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When Teachers and Parents Work TogetherWhen Teachers and Parents Work Together
A A h D l C l L f Sk llAn Approach to Developing Critical Life Skills for All Children
Lynnette ChristensenLynnette ChristensenPaul Caldarella
K. Richard YoungJohn Wilkinson
D id O M K S h l f Ed iDavid O. McKay School of EducationBrigham Young University
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IntroducingIntroducing
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A More Civil Teaching and Learning A More Civil Teaching and Learning En ir nm nt in th S h l nd H mEn ir nm nt in th S h l nd H mA More Civil Teaching and Learning A More Civil Teaching and Learning
En ir nm nt in th S h l nd H mEn ir nm nt in th S h l nd H mEnvironment in the School and HomeEnvironment in the School and HomeEnvironment in the School and HomeEnvironment in the School and Home
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Today’s Presentation
1. The need and benefits of improved behavior at home pand school.
2. Where does it begin?2. Where does it begin?
3. The positive behavior research.
4. Five effective tools.
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1 The need for and benefits of improved1 The need for and benefits of improved1. The need for and benefits of improved 1. The need for and benefits of improved behaviorbehavior in the home and in the home and schoolschool
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The Stakes are High, but . . .The Stakes are High, but . . .
“I need not remind you that the cities ofI need not remind you that the cities of America are in trouble…the problems will largely continue until many more people get at the root That root I believe lies inget at the root. That root, I believe, lies in two places: in our schools and in our homes.” Gordon B. Hinckley
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. . . So are the Possible Benefits. . . So are the Possible Benefits. . . So are the Possible Benefits. . . So are the Possible Benefits
Problem behaviors at home and at h l b d dschool can be prevented or corrected.
Children naturally want to please their parents or the teachers they likeparents or the teachers they like.
Adults are seen as a trusted source of help.of help.
Children will respond more positively to modeling.g
Students are more willing to spend time with positive adults.
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We Invite You to Help Us We Invite You to Help Us ppReachReach Our Our DreamDream
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Our Dream is to Teach Every Our Dream is to Teach Every FFamilyamily and and Teacher in the WorldTeacher in the World how to Build Positivehow to Build PositiveTeacher in the World Teacher in the World how to Build Positive how to Build Positive
and Civil and Civil RelationshipsRelationships
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2 Where do we begin?2 Where do we begin?2. Where do we begin?2. Where do we begin?
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Positive Relationships Positive Relationships Positive Relationships Positive Relationships ppBegin with YouBegin with You
ppBegin with YouBegin with You
It Begins with Youg
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Setting the StageSetting the StageSetting the StageSetting the Stage
A Nurturing Disposition
Heart
Head Actions
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An Example No Matter WhatAn Example No Matter WhatAn Example, No Matter WhatAn Example, No Matter What
The Reciprocal Nature of Being aN i PNurturing Parent
Children are Little Mirrors
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Confronting the PastConfronting the PastConfronting the PastConfronting the Past
Learning from the past.
The past is a:The past is a:• Source of some of our approaches as
parents and teachersp• Learning experience about the impact
or the result of harsh or ineffective teaching and parenting practices
• Motivator for changing our own h i h d hildapproach with our students or children
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3. Positive Behavior Support Research3. Positive Behavior Support Research
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What is Positive Behavior Support?What is Positive Behavior Support?What is Positive Behavior Support?What is Positive Behavior Support?
5%Tertiary__Tertiary__
15% Overview of Positive Behavior SupportSecondary__Secondary__
80%
1. Build Relationships2. Establish Expectations
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PrimaryPrimary 80% 3. Teach Appropriate Behavior4. Reinforce Appropriate
Primary_____Primary_____
Behavior5. Apply Data-Driven
I iInterventions
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F nd ti n f P iti B h i r S pp rtF nd ti n f P iti B h i r S pp rtFoundations of Positive Behavior SupportFoundations of Positive Behavior Support
h l l d fBehavior is largely a product of its immediate environment.
h l l d bBehavior ultimately responds better to positive rather than negative consequences.
L b k l d lLearning best takes place under pleasant circumstances.
Th ff i hThe most effective way to change inappropriate behavior is to teach and praise
appropriate behavior.appropriate behavior.
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Guiding Principles of Positive Behavior SupportSupport
All youth can learn.
Problem behaviors often result from inappropriate learning and can be
corrected.
Adults must adopt high expectations for civil behavior.
l d b ldInstruction must include building skills critical to success in life.
C h lCreate teaching or learning opportunities frequently (Carpe
Diem).Diem).
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4 Fi Eff ti4 Fi Eff ti T lT l4. Five Effective4. Five Effective ToolsTools
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Introducing You Can Do ThisIntroducing You Can Do This
Success Comes in
“Cans”
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Five Effective Tools for Building Five Effective Tools for Building Five Effective Tools for Building Five Effective Tools for Building ggNurturing Nurturing FamilesFamiles
ggNurturing Nurturing FamilesFamiles
1. Building Positive Relationships
2. Preventing and Correcting Misbehavior
3. Giving Encouragement and Praise
4. Expressing Gratitude
5. Showing Kindness
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Building Positive Building Positive RelationshipsRelationshipsBuilding Positive Building Positive RelationshipsRelationships
1. What is a positive relationship?p
2. What are the benefits?
3. How do we build one?
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What is a Positive Relationship?What is a Positive Relationship?What is a Positive Relationship?What is a Positive Relationship?
How would you describe a
Mutual TrustKind
ypositive relationship?
RespectConsiderationEncouraging
OpenConsiderationLoving
Validating
OpenFun
CourteousValidatingSafe
Courteous
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B n fit f P iti R l ti n hipBenefits of Positive Relationships
Students naturally want to please teachers they like
Adults become a trusted source of helpAdults become a trusted source of helpThe effectiveness of modeling is
enhancedStudents are more willing to spend time
with teachers they like
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How do How do StudentsStudents Like to be Treated?Like to be Treated?How do How do StudentsStudents Like to be Treated?Like to be Treated?
What behaviors to students like and dislike in adults?
Calm, pleasant voice toneOffers to help
Compliments performance
Overt displays of angerAccusing/blaming statements
Giving no opportunities to speak
Positive Behaviors Negative Behaviors
Compliments performanceFairness
Explaining why, how, or what
Giving no opportunities to speakMean insulting remarks
Unpleasant physical contactPositive Behaviors Negative Behaviors
ConcernEnthusiasmPoliteness
Lack of fairnessBossy, demanding
UnpleasantGetting right to the pointPleasant facial expression
S i i
pTalking only about mistakes
No eye contactStating expectationsAdapted from Willner, et al. (1977)
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Ways to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive Relationships
The Relationship Bank
DepositsEach interaction with another person isEach interaction with another person is
an opportunity to make a deposit in your relationship bank account by
doing something positive.do g so et g pos t ve.
WithdrawalsSaying or doing something negative y g g g g
results in a withdrawal from yourrelationship bank account.
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Ways to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive Relationships8:18:1
Ways to Build Positive RelationshipsWays to Build Positive Relationships8:18:1
We need to make MORE DEPOSITS than withdrawals.
f f d dEven if criticism is justified, it needs to be balanced out with
EIGHTEIGHTmore positives than negatives
8 18:1POSTIVES TO NEGATIVES
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More Specific Ways to Build PositiveMore Specific Ways to Build PositiveMore Specific Ways to Build PositiveMore Specific Ways to Build PositiveMore Specific Ways to Build Positive More Specific Ways to Build Positive RelationshipsRelationships
More Specific Ways to Build Positive More Specific Ways to Build Positive RelationshipsRelationships
What do you say? What are some additional y yways to build positive relationships?
• Seek opportunities to interact
• Develop common interestsp
• Display concern for well-being
• Express confidence and trustExpress confidence and trust
• Ask child or student for help or advice
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How toHow toHow toHow toHow to How to Build Positive RelationshipsBuild Positive Relationships
How to How to Build Positive RelationshipsBuild Positive Relationships
Spend quality & quantity
Make continuous &
i t tShow we
care by what& quantity time consistent
effortcare by what we say & do
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Encouragement and PraiseEncouragement and Praise
Children and students in families and at school need
the positive benefits of encouragement and praiseencouragement and praise.
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How to Encourage and PraiseHow to Encourage and PraiseHow to Encourage and PraiseHow to Encourage and Praise
1. Notice the need
2. Express confidence, trust, and beliefand belief through words and actions
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How toHow toGive Encouragement and PraiseGive Encouragement and Praise
1. Be Sincere
2. Be Specific
3 Gi R n Ri ht3. Give a Reason Right Away
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Preventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting Misbehavior
How would we finish this thought?
“If a child doesn’t know how to read, we teach.”,
“If a child doesn’t know how to swim, we teach.”
“If a child doesn’t know how to multiply, we teach.”
“If a child doesn’t know how to behave, we…John Herner (NASDSE President) Counterpoint 1998, p.2
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Cycle of Coercion or Cycle of Coercion or Cycle of Coercion or Cycle of Coercion or yyPunishmentPunishment
yyPunishmentPunishment
Communicates only what student SHOULD NOT DO.
Does not teach what TO DODoes not teach what TO DO.
Provides only short-term suppression of inappropriate pp pp pbehavior.
Sets stage for violence, vandalism, & escape& escape.
Never addresses real problems.
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Preventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting MisbehaviorPreventing and Correcting Misbehaviorby Teaching a Positive Alternativeby Teaching a Positive Alternative
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1. Name and describe
2. Give a rationale
3. Model (you do)
4. Practice (they do)
5. Feed-back & praise
6. Plan future practicedescribe praise practice
The Teaching Pattern
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The Teaching Pattern
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Teach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillActivityActivity
Teach a Social SkillTeach a Social SkillActivityActivity
Teaching Pattern:F ll in Dir ti n
Teach the social skill:
Look at the person
Following Directions 1. Name and describe the behavior: “Let’s talk about following directions. Following directions means doing what
person
Say, “OK.”
you’ve been asked to do.”
2. Give a rationale: “When you follow directions you get the work done right,
Start fastplease the person who needs your help and help make family life happy.”
3. Model (you do)
Finish the task 4. Practice (they do)5. Give feedback and praise6 Pl f i i iCheck back
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6. Plan future practice opportunities
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G dG dG dG dGratitudeGratitudeGratitudeGratitude
“Where there is gratitude, h i h ili i d fthere is humility instead of
pride, generosity rather than selfishness. . . gratitude is the g udbeginning of civility, of decency and goodness. . .” Gordon B HinckleyGordon B. Hinckley
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G i d Di iG i d Di iG i d Di iG i d Di iGratitude DiscussionGratitude DiscussionGratitude DiscussionGratitude Discussion
Think of a time when d i dsomeone expressed gratitude.
How did you feel?
Think of a time when you expressed gratitude. How did you feel?you feel?
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How to Express GratitudeHow to Express Gratitude
Expressing Gratitude:
Reflect
Express
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Showing KindnessShowing KindnessShowing KindnessShowing Kindness
“Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. pIt softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lif i Ki d d llifetimes. Kind words not only lift our spirits in the moment they are given, but they can y g , ylinger with us over the years.” Joseph B. Wirthlin
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K d DK d DK d DK d DKindness DiscussionKindness DiscussionKindness DiscussionKindness Discussion
Why show kindness? (discuss)(discuss)1. Kindness builds relationships.2. Kind words lift in the moment but2. Kind words lift in the moment but
often linger for years.3. Kindness invites kind acts from
thothers.4. Kindness helps us avoid being
critical and judgmental.5. Kindness removes barriers and leads
to understanding.6 Kindness is incompatible with
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6. Kindness is incompatible with anger.
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H Sh Ki dH Sh Ki dH Sh Ki dH Sh Ki dHow to Show KindnessHow to Show KindnessHow to Show KindnessHow to Show Kindness
1 Notice other’sShowing Kindness:
1. Notice other s needs
3. Feel and3. Feel and understand
3. Meet needs through words
d tiand actions
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5 Effective Tools
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Today schools, families and communities f t d ith h ll iare confronted with challenging
behaviors from our nation’s youth. More than ever it takes an entire village, to gboth prevent and correct these problems. Collectively we need to invest much
i ti d lmore in prevention and early intervention.
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