Virtual Gifts
"Getting information off the Internet is like taking a drink from a fire hydrant." (Mitch Kapor)
Social Media is ... *No longer a fad; embedded in our daily lives *Reshaping and shrinking our world – it’s global *A business investment *A means to expand our influence *An avenue to promote awareness *A powerful and instant communications tool *Telling of dynamics “in the street” *Now a platform for debate and dissent *A force (good/bad? You decide) *Not to be ignored…
Beware, YOU MUST Be Aware — The Internet as a Gateway •Opens new channels for criminals to
conduct criminal activities (social media, text/video chat rooms, and more)
•Networks such as TOR , KIK allow high anonymity and perpetrate sharing of adolescent criminal content
Our e-world — Social Media allows us to … Stay in touch with family/friends from afar (Re) connect with distant friends Get instant info: news, births, deaths,
events… Telecommute / Work remotely Take advantage of time-saving tools Express ourselves and causes (blog, email,
text message) Gather information at our fingertips in mere
seconds Be ‘green’ (QR code boarding passes!) Learn about others
Deciphering
Social Media
RAISING TEENS
AND THE IMPACT
OF SOCIAL MEDIA
“On twitter we get excited if someone follows us. In real life, we get really
scared and run away.” www.thenickyblog.com
Karen Perez, PsyD, PhD, Psychologist 734-748-5796
www.ccms-cwc.com
Individual & Family Counseling
Karalee & Associates 1308 South Main Street Plymouth, MI 48170 OFC: 734-451-3440 or 734-927-4400 www.Karaleeandassociates.com
“I am Social Media — “Social media is about
sociology and psychology more than technology - Brain Solis, FutureWorks
INTERNET SAFETY IS AN ONGOING LESSON;
so with your TEENS ...
Discuss the possibilities of cyberbullying:
victim, participant, bystander
Discuss the possibility of ”safely” telling
on a friend who is in trouble or in danger
from online activity
Discuss pornography and your views
Discuss relationships and sexual relation-
ships: what they entail, what is a healthy
relationship, etc.
INTERNET SAFETY — INFORMATIONAL SITES
www.isafe.org
www.ourpact.com
www.WiredSafety.org
www.cyberbullying
www.enough.org
www.ryanpatrickhalligan.org
www.cyberbullyhelp.com
www.netfamilynews.org
www.ikeepsafe.org
*Family members text each other in the next room
*(Pre)Teens develop alter-egos/online personalities
*Anonymous online bullying occurs, GLBTQ youth commit suicide at alarming rates and hate groups recruit online
*Children are exhibiting long-term pain conditions from spending hours repeating the same movements on their phones and games (obesity, vision changes, carpal tunnel, tennis elbow, spinal disorders, nerve and muscle dysfunction, neck and arm disorders, pulmonary)
*Parents need to seek out:
*new technologies and address “sexting” and “sextortion”
*TeenTextAddict.com to ease family tension, lower massive cell bills, and uninterrupted dinner and conversations
Millenial Perspective Openness is second nature
There’s no better time than NOW!
There’s no such thing as a stranger (rank and
social order are less relevant)
Less boundaries than any other generation
when it comes to access of information and
people
Whether you like it or not —
There is NO PRIVACY Beware of lurkers, predators, phishers (identity theft)
Open to spam, viruses
Permanence of blogs, webpages, social sites
Who do you *really* know
Netiquette : http://www.albion.com/netiquette/
Downloading can be criminal
CONCERNED? Reach Out ! YOU know your child best!
YOU have parenting instincts … trust them!
YOU are the most influential teacher and model
for your child!
YOU know more than you think you do about
the internet!
YOU can be a part of the cyber world
Tips to Surviving & Thriving in the Social Media World
HINTS & IDEAS FOR SAFETY AND REALITY
•Become one with it – use it to your advantage: find
inspiration and information; engage/get active —
SAFELY
•Rules from “real” life apply: courtesy, kindness,
modesty, dignity, respect for the law and for others,
etc.
•Warn children not to reveal any identifying
information or to have an in-person meeting with
someone online
•Join same networks, share passwords, etc. – learn
how the site operates; work to set reasonable
expectations
•Keep your private information private; don’t talk to
strangers —THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS !!
•There are no guarantees that what you say or post on
the Internet is private — Google yourself
• Parent-Child Interaction — Remind teens to trust
their instincts and remind teens that they can trust you
•Don’t be fooled (Big Brother knows, be media and
marketing-literate)
•Be safe, be smart; think before you press the submit
button
•Limit your circle of online “friends” and adjust your
security settings
•Talk to your children about their online id’s and safety
(view their pictures/posts and friend them)
• Spending offline time with family
•Talk to your partner/teen face-to-face; pay attention
to your child —invite your teen out (leave iPad at
home put your cell phone away)
How teens are using the internet .. INFORMATION: News, Blogs, Databases, Google “ing”, Wikipedia
COMMUNICATION: Email, Texting, Blogs,
SOCIALIZATION: Social Networking Sites- Facebook, YouTube,
SnapChat, Twitter and more
ENTERTAINMENT: YouTube, Games
COMMERCE: Amazon, EBay, Banking & Finance
….& combinations of everything!
Social Media and its effects on youth
Impact of high exposure on behavior
and mental health
•Middle schoolers (early adolescence) and High
Schoolers (later adolescence) use more media than
any other age group (> 12 hrs/day)
•Cyberbullying, CyberExtortion, Sextortion, Predators,
Cyberstalking, Child Pornography, CyberEnticement
• Lower academic achievement, grades
• Lower attachment to school , friends, activities
• Among youth WHO REPORT internet harassment
victimization and unwanted sexual encounters
(sexting), 25% report extreme upset
• Induced fear and phobias
• Media multi‐tasking affects attention; shorter
attention spans; poor use of time (pseudo ADD)
• Reality vs. fantasy; one night stands (STI’s)
• Behavioural changes; suicide, self-harm
• Aggression and violence
• Tendency to be alone
• Anxiety problems—body image, drug & alcohol use
• Privacy issues
• Stress/hypertension
• Over exposure to unwanted (sexual) content
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