1. Do you learn from your successesand mistakes? How can you enhance yourday to day performance? Melanie Greene Chartered Occupational Psychologist Consultant, Trainer, Coach & Writer www.inspiretransformation.co.uk

2. My Background

Chartered Occupational Psychologist

NLP Master Practitioner

Set up my own business in 1991

Been a trainer, coach and consultant for 25 years

Free monthly coaching newsletter, Inspire, since January 2006

1st book: Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom published in 2008

2011: creating online programmes

Six month Coaching For Excellence Programme

Visitwww.inspiretransformation.co. ukfor lots of free resources, webinar recordings.

3. Six Month IntensiveCoaching For Excellence Programme

Monthly telephone coaching sessions.

Weekly personalised e-coaching.

One face to face catalytic coaching session.

Free access to learning materials.

Email[email_address] .co. ukfor details.

4. Overview of Session

Explore our reactions to our successes and our mistakes, what stops us from learning from our experiences?

Practise constructive debriefing.

Six tips to help you learn from your experiences.

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Success is never final

and failure is never fatal.

It's courage that counts.

Jules Ellinger

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• • This thing that we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down.

Mary Pickford

• • What is your usual reaction when you make a mistake or something does not go so well?

• • How do you feel?

• • What do you think?

• • How do you behave?

7. 8. Why do we sometimes fail to learn from our experiences?

We beat ourselves up over mistakes.

We have an emotional reaction.

The tyranny of perfectionism.

Nature (our personality type) and nurture (our upbringing).

9. 10. Learning From Our Successes

• What constitutes success to you?

• What is your response when you succeed?

• Do you celebrate, talk about, and enjoy it?

• Do you doubt, ignore or deny your success?

• Do you reflect on your successes in order to learn from and replicate them?

The harder I practice, the luckier I seem to get.

Arnold Palmer

11. Constructive Debriefing

• • It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try something.

Franklin D Roosevelt

12. Constructive Debriefing

• What happened?

• What went well? What are you pleased with include redeeming situations that were going wrong!

• What would you do thesameanother time?

• What would you do differently? A different strategy or approach?

• What do you think someone else would have done in your shoes? Maybe think about a colleague, mentor.

13. Learning from your experiences

What is defeat? Nothing but education; nothing but the first step to something better.

Wendell Phillips

Mistakes are their own instructors.

Horace

14. Learning from your experiences

Be self aware, manage and transform your emotions.

Constructively debrief.

Watch out for your inner critic kicking in (different from critical thinking).

Listen to your fearful inner child.

Talk to a wise and trusted colleague, friend, mentor or coach.

Aim for approximate perfection.

15. Do you want further support?OurSix Month Intensive Coaching For Excellence Programme is for you.

Monthly telephone coaching sessions.

Weekly personalised e-coaching.

One face to face catalytic coaching session.

Free access to learning materials.

Email[email_address]now to receive afree auditof your development needs.