Download - Understanding Personality and Temperament
PERSONALITY PERSPECTIVE
What impression are we making on our kids?
“Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down
and when you get up.“ Deuteronomy 6:7
Personality PresentationGeneral characteristics of each personalityPersonality comparisonsApplying personalities to parenting
Personalities Perspectives
LION~ My WayChallenge and Control 10%LeaderProblem solverCourageousPassionPerseveresPurposefulMotivated by a visionCompetitiveCrave competition and pressureWeaknesses:Runs people over
WHAT ENGERIZES LIONS?
ACHIEVEMENT
OTTER~ The Fun and Creative WayRecognition and approval 25-30%EncouragingEnthusiasticJoyfulCreativeIdea personLoves adventure and surpriseCraves spontaneityFunWeaknessesInterrupts often and moodyDisorganized, misses details of directions
WHAT ENERGIZES OTTERS?
EXPERIENCES
GOLDEN RETRIEVER~ The Easy WayAppreciation and Security 30-35%CaringLoyalHonestHumbleEasy goingPeace makerServant Crave consistencyWeaknesses:LazyIndecisive
WHAT ENERGIZES RETREIVERS?
SERVICE
BEAVER~ The Right WayQuality answers and Value 20-25%Responsible Very detailedConscientiousObedienceOrganizedAnalyticalDiscerningCrave organization and detailsWeaknesses:CriticalInflexible
WHAT ENERGIZES BEAVERS?
ACCOMPLISHMENTS
Personalities Perspectives
Personality Trait - FEARSLion Greatest Need: Respect and control Being important
Greatest Fear: Loss of control
Beavers Greatest Need: To be accurate Greatest Fear: Making mistakes Embarrassment
Otter Greatest Need: Approval To be loved Greatest Fear: Disapproval Feeling Unloved Golden Retrievers: Greatest Need: Appreciated and Needed
Greatest Fear: Unappreciated and not
needed
LIONS AND OTTERSLion: Great startersTalkersOutgoingGlobal thinkersLove a challengeLeadersCraves changeRisk taker Generates ideas
Otter:Great startersTalkersOutgoingGlobal thinkersLove a challengeLeadersCraves changeRisk taker Generates ideas
LIONS AND BEAVERSLion: Black and white thinkers
Task focusedCriticalControlling
Beavers:Black and white thinkers
Task FocusedCriticalControlling
OTTERS AND RETRIEVERSOtter: People focusedUnmotivated by tasksDislike conflictTakes the easy routeOptimists
Golden Retrievers: People focused
Unmotivated by tasksDislike conflictTakes the easy routeOptimists
BEAVERS AND RETRIEVERS Beavers: Great finishersEnjoy clear guidelinesListenersQuiet and reservedFollowersLikes routine
Golden Retrievers: Great finishersEnjoy clear guidelinesListenersQuiet and reservedFollowersLikes routine
LION - my wayGive choices (What do you want to do today?)Celebrate when they persevere or show
courageGive opportunities for challengeTake time to be one on oneGive them a big picture viewGive leadership jobs within your family Minimize talking; follow through with actionGive clear expectations of consequencesLet them experience consequences for choicesTry to not be bated into conflict or a battle
Teach:Leadership qualitiesHealthy relationships with peersLetting others go first
OTTER – fun and creative wayFoster creativity through creative projects(i.e. cooking, crafts, woodworking)Be spontaneous (i.e. create a scavenger
hunt)Create fun experiencesFoster group activities(i.e. sports, classes, neighborhood
gatherings)Play games as a familyEncourage activity. Let them MOVE!
OTTER – fun and creative wayTeach:OrganizationTime managementSlow downProblem solving and think aheadJoy of hard work
GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy wayGive one on one time (cooking or sewing)Provide safe experiences to take risksGive opportunities to develop friendshipsGive clear expectationsCreate a safe and nurturing environmentUse a soft, gentle voiceReward their acts of serviceServe together as a family in the communityDisplay healthy conflict resolution without
using anger
GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy wayTeach:Value of hard workSharing their ideasGoal settingStanding up for themselvesHealthy ways to help others
BEAVER- right wayProvide structure and predictabilityAsk questionsReward critical thinkingAllow them to join you in tasksHighlight one mistake at a timeProvide toys which exercise their analytical
minds i.e. legos, puzzles, building a model car
BEAVER – right wayTeach:Value of play and funGive opportunities to develop friendshipsShow them how to lovingly share criticismMistakes are avenues for learning
Personality Trait - CLASSROOM
Lion Compliment with a challenge and
vision Loves independent projects Craves competition and pressure Enjoys challenging work Likes to have freedom/ thrives with
choices Fast worker Tends to enjoy Math and Science
Beavers Compliment specifically Crave organization and details Enjoy clear guidelines Do not like open ended assignments Prefer paper and pen to projects Detailed thinker Slow worker Enjoys worksheets Enjoys Math, Grammar and Science
Otter Compliment publicly Love adventure and surprise Enjoys working in groups Crave spontaneity Thrives on creative projects Enjoy open ended assignments Very fast worker Loves art, writing and social studies
Golden Retrievers Servant in your classroom Detailed thinker Craves consistency Dislike competition and pressure Dislikes getting in front of class Does not want to be embarrassed Likes to have clear directions to follow Slow worker Enjoys social studies, spelling and
grammar
Personality Trait OverviewLion: Peter, Paul, Joshua Challenge and Control 10% Leader Problem solver Courageous Passion Perseveres Purposeful Motivated by a vision Competitive Crave competition and pressure Weaknesses: Runs people over
Beavers: Noah, Martha, Nehemiah, Jacob Quality answers and Value 20-25% Responsible Very detailed Conscientious Obedience Organized Analytical Discerning Crave organization and details Weaknesses: Critical Inflexible
Otter: David, Barnabas Recognition and approval 25-30% Encouraging Enthusiastic Joyful Creative Idea person Loves adventure and surprise Craves spontaneity Fun Weaknesses Interrupts often and moody Disorganized, misses details of directions
Golden Retrievers: Mary, Moses, John Appreciation and Security 30-35% Caring Loyal Honest Humble Easy going Peace maker Servant Crave consistency Weaknesses: Lazy Indecisive