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Interpersonal Communication
Emily WurstenLI 802
Emporia State University
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Interpersonal Communication
The basic process of communication begins when a fact is observed or an idea formulated by one person. That person (the sender) decides to translate the observation into a message, and then transmits the message through some communication medium to another person (the receiver). The receiver then must interpret the message and provide feedback to the sender indicating that the message has been understood and appropriate action taken.(Interpersonal Communication Law & Legal Definition)
What is it?
Communicating "one on one" with other human beings is generally referred to as interpersonal communication.(Interpersonal Communication, 2009)
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3 Parts of Interpersonal CommunicationDirect
VerbalIndirect
Body LanguageContext/ Conditions
GenderLocationAgeCulture
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Direct Communication:VerbalIdentify what you
wantMake no
assumptions that people will naturally know what you mean
Ask for what you need
(Fuimano)
What did we fail to communicate to the man taking the picture?
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Voices in the library and what they conveyLoud Voice
ControlPersuasionCompensation for a
perceived flawDrunkHearing loss
•Soft VoiceYou’re in a library
•Rapid Speech• Nervous• Impatient• Excitement• Angry• Drugs• Lying
•Slow Speech• Making an
important point• Sad• Tired or sick• Deep in thought (Dimitrius & Mazzarella, 1998, pp. 108-113)
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Indirect:Body Language
Hunched shoulders- lack of confidence (Reiman, 2007, p. 232)
Hand on Chin- listening and thinking (Reiman, 2007, p. 103)
Crossed arms or holding bag in front of body- closed off (Pease, Pease, 2006, pp. 102)
Shoulder shrug- submissive (Pease, Pease, 2006, pp. 20)
Repetitive motion or Verbal repetition- confusion (Dimitrius,
Mazzarella, 1998, pp. 272)
Turning away or avoiding people- embarrassment (Dimitrius,
Mazzarella, 1998, pp. 274)
Fidgeting or wringing hands- worry (Dimitrius, Mazzarella, 1998, pp. 280)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J37UkFNfIIo&feature=fvwThis video has no words, but you still know what they are thinking, how?
Remember: look for combinations, you can’t read someone by just one sign. I could be wringing my hands because I’m cold
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Indirect:Body Language: for the librarian Negative Body Language
Squinting with tilted head No eye contact Scratching neck or rubbing ears or nose Standing over other person Arms folded(Reiman, 2007, pp. 246-249)
Positive Body Language Palms-up Eye Contact Uncrossed Arms Lean forward to hear Smile Feet Point toward target Mirror body language
(Reiman, 2007, pp. 261-262)
Practice reading body language for 15 minutes a day.Crowd watch, or watch TV with the sound muted.(Pease, Pease, 2006, pp. 29)
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Context:GenderWhat Men should know
If men don’t listen, women think they don’t care If a woman is saying something negative, it doesn’t mean she is
complaining Women talk to relieve stress Just because she doesn’t say anything, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t
have something to say If a woman shares a problem, it doesn’t mean she wants the listener to
solve it or that she can’t solve it herself When women are stressed, small issues can be blown out of proportion The best way to win a woman’s support is to carefully listen and
communicate Women will either not boast of accomplishments or share the credit-
this doesn’t mean she has not accomplished or succeeded at anything.(Gray, 2002)
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Context:GenderWhat women should know
If a man brings up a problem, you can give him advice, but unless he does, he will be annoyed by any help you try to give him
Men define themselves by their actionsMen communicate to solve problems and get tasks done with
no extra wording involvedWhen men grumble, it doesn’t not mean they don’t care or
will not do an asked assignment, often it means he is looking for a solution
If a man asks questions, he is open to learning more and/or even changing his opinion
If a man is withdrawn temporarily, it means he is thinking and will not welcome interruption
(Gray, 2002)
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Context:LocationMake the library conducive to communication
Pictures and color scheme can relax or energizeAdjust the volume of noise in the library
Too quiet and patron is afraid to break it Too loud and patron can’t hear you
Use props to help communicate with patrons Dual monitors at reference desk Make reference desk accessible to handicap patrons
(Andrews, Bowman, & Hanke, 2003)
Get rid of distractions “Good communication is difficult enough. Avoid
putting any additional hurdles in its path.” (Dimitrius & Mazzarella, 1998, pp. 131)
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Context:Character RolesAge http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAj9eQw9Fvo
WWII (my grandpa)“Patriotic, loyal, hard-working, military-style leadership model
(follow orders/no questions), duty”Baby Boomers
“Rebellious, movers and shakers, love/hate authority, optimistic, competitive”
Generation X“skeptical, independent, concerned with self-preservation, sense that
the American dream is unrealistic”
Millennials“global outlook, optimistic, patriotic, fast-paced multitaskers, street
smart, function as a group; 68% rate “listens well” as the number one leadership attribute”
Quotes are from: (Interpersonal Communication: Basic Principles of Interpersonal Communication, 2009)
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Character Roles:CultureLearn about the cultures you serve
Body language How close do you stand? Do you make eye contact? Are there offensive hand gestures to avoid?
Etiquette to follow around the world Respect age Keep hands to yourself and out of pockets Gesture with whole hand, not fingers (avoid those offensive gestures Close mouth when not speaking When shaking hands, return the strength of grip you are given Dress conservatively Don’t tell jokes Address others by their titles eg. Mr., Mrs., Dr., etc.(Leaptrott, 1996, pp. 35)
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ReferencesAndrews, J., Bowman, M., & Hanke, D. (2003). Around the World: Rethinking Reference:
A Case Study At Portland State University's Millar Library. Library Hi Tech News .Communicating Strategically. (2009, August 17). Retrieved April 12, 2010, from University
of Iowa: http://www.cba.uni.edu/Buscomm/Interpersonal/ConflictPrevention.htmDimitrius, J.-E., & Mazzarella, M. (1998). Reading People. New York: Random House, Inc.Fuimano, J. (n.d.). Four Steps to Direct Communication . Retrieved April 12, 2010, from
Hodu.com: http://www.hodu.com/direct.shtmlGray, J. (2002). Mars and Venus in the Workplace. New York: HarperCollins Publisher, Inc.Interpersonal Communication. (2009, August 17). Retrieved April 12, 2010, from University
of Northern Iowa: http://www.cba.uni.edu/Buscomm/Interpersonal/interpers.htmlInterpersonal Communication Law & Legal Definition. (n.d.). Retrieved April 12, 2010,
from US Legal Definitions: http://definitions.uslegal.com/i/interpersonal-communication/
Interpersonal Communication: Basic Principles of Interpersonal Communication. (2009, August 17). Retrieved April 12, 2010, from University of Northern Iowa: http://www.cba.uni.edu/Buscomm/Interpersonal/InterpersonalCommunication.htm
Leaptrott, N. (1996). Rules of the Game: global business protocol. Cincinnati: Thomson Executive Press.
Pease, A., & Pease, B. (2004). The Definitive Book of Body Language. New York: Bantam Dell.
Reiman, T. (2007). The Power of Body Language. New York: Simon & Schuster, Inc.