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Hi, my name is Anjali Van Drie.
I'm the vice president and co-founder of family initiative
Incorporated. Today.
We're going to talk about the ABCs of behavior.
So there are a couple of other videos available if you're
interested in learning about what is behavior and why those
behaviors happen.
But today what we're going to talk a little bit more about
is kind of what happens with those behaviors, what causes
them to continue to occur.
So when we're talking about the ABCs of behavior Behavior,
we've talked about in another training you can look at When
and learn what we mean when we're talking about behavior
when I'm talking about behavior, I'm talking about it from
a behavior analytic point of view.
So just very briefly behaviors are observable measurable
things actions that happen.
So when we speak about Behavior, that's what I am referring
to throughout this video.
And when we're looking at what makes Behavior happen where
we look at one.
What is the behavior we're talking about?
So whatever the behavior maybe it might be a problem Behavior.
So think about the children in your home.
Home are they hitting are they kicking?
Are they having a tantrum?
Are they refusing to follow directions?
Are they spinning?
Those are negative or maladaptive behaviors behaviors can
also be positive.
So are they laughing?
Are they smiling are they telling jokes all of those are
various behaviors that you encounter.
We all encounter and engage in behaviors throughout our day.
So when we're looking again at what Are those behaviors occurring
we look at first?
What is the behavior I'm talking about.
So make sure you identify what it is.
You're concerned about either good or bad and then look at
what is happening immediately prior to the behavior.
So the a when we're talking about this is that Anna seated
so when I say and I say that I mean it immediately before
that behavior so not I woke up late today and I was rushing
around or I didn't sleep really good last night because a
dog kept barking or I'm really hungry right now and all I
can think about is my stomach.
Rowling or I'm really stressed out we're not talking about
that when we talk about Anna sees those all play an important
role in behavior is occurring or not occurring but what we're
talking about is what triggered that behavior would happen
immediately prior to the behavior.
So let's say for example, we're talking about hitting at
some point I think most parents and most adults deal with
a child hitting so when you're talking about the hitting
what happened right before that child hit so did you say
all right.
It's time to do homework.
Did another child come over and grab their toy?
Did you say it's time to go to bed?
Did you say I need your cell phone, right?
So what is it that occurred right before the hitting occurred?
That's your Anna see it it B is your behavior and then C
is your consequence.
So when I'm talking about consequence, we're talking about
what happened immediately after the behavior.
Generally when we think about consequences we think about
punishment sometimes And think about consequences in a negative
term. What I'm referring to here is consequence as just what
happens right after that behavior.
It can be good or it can be bad.
So with hitting typically we might reprimand and say stop
hitting or don't do that, right?
That's a consequence their good consequences to I'm a big
fan of high fives any of you who have been around me or met
me. I high-five a lot adults and kids and people.
I don't know sometimes I do a lot of high fives a lot of
Praise, right?
So those are Instead of those are positive consequences.
So again, we're talking about the ABCs or what makes Behavior
happen. We're talking about a the antecedent right before
it be that behavior, whatever it might be and then the C
is a consequence what's happening right after that behavior.
Another way to think about this in easier terms is B is always
your behavior.
But a the Aniston is also your trigger.
I said that a few minutes ago.
So it's a lot easier to conceptualize it that the trigger
what's happening right before?
For that's triggering that behavior to occur.
Another way to think about consequence is your payoff.
So what is your child getting out of that behavior?
Right?
Why is it Behavior happening?
Did they get the toy they wanted did they delay the amount
of time that they had to do something?
And again, there's another video that talks more extensively
about types of consequences and what some of those behaviors
might be.
So what happens with problem behaviors is you have that trigger,
whatever that trigger might be and then you have that in
Appropriate behavior and with problem behaviors what we see
is that trigger causes that problem or inappropriate behavior.
And then that inappropriate behavior is getting the payoff
or getting the consequence.
So one thing that we see pretty commonly across the board
that I engage in this myself to is the consequence we often
reprimand, right?
So when kids do something we don't like were pretty quick
to be like no stop doing that the challenge sometimes with
all kids I think is sometimes As that's that it's negative
attention, right?
The verbal attention is attention.
It's not good attention.
We're not saying hey great job.
We're paying attention to that negative behavior.
And for some kids that might be the easiest quickest way
to get your attention and it typically is most times when
kids are behaving we don't often go over and be like, hey,
I love the way you're doing this because if that's a child
we're struggling with were a little bit worried that if we
get near them an interrupt what they're doing appropriately
it might Great the behavior and they'll start misbehaving.
So again think about what that payoff is and it's hard because
the payoff is often some things we do some things that happened
environment that we may not pay attention to one way to identify
some of this stuff particularly.
I know for some families who are licensed caregivers part
of the training often times.
You learn about journaling.
This is a great way to look at those patterns and think about
okay. What's Happening Here particularly when there Inappropriate
things or maladaptive behaviors.
We tend to have an emotional response.
It's hard to step back and be objective about okay.
What's really happening here?
Did I do something that another child do something?
Is it something happening in the environment?
Is it too loud in here?
What it what might be contributing and then putting it with
that consequence.
So then what happened so really what happened right afterwards
writing that stuff down helps you take a step back and then
really look for patterns they okay.
So I see every time I do this this is what happens just to
give you an idea.
What are common triggers that you typically run into often
triggers are not getting attention not getting the things.
We want being denied access being told.
No, so think about a scenario where you're dealing with a
child in your home who wanted something, right?
How about cookies before dinner time right in our snacks
before dinner?
It's tough, right?
We got home from picking up school work and you have limited
time. I'm hungry.
I'm sure the kids are hungry.
To write and they want a snack but the snacks probably not
cookies aren't good before dinner.
So when you say no what happens do you get a tantrum right
there in the middle of the kitchen while you're kind of finished
cooking dinner.
So that's another being told no across the board typically
triggers some of those problem behaviors asking the child
to do something.
They don't want to do so bedtime is a common one.
I talked about always think about when it's time for bed.
It looks a little different as kids get older, but when they're
younger they're Either thirsty, they need to use the bathroom.
They need to say goodnight to everyone and all their stuffed
animals right when you get older.
It might be being on electronics being playing on their iPad
or cell phone or playing a video game watching a movie things
like that.
So again, they want you're asking them to do something.
They don't want to do someone taking something they don't
want right.
So when you have a group of kids together, do they take something
away from from Todd or do they have something your child
really wants and they're unable to have and again attention.
That's another really common reason.
So as soon as you pick up the phone what happens right?
Is that when your child like Mom Mom Mom right when those
things start to happen or they start asking questions or
they start talking to you that way again when they're not
getting the attention that's often a time a trigger for some
of those behaviors.
So those are some of the common triggers.
Let's talk about some of the common payoffs are consequences
so there Plated if you look at those triggers and look at
the consequences, the consequences are essentially getting
those things.
So when they engage in the behaviors, they get those things
they get access to the items.
I want they get the attention.
We just talked about that they get out of doing things.
So think about that bedtime example again, so all those things
take time and that's more time that they're not in bed.
Right?
So it all kind of pays off for them at the end of the day
sometimes getting someone else to do something for them.
So I have totally done that before like fine.
I'll just do it myself saves the hassle, but it worked right
so it absolutely worked for that child.
So we have given them that payoff.
So what can you do and why is this important?
So I'll go back again Journal that right the stuff out so
you can identify what those patterns are.
Once you identify those patterns, then you understand why
that behavior is happening.
What's the consequence?
My advice is always start with the behavior because that's
Little bit easier to identify right?
So think about what are my talents are what do I want to
see happening more of what do I want to see less of Define
that in a clear way that everyone can understand what we're
talking about because sometimes our definitions are a little
bit different.
So what I think is disrespect might be different than what
you think disrespected.
So write that out.
Tell me exactly what you mean when they roll their eyes when
they Sai when they walk off without answering now we are
on the same page we can talk about about that and then so
what are yours that it might feel like it's all the time
but the teenager right so but really right down.
Okay, I said this or I did this or their brother did this
or it might feel like nothing but as you start to write those
out and then what happened afterwards did I say go to your
room? Did I ignore it?
Did I say stop rolling your eyes at me?
What's that consequence?
You can start to pull out patterns of why this happened and
what you want to do once, you know, the why is rearrange
your environment, so As you see in the figure here, you can
rearrange so that inappropriate behavior.
First of all, let's go back.
We still have that trigger trigger can stay the same.
And now what happens is that inappropriate behavior does
not get the payoff anymore.
But your challenge is giving them an appropriate behavior
that does get the payoff.
So that's where we work a lot with families is identifying.
Okay.
So what's an appropriate way to get that so we'll go back
to the example from the beginning hitting is not an appropriate
way to get attention or to get what you You want but you
can teach your kids?
Okay.
So if you want that you can say excuse me, right that we
do that a lot with kids like okay.
If I'm on the phone, you can add School raise your hand you
can tap someone on the shoulder you can say, excuse me mom.
So all those are appropriate behaviors to get me say sure.
I'm on the phone right now.
I'll talk to you in a second.
I'm giving you what you're asking for.
I'm giving you that attention and also telling you I will
give you more of this when I'm finished attention is a super
powerful thing we all have Have and and we can use that to
help shape those appropriate behaviors.
So really again figure out.
Okay, what's the appropriate behavior that I want to see
more of and how do we use that behavior to get with they
what that payoff is or what the consequence is.
So this is a lot of work on you as a caregiver to think about
these things and look at those things but through that that's
the premise of all of why Behavior occurs whether it's you
or me or your or kids or your neighbors the people you work
with really think about what triggers those behaviors and
what do they get out of it?
And again teaching those appropriate behaviors?
Sometimes we have to explicitly teach those behaviors and
say, okay like the raising your hand so and in a school setting
right so we have kids who call out a lot so we might have
to work with and be like remember if you wanted her and you
need to raise your hand and then as a teacher I'm going to
capitalize on be like I love the way you're raising your
hand if your turn and then we are.
Lot of faith that off once they recognize okay.
This actually gets you to pay attention to me same in your
household. You might have to teach some of those behaviors
other Behavior, especially with older kids.
Sometimes they pick up on and learn.
Okay, so she's not going to answer me when I'm doing this,
but she'll answer me when I'm doing these other things your
challenge is sticking through that too because it can be
particularly tough.
When all of a sudden those things that used to work don't
work anymore you tend to see an increase in Behavior.
We try harder we all do that.
We try harder to get the things that we want.
Might try different things to get what we want and again
teaching that the and giving them that appropriate way will
help them more quickly learn exactly how to get that pay
off for them.
So in summary think about that you're a antecedent is your
trigger be is that behavior that we can all see and agree
what it looks like and see is your consequence or your payoff
identify those figure out how to change switch out that inappropriate
with the appropriate behavior, and then you can start to
shape some of those appropriate.
Here's my contact information is available if you are trying
this and I like this is not working.
I have no idea.
There is no trigger.