Coaching and Conviviality
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Coaching and
Conviviality
Arline Davis
II World NLP and Coaching Congress
January 2009
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I am a mobile linkMobile links are organisms that actively move in the landscape and connect habitats in space and time. We provide cross-pollination, seed dispersal, and pest control. Biologists say we are essential components in the dynamics of ecosystem development and ecosystem resilience.
Bindegliedarten
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Conviviality isAn approach to life´s
relationships
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Conviviality is an attitude
Not reducing the other to an object or instrument only to fulfill self interests.
Being present for the other in all the meaning the word present offers.
Of recognizing oneself in the other and through identification come to respect, openess and care.
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“Instrumentalization”
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The other as a legitimate other
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Cultural Creatives
www.culturalcreatives.org Paul Ray, sociologist and Sherry Anderson, psychologist
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Where and When?Rio de Janeiro, 2002
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Who?
Mostly engineers and therapistas
Ivan Illitch
Martin Buber
Maturana e Varela
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For Whom?
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Auto-poesis"auto" = self, "poeisis" = creation
Life is understood to have a dynamic, cyclic, and self maintaining organization
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R.E.D.E.
The Network for Education, Gifts and Expression
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“I” the agent and the “other” as the object.
Healthy “I” and “other” interactions:Land based tribe – tree as a canoe or wood for the fire, White Elk as the warriorSunset as beautiful sight – “Look at that beautiful sunset.”
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And there is also a oneness: in seeing the other , we can see ourselves.
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Conviviality is the continual alternation between apartness and oneness – a healthy
alternative.
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Without balance from wholeness, apartness degrades to utilitarism.
... In which “I” reduces the Other to an object for fulfilling personal interests and goals.
Control prevails.
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Otherness
What is Otherness? It is the capability of recognizing the other as a legitimate other, a complete being, with dignity, rights, and above all, with differences.
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Otherness
The existence of the “individual I” is only allowed by contact with the “other”
Or, as Gregory Bateson put it, “It takes two to know one”.
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I
Dimensions of Conviviality
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Identity
Dimensions of Conviviality
Others - Affiliation
Marketplace
Society
Nature
Spirit
Beliefs
Capacity
Environment
Behavior
Neurological Levels of NLP
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Thought and ActionCoaching Cycle©
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(Evaluation)
(New Cycle)
Evaluation
Foundations
FormulationImplementation
Transformation
Consolidation
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The Wheel of Life – Resourceful Relationships
Enviroment & Personal Organization
Finances
Health & Well being
Career
Relationships
Personal development
Spirituality
Leisure
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How do you get there?
By living it and practicing it.
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Life is self-organizing.
Cooperation is human nature.
Limitations, contradictions and incoherence are inherent to the human condition and are part of the process of development.
Sharing of information and knowledge results in the well-being of all.
Conviviality Principles
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Conviviality Practices
Permanent ethical reflexion.
Promote volunteerism, autonomy and iniciative.
Respect, value and preserve human individuality.
Invest in the potential of newness which resides in diversity.
Solve conflicts by creativity and cooperation
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Dialogue – David Bohm
Free flow of meaning within the group
"Wisdom comes from sitting together and truthfully discussing our differences - without the intent to change them.” Gregory Bateson
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Our ConvivialityStories
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Tonight is a good night to dance.
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What the hummingbird taught the researcher.
Augusto Ruschi
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