elements of a working relationship - by simeon adedokun

ELEMENTS OF A WORKING RELATIONSHIP

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BySimeon Adedokun

October 2015

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A working relationship is a value adding relationship that is established on clearly defined purpose and objectives. The objectives are realized on regular basis, for the benefits of the participating partners. Realization of the objectives on regular basis determines the functionality of the relationship.

A WORKING RELATIONSHIP


1.PURPOSE

As said earlier, a working relationship is one that is established on a clearly defined purpose. It thus has target to be reached, which is used as the yard stick for measuring the functionality of the relationship. True understanding of purpose will also help the partners to be objective as they relate. A relationship without a purpose is meaningless.



2.FRIENDSHIP/LOVE

Having the mutual feelings of trust and affection and the healthy behaviour that typify relationships between friends is another central element that keeps a relationship functioning. In more close relationships such as kinship and friendship, feeling and showing great affections are very much important. It reassures partners that somebody is there for them, who cares about them and will not harm but protect them.



3.UNDERSTANDING

Partners in a relationship are individually different from one another–different habits, views, behaviours, and beliefs – and it is extremely difficult, if not impossible, to change who a person really is. Knowledge about who a partner is; how he/she does things; and what your relationship needs are is very important in making a relationship work. A true partner is someone who gives the other partner total freedom to be himself/herself most times, and by so doing make him/her become a better person.



4.FORGIVENESS

Understanding helps the process of forgiveness. When you develop the ability to know how someone else is feeling or what their situation is, you can forgive them if they do something wrong. Everyone needs to learn to forgive others in order to keep their relationship functioning.



5.COMMUNICATION

The role of communication in a relationship cannot be over emphasized. It is required to have a strong and healthy relationship. Nothing comes before it and nothing replaces it in a relationship. The biggest communication problem we have is that we listen to our impulses and react without understanding. There is no communication without understanding and feedback. In order to enjoy a happy and working relationship, ensure effective communication even when you are disagreeing with your partner.


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6.TRUST

Although it is becoming increasingly difficult to trust anyone these days due to the level of corruption around us, holding to the principle that we should trust God and investigate others, trust is central to making a relationship work. There are some points in our lives when we need to trust some people or just give them benefit of the doubt. A true relationship starts with trust, and the same trust is needed to sustain it and make it work. Trust is easy to earn and easy to lose if not nurtured with loyalty. Trust actually brings about fulfillment of purpose in a relationship.



7.RECIPROCITY

A relationship that is said to be a working one should involve mutual exchange of favours, privileges and obligations. A relationship where only one party performs all the responsibilities and gives favours at all times is usually boring. A relationship should benefit all partners involved and harm none.



8.RESPECT

Respect, they say, is reciprocal. It is a feeling of admiration and deference toward a partner. To command respect, you need to respect others especially a partner in a relationship. Prioritizing a partner can help to show respect for him/her.



9.COMMITMENT: INVESTMENT AND

SACRIFICEEntering into a relationship is an investment of your life into your partner’s and your partner’s into yours. It involves sacrifice of things that are valuable or important to you. It is actually rewarding if established on a good purpose. A relationship without commitment from one of the parties is not satisfying to the other party/parties involved, negating reciprocity. Every relationship has what it takes – time, energy or other resources–to run effectively to fulfill its purpose. Partners involved in any relationship should be committed



and devoted to taking up their responsibilities towards making the relationship functioning and better on regular basis.

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes but no plans.” - Peter Drucker



10.APPRECIATION

Everyone needs to appreciate and be appreciated. Appreciation goes a long way in keeping a relationship running. Always appreciate your partner and don’t take his favours and kind actions for granted. Value your partner’s qualities highly and always express it to him/her.



11.GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT

Any relationship that does not cause increase, situational changes and progress in some aspects of partners’ lives is not worth continuing. If you engage in any kind of relationship (kinship, friendship or business) that adds no value to your life, it is advisable you quit.



We need one another to grow in life. We engage in different kinds of relationships including kinship (relation by blood or marriage), friendship, and business relationships at some points to satisfy some needs, improve our status and cause change and progress in various aspects of our lives. When entering into a relationship, everyone should ensure that there is a clearly defined purpose for the relationship so that the expected result can be achieved out of it. Purpose gives direction of actions towards achieving a desired result. In addition, every party should be ready to give their relationship what it takes to keep functioning as expected in order to meet their relationship needs.

CONCLUSION


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Simeon Ayoade Adedokun2015


Adedokun, S. (2015). Courtship is Essential. Ogbomosho, Nigeria: SIMDOL Plus.

Adedokun, S. (2015). Determine to Make Your Marriage Work. Ogbomosho, Nigeria: SIMDOL Plus.

WORK CITED


Man is created a social being that cannot live a fulfilled life without relating in a community of men. No matter how generally social a man maybe in a large community, he will still have a small group of close friends or a person he/she relates with independently [consciously or unconsciously] at some points, even if he/she is a Lone Ranger. Invariably, we need one another directly or indirectly in our life journeys, therefore it should be borne in mind that every relationship (be it kinship, friendship, or business relationship) should be endeavored to satisfy a particular reason. It is so disheartening that some people

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enter into, and some are still in, relationships that neither add value to their lives nor the lives of their partners. When entering into a relationship, ensure that it is a functioning one that can add values to the lives of others as you add value to your own life.

Simeon AdedokunOctober 2015

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Simeon Ayoade Adedokun is a teacher, facilitator, motivational speaker, ICT Professional, Entrepreneur and Career Builder and an Author. He has written books and articles on different subjects.Simeon is an efficient, organized, accomplished and proactive professional with an entrepreneurial and teaching spirit, and unrivaled drive with strong administrative background; possessing a proven ability to contribute to an organization at both strategic and operational level when delivering management and teaching strategies, and ICT operations.

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