Research Methodology(ID 6020)
Interpersonal Skills12th April, 2012
"If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, go together.“
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The Case
for IPS
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Starts with Self-Awareness…
UNDERSTANDING INHERENT VALUES, ASSUMPTIONS, NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS,
PERCEPTION, PREJUDICES 4
Types of Research Scholars
TYPE1: “I have come here to do path-breaking research. I don’t worry about time. I understand that 4-5 years is the upper limit.”
TYPE2: “I have come here to get a degree. I want to finish in 3-4 years. I have family/other commitments.”
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Types of
Research
Scholars
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Goes onto Understanding
Others..Types of Guides
TYPE 1
TYPE 2
TYPE 3
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Symptoms of Unhealthy Interpersonal Skills
Family• Arguments
increase – for the silliest reasons!
• You start smoothening conflicts – not addressing them.
• You are misunderstood more often.
• More time @ work – not necessarily working!
Research• Starting to
avoid bumping into the guide!
• Infrequent visits to the department.
• Venting out with fellow scholars more often.
• Its my research and my world.
Workplace• Everyday is
Monday morning!
• Cribbing increases.
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Interpersonal Skills – NOT At Its Best!
Guide “When can you submit the
paper”
Scholar“When do you want it
Sir?” (gives an unrealistic estimate; Yes Boss!)
Father/Mother “When will you complete
your research?”
Son/Daughter“What is your problem? I just come home for a few
days and you start off!!!!!!”
Spouse“What do you think of
this?”
Spouse“Yes…OK” (watching
TV)
Cliché! IPS Is An Ocean
Emotional Intelligence – Self-Awareness, Self-
Management, Social Awareness, Relationship Management
Assertiveness, Conflict Management
People Skills – Social Intelligence
Communication-Listening, Non-Verbal – Body
Language
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Honing of Interpersonal
Skills
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A Myriad of Tools
Johari Window
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Transactional Analysis
Self-Assessment tools
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What will help?Want the draft EOD Sure.
Oh God! How is it possible!
COMMUNICATING EXPECTATIONS , ISSUES CLEARLY AND HONESTLY
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What will help?Formulate a LP problem and
come tomorrow with the results
Hmmm…Ok Sir.
Works hard,
cannot crack it,
Ctrl C & V
CONSIDERATE AND UNDERSTAND DEEPER NEEDS, INTENTIONS
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Consider this…Oh Oh,
there she goes..crying once more...
BEING SENSITIVE OF DEEPER MOTIVES, FEARS
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EMPATHY
What will help?
King Lear: “Gloucester, you have no eyes in your head, yet you see
how this world goes.”
Gloucester replies, “I see it feelingly.”16
LISTENING...PROPERLY!
What will help?
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What will help?Publication – low quality
journal/Single author
paper
My name in a low quality
journal!!???/Where is my
name?!!!
TRANSPARENCY IN RELATIONSHIP18
What will help?Hey, there is a good
conference coming up. Why don’t we send a paper?
Is it the one at ()()() ?I’ve already sent it.
HELPING OTHERS, SHARING INFORMATION
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TRUST
What will help?
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A HEALTHY DOSE OF HUMOR!
What will help?
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Social IntelligenceThe most fundamental discovery of this new science: We are wired to connect. – Daniel
Goleman
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Social Intelligence
Skill Do you…• Empathy Understand what motivates other people, even those from
different backgrounds? Are you sensitive to their needs?• Attunement Listen attentively and think about how others feel? Are you
attuned to others’ moods?• Organizational Appreciate your group’s or organization’s culture and values?
Awareness Understand social networks and know their unspoken norms?
• Influence Persuade others by engaging them in discussion, appealing to their interests, and getting support from key people?
• Developing Coach and mentor others with compassion? Do you others personally invest time and energy in mentoring and
provide feedback that people find helpful for their professional development?
• Inspiration Articulate a compelling vision, build group pride, foster a positive emotional tone, and lead by bringing out the best in
people?• Teamwork Encourage the participation of everyone on your team, support
all members, and foster cooperation? 23
Build trustAccentuate the positive
When mistakes occur, redirect energy
The Whale Done!™ Approach
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Whale Done Commitment
• One thing I will start doing.
• One thing I will stop doing.
• One thing I will continue doing.
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The Ideal
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Signing Off…
Life is not a competition, it's a game. It's not
about winning or losing, it's about all the
fun you can have before it ends.
Simon Sinek
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