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Love is granting
another the space to
be the way they areand the way they
aren't.
Werner Erhard
Love is granting
another the space to
be the way they areand the way they
aren't.
Werner Erhard
Living Powerfully
Living Powerfully
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Introduction
Dear Graduates,
Everyone here is a graduate.
Everyone in Velocity Seminar has participated in at least
one seminar or has completed the Curriculum for Living and
many of us have been participating for many years.
For us, what distinguishes a graduate, what distinguishes
you & me as a graduate, is transformation.A graduate is someone who is transformed.
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And by transformed I don’t mean that our circumstances
are wonderful, or, we’ve got it all together in life.
What I mean by transformed is that we had the courage to
generate the possibility that “Life is Empty and Meaningless.“and have brought forth the presence of a new Realm of
Possibility for Ourselves and for our lives.
We as a graduate have the authenticity and the courage toactually stand for that something is possible beyond what you
& me can see and what anyone could argue for.
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It will require some attention and some intention to make it through the
work I am presenting.
It can also be wonderful fun.
The result will be an expansion of your life and a commitment to
participation you may not have imagined could be "you."
The work which I am sharing with you are taken & compiled by me from
Various Books, Articles. Lectures etc. Without adding or deleting anything
from it I have converted them in to Power point Slides so that they becomeenjoyable reading & easy to understand.
These articles or chapters are not in any chronological order.
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My sole purpose in presenting this work is to serve you.
I fully recognize the divine you as the true source of what you gain from
reading this work.
All ideas written in this work are to be read and used at your ownresponsibility.
These ideas are not meant to be a fail-proof recipe for how to live your
life.
You are responsible for what you believe in life and the consequences of your beliefs.
I Love You.
Jayanti Patel
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Life, Living and
Winning the Game
From a lecture given by Werner
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Living is really pretty simple, Living happens
right now; it doesn’t happen back then, and it
doesn’t happen out there.Living is not the story of your life.
Living is the process of experiencing right now.
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Thinking about right now, figuring it out,
perceiving it, arguing, reading about or believing
anything about right now – none of theseproduce any certainty about living.
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When you get beyond the symbols and beliefs about now,
beyond thinking about it,
beyond efforting or working at it,
when you get even beyond merely feeling it,
when you get all the way up to observing it,
being with it,
and finally up to totally experiencing it,
the uncertainty about living goes away, because you know the
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Actually, it is possible to open up the space for
people to transcend life, to transcend these
things that get in the way of being here now, sothat they can experience being here now for
themselves.
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Let’s take a look at the nature of now.
What I’ve noticed with the people I’ve interacted
with is that everyone who truly experiences righthere, right now, actually sees that it’s all perfect
exactly the way it is.
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When I am being myself, nothing more and nothing
less – when I am doing exactly what I am doing –
when I am allowing what is so around me to be
exactly like it is – when I am being right here
instead of where I am going – when I am observing
it all just as it is without adding any judgments or
evaluations or comparing it, then I observe that it isperfect. (For right now, - not that it should stay that
way.)
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A thing is perfect when it is the way it is – when it is
itself.
To take away or add to that would produce a flaw.Therefore it is all perfect because, in terms of
experiencing, that is to say, living, what is so right
now is what is so right now.
Truly, that is the whole realization.
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There is nothing startling about that. What is, is and
what isn’t, isn’t.
So what! – That’s precisely what people say whenthey find out. Enthusiastically – So What!
There’s an enormous freedom in experiencing that.
When you can really observe and experience that, ittransforms your ability to experience living
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The ball game might seem to be over at that point
because you now would know the truth – what is, is
and what is not – is not.
You could just sit there and dig the experience of it
and let it be the way it is and it is perfect.
The problem is you’ve only handled the truth – you
still have the lie to handle.
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Actually, not very many of us are paying
attention to living and therefore we don’t get very
much out of it.There’s something else besides living, the thing
most of us have our attention on.
And that’s the thing called life – the drama, thestory, the illusion, the lie.
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LifeLife
•• Life is really a totally different thing from living.Life is really a totally different thing from living.
•• Living is just what’s happening right now, right this instant,Living is just what’s happening right now, right this instant,
and that’s all perfect.and that’s all perfect.•• Perfect means what isPerfect means what is –– is, and what isn’tis, and what isn’t –– isn’t, andisn’t, and
that’s flawless.that’s flawless.
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LifeLife
•• Life is a bag full of stuff.Life is a bag full of stuff.
•• It is composed of something that might be represented byIt is composed of something that might be represented by
all the departments in a university and all of the sections,all the departments in a university and all of the sections,specialties, and the subspecialties.specialties, and the subspecialties.
•• And you have to go beyond that and get into things thatAnd you have to go beyond that and get into things that
aren’t handled in the universitiesaren’t handled in the universities –– and even into churchand even into churchand playing pokerand playing poker –– all of those things.all of those things.
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LifeLife
•• Once you have realized yourself, once you are enlightened, you stillOnce you have realized yourself, once you are enlightened, you still
have life to handle, and life is an uncertain machine.have life to handle, and life is an uncertain machine.
•• For most people, the practice of life is a process of selfFor most people, the practice of life is a process of self--invalidation.invalidation.
•• If you go fishing and you don’t catch any fish, the next time you goIf you go fishing and you don’t catch any fish, the next time you go
fishing, it’s not as much funfishing, it’s not as much fun –– you’ve lost some enthusiasm.you’ve lost some enthusiasm.
•• If you go out again and don’t catch any fish, your enthusiasm lessensIf you go out again and don’t catch any fish, your enthusiasm lessens
and pretty soon you’d rather stay in bed.and pretty soon you’d rather stay in bed.
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LifeLife
•• Essentially that’s the way people are about life.Essentially that’s the way people are about life.
•• They’d rather stay in bed than play life.They’d rather stay in bed than play life.
•• There are things like wars, and political scandals, and the job to go to every day,There are things like wars, and political scandals, and the job to go to every day,
and your marriage, and the project you’re working on, and your family, and gettingand your marriage, and the project you’re working on, and your family, and gettingalong with people, and being able to communicate to someone who really doesn’talong with people, and being able to communicate to someone who really doesn’t
want to get it, all of those things.want to get it, all of those things.
•• Each one of those things is like a fishing trip with no fish. After a while you lose yourEach one of those things is like a fishing trip with no fish. After a while you lose your
enthusiasm.enthusiasm.•• Let’s take a look inside life and see if we can get some certainty about it.Let’s take a look inside life and see if we can get some certainty about it.
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Life Is Very simple
• actually life is very simple.
• What keeps it from appearing to be simple is
that it comes in a lot of different forms.• You get a form called a chair and a form
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Life Is Very simple
• There are rules about chairs and bodies, and rules
about rugs and about railings and microphones
and shoes.
• You’ve got all these things to figure out and you
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Life Is Very simple
• The problem is, that idea only comes from going out
into the universe and not getting any fish.
• That gives you the idea that the answer is to not fish.
• In fact however, the fundamental rules for chairs and
the fundamental rules for everything are exactly the
same.
• There are some central rules in life.• Once you have personally uncovered those rules for
yourself, life is no longer a mystery.
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Life Is A Game
• The most fundamental rule about life, the
thing that most people overlook, is that
life is a game.
• It annoys people to hear that life is a
game, because they know that when they
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Life Is A Game
• The truth is that all of life is a game.• Games have various degrees of
consequences and war games have very
heavy consequences.• The consequences of getting up in the
morning and not feeling like getting up are
heavy too.
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Life Is A Game
• To have to go through life when you don’t want todo it, to have to go to work, to have to do your
job, to have to be married to that person you are
married to, to not be able to be married to the
person that you want – all that is heavy, with bigconsequences.
• The point is you lose your ability to play the game,
to master the game, when you forget that a game is
a game.
• In order to master life, we need to recover the
realization that life is truly a game.
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Life Is A Game
• Let’s take a look at games.
• If we’re going to master life we need to know
of what a game is composed.
• You don’t have to figure out the rules for your
marriage and your job and your interpersonal
relationships and all the other games you play in
life.• If you understand the rules of the game, you
will understand mastery of life.
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Life Is A Game
• First we have to start in a no – games –
condition.
• The name of the no-games condition isliving.
• You start playing a game from the position
called living, where what is – is, and whatisn’t, isn’t.
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Rules Of The Game
• To have a game you have to agree that
something is more important than something else.
• There isn’t any such thing as a game that does
not include the notion that something is better than something else.
• Intrinsically, or livingly, nothing’s better than
anything else.
• But when you get out of livingness and move into
life, you start with the notion that something’s
important.
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Rules Of The Game
• To create that something’s important requires
agreement.
• For me to say that this chair is important is
ridiculous.
• It’s simply a chair.• The whole issue of importance is ridiculous,
except when you agree that it’s important.
• The truth is that if everybody agrees that this chair is important, the chair becomes important – by
agreement.
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Rules Of The Game
• The second thing about a game is that what
isn’t … because if what is, is important the
game is over.
• Life is a process in which, wherever you are,that isn’t it. It’s got to be someplace else.
• Life is a game in which what isn’t is more
important or better than what is.
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Rules Of The Game
You need to get these two things:
• A) that importance are created by agreement
alone and that nothing is intrinsically important
– things actually just are;• B) that in order to have a game, where you are
not or what you are not has got to be more
important than where you are or what you are.
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Rules Of The Game
• The real question is,
• where is the aliveness in the game?
• Where’s the happiness?
• And the love?
• And the health and the full self-expression?
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Rules Of The Game
• The purpose of living is living.
• Your total purpose of living is living.
• That’s the real purpose of life, but that’ not the
goal in the game.
• The goal in the game is always to win.
• And that’s one of the things that helps you
know where it is.
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Goals In The Game
• It is merely represented by the goal you set – your
destination and time of reaching it.
• Some people think the goal is it: that if I get over here and
I’m not over there anymore that I’ve reached it, becausebeing over here was my goal.
• Actually, the goal is simply what you set up to represent it.
• That isn’t it, that’s just a representation; it’s the way you get
to play the game.• The representation is anything you agree on to represent it.
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Goals In The Game
• Suppose you agreed that what you wanted to be was a
fireman.
• Then it is represented by being a fireman.
• Now suppose you are halfway to this goal and you say,"You know something, I don’t think I want to be a fireman. I
think I’ll be a policeman."
• And then you say, "No, I don’t think I’ll be a policeman, I
think I’ll be a chemist." At each moment, at each step, youhave the opportunity to experience living.
• You have the opportunity to realize the purpose (not the
goal) of the game which is livingness
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Goals In The Game
• To master life you simply need to know what you want.
• There’s nothing you would want.
• Whatever you are is fine. There’s no intrinsically valuable
importance.
• You don’t have to find it. It’s whatever you say it is. Wake
up in the morning and make up a goal. It doesn’t make any
difference.
• Most of you are stuck with what you say you wanted. It’s all
right not to want what you wanted. You can wantsomething new now.
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Mastering Life
• All you have to do is know where it is
you want to go.
• It doesn’t hurt to know where you areas well.
• Mastering life is a process of moving
from where you are to where you wantto be.
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Mastering Life
• Let’s summarize and see how simple
this is:
Life is a game.
A game includes the notion of
importances.
For something to be important youhave to agree that it’s important;
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Mastering Life• Life involves the notion of importances.
• Importances are created by agreement or
disagreement, and, in order to have a game,
what’s important has got to be what isn’t, and in
order to master life, all you have to do is to saywhat you want.
• The only complications are things that which
move you towards it, things which interfere with it
or things which oppose it; forces or flows whichare either moving with you, opposing you, or
crossing you.
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Handling Life’s Complications – Flows
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If you expand your purpose to include the flows
in your life, you can rehabilitate your ability to be
certain.What has cost us our certainty is having stopped
to handle the cross flow, the counter flow, and
sometimes even the helping flow.
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My mother told me to do the things I now know are
appropriate.
But I couldn’t do them when she told me to do them; I
thought my mother want to dominate me.
Had I been willing to look, I would have seen that my
mother really wanted to be my mother.
That’s all.
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What my mother thought that mothers do was to tell
their children what to do.
She didn’t care much whether I did it or not, as long as
she felt good when she’d told me the right thing to do,
when she’d done what she considered to be her job.
If I had been wiser as a youngster, I would not have
opposed my mother.
But I spent almost my whole life - up until a few years
ago – opposing her. In childhood I got stopped.
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Handling Life’s Complications – Flows
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I stopped my life in order to handle my mother.
That caused me to fail at my own purposes.
So I had a tremendous failed purpose in life.And with that in my life, I didn’t want to go fishing
anymore. I had lost the game of life.
And I had lost in the only way you could ever possiblylose; by stopping to handle a threat.
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Handling Life’s Complications – Flows
Life is outrageously simple.
The only thing that adds to it is the complication of
somebody assisting you, crossing you, or countering you.
The instant you are willing to take responsibility for what
counters you and what crosses you, and what assists you
– when you expand your purpose in life to handle that –
you have truly mastered life.What keeps us from doing that is that; we are stuck in
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AgreementsAgreements
Now, I’d like to discuss agreements.
The problem with agreements is that they go
solid. Games go solid, agreements go solid.
So if you are over here and you make over
there more important than over here, then over
there is more important than over here.
So somehow you’ve got to get over there.
Now, I’d like to discuss agreements.
The problem with agreements is that they go
solid. Games go solid, agreements go solid.
So if you are over here and you make over
there more important than over here, then over
there is more important than over here.
So somehow you’ve got to get over there.
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AgreementsAgreements
And what a lot of us have done is just not to
have acknowledged that over there is where we
said we wanted to be.
We are standing over here saying, "Well, I did
it my way!" which makes us very right – and not
very masterful.
The mastery of life includes handling the
agreements you’ve already made.
And what a lot of us have done is just not to
have acknowledged that over there is where we
said we wanted to be.
We are standing over here saying, "Well, I did
it my way!" which makes us very right – and not
very masterful.
The mastery of life includes handling the
agreements you’ve already made.
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AgreementsAgreements
One of the agreements I made was to be my mother’s
and father’s son. I tried to break that agreement.
The problem was that for a whole raft of people that
agreement still existed. Instead of taking responsibility
and letting go of my agreement, I broke it.
By breaking it, I became subject to it. Instead of wanting
to go over there, I had to not go over there. I had nochoice any more.
One of the agreements I made was to be my mother’s
and father’s son. I tried to break that agreement.
The problem was that for a whole raft of people that
agreement still existed. Instead of taking responsibility
and letting go of my agreement, I broke it.
By breaking it, I became subject to it. Instead of wanting
to go over there, I had to not go over there. I had nochoice any more.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• The mastery of life includes integrity.
• Integrity is the process of cleaning up the mess
you made.
• We made a whole bunch of agreements and
didn’t keep them.
• I said I wanted to be a chemist and never kept
that agreement. I only made that agreement with
myself, but I am very important in my life.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• So I have to get my agreement that it is all right
to let that agreement go.
• Once I do that, the agreement ceases to exist.
• I start to look at the things that I agreed that I
wanted to be, do and have and find out that it’s all
right not to be, do and have those now, and the
agreements go.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• I’ve also made some agreements with other
people and I will have to handle those
agreements.
• I’ll have to say to whomever I made the
agreement:
• Look, I made an agreement with you and what
I’d like to do now is not to keep that agreement.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• In your lives there will be people that you have
an inherent agreement to communicate with
that you haven’t communicated with.
• You’ve withheld your communication.
• You can go back and clean up that mess by
taking responsibility and communicating with
those people.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• If you’ve left some problems unsolved in your
life – and a problem unsolved in your life is one
that keeps coming up – you can handle it by
expanding your purposes to include solving it.
• All of a sudden, what was a problem ceases to be
a problem. It becomes a part of the solution.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• For the most part, simply acknowledging to the
person that you made an agreement that you
didn’t keep, or that you did something to them,
would be enough to clean it up.
• Essentially, what you do it to expand your
purposes – which are to make your life work –
to include making their life work.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• You can say, "My goal is to make my life
work and for your life to work."
• You’ve got to clean up the mess with thepeople you have upsets with, the people you
are out of sorts with.
• That’s the beginning of mastery.
• You need to clean up the mess you made,
whatever the mess is.
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• To make it effortless to clean up the mess
you’ve made, you’ve got to assume the point of
view that your purpose in life includes
cleaning it up.
• That allows you to move from here to there and
include on the way over, cleaning up the mess.
• You could also stop moving from here to there
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Cleaning Up Your Mess
• If there are any things you’ve done wrong, and
badness, any horrors, and secrets – if you’ve got any
of that stuff in your life, you don’t have to stop your
life.
• All you have to do is expand your purposes, so that
the process of getting from where you are to where
you want to be includes cleaning up all the messesyou’ve made.
• That takes the heaviness and horror out of it.
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Having Your Cake And Eating
It
• It’s alright for you to get back into the game and to play it
totally.
• It’s alright for you to expand your purposes in life to get what
you want out of life and clean up the mess you’ve made. "You
mean, I don’t have to make up for all the bad things I’ve done
before my life can start?"
• Truly, you don’t have to make up for all the bad things you’ve
done..
• And in order to master life, you will have to clean up the mess
you’ve made.
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Having Your Cake And Eating
It
• If you can simply expand your purposes – in other words,
• if you can allow your purpose to be aliveness: love,
health, happiness and full self expression• – if you can allow that to be the purpose for which you
play the game, the purpose for which you’ve made the
other things;
• if you can allow that purpose of aliveness to expand
and include cleaning up the mess you’ve made you can
have your cake and eat it too.
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Letting Go Of Your Failed PurposesLetting Go Of Your Failed Purposes
•• Another part of mastering life is to let go of some of your failedAnother part of mastering life is to let go of some of your failed
purposes.purposes.
•• If you can acknowledge the things in life that you have let go of, andIf you can acknowledge the things in life that you have let go of, and
either rehabilitate your desire to achieve them or let go of achievingeither rehabilitate your desire to achieve them or let go of achievingthem, they stop being stops for you.them, they stop being stops for you.
•• If you found something in life you wanted to be that you don’t think youIf you found something in life you wanted to be that you don’t think you
can be, you can be that. If you found something in life that you wantedcan be, you can be that. If you found something in life that you wantedto do, and you can be that.to do, and you can be that.
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Letting Go Of Your Failed PurposesLetting Go Of Your Failed Purposes
•• If you found something in life you wanted to be that you don’tIf you found something in life you wanted to be that you don’t
think you can be that.think you can be that.
•• If you found something in life that you wanted to do and youIf you found something in life that you wanted to do and you
don’t think you can do that, you can do that. If you founddon’t think you can do that, you can do that. If you foundsomething in life that you wanted to have, that you don’t thinksomething in life that you wanted to have, that you don’t think
you can have, you can have it.you can have, you can have it.
•• You need to expand your purpose to include whatever it isYou need to expand your purpose to include whatever it isthat’s stopping you from being that, or doing it or having it.that’s stopping you from being that, or doing it or having it.
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Letting Go Of Your Failed PurposesLetting Go Of Your Failed Purposes
•• For whatever you wanted to have that you don’t thinkFor whatever you wanted to have that you don’t think
you can have, see what it is that’s keeping you fromyou can have, see what it is that’s keeping you from
having that.having that.•• See what it is that’s keeping you from having that.See what it is that’s keeping you from having that.
•• See what it is that’s keeping you from having that.See what it is that’s keeping you from having that.
•• See what it is that that thing wants.See what it is that that thing wants.
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Summing Up
• Let me sum up.
• You can get inside that collection of
reasons called your mind and complicate itto whatever degree you’d like to
complicate it.
• But when all is said and done, life is a
game.
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Summing Up
• Some of the games have enormous
consequences.
• However, if you get stuck in the importance of
it, then you no longer see that it’s a game.
• Even when the consequences are enormous,
you need to realize it’s a game.
• Everything in life is a game, except living.
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Summing Up
• Living is not a game.• Living is simply what is.
• In order to have a game, what isn’t has to be
more important than what is.
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Summing Up
• You make a game by saying that you’re goingto get to what isn’t and that you’re going to
get there from what is.
• So you need to know what is, to know whatyou’re going from, and you need to know what
you want to that you know what isn’t, to
know what you’re going to.
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Summing Up
• And then its just a process of strolling over
there, and the only thing that complicates it
are other flows.
• When you see another flow coming at you,
what to do is not to stop and handle the
other flow.
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Summing Up
• What to do when you see another flow movingin our life, when you see something that is
keeping you from where you’re going, when you
see something is bothering you or nagging atyou….
• What to do is to observe it to see what it
wants, and expand your purposes to includewhat it wants.
• You have at that point mastered the situation.
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Summing Up
• Your life is really composed of where you are, andwhere you’re going to be.
• All of the things in life that are a problem for you,
all of the stops in your life, are truly a part of your
getting there.
• You cannot fail.
• You can make it take a little longer; you can walk
over here and hit a barrier and stand around and
dance with it and do all kinds of things, but
eventually you get on with it.
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Summing Up
• The only reason we’ve talked about masteringlife is so that you can get beyond life to the
thing called living.
• You can transcend life.
• There’s an enormous value in doing that,
because once you’re living you can then do life a
little better.
• Ultimately, knowing what it means to live isn’tthe end of the ball game.
• You’ve got to get back to where you are.
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Summing Up
• You can’t avoid the trip; the trip’s
got to be taken too. We do need to
master life.• As you master life, what happens is
that there’s more experiencing here
now.