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By: Feroz Patel
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Deciding factorsMale-female relationship how society look atit
Hows social environment around youth?Laws present at the timeVision of the society in all
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Male-Female RelationshipReligious attitude towards itLiterature of the that time
Games and festivals of that timeAttitude of the high-class societyStatus of women in the society
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Lets look at the historyGreek civilizationMost glorious of all the ancient civilizations
Rome
Christian Europe
Modern Europe
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Greek Civilization early
stageStatus of woman in early stages of the Greekculture development
An imaginary woman called Pandora was themain cause of all human ills and misfortunes,
just like EveWoman as sub-human creature whose status in
the society was inferior to man
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Greek Civilization middle
stageEnlightenment brought some relief to womenShe became sovereign of the Greek householdWomen of the Greek nobility observed PurdahHonour for marriages, chastity was preciousBut men were exempted from expectations as
like womanRelations with prostitutes were considered as
improperThis was the time when Greek nation was
vigourous and energetic
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Greek Civilization last
stageOverwhelmed by egotism and perversionCorrupt female gained such prominence that has
no parallel in historyProstitution became passion and part of every classof Greek societySexual degradation sodomy is welcomedNudity and vulgarity became art and aesthetics
Worship of Aphrodite the goddess of love andbeauty and Cupid - God of loveResult After such a moral degradation, their
civilization became off from world
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Rome was not build in a
dayNext after GreeksSocial tradition recognized man as the chief of
familyWhen Roman democracy were at their zenith,womenfolk and youth were under unrelenting
family disciplineChastity for woman was nobility of characterMan-woman relationship only thru marriageWhen a legislator kissed his wife in front of his
daughter, its considered as derogatory tonational moral character
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Rome downfallMarriages became mere a civil contractWomen economically more independentSeneca (4BC -65AD) Now divorce is not regarded as shameful
in Rome. Women calculate their age by the number of husbands theyhave takenWhen checks on public morality became weak then
the flood of sexual licentiousness, nudity andpromiscuity
Prostitution became so widespread that CaesarTiberius (42BC-27AD) has to enforce a lawprohibiting women of nobility from adoptingprostitution
Roman literature full of immoral and immodest
themes
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Christian EuropeChristianity stepped in to cure the westernworld of its moral ailmentsCleaned up society from previous ills up to an
extentBut their concept of women and relationship
was not only against human nature but alsoextreme unnatural
Woman was mother of all sins and root causeof all evilSexual relationship between man and woman
was in itself an objectionable, dirty at fair,
even within marriageDownfall of woman morally as well as socially
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Modern Europe18thcentury onwards, philosophers and writersraised their voices against the individualsrights
Three Doctrines of Western society1.Equality between male and female2.Economic independence for female
3.Free intermingling of the sexes
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Three powerful motivesLicentious literature, which has increased inobscenity and circulation at a tremendousspeed
The movies, which not only arouse sexualhunger but also teach practical ways ofsatisfying it
The depraved moral condition of women, whichis reflected by their attire, nudity, increasingsmoking habits and their free andunrestricted intermingling with men
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Tragic consequencesDecay of physical energyDisruption of family system divorce and
separationVenereal Diseases / STDPrevalence of sexual promiscuity
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Cases of STDs reported by state healthdepartments and rates per 100,000population: United States, 1997-2008
Year Syphilis Chlamydia Gonorrhearimary and secondary ll stages
Cases Rate Cases Rate Cases Rate Cases Rate1997 ,8 556 .3 1 ,46 715 .17 1 ,537 904 .205 5 ,327 665 .120 2
1998 ,7 007 .2 5 ,38 290 .13 9 ,614 250 .231 8 ,356 492 .129 2
1999 ,6 617 .2 4 ,35 383 .12 7 ,662 647 .247 2 ,360 813 .129 3
2000 ,5 979 .2 1 ,31 618 .11 2 ,709 452 .251 4 ,363 136 .128 7
2001 ,6 103 .2 1 ,32 284 .11 3 ,783 242 .274 5 ,361 705 .126 8
2002 ,6 862 .2 4 ,32 919 .11 4 ,834 555 .289 4 ,351 852 122
2003 ,7 177 .2 5 ,34 289 .11 8 ,877 478 .301 7 ,335 104 .115 2
2004 ,7 980 .2 7 ,33 422 .11 4 ,929 462 .316 5 ,330 132 .112 4
2005 ,8 724 .2 9 ,33 288 .11 2 ,976 445 .329 4 ,339 593 .114 62006 ,9 756 .3 3 ,36 935 .12 3 , ,1 030 911 .344 3 ,358 366 .119 7
2007 ,11 466 .3 8 ,40 921 .13 6 , ,1 108 374 .367 5 ,355 991 118
2008 ,13 500 .4 5 ,46 277 .15 3 , ,1 210 523 .401 3 ,336 742 .111 6
Change %18 %18 %13 . %12 50 %9 %9 - . %5 40 - %6
-2007 2008
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LoveThe English word "love" can have a variety ofrelated but distinct meanings in differentcontexts
Impersonal love - of non human beingsInterpersonal love between human beings
Intimacy towards an object, living or non-living
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Love- Chemical Basis
Lust
e xp o se s p e o p le to o th e rs
A ttra ctio nfo cu s o n m a tin g
Attachm ent
u n d e rsta n d in g a n d
to le ra tin g o th e rs
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Love- Psychological BasisThree componentsIntimacy people share confidences and
various details of their personal lifeCommitment is expectation that the
relationship is permanentSexual attraction / Passion is shown in
infatuation as well as romantic love
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Love Islamic
perspectiveAnd Among His wonders is this: He creates foryou mates out of your own kind, so that youmight incline towards then, and He
engenders love and tenderness between you:in this, behold, there are messages indeed forpeople who think! (Rum 30:21)
If a man loves his brother, let him tell that he loves him(Abu Dawood, 5124 and as-Thirmidhi, 2329)
By the One in Whose hand is my soul, you will not enterParadise until you truly believe, and you will not trulybelieve until you love one another. Shall I not tell youof something that, if you do it, you will love oneanother? Spread the (the greeting of) salaam among
yourselves (narrated by Muslim, 54)
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Relationships prevalent
todayFree intermingling of sexesDating
Living in relationships without marriageValentine day / Rose dayLusty relationships
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Valentine DayStories behind it1.Roman belief that Romulus, the founder of
Rome, suckled one day by a she-wolf, whichgave him strength and wisdom. Theystarted celebrating it as feast of love
2.Saint Valentine: advocate of love and peace.He was executed on 14th Feb 270 CE
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Valentine Day and IslamIts origin lie in the pagan belief of Romans,where is was an expression of the spirituallove of the idols
Its based myths and legends of Roman eraCelebrating it means resembling non-believersThe love referred in this festival is romantic
love outside the framework of marriage,which is totally haramAnyone should not celebrate it, support it even
for non-Muslims
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Relationship Islamic
Perspective Long term mutual agreement between twopeople based on caring each other for the sakeof Allah
HappinessWell BeingGrowth and development
Marriage only way of relationship between
male and female who want to live togetherLegally approved i.e. commitment
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Purpose of marriageHe has given you wives from amongyourselves to multiply you, and cattle maleand female (42:11)
Your wives are your farms (2:223)
He created for you mates among yourselvesthat you may find rest and joy in them, andcreated love and mercy (30:21)
They are (like) garment to you and you are(like) a garment to them (2:187)
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What Islam says to us ?Iman strong faith in the Allah and belief inAkhirahLower your gazesBe Hayadaras Prophet said Every religion has amorality, and the morality of Islam is HayaKeep yourself away as much as you can from filthy
things may it be TV, internet, magazines,colleges, etc
Accompany good people, involve yourselves morein good deedsDevelop a strong sense towards illegal things
related to sexMarry as early as you can marry to pious persononl
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