emotional competency - glossary

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GlossaryMany of the words used throughout these web pages are briefly defined here.

Many are linked to web pages discussing the concept in depth.

Words with multiple contrasting meanings are also listed as multiplexed words.

Aggression:

Any behavior directed toward the goal of harming or injuring another living being.

Alexithymia:

Difficulty in experiencing, expressing, and describing emotional responses.

Alliance:

Any situation where one individual benefits from the support of another against a third party.

Altruism:

An ongoing pattern of good deeds.

Ambivalence

The simultaneous coexistence of opposing attitudes or feelings, such as love and hate, toward a person,

object, or idea.

Amnesty:

A general pardon for past offenses. A variant offorgiveness.

Annoyance:

A mild form ofanger.

Anger:An emotion triggered by a loss attributed to a willful and unjust agent.

Anger Display:

Shouting, threatening, or becoming violent or abusive as an expression of anger or dominance.

Anxiety:

Emotional response to an uncertain threat.

Appeasement:

To pacify; to create peace, quiet, ease, calm, or contentment. The human smile is a signal of appeasement.

Apology:

A sincere acknowledgement ofresponsibility and wrongdoing

Architecture for Interaction

A particular integrated model for constructive human interaction.

Archetype:

A universally understood symbol, term, or pattern of behavior. A prototype upon which others are copied,patterned, or emulated.

Arrogance:

Synonym for Hubris.

Assumption:

An unfounded belief.

Asymmetrical:

Unbalanced. Uneven. Unequal. Inequitable. Lopsided. One-sided.

Authentic:

Real and accurate. Having a genuine and verifiable origin. Not fake, phony, or counterfeit.

Authentic Person:

Anyone with aligned and congruent self image, stature, and public image. An authentic person understands

their authentic selfand acts congruently with it.Authority:

The right or legitimacy to enforce rules, give orders, or allocate resources. The scope of positional power.

Autonomy:

Acting on our own unfettered choice.

Belief:

A statement, assertion, or theory you accept as true.

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Blame:

Assigning responsibility for a loss.

Bonded Pair Species:

Definition

Bullying

Abuse ofpower.

Calm:

Low activation.

Catharsis:

Purging obstacles to clear thinking.

Change:To transform or convert. To make the future different from the past.

Cheating:

A selfish attempt to break the rules. Riding for free.

Chemistry

Informal and approximate synonym for primal messages

Class:

Assumed privileges.

Classical conditioning

The general phenomenon of learning to associate a new, neutral stimulus (e.g. ringing the bell) with a

previously existing response (e.g. salivation)

Coalition

A combination or alliance, especially a temporary one formed between persons to attain a common goal

Coercion:Using fear or intimidation to attempt to motivate someone or to or reduce their available options.

Condescending:

Implying superior stature. Synonyms include patronizing, snobbish, and arrogant.

Conflict:

Contradiction between goals.

Congruence:

Alignment and agreement

Control:

The ability to change things through voluntary action. Outcomes depend on my actions.

Community:

A group of people where each member has a significant relationship with every other member.

Compassion:

Unconditional kindness.Competence:

successfully meeting an optimum challenge.

Congruence:

Agreement, harmony, alignment, conformity, or correspondence.

Courage:

Value-based action despite temptation.

Debate:

To engage in argument by discussing opposing points

Defiance:

Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of another. [same as rebel?]

Delegate:

To assign work and responsibility to someone else.

Denial:Failure to acknowledge evidence

Desire:

Definition, contrast with goal.

Dialogue:

Thinking together through words. A conversation between two or more people acting as peers. An

exchange of ideas or opinions.

Dignity:

The quality of worth and honor intrinsic to every person. The threshold level ofstature required to meet

basic human needs.

Discussion:

Consideration of a subject by a group. Talk or writing in which the pros and cons of a subject are

considered.

Disrespect:Discounting or challenging the worth, stature, or dominance of another. Refusing to show respect.

Distortions:

Counterfactual thinking.

Dogma:

An assertion supported by power rather than evidence. Inquiry is forbidden. An authoritative principle,

belief, or statement of ideas or opinion, especially one considered to be absolute truth.
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Dominance:

The ability to inflict harm. Power based on force or threat of force.

Dominance Contest:

A test or challenge to the present order of the dominance hierarchy. Disputing your present rank in the

dominance hierarchy. If the challenge succeeds it will reorder the dominance hierarchy. If it fails, it will affirm

the dominance hierarchy.

Dominance Hierarchy:

The socially accepted rank ordering of individuals according to their relative dominance. The network of

relationships indicating what individual submits to what others.

Dyadic Relationship:

A relationship between two entities.Egalitarian:

Demonstrating the equality, especially the equal power, of all people.

Ego:

Synonym for self.

Egotist:

A person for whom maintaining and enhancing favorable views of oneself is primarily important.

Egotism:

Seduced by the first-person viewpoint.

Emotional Competency:

The skills to recognize, interpret, and respond constructively to emotions in yourself and others.

Esteem:

To hold in high regard

Emotion:

A mental state that has a strong feeling component.

Empathy:

A deep appreciation for another's situation and point of view

Evidence:

Observed phenomenon.

Exasperation:

A moderate form ofanger caused by having your patience unduly tried.

Exchange:

To give up one thing for another

FAE:

The Fundamental Attribution Error. Incorrectly attributing an action or intent to an agent.

Face:

A person's sense of honor, dignity, and self-respect.Faith:

A beliefunsupported by evidence.

Ferocity:

An intense form ofanger.

Flow:

The state of gratification we enter when we feel completely engaged in what we are doing. The absence of

emotion or consciousness. Absorption, the loss of consciousness, and the stopping of time.

Forgiveness:

Choosing to overcome your desire for revenge.

Frustration:

A mild form ofanger.

Fury:

An intense form ofanger.Gloating:

Pleased about another's mishap

Goal:

An end state to be attained.

Gratification:

Total absorption and right action.

Gratitude:

Appreciating the kindness of another. Rejoicing in what is

Grieving:

the struggle to prevent the loss.

Guilt:

Failure to meet the another's standard of behavior.

Habituation:Definition - be sure to mention the boiled frog. Use Domjan book

Hebbian Learning

Memories formed in the brain by enhancing the couplings between concurrently firing neurons.

Honor:

Absence ofshame. With dignity.

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s rac sm:

Deliberate and involuntary exclusion from social interactions.

Outrage:

A moderate to strong form ofanger.

Paradox:

An apparent contraction that can be resolved by further insight.

Passive-aggressive:

Hostile inaction. Covert defiance. Stealth spite.

Perception:

Selective focus of attention

Personality Trait:Intrinsic differences.

Personal Power:

Power derived from the intrinsic characteristics and behavior of a person. Contrast this withpositional

power.

Pissed:

A moderate form ofanger.

Pleasure:

Sensory indulgences, immediate delight.

Power:

An asymmetrical dyadic relationship.

Positional Power:

Power derived from a defined role, such as the boss. Contrast this withpersonal power.

Predator:

One that victimizes, plunders, or destroys, especially for one's own gain.

Pride:

Satisfaction from our assessment of an increase in stature

Primal Messaging:

Signaling between the limbic systems of two beings. This s ignaling is often non-verbal, and often takes

place below the level of consciousness.

Primal Thinking:

A simplified form of thinking we often revert to during times offear, anger, hate, or other stress. It is

based on the fallacy of polarized thinking. It often takes the form of simple, absolute, but incorrect rules.

Problem:

A gap between the desired outcome and the actual outcome.

Rage:

An intense form ofanger.

Reactive Offenders:People who are hypersensitive to disparagement and rejection who react violently.

Rebel:

Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of another. Refusal to submit.

Reciprocity:

Mutual exchange.

Reconciliation:

A friendly reunion between opponents after a fight. A bilateral understanding of a consistent or compatible

account of injury or loss. The goals of reconciliation are to ensure non repetition, healing, and healthy co-

existence.

Relevant:

Information or actions that can help or hurt me.

Relatedness:

Definition in the context of self efficacy theory.

Remorse:

Feeling genuinely bad about the hurt you have caused and taking full responsibility for the hurtful choices

you made.

Responsibility:

Having a duty or obligation to act.

Reparations:

Payments intended to compensate a victim for a loss

Retribution

Punishment for unwanted behaviour.

Resentment:

A feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will

Resonance:

Closely interdependent and coordinated movements or vibrations.

Respect:

Acknowledgement of a person's high stature. Acknowledging the dignity of another.

Revenge:

Retaliation for humiliation

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a s arp, tter, or cutt ng express on or remar ; a tter e or taunt.

Scapegoat:

Blaming a Victim for the Group's Misfortune

Self:

Your physical and mental being with all its human and unique characteristics.

Self-efficacy:

Your estimate of your capabilities to handle specific challenges and tasks.

Self-esteem:

Your own appraisal of your actual stature. Your self image.

Self determination theory:

A theory of motivation based on fulfilling the needs for autonomy, competence, and relatedness.Selfish:

Captivated by your first person viewpoint.

Self-justification:

Describing events in a way that preserves our pride and reduces cognitive dissonance

Self-Righteousness:

Confident one is correct; intolerant of the opinions and behavior of others.

Sensitization:

An example of learning in which the progressive amplification of a response follows repeated administrations

of a stimulus.

Snub:

Rejecting someone with distain or contempt.

Shame:

Dissatisfaction from your assessment of a decrease in stature

Should:

A plea to behave according to a particular (often implicit) set of values and beliefs.

Shunning

Strict social rejection and isolation.

Snob:

Selfishly and inappropriately concerned with stature.

Somatic markers

Physiological signals used to make decisions.

Speaking Truth to Power:

Choosing whatis said over who says it.

Spite:

Holding a grudge. Seeking revenge, often via passive aggression.

Staring back a thought:Focusing your attention, at the earliest possible instant, to analyze an impulse or emotion. The goal is to

engage your cognitive abilities to subordinate an impulse to your values.

Status:

Social Rank. Endowed with valuable assets.

Stature:

Level of achievement attained. The ability to help.

Symbol:

Prototypes for Organizing and Extending Memories.

Symmetry:

Apparent balance

Stonewalling:

This cold withdrawal from interaction is an ineffective, destructive, passive-aggressive, response to anger.

Submission:Acknowledging, and acquiescing to, the dominance of another. The opposite of rebellion.

Sulking:

A passive form ofanger

Taboo:

Using power or fear to restrict inquiry.

Team:

A group of people who choose to be united by common goals

Theory of Knowledge:

How we decide what to believe.

Tournament Species:

Tournament species in zoology are those species in which members of one sex (usually males) compete in

order to mate. It may stimulatejealousy.

Trappings of Power:

Symbols, furnishings, accessories, clothes, non-verbal signals, and other items and behaviors associated

with power that work to project a powerful image.

Trespass:

To infringe on the privacy, time, space, or attention of another

Trust:

Relying on another.
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Truth:

Correspondence with reality.

Tyranny:

Unrestrained exercise of power; abuse of authority.

Tyrant:

Anyone who exercises power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive manner. An oppressive, harsh, arbitrary

person.

Value:

A principle considered worthwhile or valuable. A standard of judgment or appraisal. (contrast with belief.)

Vengeance:

Retaliation for humiliation or other injury.Vibes

Informal and approximate synonym for primal messages

Violence:

Harm to another

Vulnerability:

Susceptible to being injured.

Whistleblowing:

A communication intended to expose a wrongdoing by those in power.

Worldview:

Peoples beliefs about the way the world is or should be. Your ideas about how the world works. Formal

definitions include: the fundamental cognitive, affective, and evaluative presuppositions a group of people

make about the nature of things, and which they use to order their lives.

Wrath:An intense form ofanger.

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