ParalanguageThe way in which you say words; volume, pitch, speaking rate, voice quality
VolumeHow loudly or softly you are speaking
When might you speak loudly?Softly?
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Speaking Rate/PaceHow fast or slow you are speaking
When might you speak fast?slowly?
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PitchHow high or low the sounds of your voice areWhen do you speak with a high pitch?Low?
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Chart of FeelingsDo write this down.
Feeling Volume Pace Pitch
Anger Loud Fast High
Joy Loud Fast High
Sadness Soft Slow Low
Voice QualityWhat makes people able to recognize you by your voice aloneEx: on the phoneWho has a distinct voice? Arnold Schwarzenegger? Mr. H? Bush?
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StressVolume & pitch; the amount of emphasis you place on different words in a sentence.
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Stress Examples: How does meaning change in the following sentence by stressing different words?
I like him very much.Meaning: You like him, not the other person.
I like him very much. Meaning: It is that guy you like, not someone else.
I like him very much. Meaning: You have very strong feelings.
More Examples: How does meaning change in the following sentence by stressing different words?
She’s giving this money to me.Meaning: SHE is the one giving the money, nobody else.
She’s giving this money to me.Meaning: She is GIVING, not lending.
She’s giving this money to me.Meaning: MONEY is being exchanged, not anything else.
She’s giving this money to me.Meaning: I am getting the money, nobody else.
10 Volunteers are needed to number off and remember their number.
There will be a series of sentences. The odd numbers will say the sentences
as a praise. The even numbers will say the sentences
as a criticism.Praise (odd #s) vs. Critisism (even #s)
That looks good on you.
#1 say the sentence as a praise. Think about which words you stress for the meaning and if your pitch is high/low.Answer: That looks good (high pitch) on you.#2 say the sentence as a criticism.Answer: That (low) looks good on you.
That was some meal.
#3 say the sentence as a praise. Think about which words you stress for the meaning and if your pitch is high/low.Answer: That was some meal (high).#4 say the sentence as a criticism.Answer: That was some meal (low) .
Or That (low) was some meal.
You’re an expert.
#5 say the sentence as a praise. Think about which words you stress for the meaning and if your pitch is high/low.Answer: You’re (high) an expert (high).#6 say the sentence as a criticism.Answer: You’re an expert (low).
You’re so sensitive.
#7 say the sentence as a praise. Think about which words you stress for the meaning and if your pitch is high/low.Answer: You’re so sensitive (high).#8 say the sentence as a criticism.Answer: You’re so (low) sensitive.
Are you ready?
#9 say the sentence as a praise. Think about which words you stress for the meaning and if your pitch is high/low.Answer: Are you ready (high)?#10 say the sentence as a criticism.Answer: Are you (low) ready (high)?
ProxemicsThe study of spatial
communication
Four Distances depending on the type of encounter and the nature of the relationship
Relationship Distance Typical Situation
Intimate Distance: 0-18 inches
situations: Giving comfort or aid, whispering, conversing w/ close friends and family, kissingWe are easily stimulated in this distance, but often easily uncomfortable.EX: personal space. Who do we let in it?
Personal Distance: 18 inches-4 feet
Situations: Talking w/ friends or business associates, instructing in a sport, other students in classWe’re mostly in this distance.If you decrease to intimate in this distance people feel uncomfortable, but if you increase your distance people feel rejected.
Social Distance: 4 ft - 12 ft
Situations: Discussing impersonal or business matters w/ someone in authority, taking part in a small group discussion
Public Distance: 12 ft - 25 ft
Situations: Public speaking, teaching a class, leading a pep rally, fans in the stands at a game, people waiting in a lobbyMostly with strangers we do not want to interact with
Conclusions
Based on the four types of distances and their examples, what can you conclude about the correlation between the distance people have with you and what that might mean?The closer the more they like you; the farther away the less personal.