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<ul><li><p>Effective Parent Communication:</p><p>Exploring basic concepts of effective communication aimed at enhancing the parent-child relationship</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>The family is the first school in emotional efficiency- Dr Rina De Klerk; Dr R Le Roux emotional intelligence: a practical guide for teachers and parents</p><p>a healthy family ethos is thus deeply embedded in learning to recognise the value of emotions by showing empathy and listening carefully </p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>Why Is Effective Communication Important?We love our children &amp; want them to grow up happy healthy &amp; responsibleOur children love us &amp; want our guidance, approval &amp; supportHow, what &amp; when we communicate helps determine how our children will communicate with othersChildren learn values from our words, our tones, our postures through these we send messages to our children about our own beliefs &amp; valuesOur children need sound communication skills in order to problem-solve in a positive, healthy &amp; affirming manner</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>Healthy parent-child communication is pivotal to the development of a positive sense of self</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>4 Critical Developmental FrequenciesCompetency: developing skills, abilities &amp; strengths to function independently Normality: learning to feel comfortable &amp; at ease with his/her body, thoughts &amp; feelingsSelf-extension: learning to contribute to family &amp; society, developing values such as responsibility, respect (boundaries) &amp; honesty; developing skills of intimacy for healthy relationshipsSelf-worth: learning to trust &amp; be trust-worthy; learning to communicate needs, feelings &amp; desires appropriately; learning to listen to, value &amp; understand the needs of others </p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>Am I competent?What do I do well?Am I normal?Am I like everyone else?Am I loving?Am I capable of loving others?</p><p>Am I lovable?Am I loved by others?</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>JudgingRejectingBlaming/CriticizingLabelingTransferringOrderingThreatening/BribingWafflingNaggingActingListeningPraisingFeelingRespectingTrustingAffirmingReflectingClarifyingActing</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>ACTIVE LISTENING</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>The Parent as Emotional CoachBecome aware of your childs emotions. Listen empathically, validate feelings. (Want to tell me about it?)Recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy &amp; teach new skills, accept their feelings as feelings. (Dont say, Of course you dont hate your teacher! What a terrible thing to say!)Help your child find words to label the emotion he/she is experiencing. (Tell me the name of the feeling)Help your child to talk about &amp; test their perceptions. (Why do you think he doesnt like you?)Encourage your child not to act on initial feelings, but to allow time to think through the larger picture. (Write down what you want to say, but hang onto to it &amp; see how you feel about it in the morning, parking-lot technique)Set limits to solve the problem at hand not all behaviour is acceptable. (Time-out, blowing-off, journal-entry etc)</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>Emotional Coaching Strategies</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li><li><p>Always RememberYour power base is the emotional bond you share with your childTalk, listen, encourage intimacy, dont forget to dream, be patient,mind the post-boxand sometimes just hug!</p><p>SOA_Psychology Dept_2006</p></li></ul>


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