Download - SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt
![Page 1: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/1.jpg)
Jurulatih Utama Zon Borneo
JPK19 Jun 2007
![Page 2: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/2.jpg)
HJ MOHD UMBAIK HJ ISMAIL
Masters in Counselling Psychology, UKMBac. Ed.( Guidance & Counselling, UPMDiploma In Education Counselling, UPSI
![Page 3: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/3.jpg)
I looked in the mirror I looked in the mirror and liked what I saw…and liked what I saw…
I looked once again and liked it even more
![Page 4: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/4.jpg)
Why is it Important for us
Self-Esteem is the Foundation that we build the rest of us on
Self-Esteem is all about liking ourselves, appreciating and all
You can learn to enhance your Self-esteem You can maintain high Self-Esteem for life Healthy level of Self-Esteem is one of the
greatest gifts we can give our children or model for other people
![Page 5: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/5.jpg)
What Is Self-Esteem? Acceptance of ourselves, by ourselves, for who
and what we are any time in our life. It is associated with the belief that we are
worthwhile, capable and useful no matter what happened in our life, what is happening or what may happen
Self-Esteem is identified by the way we act and behave, by attitudes and beliefs we hold about ourselves and the way we feel about ourselves and the emotion we experience
![Page 6: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/6.jpg)
Healthy & High Self-Esteem
We Hold ourselves in high regard We like and accept who we are We forgive ourselves easily We always focus on our Strengths and
we can effectively distinguish ourselves from our behavior or what we do
If we make mistake or mess something up,we still acknowledge that we are okay
but we learn from experience
![Page 7: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/7.jpg)
Self-Esteem is Also
The ability to look at what we can do and What we have done Build on this during our lives rather than
looking at what we haven’t done and what we cannot do.. And filling ourselves up with blame and self-doubt
![Page 8: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/8.jpg)
How Do I know If I Have It?
Will talk and act in a confident manner And certainly put their point of view
forward if they feel it is required or necessary
Can deal with failure and admit when they are wrong
Can tell ourselves that we are hopeless and useless… The reality is we are not hopeless or useless BUT our behavior and actions may have been at that time
![Page 9: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/9.jpg)
How well you bounce back from disappointment, failure or any form
set-back in your life
Withdraw Blame Others Develop a ‘poor me’
attitude Get quiet depressed Cry and cry… Eat too much or Give up
![Page 10: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/10.jpg)
Or are you the type who certainly gets a little emotional and then…
Analyses what went wrong and tries to fix it
Says ‘I’m okay! My actions were wrong in the distance
Plan a step-by-step recovery
Keep a good balance in your life, no matter what the circumstances
![Page 11: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/11.jpg)
Where does it come from…
PARENTS PEERS AND
FRIENDS ACHIEVEMENTS ENVIRONMENT
YOURSELF
![Page 12: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/12.jpg)
People who have Healthy levels of Self-Esteem…
Look at what they can do and what they have done
Give themselves regular pats on the back
Criticize their behavior, not themselves
Ask for pats on the back from others
Stick up for themselves
![Page 13: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/13.jpg)
Developing A Healthy Self-Esteem
![Page 14: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/14.jpg)
![Page 15: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/15.jpg)
How do we BOOST UP the Self-Esteem
![Page 16: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/16.jpg)
However, if you do not get a few wins on the board, what
happens to your SELF-ESTEEM?
It may go down as your
* behavior * thinking * emotionsTurn negative
and destructive on you
![Page 17: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/17.jpg)
THE ANSWER IS?
![Page 18: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/18.jpg)
Imagination & Recall
![Page 19: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/19.jpg)
ASSESMENT & VALUATION
![Page 20: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/20.jpg)
Inflexible.. I will never get it right Irrational.. I should not make mistakes
Negative.. I am really so hopeless
Stressful.. I can’t stand
Distorted.. It’s a catastrophe
Upsetting.. I’m an idiot alright
![Page 21: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/21.jpg)
![Page 22: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/22.jpg)
FLAXIBLE.. Everyone makes mistakes
ADAPTABLE.. What can I learn from all this
RATIONAL.. It’s not the end of the world
POSITIVE… I did everything else pretty well
SOLUTION ORIENTATED.. What’s the best thing for me to do now?
![Page 23: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/23.jpg)
NOW HOW DO WE REMEMBER TO START F A R P S
1. Place a rubber band on one of your wrists2. If you find you are putting yourself down about
something FLICK yourself gently with rubber band
3. Then gently say the word STOP to yourself4. Imagine a switch in your head which switches
your thinking from all the negative messages to the FARPS
5. Then say four or five positive and constructive SELF-TALK to yourself,such as “ I can cope with
this’
![Page 24: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/24.jpg)
Why do the thought STOPPING and the thought SWITCHING technique
Important?
A powerful buffer against you talking yourself into having low Self-Esteem and poor Self-Image.
Will allow you to talk to yourself into having very healthy amounts of Self-Esteem based on FARPS
![Page 25: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/25.jpg)
You have booked a table at your favorite restaurant for a special occasion, but you are late getting to the restaurant and the table has been given to another couple. The restaurant is full
![Page 26: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/26.jpg)
Negative put downs you could get into….
Now run through the thought stopping / switching technique
Four or five positive Self-talks you could use to start FARPS
![Page 27: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/27.jpg)
So What else… Do something nice for someone Say something pleasant to someone Do a particular job or chore well Donate something to charity Find a solution to a problem Thank someone Achieve a new goal Make time to listen to someone Accept some criticism well Are honest and accepting about mistake Stand up for ourselves Take a risk and go for it Adapt well to a change in our lives
![Page 28: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/28.jpg)
DEPRESSIONLACK OF
ACHIEVEMENTTHE POOR ME
TRAPLIFE WASTAGE
![Page 29: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/29.jpg)
Always say “ I LIKE ME “
Relax & confident Pleasant & Helpful
to others Happy life Achievement
focused A Balanced
lifestyle
![Page 30: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/30.jpg)
You know you’re successful when…
Valuing yourself Challenges and chances Humor Responsibility Assertive Efficiency Sense of Belonging
![Page 31: SELF- ESTEEM 2.ppt](https://reader036.vdocuments.us/reader036/viewer/2022081511/55cf92ee550346f57b9a8597/html5/thumbnails/31.jpg)