near San Francisco,

California

Thank you for reading my profile!

Me with my nephew Diego when

he was a baby and now.

www.facebook.com/

AdoptionHelpEveMakeA

Family


2/22

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My house is usually full of loving friends

and family, with lots of kids running

around inside and in my yard. Theyve allbeen waiting excitedly to welcome and

spend time with my baby.

My friends and family describe me as

funny, smart, loving, and honest. Im

known for making up funny songs,

especially when Im with kids. I know Im

going to make up tons of silly songs and

dances for my baby. Luckily, my family

and friends have a great sense of humor

about this, and I love to make them laugh.

The things that are most important to me

are being kind and compassionate, loving,

forgiving, honest, keeping to my word, and

working hard to be the best I can be. For

my entire life I will be learning how to be

a better me.

I understand that in

choosing someone to raise your child, you

might wonder if a single woman could raise

a child with a rich and full family, and with

the positive male and female role models

youd want. That question makes total sense

to me. I feel confident that I have everything

one could want in a parent. I know a lot

about children of all ages, having taken care

of my friends children and my nephews,and having devoted my life to working with

kids and teenagers.

Me with my cat Iggy

Having friends over for dinner.

I love to cook!

Enjoying

fresh

veggies

with mynephew

Camilo


3/22

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I grew up in a wonderful neighborhood in New York

City. My sister Danielle and I had friends from

many different backgrounds. I am so grateful that

my parents raised us in that type of environment,because I grew up comfortable and knowledgeable

about different cultures. This has helped me so

much as an adult, both in my work as an educator

and in my personal life.

Ive worked in very diverse settings where it has

been important for me to understand people from

different backgrounds. I think growing up in the

community that I did pushed me to always want tounderstand other peoples experiences and

perspectives, not solely my own.

Below, you can see my second grade class!

In front of the building

where I grew up in NY,

with a childhood friend.

Iminthethirdrowdownallthewayonthele


4/22


I feel like Ive been preparing

for this moment since then.

After graduating from high

school, I was very focused on

getting through college, going to

graduate school, starting my

career, and buying a home. I

wanted to do all of those things

to prepare myself to be a great

mom to my child when the timewas right.

For years adoption has felt right to me. Ive nevertried to get pregnant; I always thought I would

create a family this way.

I believe it is important for my child to know his or

her birthmother and birth family. We will all be

important parts of this childs family.

Id like to keep in touch and see each other at least

once a year, if this is something that you might

enjoy as well!

In addition to that, I hope we can talk on the phone,

send emails, and share pictures and information

online. Two of my close friends created their family

through Adoption Consultants, Inc., and have a

wonderful relationship with their sons birthmother.

They visit her once a year. She and her family are

an extended part of their family.Temporary foster baby Ruby


5/22


As practice for when I become a mom,

Ive fostered two children who were in

need of a temporary home. One was ateenager named Michael, and the

other was a baby, Ruby. I was happy to

be able to provide a loving and stable

home for those two children during

intense transitions in their lives. I

loved having them here and sharing

my home, and it has only made me

even more excited to become a motherto my own, permanent child now!

Through those experiences I learned that

open adoption really does feel right to me.

I want to know my child from birth, and be

able to provide him or her with contact with

their biological family.

Temporary foster baby Ruby

My nephew

Camilo

helping

feed foster

baby Ruby

Temporary foster child Michael with his trumpet


6/22


I grew up in a very loving

family in New York City, and

since then weve all relocated to

the San Francisco Bay Area.

I share a two family house with

my sister Danielle and her

family. I drive my nephews

Camilo and Diego to school

several days a week, and spend

lots of time with them.

Our parents Mark and Barbara

live an hour away, and visit us

every week.

Our grandfather Popi, whos

96, lives just a few blocks away.

Me with my parents Barbara and Mark

My mom and sister laughing

My parents on their recent trip to Japan


7/22


In the summer, mygrandfather loves to go with

us to outdoor movies in the

parks near our house. We

usually bring a picnic

dinner, and my nephews

play with their friends

until the movie starts.

Once the sun goes down,we bundle up and drink

hot chocolate! Last

summer we saw Up and

Kung Fu Panda 2.

Getting ready for the movie in the park with my grandfather Popi

My home is walking distance from

parks, playgrounds, the library, great

schools, stores and restaurants.


8/22


Mima, as my

nephews call my

mother, loves to do art

activities with Camilo

and Diego. She bringsover paints, markers,

glue, ribbon, glitter,

and old paper towel

rolls, egg cartons

anything they can get

creative with!

My parents live

about an hour away

in Santa Cruz, a

beach town with a

fun boardwalk with

roller coasters,

bumper cars, and

lots of other rides

and games.

I hope one day my

child and my

nephews will take

surf lessons out

there, while

spending time with

their grandparents.

My mom and Dad visit every

weekend. Here my dad Mark

is holding my nephew Diego.

My mom doing art with my nephews in my backyard


9/22


In front of the Washington Monument with

my nephews Diego and Camilo and our

cousin Lucas.

Last summer we took a

trip to Washington,

DC. It is important to

me to take my child to

see our nations capital

as well.

My nephews Camilo and

Diego at the National Zoo

in Washington DC

Camilo and I had fun building an electric

car at a local science museum

Two summersago I took Camilo

to visit cousins at

the beach in

Cape Cod. This

was his first

lobster.

I take my nephews to

lots of fun places!


10/22


I was married for seven years, and we were in

the process of trying to adopt a child. We were

working within the foster care system, but a

year into that process, we realized that even

though we really loved each other, there were

things we each wanted that we couldnt give

each other. He was having cold feet about

becoming a parent, while I was sure becoming

a parent was precisely what I wanted to do.

In fact, Id been waiting for years.

That was three years ago, and we are still

friends. We share our sweet dog Lulu, whospends time with each of us at home.

Lulu is now five years old, and very sweet and

gentle. On weekends, friends and I take her on

trailhikesinthelargeparksinourarea.Sheloves

to run around, sniff everything, and play with

otherdogs.

SheandmynephewCamilohaveaspecial

bondhelovestoplayfetchwithherinour

backyard,andhesneaksherlittlesnacks

whenImnotlooking!


11/22


"Eve and I met 15 years ago when we were

teaching and I was pregnant with my 3rd child.We quickly became close friends, and shes

played a special role in our family's life since

then.

Eve was in the hospital with my husband and I

for Jordans birth, and she helped us through

many parenting moments when our older boys

were teenagers. We sent our boys to the high

school she was working at because it was such

a great public school and we knew shed keep

an eye out for them. When they started college,

they moved into theapartment above her house,

so they could have their first

experience of living separately from

us, as adults, but with family close

by. I cant wait to be 'Auntie' Soraya

and support Eve in motherhood, the

same way she has for me."

With Sorayas family for a birthday

celebration at their house

Me and one of my closest friends

Soraya at the iceskating rink

One of my other close friends Michelle is a

runner. One day, I brought her kids Joey and

Ty to watch her finish a half marathon in San


12/22

We always celebrate Christmas with my moms

side of the family.

I cant wait to share these traditions with my child.

I know well bake cookies, decorate the house, and

sing carols together.

My sister Danielle and I at

Christmas when we were kids

"My sister is my best friend. Shes one of the warmest, smartest, most generous people I

know. When my babies were born, she was there with me, helping at each step as I got

used to being a mom. Now my 2 sons constantly run back and forth to their Tia Eves

house. They love having her read, play games, do arts and crafts, and cook with them.

When its her turn to become a mom, Ill be there for her, 24/7. I cant wait to meet my

new niece or nephew!"

One of our handmade

Christmas ornaments

My sister Danielle and I at

Christmas last year


13/22

Every fall, we take my

nephews to a harvest

festival on a farm in

Santa Cruz, nearwhere my parents

live.

Over the years, weve

developed really fun

traditions, including

our annual

Halloween dinner

and trick or

treating.

We all dress up in costumes, including my grandfather

Popi, who always dresses as a pirate! We live in a

neighborhood that has lots of families, and we get lots

of trick-or-treaters.

At our annual Halloween party, heres Popi, my godson Jordan, and his dad Greg.

Im holding our friend Asha, and my sister Danielle is holding Camilo.

My nephews choosing pumpkins and gourds


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We also have a great yard for birthday parties, and the

kids always love a piata. At Diegos 5th birthday party

he really tried to break it, but it took all of the kids tofinally get it open. My sister Danielle is a great baker

and she always makes homemake cakes.

I really love feeding people and

making sure everyone is

having a good time, so when we

have parties like this, Im

usually the hostess. I runaround and make sure

everyone has what

they need and make

sure theres enough

food out. Its nice to

have family and

friends here, and to

watch our friends

children grow and

change. I will be so

happy when my

child will be here to

join in all the fun!

In our backyard, my godson Jordan

painted the kids faces, and they all

jumped in the bouncy house for hours!

Here, one of my nieces Alina and I were looking

longingly at the chocolate cake Danielle made for

Diego, which was amazing!

My nephew Diego hitting his piata


15/22

Every year we dye eggs with the kids

a few days before Easter. My sister

always hides eggs, candy and Easter

baskets, and they have fun searching

for them.

Later in the day, we get together

with my parents and grandfather for

an Easter meal, and spend the rest

of the day as a family.

Eating my homemade holiday soup!These holiday traditions from

both religions remind me to

make the world a better place.

This is one of the values Ilearned from my parents, and

it guides my life.

I plan to teach all of these

traditions and values to

my child.

My nephews Camilo and Diego on Easter morning

We are Christian and Jewish, from New York, California and

Chile. We speak English and Spanish, and celebrate Christmas

and Hanukkah, Easter and Passover, July 4th as well as Chilean

Independence Day.


16/22

I have worked in schools in San Francisco

and Oakland that are doing dynamic,

creative work with young people. I loved

it, but now that Im hoping to become a

new mom, I left my position as principal

last year. Being a principal of a high

school is a pretty demanding position, and

it doesnt leave a lot of time to raise a

child.

I now have a much more flexible job evaluating schools in my district. My new position

lets me get home by early afternoon and have weekends and holidays off, as well as

several weeks in the summer. In addition to having much more free time to be a mom,

this position is giving me the chance to get to know all of the elementary schools in my

area which will be very important in choosing the best school for my child! It is

important to me that my child attends a school with a strong academic program and

arts classes. Its important to me that learning is fun and interesting! I will send him

or her to a school where children treat each other kindly and are taught to resolvetheir conflicts with words. Im looking forward to volunteering in my childs classroom,

because I know how helpful that is to teachers, and Im excited to watch my child grow

and learn at school, as well as at home.

For the past 16 years, I have worked

as a middle and high school teacher

and as a high school principal.

Becoming a mom is

now my top priority!

On a field trip to SanFrancisco withmy students a few years ago.


17/22

People who

work with meknow that I

will fight for

what I believe

to be right.

I have strong

opinionsabout

education, but

I can also be silly

and make

everyone laugh.

Photos from

my years of

teaching and

being a

principal.


18/22

Last year, one of my former students was finishing college and living with his

family. Hes lucky to have a large and loving family, but with his siblings, their

friends, his little sister, his older sisters baby, and a cousin who just came from

Mexico, it was hard for him to study at home and he wanted to finish his last

semester of college strong. He stayed with me for several months as he finished

college. This is how I

live. When someone

needs something, if I

can give it, I do.

When Huber was in

10th grade, he was

having a hard time

watching many of his

friends from

elementary school drop

out of high school and

become involved with

illegal activity.

He wanted to travel and see a different part of the world, and so my family

connected him with the people we know in Chile. He spent the summer there,

living with a family and going to school, and it changed his perspective. He

hadnt known many middle class professional Latinos before that, and I didntwant him to think that there arent any! I didnt want him to think he had to

act white to go to college or do something important with his life.

He returned from that summer knowing that he can be Latino and be a

success, and he has been!

In this photo, my student Huber was presenting his

Senior Project here we are with another teacher.


19/22

Eve has played a key role in my personal and professional and

academic life. She plays the role of a second mother in my life, and

I know she does that for many other former students as well. While

in my last semester of college at UC Berkeley, four years after

graduating from MetWest High School where she was my teacher

and then my principal, she allowed me to stay with her while I was

struggling and facing many obstacles.

My mom was relieved that Eve helped

me out. She has known Eve since I was

in 10th grade, and trusts her

completely. She knew Eve would

watch out for me like I was her own

child, and help me finish college andfigure out the next steps in becoming

an adult. My mom immigrated here

from Mexico, doesnt speak much

English, and didnt go to college, so

knowing adults like Eve has been

really important to our whole family.

In my last semester of college I was

facing a huge crossroads in my life, and

I wasnt always making good decisions. Eve treated me withkindness, and provided me with feedback that was hard to hear

sometimes, but was indeed helpful. I stayed with her for six months

and in addition to finishing college I made great personal positive

leaps in my life.

While I was living with her she provided me with advice when I felt

ungrounded and not myself. Besides letting me stay in her extra

bedroom (her future babys room), she pushed me to be my best self

just like she did when I was her high school student.

I love her so much for the nurturing and unconditional love she has

given me, and that she gives all of her students. When I needed a

place to stay to finish college, Eve is one of the adults that I thought

might help me, and she did. Shes that kind of person. She has one

of the biggest hearts, can make you laugh even when youre crying,

and I admire her SO much. Someday, I hope to be as wise and

loving as she is.

Right after I gave Huber his high

school diploma as his principal


20/22

Ive traveled to France, Spain,

Jamaica, and Hungary with my

family.

Ive visited Cambodia, Mexico,and Costa Rica with friends.

I love visiting different places,

and cant wait to take my child to

some of my favorite spots around

the world!

Ive taken students with me to

present about our unique andsuccessful school at Education

conferences in Australia and

Denver, Colorado.

Over the years I have sung in

several groups, which have taken

me to England, Mexico, and Chile

to perform. For five years I sang

in a Latin American musical

group, and we traveled to Chile

and Mexico to perform. When we

were in Chile, I got to meet my

brother in laws whole family.

Here I am with a group of dance

students in Cambodia.

Last year I had the opportunity

to attend a conference for

principals in Rio de Janiero. I

traveled with several other

principals from Oakland, and

we had an amazing time

comparing the public

education systems in California

and Brazil.

We really did

have class on

the beach in

Brazil! Here Iam with

colleagues

discussing

essays wed

written while

enjoying fresh

coconut water!

In this picture, I was

in Chiapas, Mexico

visiting an

indigenous

community it may

have been the only

time in my life when

I was considered

tall!!!


21/22

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Over the years, Ive

been at the births of

both of my nephews,

as well as a number

of friends children. I

love spending time

with the kids in my

life, and know that I

really want to be

more than an aunty

to a little person.

Ive wanted to become a mom through adoption since my early twenties, when I

realized that my strong desire to be a mom didnt need to come through having myown child, nor being married. Ive traveled around the world and seen many

children in orphanages. Ive worked with many children in the foster care system,

and have close friends who were adopted themselves, as well as those who have

adopted children.

One of my closest friends placed her first

child with another family when she was

younger, and so I have always had a deep

appreciation for the love and courage of

women who make this choice.

I know that love is what makes a

family, and I am excited to share

my love and my family and

community with a child.

Sitting with my sister Danielle holding my

nephew Diego. He was 1 week old!

Reading to my friends twin daughters


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I hope youve gotten a sense of who I am, and the kind of mother Ill be. The

baby who comes into my life will also get my whole wonderful community of

family and friends, and they will have a full and rich life.

Im very excited to meet you, and to learn what your hopes and dreams are

for this special little baby.

I believe each child is unique and arrives in this life with special

characteristics, talents and passions, and that each one will follow a unique

path in their lives. I believe that the adults in their lives (parents, aunties

and uncles, grandparents, teachers and coaches) all need to recognize whatis special about each child, and nurture and support them.

I am so excited to bring a baby into my life and my home. I'm looking

forward to sharing in all the joys of life, and being there to comfort her or

him in the difficult moments. I know this is going to be an amazing and

wonderful journey.

I cant wait to hear from you!

Please contact me through Adoption Consultants

Inc., 1-800-605-4588

www.adoptionconsultantsinc.com

You can also check me out at: www.facebook.com/AdoptionHelpEveMakeAFamily

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