AA Man’s Man, the Bible Way

The role of the man

Headship:Husband or father that does not exercise headship, slanders God

and jeopardise his and family’s eternity.

Boys in fatherless home

* 5 times more likely to commit suicide* 9 times more likely to drop out of school* 20 times more likely to end up in jail

Girls brought up in one parent homes are:

* 2.5 times more likely to get pregnant

Peer Pressure:

We are twisting the Bible to conform to our modern godless society.

The world is so perverse that Jesus had to say even of his own highly devout society, “What is highly valued among men is detestable in God’s sight,” (Luke 16:15).

And the Lord Almighty said:

Isaiah 66:2 . . . This is the one I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word.

Proverbs 16:32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.

Attitude:Philippians 2:5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ

Jesus: (6) Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, (7) but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. (8) And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death – even death on a cross!

Emphasise the point:

To drive home the unbreakable connection between great husbands and humble, selfless Christlikeness, in the very passage where husbands are told they are the head of their wives, just as Christ is head, husbands are commanded to love their wives “just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . .” (Ephesians 5:24).

Forgotten role of the head:Headship=Leadership

No head=Death

Colossians 2:19 . . . the Head, from whom the whole body . . . grows . . .

Ephesians 4:15 . . . we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. (16) From him the whole body . . . grows and builds itself up . . .

Forgotten role of the head:Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ

is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

• Head facilitate growth

• Continuously promoting and nurturing the wife’s spiritual, emotional and intellectual development enabling her to keep rising to new heights

If you are the head, what are you continually doing to promote your wife’s growth as a

person?

The Head:Man=Head

Woman= Body

Inter dependant

1 Corinthians 11:11 In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman.

True leadership:Marriage = 2 becoming 1

“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it” (1 Corinthians 12:26).

God expects the following:

Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

You are born for greatness and to be the

Head of astounding wife – rise to

greatness

Authority:God’s decision

Num 30, 1 Pet 3:1-6

Revelations refers to Christ’s bride, husband/wife relationship

Matthew 20:25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. (26) Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, (27) and whoever wants to be first must be your slave – (28) just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Greater the authority, greater the accountability before God who gave the authority.

A perk or grave responsibility:

Man is responsible for the physical, intellectual, sexual, emotional, and spiritual well-being of God’s very own daughter.

To be loaned God’s own daughter is nothing short of a holy and fearful responsibility.

Some poor men might think they have a “mother-in-law from hell” but it is far more disturbing to have a Father-in-law from heaven.

You cannot relinquish your headship

How to lead:By example

Christ the ultimate example

“Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ,” (1 Corinthians 11:1).

Peter said leaders should be “. . . eager to serve, not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock” (1 Peter 5:3)

Husbands lead wife’s into submission by how they submit to authority and they submit to their own wife’s

God’s law:

Treat others as I want them to treat me

The weaker vessel:Authority to me to serve my wife

God answers prayers but:

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (8) Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. (9) Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.

If abdicate role, thretens to sabotage spiritual life

Conclusion:

Submit to each other, deny yourself, treat other as you want to be treated

Misuse your position, on collision course with wife’s Avenger

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

A truly courageous, Godlike man refuses the cowardly way of crushing his wife’s personality and bullying her into

submission. On the contrary, he is a leader’s leader who inspires love and devotion by his sheer nobility, integrity and

selflessness.

Step up to your God intended position

It’s not about him…it’s about Him!

Submission… Yes Lord!

It is the back bone of every marriage and family in the

church and bigger society.

Ephesians 5:24

Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

1 Peter 5:5-6

Likewise, younger ones, be subject to older ones, and all being subject to one another. Put on humility. For God resists proud

ones, but He gives grace to the humble.

Therefore be humbled under the mighty hand of God, so that He may exalt you in due time,

Submission:

Is the voluntary placement of oneself under the authority or leadership of another.

Pride

Is undue confidence in and attention to our own skills. It is the opposite of humility. Pride is

rebellion against God.

Humility

Is to be free from arrogance and pride and having all accurate estimate of one’s own worth.

Submission is God’s Idea…

Isa 55:8 For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor your ways My ways, says Jehovah.

Isa 55:9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways,

and My thoughts than your thoughts.

It all started at the very beginning

Gen 2:18 And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will

make a helper suitable for him.

1Co 11:3 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the

head of Christ is God. 1Co 11:8 For the man is not of the woman,

but the woman of the man. 1Co 11:11 But neither is the man without

the woman, nor the woman without the man, in the Lord.

Where the problem started

Gen 3:16 To the woman He said, I will greatly increase your sorrow and your conception. In pain you shall bear sons, and your desire shall be toward your husband, and he shall

rule over you.

Gen 4:5 but He did not have respect to Cain and to his offering. And Cain glowed with anger, and his face fell.

Gen 4:6 And Jehovah said to Cain, Why have you angrily glowed? And why did your face fall?

Gen 4:7 If you do well, shall you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin crouches at the door; and its desire is for you, and you shall rule over it.

Submission = Humility

Col 3:17 And everything, whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by Him.

Col 3:18 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as is becoming in the Lord. Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them.

Luke 2:51 … and was subject to them.

Phil 2:5-7 For let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, Php 2:6 who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God,

Php 2:7 but made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Himself the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men.

An Unsaved Husband…

Submission may include the heart breaking but not the life threatening.

2 Cor 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

1 Peter 3:1-5 Likewise, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that if any do not obey the Word, they may also be won without

the Word by the conduct of the wives, 1Pe 3:2 having witnessed your chaste behavior in the fear of God. 1Pe 3:3 Of whom let not be the adorning of garments, or outward

braiding of hair and wearing of gold, or of putting on clothing, 1Pe 3:4 but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not

corruptible, the meek and quiet spirit, which is of great price in the sight of God.

1Pe 3:5 For so once indeed the holy women hoping in God adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands;

God said it…

I believe it…

that settles it!!!!

Word of Warning:

Eph. 5: 21: Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

1Ch 16:22 saying, Touch not My anointed, and do My prophets no harm.

Psa 105:15 saying, Touch not my anointed, and do My prophets no harm.

Final thoughts…

Rom. 13: 1 LET EVERY person be loyally subject to the governing (civil) authorities. For there is no authority except from God [by His permission,

His sanction], and those that exist do so by God’s appointment.

Ladies keep in mind that when we take a step away from God’s design for relationships,

we take a step toward conflict…

If you’d like to see your husband in “the driver’s seat”, first make sure it’s not already taken!

MEN ARE TO LEAD AND LOVE.

WIVES ARE TO SUBMIT AND FOLLOW

Submission is not what you do but what you are- it’s an attitude of your heart.

Jesus was our example in Submitting to the Father… just follow Him…